Flirting by text

[UofMfan]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

HAHAHA...

Well apretty, it sure wasn't conscious flirting, however, subconscious is a whole nother matter, something we have no control over and are not even aware of. Obviously I got some reaction because "U" is posting sweet notes on my profile. LOL

I am not sure where you get the idea that you can do this.

I am going to kindly ask you to please stop.

[Lady Pamela]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

*hands on hips* Well! If this is your idea of flirting, then I would rather flirt with PrincessBelle. (sorry PrincessBelle, didn't mean to bring you into this, I just think you are too cute for words)

My UFOMAN joke was not meant to be dismissive, I am truly sorry you took it that way. I learned long ago that people love to hear the sound of their name, so I make it a point of using people's names when I interact with them (even if it is only a screen name). It's just that it was stuck in my mind, because I read it that way. I will work very hard to fix the mental thingy so that if we ever interact again together, you will not feel "dismissed."

I will respect your opinion as long as you state it as your opinion. But when you use the word "should" it raises my hackles. You are not the "keeper of the shoulds" and neither am I.

I would still love to match your flirting trophies against mine.

Ok, normally I shut my mouth and show true respect to everyone on the site.
But I must say, I truely seen alot of disrespect on this post and it is not needed.
Can't we all just post our own opinions out of respect? Without making it into a rivalry?
This isn't which person flirts the best. And surely is not ok to bring names not associated to the post into it.

Sorry just speaking MY POINT OF VIEW.

[princessbelle]

And if i may point out please....

I in no way dissed or starting this thing with UofMfan. I really wish my name had not been brought up at all. UofM and I are friends and have been for a long time. I would never diss anyone's opinion including UofM's, no matter what it is. And certainly not about something as personal as flirting.

This whole thing is disrespectful IMO and beginning to get out of hand.

To each his/her own way of looking at things.

I hope the convo can just carry on as it was intended because it is a great subject.

I'm outta.

[Hollylane]

To me, flirting by text can really be special. It can let me know that someone is thinking about me, or I can let someone know that I can't get them out of my mind. It depends on the place you are at with who you are dating.


If you're testing the waters with someone you're interested in:

"I was thinking about what you said last night, and laughing to myself about it, hope we get to talk again soon"

"I enjoyed our chat last night, hope we can pick it up where we left off soon"

"I enjoyed listening to your voice last night, looking forward to hearing it again"

"Thought about you at lunch today, would have enjoyed having you there with me."


If you're involved, have met, and spent time together it can get pretty hot and heavy with simple little phrases like:

"I can't stop thinking about your lips"

"I just got a whiff of you on my shirt"

"I keep thinking about how sexy you looked when I left this morning, with your tussled hair"

"Been thinking about last night, and I'm still there"

"I'd rather be kissing your neck right now, than in this meeting"

[Honey]

Yeah for SEXTING...Waay cheaper than the 1 900 number!!!

[Julie]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

Perhaps I should continue reading before I respond...
But that was a tad... a wee bit snarky -- aye?

I have to agree with UofManyFlirtations...

If one is to rehearse what one is to say, prior to the act of flirting? Where is the spontaneity? I wonder if certain people might rehearse how they will fuck when it comes time... Or perhaps if they might rehearse their screams or gasps or pants or hisses of ecstasy.

And google your flirt lines? Seriously? Is that a bit obvious? What if you and three others are googling the same bullshit?

I will never forget the time a butch used an obvious flirt line with me. NEXT!

[Sassy]

Originally Posted by Hollylane

"I'd rather be kissing your neck right now, than in this meeting"

... I texted my sweetie something like that once. A few minutes later I got a return text, similar sentiments, photo included. OMG, the dangers of smartphones. *laughs!*

[girl_dee]

Aren't any of you afraid of a misfire?

I once sent my undying love to a dear friend, who I had to let down gently.

[kittygrrl]

Look, let's just say whatever works for you use that..if you get more gas using google as your "go to" for clever wit..that's amazing for you and no doubt you will attract people who enjoy your kind of flirting..on the other hand...

if you like to go with the flow and femmes/butches enjoy your spontaneous wittiness no doubt you willl have your share of admirers..

There is room in this world for both. So you are BOTH right so to speak.

Now let's get back to flirting!

[clay]

hey dee.....I am not really worried about a misfie...and I do know of some accidentally to the wrong person....in fact I did so myself once...and I just laughed about it..and apologized...it isn't the end of the world...."shiff happens"...lol......

[apretty]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

HAHAHA...

Well apretty, it sure wasn't conscious flirting, however, subconscious is a whole nother matter, something we have no control over and are not even aware of. Obviously I got some reaction because "U" is posting sweet notes on my profile. LOL

It seems as though you're new to the site and possibly to the internet. I am going to give you some unsolicited advice--Most of us interact with each other as if we really do know one another because we really do, or as if we will meet or at least like we're a friend-of-a-friend because we really are: The degrees of separation are few.

So, I beg you consider the reader/s of your posts because there are many, even if no one responds--You're being read and it's a really good idea to not be mistaken for a lunatic (if humor is your aim and you find your attempts falling flat), if community is what you're after--And there's a really amazing community to be had here.

Luck to you.

[nicetgurl_30]

Okay i lOve banter and flirty text, but is it crossing line when person sends u nude pics? I mean I was being flirty but was hoping for wanting to work for it! Maybe I shouldn't complain and enjoy

[Martina]

this is not flirting, but texting gone awry. i have a good friend, a femme actually, whom i occasionally address in a friendly way as "slut" or "whore." Anyway, i once thought i had texted this friend, but instead sent "SLUT!" to my Ma'am. i got this as a reply "??"

i sent an immediate apology and oops text to Her. She has class. She didn't even mention it. But i have definitely had texting mishaps.

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by apretty

It seems as though you're new to the site and possibly to the internet. I am going to give you some unsolicited advice--Most of us interact with each other as if we really do know one another because we really do, or as if we will meet or at least like we're a friend-of-a-friend because we really are: The degrees of separation are few.

So, I beg you consider the reader/s of your posts because there are many, even if no one responds--You're being read and it's a really good idea to not be mistaken for a lunatic (if humor is your aim and you find your attempts falling flat), if community is what you're after--And there's a really amazing community to be had here.

Luck to you.

Dear Apretty:

It's not my fault that "U"'s message landed in my box and not the intended box, but it did. I was surprised and I had no idea what it meant. However, what I learned from this is that people here cannot handle confrontation in a healthy way. It is back room gossip and crapola at it's finest. I had an "issue" with "U"s post and here I am discussing it with you and I don't even know who you are.

For you to imply that I am a "lunatic" is just unconsionable to me. This is not a community to which I want to belong...

So yes, here is my "golden flounce." I won't be back.

[kittygrrl]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

Dear Apretty:

It's not my fault that "U"'s message landed in my box and not the intended box, but it did. I was surprised and I had no idea what it meant. However, what I learned from this is that people here cannot handle confrontation in a healthy way. It is back room gossip and crapola at it's finest. I had an "issue" with "U"s post and here I am discussing it with you and I don't even know who you are.

For you to imply that I am a "lunatic" is just unconsionable to me. This is not a community to which I want to belong...

So yes, here is my "golden flounce." I won't be back.

Maybe you're being a little bit hasty?!? A difference of opinion is ok here, but U does not know you and so it may have come off as a little bit over the top..think about it, if someone came at you that you didnt know in the real world and said something you thought was kinda rude, you'd be a little shocked (since you don't know this person) and have to at least consider maybe you might want to clear any misunderstanding..and i rilly think that is all this is..no need to leave. Nobody is suggesting you do.

[SnackTime]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

Dear Apretty:

It's not my fault that "U"'s message landed in my box and not the intended box, but it did. I was surprised and I had no idea what it meant. However, what I learned from this is that people here cannot handle confrontation in a healthy way. It is back room gossip and crapola at it's finest. I had an "issue" with "U"s post and here I am discussing it with you and I don't even know who you are.

For you to imply that I am a "lunatic" is just unconsionable to me. This is not a community to which I want to belong...

So yes, here is my "golden flounce." I won't be back.

I personally would not consider a confrontation about a honest mishap in an open and public forum healthy.

[Tcountry]

hmmmm...
I think it is somewhat easy...I just say what I am thinkin...

I am thinkin bout u...
Or I miss u

Great thing about txt...I can randomly make her smile no matter how busy she is

[SoNotHer]

A thought - one of the ways we can help keep people in the community and clarify any misunderstandings and assuage hurt feelings is to let people work out disagreements between themselves.

[jac]

Errr ummmm, I'm a text whore (so my close friends say). They all know when I am busy flirting in text... can't help but grin and blush...hehehe. I'm a flirt by nature and a very wordy kinda gy... I express myself well and I can be rather smooth to an eventual all out banter of playfulness. I can't help it... I won't help it. To me flirting is natural and healthy. It's fun!! However, it is still flirting. When I get more serious with someone, that person will truly know it... and know it for sure and certain. I guess we could say, I have levels of flirting? Yeh, we could definitely say that...
Worst flirt text moment, or rather funniest I guess... Sent a very VERY graphic flirt to my ex who was in the list of contacts right next to the person I was actually flirt texting. The response back, "OMG you're at it AGAIN!" Keeping those fingers limber are we?" LMAO oops!!

[chai~]

Originally Posted by Hack

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

I've spent several months flirting with someone online and in text, and wanted to keep the saucy little nuggets for late night reading at a later date!

So, I started a blog, totally dedicated to to such encounters. They are retyped, spelling and punctuation somewhat corrected. {I wanted to keep the rawness and organic~ness of the chats as close to the original as I could}

I occassionally re read these exchanges, smile, blush, and sometimes think, "oh my, I said that?"

Perhaps someday I will compile them into a debaucherous tome of erotica!