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Old 05-01-2017, 05:01 PM   #21
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"the best thing to hold onto in life is each other"
this is the basis for a living a happy poly family 24/7 long distance lifestyle.
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1) I agree that I am not my job. It is what a I do and do very well. When I am in session with a client and I make an observation that really resonates with a client and it opens up a previously shut-down person; I feel so fortunate to do what I do.

2) I like living with a lover or partner. I am a nester. In the 5 love languages, acts of service is my #1. I don't like to do much of anything because it is expected or demanded but I love to do it from my heart I love my partner finding that I did or accomplished something that I knew she would love it just makes me feel so good inside!

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there are a lot of femmes like me who prefer not to live with a love interest. Please know that.

i would prefer if potential lovers lived within driving distance for visits but with travels today and technology it is SO doable.

One thing i have learned lately is that the connection can be FUN.

Isn't that what love should be? (YES)

Trust me you do not want to look back one day and realize you gave up so much of YOU for a job. Your job is not who you are, its what you do.

i speak from experience.


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this is the basis for a living a happy poly family 24/7 long distance lifestyle.
I agree...poly families can be amazing and beautiful
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I agree...poly families can be amazing and beautiful
Sure can! But It can be lots of work, especially for the HoH but if the result is Happy People it is worth it. ....

Making it work means everyone needs to be honest and my truth is i love my poly wiring.

Making it work 24/7 means you dont judge others in your fold for having emotions you just try to help them get through it with love and support
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I was reading one of the leather threads and thought this would be great to share what works for your long distance relationship/relationship/partnership/marriage? You don' t necessarily have to be "in" a relationship at the moment ,to have something interesting to say-We have a lifetime of experience. What works for you? or What have you found doesn't?
Connecting... sometimes the distance can see far.. sometimes it doesn't. i like to know i can reach out when it does seem far and i can connect.

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Connecting... sometimes the distance can see far.. sometimes it doesn't. i like to know i can reach out when it does seem far and i can connect.

connection is more important then sex...and sex (is part of the whole) for me...the two are very connected at this point in my life..i think that is something the universe wanted me to understand...........it's even better this way, (then I imagined)...it took me a while but there now
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Communication, honesty and the ability to compromise are things I feel are a must. Forgiveness and hope are helpful also
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hope yes but when all hope is gone its time to move on...

i will compromise but i won't lose myself in the process..
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I know it sounds like a given-but when you become a couple and the wild ride of court ship fades into a pleasant memory...if saying please and thank you isn't second nature, it's important to make it a part of your everyday consciousness-Letting our spouse/significant other know we appreciate the smallest thoughtful thing he or she does for us is important-It's easy to take for granted they know how grateful we are for their thoughtfulness but.......................even if they are--> say it anyway! It makes them feel good to have it verbalized. Try it! and you will see a smile. I guarantee it.
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Let me start off by saying that I don't have a great track record with LDR's. Despite that, I think I've figured out a few things that work for me.

1) Being mindful. Focusing on the present without trying to analyze or judge my thoughts and feelings is a new concept for me. My previous relationships were focused on an end game...living together, marriage or some other formal commitment.

2) Being present. Engagement in my partner's activities helps me feel more connected. Just because we are thousands of miles apart doesn't mean I don't want to know how her day at work went or what she had for dinner. We spend more time on FaceTime than I nave spent with people I date in real-time.

3) Being committed - making plans for the next visit is really important to me. We don't have to focus on the separation if we know when we will be together again. This step also includes making sure she knows I am committed to her. She has to be treated as a priority.

4) Being open. This includes being honest about the hardships. Separation is difficult, more at some times than others. I can talk about it (or hear about it) without wallowing in self pity over the situation.

I'm having a 'moment' and can't remember what else I was going to say. I'll be back if there are any epiphanies.

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It takes (20) positive comments to undo (1) negative one-So make the effort even if you are not normally verbal to let them know you-love her new shoes, you dig his new hair cut, buzz by the office to share lunch, or text him/her "hi" ..little notes in his coat pocket (that he will find at some point) letting him know how amazing he is-and most of all-be sincere!!
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