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Old 01-15-2011, 06:49 PM   #41
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Hey Planeteers!

I'm bumping this thread in anticipation of what might be a small influx of new signups. We have steadily seen anywhere from 5 - 15 new signups a day for a long time, with it being a strong average of 10 a day most of the time.
I just renewed an ad on Facebook with some vey specific targeted marketing toward Butches, Femmes, Genderqueers, and Transfolks who might not yet be members of the site. This might mean that we get several new people who are either new to the dynamic or new to having a "home" on a community forum.
I wanted to ask everyone to read the first post in this thread again as a reminder of how to greet newbies or help folks find their way who are new here. I trust that everyone here will be amazing!

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I also want to request that you take the time to *ask for and provide clarification* in conversations where someone may have inadvertently used an incorrect identifier for you or someone else or made an unglamorous or clumsy statement. Please stop and ask yourself if it is possible that the person might merely be new or if they might not yet have familiararity with your personal way of being.


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Hey Planeteers!

I'm bumping this thread in anticipation of what might be a small influx of new signups. We have steadily seen anywhere from 5 - 15 new signups a day for a long time, with it being a strong average of 10 a day most of the time.
I just renewed an ad on Facebook with some vey specific targeted marketing toward Butches, Femmes, Genderqueers, and Transfolks who might not yet be members of the site. This might mean that we get several new people who are either new to the dynamic or new to having a "home" on a community forum.
I wanted to ask everyone to read the first post in this thread again as a reminder of how to greet newbies or help folks find their way who are new here. I trust that everyone here will be amazing!

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I'm still waiting for glittery kittens to shoot out of someones nether regions.

Me. I'll do it; I now own a pink bridal pony from the wedding, so I can now shoot glitter teacup kittens from my @ss.


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I forgot about this thread and started to reread many posts. I think we should all remember how awkward some of us felt in the beginning. Coming out and/or being new to an online community. Learning how to write it the way we think it should be written, so others don't jump on us and make us want to never post again. Keep in mind many newbies are timid or shy when it comes to posting, so it only takes one harsh post to them to make them stop posting. Perhaps PMing them instead of embarrassing them (even if we don't think it's embarrassing, they might). Some newbies have no problem fitting in from the start because friends sent them here. If they don't post a thread in the newbies forum, maybe go welcome them on their message board and they'll start feeling comfy with us. I'd like to know, in time that we'll all mix and mingle never thinking about the newbie that was once awkward in the beginning.
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I just wanted to bump this thread to remind folks to take some extra care with our newbies.

I just accepted about 200 friends requests on Facebook which might mean we get some new faces around here. Please be patient and take extra time to explain things if someone seems confused.

The first post in this thread is a good read. I thank all of you for your continued support of this community!
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I just wanted to bump this thread to remind folks to take some extra care with our newbies.

I just accepted about 200 friends requests on Facebook which might mean we get some new faces around here. Please be patient and take extra time to explain things if someone seems confused.

The first post in this thread is a good read. I thank all of you for your continued support of this community!
does that mean we aren't allowed to eat have them for lunch?
so by default that probably means breakfast and dinner are out too
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I just wanted to bump this thread to remind folks to take some extra care with our newbies.

I just accepted about 200 friends requests on Facebook which might mean we get some new faces around here. Please be patient and take extra time to explain things if someone seems confused.

The first post in this thread is a good read. I thank all of you for your continued support of this community!

I take it you have the game postings blocked.
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I still want to know how I can make glittery kittens shoot from my nether regions.
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I still want to know how I can make glittery kittens shoot from my nether regions.
well first you take a kitten................

well actually you better get the glitter ready first

so fill a large pot, bowl, bag full of glitter (color to be determined by you cause it is your region)

then you take a kitten (make sure it is color coordinated with your glitter for best effect)

take hold of the kitten firmly (you might want gloves on for this part)
spray said kitten with some type of spay on adhesive
(I don't recommend glue as you would have to roll the kitten in it and might lose you grip and the kitten. You won't catch that particular kitten again and would have to get another kitten)
quickly, but gently, (well as gently as you can be with a 10 oz ball of tacky, screeching kitten) dunk the tacky kitten in the glitter. And roll em about thoroughly.
When the kitten has reached a glitter level that meets with your approval, take kitten out of glitter and place in a secure kitten carrier. (you will never find it again if you let it go)

NOW, for the next part, you are gonna need the help of a very close friend.............
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well first you take a kitten................

well actually you better get the glitter ready first

so fill a large pot, bowl, bag full of glitter (color to be determined by you cause it is your region)

then you take a kitten (make sure it is color coordinated with your glitter for best effect)

take hold of the kitten firmly (you might want gloves on for this part)
spray said kitten with some type of spay on adhesive
(I don't recommend glue as you would have to roll the kitten in it and might lose you grip and the kitten. You won't catch that particular kitten again and would have to get another kitten)
quickly, but gently, (well as gently as you can be with a 10 oz ball of tacky, screeching kitten) dunk the tacky kitten in the glitter. And roll em about thoroughly.
When the kitten has reached a glitter level that meets with your approval, take kitten out of glitter and place in a secure kitten carrier. (you will never find it again if you let it go)

NOW, for the next part, you are gonna need the help of a very close friend.............
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does that mean we aren't allowed to eat have them for lunch?
so by default that probably means breakfast and dinner are out too
My mom says that I'm not allowed to cannibalize the newbies any more. I called her just now to ask.

It sucks, too. I am SO HUNGRY.
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Please refer back to post #1 in this thread.
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Hello all,

I wanted to take a minute to talk a little bit about the growth of our site and how you as a community member can help keep ThePlanet a warm and welcoming place.

We have a LOT of new members lately. Many of these new members are ALSO new to the Butch/Femme dynamic and many of them have never been a member of any kind of social internet community. Some of the new folks are trying to figure out if this community will fit their needs, how they identify, and where their desires are leading them.

I want to ask each of you to please understand that with the introduction of so many new folks on our website, that you might need to take some extra time to help a newbie understand what some of our terminology means or how to better navigate the myriad of ways that we all identify. Please be extra patient with folks who might be at the very beginning of their journey and try to remember where you were and how you felt when you were brand new to your identity or to the online world.

I also want to request that you take the time to *ask for and provide clarification* in conversations where someone may have inadvertently used an incorrect identifier for you or someone else or made an unglamorous or clumsy statement. Please stop and ask yourself if it is possible that the person might merely be new or if they might not yet have familiararity with your personal way of being.

Many of us have known each other online for 5 or even 10 years. Some of us for 12 or longer! I think that sometimes we forget that ThePlanet is bigger than our personal bubble of experience. That we need to embrace people who come to this community in search of family, friends, or fuckbuddies. That we need to welcome the diversity of new ideas, new experiences, and even new ways of identifying within the Butch/Femme dynamic and Trans communities.

There are a great number of younger people joining this site and even people from many different countries. We can learn just as much from them as they can learn from us and I hope that we all will remember that as the weeks and months spread out before us.

When Jack and I decided to go ahead and do this damn thing and started gathering people and ideas, we never imagined that ThePlanet would actually work as well as it is working. We never imagined that almost 10 month later we would have 1300 members, be getting ready for a Reunion, and be looking at a long and bright future.

This community is such an important space, not because we built it, but because all of YOU built it. I am amazed every day when I wake up and see another 10 members have come and joined this space. I am amazed when I see people reaching out across fences to connect. I am amazed that we are actually doing this. Together.

Im not asking you to be all woo-woo or make glittery kittens shoot from your nether-regions. I am asking you to remember the love. Remember how you felt or would have felt the first time someone said to you, "Hey, you're ok just the way you are!" or "Hey! I get it!"

Please join me in helping keep ThePlanet a healthy and welcoming space for everyone who is already here as well as those who find their way here. I beleive we have the most amazing community here and believe that we have the ability to affect change right here every day. So let's do that!

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"Disagreeing agreeably requires two behaviors up-front and one more as a refinement. The two required behaviors up-front are:

1. Acknowledge the other person's idea is valid.
2. Assert that your position is different. Not better, just different.

The refinement that helps you avoid a defensive reaction is to keep listening to their idea longer than you normally would. Ask questions. Be curious. Really hear them out.

If you can accept that the disagreement of others doesn't diminish your ideas, then you can afford to be patient and generous."

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