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Not sure if I should post this in the Femme section or the Butch section, but figured I would go right to the source.
My Butch straps for me, and I love it. She says that she gets off mentally because she feels that it is an extension of herself, and it gives me pleasure. So, we made love a few nights ago, and I was so turned on that really, really wanted to suck her off, give her strap on head, so to speak. I never thought that it would appeal to me or that I would want make this an expression of my worshiping her. I did not end up doing it because I was not sure if it would make her feel strange, and she is sexually shy, but she is usually open when it comes to my desires. I would like to know what have been others experience with this and how it made them feel. Was it a turn on? Fufilling? Strange? Do you like your Femme to do this for you?
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I enjoy doing it, if it's what my Butch wants. I find it can be very erotic and intimate.
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I know you were addressing the question to butches, but if I may add my two cents...I find that giving head to my partners that have strapped to be a huge turn on for me. And, for my partners, it has been an erotic and fulfilling experience for them. But I can only base my opinion on my own experiences. You said you partner is sexually shy, so perhaps this is something she would enjoy or that she wants to try, but has difficulty expressing it or asking for it. I think your best course would be to discuss it with her and, if she is willing, to give it a go!
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Well it could go in any category really. All genders can strap up. I wouldn't really worry to much. There will always be a slight overlap with a lot of subjects.
I like getting sucked off its one of my favorite things to get me going. I would highly recommend giving it a try if all parties are willing. I think that if your partner is shy about it then perhaps figure out why she is shy. If she likes it but is embarrassed its kinda one of those things that you can work though. Sometimes eye contact while getting a bj is awkward so that is a common factor for being embarrassed since a lot of it for the receiver is visual stimulation where they would like to watch. A quick glance up at your partner to see if they like it is just fine but more than that can make things a bit odd. |
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its one of my favourite things to do. love it. however, there are some that dont understand why on earth I'd bother. The last butch that said "meh" when I mentioned it said "Well I cant feel a thing, I dont understand the point but if it turns you on, knock yourself out, I'll watch." and pointed at her strap on. I declined. I'm not into doing things for my own pleasure. I want to do things for theirs. And if they dont love it... no point. That said... one ex of mine didnt really see the point but she had never really worn a strap on before me, so I decided to take the chance and show her. It took a couple of times for her to adjust her brain to it and I stuck with it, just taking it into my mouth briefly before she'd push me on the bed, but she started to really enjoy those few moments and started to suggest them. it would go for quite a while, then she'd take it off, with the vision firmly in her head and have my suck her off the way i sucked her strap on cock off. worked a treat. also, sometimes slipping a small vibe(like a little bullet) under the strap on and manipulating it in rythm to the way you are using your mouth works really well on some. that way they can cum in your mouth. but yeah, eye contact can be a bit much if you are shy. Even I get embarrassed or awkward sometimes looking up. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-02-2014 at 02:40 AM. |
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Hey Femminator, you say your bootchy is sexually shy about this but not when it comes to your fantasies. Tell her it's your fantasy, as it is, and that you'd love to explore it further. You and she don't know where it will take her brain. She may discover a head connection with her cock that she never considered or had before. Give it a go, you might just blow her mind!
I love being given head. It's uber hot. My experience is that femmes have errm embraced my cock in such ways, whereas those who id as 'regular' dykes never did. I recall one particular liaison who talked me through a blow-job minute by minute, describing how a bio-boy would be feeling and what would be happening with him physically. That was the hottest blow-job evah I love makin' a girl meet my eye when she's gettin' busy! |
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"it would go for quite a while, then she'd take it off, with the vision firmly in her head and have my suck her off the way i sucked her strap on cock off."
that's hot! and yes works well. I get super shy during sex but that's part of the fun, lol! a little eye contact is hot, also because I blush and have to stop in a second. hehe. |
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I enjoy it very much. Again, I believe that one should be all and everything sexually to your partner. I've never believed in limiting myself sexually (well I've never been with males so I guess to an extent I limit males but that's different I've always been attracted to females) with any of my partners. Luckily I've only had a few partners that had some "donts" during sex. Which I understand, all our sexual experiences are different. But it's great when you can find someone on the same page as yourself.
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I love, love, LOVE to please a butch this way. It's a huge turn-on for me, and they've all let me know that they're very pleased, indeed.
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As a butch, I'll put my 2 cents in:
I never really cared for it - I just did it for a femme who wanted to do it bc she liked it. Same for packing a softie - never cared for it, just did it bc someone I was dating loved it. But then, I never really thought of my strap-on cock as an extension of ... well, anything really. It was always just a tool I used for penetration sex with my partner if I was with a woman who enjoyed penetration sex. I tried to get into it - I did all of the things people in these situations tell you to do in order to somehow connect that cock with my clit, but it never happened and it made me feel less than for a long time - like I wasnt a "real" butch if I didnt like strap-on blow jobs or if my strap-on wasnt an extension of my clit or whatever. It was a real mind fuck and not cool at all. It took me a while to figure out that even though some like to speak for entire groups, they werent speaking for me and they dont speak for all butches - we are all different and allowed to like, dislike, and connect or not connect to whatever we desire. Same for femmes - some like strap-on BJs and some dont - and if a femme doesnt care for it, it doesnt make her a regular dyke or not a femme (neither of which is an insult btw), it makes her a femme who doesnt care for it. So if I were your partner, I would love for you to ask me and talk to me about it - see how I felt. Am I just being shy or am I avoiding the topic bc I dont like the idea of it but am afraid of how you might react? Keep in mind she might not like it, but is willing to do it for you. On the other hand, she may think it's hot or kinky and didnt know how to broach the topic with you. You'll never know until you ask. |
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well, there are those who would find that a perfect fit, Ocean, rather than a block. I've also been with butches that I absolutely adored who felt their "cock" was in their hands and wasnt keen on strapping. One of them was incredible with her fisting skills and I nick-nammed her "fisty"
And I've been with two femme cock wielding individuals. Meowr. Its hard not being what the crowd expects you to be as an ID. And annoying. And frustrating. and you get to hear a lot about how one wouldn't want you or would find you not to their taste. luckily it makes you grow a thicker hide, generally. It is hard to hear one of your favourite activities doesn't mean anything to a sex partner but that's why I advocate "Sleeping Around" and "Having Fun" and "having actual sex before making rediculous proclamations or commitment" to find out that hey, actually this isnt as important if they are good at X or omg, I really cant do Y no matter how much I like someone, Ive tried it with 26 people now or holy crap I cant deal with their cum face and the way they sneeze when they have a finger up their bum. because "sleeping around" has actually taught me more than I thought I did about what I wanted. I found out I was actually less rigid and it made me less judgemental about kinks I thought I would never, ever be into, until I found myself doing them cause what one person made weird and awkward, another person made fun and hot. Its kind of like eating that vegetable you thought you hated cause you tried it once boiled, cooked in a different way and you found you actually liked swede. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-02-2014 at 03:10 PM. |
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As for me sucking cock, eh, I'll do it, I gotta like you though, I gotta like you a lot, I don't have to be in love, I just gotta like you or maybe lust you a bit.. When it comes to my own cock, I love it, I enjoy it and I prefer to be the sucked but that comes with what space I am in, if I am feeling particularly Stone then it's not gonna happen, though I enjoy having my cock sucked that I strap when in this head space.
Getting sucked is one of those things people should have discussions right away about, (if you are planning on fucking) I feel it is just as important as having the safe sex talk, it will let you know right away where the boundaries are at, I am not fond of and never have been fond of the grunting, demanding, I am (enter gender here) so therefore you will suck my.... That kinda shit right there makes me go
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Hi there Femminator
What a brilliant thread and interesting discussion. I realise you're looking for butch opinion but I can't help myself from joining in. I've only ever experienced this with one partner but I hope I will again 'cos it was way hot and we both loved it. I don't believe you would regret experimenting and you never know what amazing sensations you'll discover. I hope it's mind-blowing for you both. (I'm tempted to say let us know how you get on but that's probably not the right thing so I'll shut up!) And Mr D... Quote:
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And maybe it's because I'm so into someone else's pleasure that I follow a general rule... I usually try something 2-3 times with someone before I tell them "actually darlin, I'm not particularly fond of ___" before saying it. cause its a huge turn off to be told something someone likes does nothing for them.
for example If someone tells me they aren't fussed about giving oral, I'm likely not going to let them anywhere near my snatch with their tongue. I'm not a huge fan of receiving it, but there have been those who have made me eat my own words. And I have begged them for it. So. I generally keep schtum about feeling meh about stuff. I prefer people to have fun and I get caught up in their enthusiasm. And also why I'll slowly try things on people (giving them the opportunity to say no) without verbally asking first. I have found more people are very receptive to the slow sexy approach to something than the point blank ask. especially if you are still wearing your clothes. Your mileage may vary but I've never ever had a complaint. Maybe I'm just very good at assessment. But I trust that people have good boundaries and will say stop if they aren't into something. Of course I wont do this with things I know would be off limit or upsetting (eg, penetrate someone who is stone, face slap someone who hates suprises etc, etc). Its also the way I prefer things to be introduced to me. But that's also my personality around sex. Again, not everyones cuppa. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-02-2014 at 03:30 PM. |
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I can't say as I have ever done that to a butch, before, although I have with men. Then again, to date, I've been with more men then butches, up to this point. I do think, though, that if she was interested in it, I'd be willing to try it with her.
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Well obviously said chatty femme wasn't talking with her mouth full but kept coming up for air; her hands wouldn't leave my then twitching cock and she would talk through her wide experience of giving bio boy blow-jobs. It was one of the most intense, hot sexual encounters I've had. I had just discovered packing at the time and was packing a wonderful cock that was soft enough for comfortable packing and hard enough to fuck with too. It was that femme who had given me the cock. The old chap got so well used I had to retire him |
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