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*I* was coming from my POV and what I have seen more of. Make sense?
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I've also seen butches use female pronouns/emasculating phrases when referring to their ex's male-identified partner.
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I merely posted what *my* opinion was on the post I quoted. If your experience/opinion is different, I am sure it could have been stated without the implied tone. |
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It can seem that way. Butches and transmen do not get the same amount of backlash that femmes do for misconstruing (intentionally or not) pronouns.
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So. Moving away from the he/hy she/shy proper pronoun debate...
Do any Femmes here use a pronoun other than she/shy? I'm combing my dendrites to think if I have run into this and cannot come up with anyone. Remember though, I have a memory like the girl in 50 First Dates. So just cuz I can't think of any doesn't mean they aren't out there. |
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I know someone that uses
hir Dunno if that is the same as what you are asking though
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I wonder what are the ways that Femme's feel umm...femmasculated?
Like how does it look when someone takes a swipe at your femininity? Because I don't think it looks the same as emasculating. |
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05-18-2010, 09:23 PM | #110 |
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I am sure the hell not gonna go first on this one
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I will go first.
How about being told that you are "butch". I have heard this in a jovial/joking manner in reference to my..uh...type A personality. As if being forceful, determined, or smart is somehow a butch trait. I don't take it as a compliment. Same with somebody throwing around the word: Toppy or Topping when I am forceful, determined or smart. I hope that this makes sense and doesn't feel like I am saying that *butch* is an insult in general. I'm not. |
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I will gleefully scratch at the eyes of anybody who questions the femininity or femmeness of myself or my pretty lady friends. Particularly since that questioning is always (fucking always!) in response to us showing our strength, our brains, out independence. Fuck That.
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Because of my strong willed/assertive/bossy way, I have been teased at various points.... mostly by a friend or in the community as a joke kind of thing among Femmes. No worries there. I know a few lesbian identified friend couples who are not "into" the Butch Femme community... once in a while one will say something about the other sort of off the cuff, like - "oh my girlfriend totally butched it up last weekend and fixed water heater" or "my partner totally dragged it up for an interview...she wore a woman's pantsuit" If this is out how they talk about themselves in the privacy of their own relationship, that's fine. If they do it because they don't necessarily know any better, ok I'll give them that. But if someone in the community (not a friend) called my bossiness butch-y or if I told a story about doing something that was "considered" masculine and they labeled it butch-y, I would be irked.
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05-18-2010, 09:53 PM | #115 | |
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FUCK THAT... Another thing I have heard.. All you need is a nice butch so you can settle down... Um no I don't and I sure the fuck ain't gonna settle....
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Yeah, settling is something that debris does.
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How about the look of amazement when you put together an Ikea cabinet or use a power tool on something? Like it's a big huge deal...OR a look of horror if you announce you do not like shopping. Or shoes.
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i've experienced more attempts at perpetuating femme-hierarchy when getting to know less attractive and stupid butches.
my experience. me. only. and to be totally fair--i'm SURE that their attractiveness fell from possibly average to *no way* once they began to offer their unsolicited and absurd insights on high-femme (which i don't think exists and they were sure entailed a demure smile, heels and stockings 24/7), relationships (i'm not a so-called 'natural' submissive because they were ill equipped for someone such as myself), and i could go on... so, perhaps it's that i find intelligence *highly* sexy that i can't quite separate my disgust of the thoughts from the one doing the thinking--but i have found myself in these situations a few times and it's always presented to me in a way to try to knock me down to their size, like 'i'll fuck you but just so's you know...' trying so hard to mask their insecurity at sitting across from me: oh, you're very attractive, if a little young... and perhaps not what i normally go for (as fucking IF) and i will do you, though you clearly lack real *experience* so you'd better hold on to your seat, little miss--and normally, i date high femmes--oh what are those? those are femmes who wear nylons and high heels, i have an ex who wore heels every day.... (wistful pause) and skirts--you know those tight skirts? ...yes, that's it--pencil skirt.... (implying that my totally cute outfit isn't drag-enough for the pizza place/diner/hole in the wall) wait. where are you going?"see? not attractive + stupid = not getting any. |
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on the other hand--
i ADORE doing the 'femme' stuff with another femme--i don't feel competitive, i feel supported and love to give support. i am grateful that i have a local friend who i met (through mack!), and we can discuss the real stuff as well as get absolutely stupid in 'bath and body' saying, 'oh HONEYYYY look at this new DOUCHE!!!' really loud. (really, poor tiger!) and about the butch that creates this femme-continuum/perpetuates the myth of high vs. low femme (can i be teenage slut femme??) --i've never felt so ERASED. and not accidentally, not the way society sees everything in M or f... more so an attempt to deliberately erase my *femme* entirely. |
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