How to tell if she's into you... - Page 3

daisyfm · 03-01-2011, 08:35 PM

the 1st date. i know for sure. but i don't date girls. i date butches. but if anyone wants to see you again a 2nd time, they are into you.

The_Lady_Snow · 03-01-2011, 08:40 PM

If you wake up Thursday morning and she's in your kitchen in her panties sipping OJ out the jug.

She just might be into you

key · 03-01-2011, 08:48 PM

She IS into you!

I have read this thread from the start and all the signs she has given are green lights. Go forward assuming she is into you, not questioning it.

Relax and enjoy.

But I also want to say, that if she dates a lot of women, don't forget this either. Not sure what you are looking for in this situation but I would not advise you to assume you are the only one she is into.

Cool?

Glenn · 03-01-2011, 08:50 PM

She walked and talked with me for a long time, picked me a

before her bus came, and kept on waving goodbye from the bus window the first time we met.We were married for over thirty years.

key · 03-01-2011, 09:12 PM

I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me.

Today's example:

Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her.

It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH!

This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it.

Can anyone relate?

Luckydwg07 · 03-01-2011, 09:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

If she's all up in your space asking you to buy her breakfast...

She might be into you

I confused hunger one time

The_Lady_Snow · 03-01-2011, 09:43 PM

Being into you does not equate 4ever!

Guy · 03-01-2011, 09:46 PM

When after your done talking and you tell her to have a nice day and she say's don't tell me what to do!

oh, how to tell if she's INto you? read that wrong

Bootboi · 03-01-2011, 09:50 PM

If she lets you "in" even though you can be the biggest jerk on the planet earth some days.

AtLast · 03-02-2011, 01:54 AM

I must read this thread.... always gussing...

The_Lady_Snow · 03-02-2011, 09:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by June

Downer.

Try again.

If she shouts from her long hot shower "join me"

She just might be into you

Sweet_Amor_Taino · 03-02-2011, 09:32 AM

When you both share what makes you uncomfortable about yourself and they listen and tell you, It does not matter I want you baby as you are.

Mister Bent · 03-02-2011, 10:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

Well, I was just doing the right thing and giving a girl the heads up!
Sheeesh!!!

I agree with you, not just from the FB breakup stand point, but more importantly, you're giving someone access to a lot of your stuff - who your friends are, photos, other personal info, that you might not want them to have right away. I have my reasons for being a paranoid freak!

Quote:

Originally Posted by proximitywithoutintimacy

I don't necessarily want to do that, mainly because I don't want to put any pressure on the girl. I figure, if she's interested in me, she'll let me know. Until then, I'm just going to relax and let things happen the way they do

Me, Devil's Advocate: I'm with the turned tables contingent. Sounds like you're into her, so why not let her know? That doesn't necessarily mean you're placing any pressure on her. Sometimes you just have to leap.

The_Lady_Snow · 03-02-2011, 10:22 AM

See!!! I'm not the only "downer"

MsTinkerbelly · 03-02-2011, 11:09 AM

When she loves you warts and all, she is in to you!

lipstixgal · 03-02-2011, 12:09 PM

I'm seeing someone and we are meeting again tonight. Our first meeting was yesterday and we had fun. I hope she is into me. She asked to go to a comedy club tonight and of course some other woman wants to come. I'm not into that so I told her. I would like to spend the evening with you alone!! I think that is fair??

proximitywithoutintimacy · 03-02-2011, 01:04 PM

Ah, thank you!

I haven't heard back from her in two days, but she is a busy woman - going to school, working, and being the vocalist in her band... very busy, indeed.

I will not forget I'm the only girl she's into, and the way I see it, I'm not necessarily looking for a girlfriend... so whatever happens, will happen... I just know I like her

I'm one of those girls, who, unless you outright kiss me - I don't really know if you're into me or not

atomiczombie · 03-02-2011, 01:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by key

I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me.

Today's example:

Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her.

It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH!

This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it.

Can anyone relate?

I totally do this too!!!

Or, I tend to assume that the only reason a girl is interested in me, when she does make it obvious, is for carnal reasons (this has happened to me in the past and my heart was broke a little bit). I just don't know how to tell if a girl is interested in me for sex or for more, for who I am and not just what I can do for her in the bedroom (or the car, living room, kitchen, shower, etc. :P). It makes me honestly distrustful.

Dreamer · 03-02-2011, 01:59 PM

If she leans over whispers in your ear "you place or mine" she may be into you..... or she could just be horny one of the two.

proximitywithoutintimacy · 03-02-2011, 02:02 PM

If she says "hi" to you in the middle of a crowded place and smiles, her voice all cute and sweet... is she into you?

03-01-2011, 08:40 PM	#42
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,119 Times in 15,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	If you wake up Thursday morning and she's in your kitchen in her panties sipping OJ out the jug. She just might be into you __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

03-01-2011, 08:48 PM	#43
key Member How Do You Identify?: androgynous, gender-queer, butch Preferred Pronoun?: depends on person addressing me Relationship Status: merrily single hopefully married one day Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: san francisco, ca and chama, nm Posts: 197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 427 Times in 136 Posts Rep Power: 885763	Prox, let me put this as plainly as I can She IS into you! I have read this thread from the start and all the signs she has given are green lights. Go forward assuming she is into you, not questioning it. Relax and enjoy. But I also want to say, that if she dates a lot of women, don't forget this either. Not sure what you are looking for in this situation but I would not advise you to assume you are the only one she is into. Cool? __________________ http://i43.photobucket.com/albums/e3...ariation6t.jpg

03-01-2011, 09:12 PM	#45
key Member How Do You Identify?: androgynous, gender-queer, butch Preferred Pronoun?: depends on person addressing me Relationship Status: merrily single hopefully married one day Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: san francisco, ca and chama, nm Posts: 197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 427 Times in 136 Posts Rep Power: 885763	Want to add my own little quandary I can be so clueless sometimes. And I miss opportunities. This frustrates me. Today's example: Coming home from work, tired, a bit disheveled. Just thinking about dinner and a hot bath. As I am getting my two dogs out of the truck, I see a veeeery cuuuute woman unloading a u-haul truck. I am so ...? I honestly don't know (shy, clueless, ?) I barely even look her way. She stops what she is doing and smiles at me. I smile and say hi, then realize I forgot something in the truck, go back and get it. As I head towards home again she is still standing there smiling. I say hi again (dork?) as we walk past her. It does not dawn on me until I am in the bath that she had stopped what she was doing and was smiling at me. Who knows, maybe she was just tired and taking a break. Maybe she liked my dogs. Maybe her face is stuck in a smile naturally. But maybe, just maybe she was open to me saying something more than hi. Maybe something like welcome to the neighborhood? Maybe I will get another chance if I can even remember what she looked like. UGH! This is just today's example. I feel like my cluelessness makes me completely oblivious to these types of situations/opportunities in the moment. It is only after the fact that I sometimes get it. Can anyone relate? __________________ http://i43.photobucket.com/albums/e3...ariation6t.jpg

03-01-2011, 09:43 PM	#47
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,119 Times in 15,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Being into you does not equate 4ever! __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

03-02-2011, 09:32 AM	#52
Sweet_Amor_Taino Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Gentleman Preferred Pronoun?: he/him Relationship Status: Exclusively dating, Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Austin Tx Posts: 538 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 388 Thanked 852 Times in 297 Posts Rep Power: 4397589	All is unvailed When you both share what makes you uncomfortable about yourself and they listen and tell you, It does not matter I want you baby as you are. __________________ When we are aware that each moment of each day and each step we take,is truly mystical and full of wonder,we will live our lives with greater thought and care, we will also respect and appreciate This moment.

03-01-2011, 08:35 PM	#41
daisyfm Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: not looking. not interested. friends only. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: home and never moving. Posts: 20 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 53 Thanked 55 Times in 16 Posts Rep Power: 77555	the 1st date. i know for sure. but i don't date girls. i date butches. but if anyone wants to see you again a 2nd time, they are into you.

03-01-2011, 08:50 PM	#44
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Northwest Wind and Lake Michigan Preferred Pronoun?: Paesano Relationship Status: Solo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Indiana Dunes National Lakeshore Posts: 1,546 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,597 Thanked 3,732 Times in 1,096 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	She walked and talked with me for a long time, picked me a before her bus came, and kept on waving goodbye from the bus window the first time we met.We were married for over thirty years.

03-01-2011, 09:46 PM	#48
Guy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 1,858 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,258 Thanked 2,574 Times in 889 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	When after your done talking and you tell her to have a nice day and she say's don't tell me what to do! oh, how to tell if she's INto you? read that wrong

03-01-2011, 09:50 PM	#49
Bootboi Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Bear Preferred Pronoun?: Mister Bear.. lol actually whatever not a big deal to me. Relationship Status: Solo sauntering along Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minneapolis, Minnesota Posts: 216 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 127 Thanked 327 Times in 107 Posts Rep Power: 2089259	*If she lets you "in"* even though you can be the biggest jerk on the planet earth some days.**

03-02-2011, 01:54 AM	#50
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,829 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I must read this thread.... always gussing...

03-02-2011, 10:22 AM	#54
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,119 Times in 15,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	See!!! I'm not the only "downer" __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

03-02-2011, 11:09 AM	#55
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,958 Times in 5,020 Posts Rep Power: 0	When she loves you warts and all, she is in to you!

03-02-2011, 12:09 PM	#56
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494760	I'm seeing someone and we are meeting again tonight. Our first meeting was yesterday and we had fun. I hope she is into me. She asked to go to a comedy club tonight and of course some other woman wants to come. I'm not into that so I told her. I would like to spend the evening with you alone!! I think that is fair?? __________________ Gail

03-02-2011, 01:04 PM	#57
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670281	Ah, thank you! I haven't heard back from her in two days, but she is a busy woman - going to school, working, and being the vocalist in her band... very busy, indeed. I will not forget I'm the only girl she's into, and the way I see it, I'm not necessarily looking for a girlfriend... so whatever happens, will happen... I just know I like her I'm one of those girls, who, unless you outright kiss me - I don't really know if you're into me or not

03-02-2011, 01:59 PM	#59
Dreamer Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: Dreams do come true... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Home with my beautiful wife Posts: 1,143 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,642 Thanked 4,233 Times in 949 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	If she leans over whispers in your ear "you place or mine" she may be into you..... or she could just be horny one of the two. __________________ "Let your mind start a journey through a strange new world. Leave all thoughts of the world you knew before. Let your soul take you where you long to be...Close your eyes let your spirit start to soar, and you'll live as you have never lived before" ~Erich~

03-02-2011, 02:02 PM	#60
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670281	If she says "hi" to you in the middle of a crowded place and smiles, her voice all cute and sweet... is she into you?

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