If I knew then what I know now......

Kobi · 03-15-2010, 04:08 AM

With age comes some degree of wisdom. Sometimes, I look back and wonder where other choices would have lead. And I find that if I could do it over, I would consider:

1. work for the government - I could have retired 2 years ago with full, lifetime income and insurance.

2. if #1 wasnt feasible, I would have foregone higher education and learned a trade. The freakin plumber putting in my hot water heater makes $100 an hour! Never make that in my field.

3. I would have bought a home at a much earlier age - like when I had the energy, strength, and stamina to be a home depot 'ho. Its easier to flip thru the yellow pages these days.

4. I would have never started smoking. Aside from being a nasty habit, the cost equates to an extra mortgage payment per month.

5. I would have become a vegan. I am getting weary of the survivors guilt whenever hunger pangs occur.

6. I would have paid more attention when Mom was making her homemade stuffing. Thats one recipe gone forever.

7. I would have taken more videos of aging relatives. I miss seeing them and hearing their voices.

8. I would have paid more attention to holistic health and less to traditional medicine.

9. I would have considered a run for political office when I thought I had all the answers.

10. I would have spent more time playing and less time working.

Anyone else?

Miss Scarlett · 03-15-2010, 04:25 AM

1. I would have come out to my family before I did to the rest of the world - the gap was over 20 years.

2. I would not have accepted some job offers and would not have turned down others.

3. Like Kobi I would have paid attention and gotten a couple recipes from my grnadmothers.

4. I would have told those bullies in school to kiss my a**!

5. I would have taken better care of myself.

Words · 03-15-2010, 07:11 AM

I would never have assumed that my kids would extend the same unconditional love and affection to me that I extend to them.

I would never have assumed that running away, be it physically or emotionally, would result in my problems being left behind.

I would never have assumed that because I was a 'good' person, others would always take that into account when judging my words and actions.

Basically, I would never have assumed anything.

Words

Kobi · 03-15-2010, 07:17 AM

Words explains well the old saying....never assume.....lest you make an ass out of u and me. I love that one.

apretty · 03-15-2010, 08:46 AM

this one time, i would have had the cannoli and taken latin

Soon · 03-15-2010, 09:12 AM

...would have never let myself be *persuaded* into giving certain relationships more chances and/or staying longer than I should have.

...not trusting what I know to be truth.

(so much more--but there's two!)

NJFemmie · 03-15-2010, 11:04 AM

... I would cut out all of the "middle men".

Andrew, Jr. · 03-15-2010, 06:07 PM

*I would have worn more Coppertone. I had no idea of what skin cancer was.

*I never should have been so trusting of certain people online who claimed to have been my friend. Instead, I am so disappointed in our own community. It seems to happen alot. And that in itself makes me very sad. I just don't get it.

The Lady Snow was/is right.

*I would have been animal rescue-ing alot longer than what I have been so far.

MrSunshine · 03-15-2010, 06:34 PM

woulda, coulda, shoulda.....fuck regret!

Soft*Silver · 03-15-2010, 07:07 PM

I would have loved my parents better. Now that I am a mom, with a kid like me, boy do I appreciate my parents far more than I did when i was young

I wouldnt have sold my home in the suburbs to move out to the country

I wouldnt have added my partner's name to my bank accounts...lost my family farm over that one

I would have had less horses all at once

I would have gotten my licensure as a SW as well as LPCC...

I would have gone on for my law degree

I would have gotten halloween candy for Mrs Rogers...I let her down

this is good for now...

Rockinonahigh · 03-15-2010, 07:31 PM

Talked less,listened more.

stoped trying to be such a hot shot,yeah I made it but the price was way deep.

Had a whole lot less horses to care for.

gone to college sooner.

paid more attention to ppl older than me who walked the path I was on.

Trusted less ppl who said they were my friends and werent.

paid more attention to my gut feelings..

once and a while just live in the moment.

anaisninja · 03-14-2014, 11:59 PM

I would have kissed some girls in my 20s.

LoyalWolfsBlade · 03-15-2014, 03:00 AM

I would still be in the Midwest

03-15-2010, 07:17 AM	#4
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,659 Times in 7,651 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Words explains well the old saying....never assume.....lest you make an ass out of u and me. I love that one. __________________

03-15-2010, 11:04 AM	#7
NJFemmie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The original lime-twisted femme Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to most things, especially lesbian. Relationship Status: Still loving my Mare ;) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 4,683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,343 Thanked 11,425 Times in 2,978 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	... I would cut out all of the "middle men". __________________

03-15-2010, 06:07 PM	#8
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	If I knew then what I know now... I would have worn more Coppertone. I had no idea of what skin cancer was. I never should have been so trusting of certain people online who claimed to have been my friend. Instead, I am so disappointed in our own community. It seems to happen alot. And that in itself makes me very sad. I just don't get it. The Lady Snow was/is right. *I would have been animal rescue-ing alot longer than what I have been so far.

03-15-2010, 07:07 PM	#10
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,498 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,412 Thanked 15,612 Times in 3,973 Posts Rep Power*: 21474856	I would have loved my parents better. Now that I am a mom, with a kid like me, boy do I appreciate my parents far more than I did when i was young I wouldnt have sold my home in the suburbs to move out to the country I wouldnt have added my partner's name to my bank accounts...lost my family farm over that one I would have had less horses all at once I would have gotten my licensure as a SW as well as LPCC... I would have gone on for my law degree I would have gotten halloween candy for Mrs Rogers...I let her down this is good for now... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-15-2010, 07:31 PM	#11
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,937 Times in 3,936 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I would have Talked less,listened more. stoped trying to be such a hot shot,yeah I made it but the price was way deep. Had a whole lot less horses to care for. gone to college sooner. paid more attention to ppl older than me who walked the path I was on. Trusted less ppl who said they were my friends and werent. paid more attention to my gut feelings.. once and a while just live in the moment.

03-15-2010, 04:08 AM	#1
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,659 Times in 7,651 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	If I knew then what I know now...... With age comes some degree of wisdom. Sometimes, I look back and wonder where other choices would have lead. And I find that if I could do it over, I would consider: 1. work for the government - I could have retired 2 years ago with full, lifetime income and insurance. 2. if #1 wasnt feasible, I would have foregone higher education and learned a trade. The freakin plumber putting in my hot water heater makes $100 an hour! Never make that in my field. 3. I would have bought a home at a much earlier age - like when I had the energy, strength, and stamina to be a home depot 'ho. Its easier to flip thru the yellow pages these days. 4. I would have never started smoking. Aside from being a nasty habit, the cost equates to an extra mortgage payment per month. 5. I would have become a vegan. I am getting weary of the survivors guilt whenever hunger pangs occur. 6. I would have paid more attention when Mom was making her homemade stuffing. Thats one recipe gone forever. 7. I would have taken more videos of aging relatives. I miss seeing them and hearing their voices. 8. I would have paid more attention to holistic health and less to traditional medicine. 9. I would have considered a run for political office when I thought I had all the answers. 10. I would have spent more time playing and less time working. Anyone else? __________________

03-15-2010, 04:25 AM	#2
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,949 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	1. I would have come out to my family before I did to the rest of the world - the gap was over 20 years. 2. I would not have accepted some job offers and would not have turned down others. 3. Like Kobi I would have paid attention and gotten a couple recipes from my grnadmothers. 4. I would have told those bullies in school to kiss my a**! 5. I would have taken better care of myself.

03-15-2010, 07:11 AM	#3
Words Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme submissive Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 969 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,449 Thanked 4,261 Times in 677 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I would never have assumed that my kids would extend the same unconditional love and affection to me that I extend to them. I would never have assumed that running away, be it physically or emotionally, would result in my problems being left behind. I would never have assumed that because I was a 'good' person, others would always take that into account when judging my words and actions. Basically, I would never have assumed anything. Words

03-15-2010, 08:46 AM	#5
apretty Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: sea shell Relationship Status: married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: san diego Posts: 1,687 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,927 Thanked 4,377 Times in 1,015 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	this one time, i would have had the cannoli and taken latin

03-15-2010, 09:12 AM	#6
Soon Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: attached Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 6,896 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,046 Thanked 13,118 Times in 3,391 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	...would have never let myself be persuaded into giving certain relationships more chances and/or staying longer than I should have. ...not trusting what I know to be truth. (so much more--but there's two!)

03-15-2010, 06:34 PM	#9
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03-15-2014, 03:00 AM	#13
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