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they are keeping my mom another day. i am relieved. i worry about her going home when she should still be getting treatments and care
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my ma went home yesterday. The doc told her she has got to slow down and breathe. There is new concept!
Shoots, it sounds like i am talking to myself. We really do pick up traits from our parents |
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I spent this weekend with my mom. She was really down about some things. Several times she expressed how frustrated she is when she can't think of a word. I told her, I do that too; my doctor told me it's menopause. Another time I told her, I sympathize; it's frustrating to not be able to think of the word you're trying to say, but it's even more so to not even be able to describe the word you're trying to say.
She did seem somewhat relieved that I understood what she was talking about. But her relief only lasted a short while - you see, she forgets what she has said, and sometimes says the same things over and over again. This symptom hasn't gotten really bad. It's possible to carry on a conversation with her. It's just that occasionally she'll bring up the same thing again, or tell the same story she told the night before, or a couple of hours ago. What really hurt this weekend, though, was the number of times she said, "You all are going to put me in a home if I keep this up." I know this really bothers her, because she mentioned it so many times. And there seems to be nothing I can say to alleviate her fear. "Yeah, I'll be right there in the home with you,", or "If they put people in a home for that, we'd all be locked up," or "You know we're never going to do that." The truth is, my sister has vowed to build a mother-in-law suite on the back of her house if it ever gets so Mom can't live by herself. And my sister can afford it. And she means it. The really awful truth is, my mother said the same thing about her mother. And my grandmother did come to live with us - for awhile - until her dementia was terrible, and she became violent. And neither Mom, nor any of us, could protect her from herself. She had to live in the state mental hospital, because no private facility would take her after the violence started. I so do not want to see my mother like that. It's too horrible to imagine - but I do imagine it. My mother is physically very healthy - which on the one hand is a blessing, but on the other? How long can she live and keep her relatively sane mind? How long will she be safe living alone in that house without my dad, who died less than a year ago? There are few good answers to these questions, and many bad ones.
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My mom was home for two days and was struggling with breathing, and ended back in the hospital. We’ve seen that her condition is exasterbated by her stress. She has no coping mechanisms (no more booze /cigarettes) and just cannot cope with every day life. She’s not numb anymore, and she’s feeling it. I asked her to ask the doc for anti anxiety medication, and she did. She started this last night. GOD please let this help her. We need her home to make the move happen. She is in an independent living facility. If she cannot be independent, I just don’t know where she will go. |
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mom’s home, and her big move back to the old place is on for tomorrow.
This move HAS to happen! |
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its’ my mom’s move day, she made it.
i am visualizing a smooth day with NO drama i am glad she will be across the street from the hospital and next door to a nursing home if she should need when not well. |
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SHE MADE IT.. my mom has moved back into her old place.
This move is going to take a toll on her, but it’s for the best. |
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my mom’s back in the hospital. the COPD is progressing, and she’s suffering. They are setting her up with oxygen and prescribing morphine to help get her through this.
She’s withering away to nothing. i’m not sure how she is still alive at this point, but then again is this really living? thoughts and prayers is all i got. |
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Well my mom is officially in Hospice care. She’s still at home. I found out that they wanted her to go into a nursing home and she said no. (She JUST moved back to this place). i don’t think its time anyway.
So she is not to go back to the hospital. There is a big note on the fridge that says not to call 911. Hard day. |
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Even though i know its not the end for my mom, i am going to see her as soon as possible.
i am so grateful for the love and support i am getting right now, i don’t think i need it as my mom is the one who is fading away, but it sure helps. My mom has been so humble and grateful. As much as i love seeing this in her, i know its her just resigning. |
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Taking mom for the tens unit installation on Monday. I expect it to be an easy surgery with no problems.
Sunday we will celebrate her birthday. Should be a hoot. My parents gave me a good life. Nothing is perfect but I choose to be grateful for the life they gave me. It is my pleasure to pay back the kindness. |
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i’ll be leaving Monday to see my mom.
Will be hard but good at the same time. |
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I haven't seen my mom in almost 5 weeks! My petsitter has fallen through on me several weeks in a row. They were for perfectly legitimate reasons, but still, I am worried about my mom. We talk on the phone, but that's not the same as seeing her in person and seeing how she's really getting along on a day-to-day basis. I'm worried that she's not remembering to take her medication all the time, and that she's not remembering to eat.
I think I may have to take an extra day off work next weekend and kennel my dog. (The cat will be fine on her own at home.) If there is some reason the petsitter can't make it next weekend, I'm going to do that.
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I have decided to move mom into my house this year. I hope that it will inspire me to build her cottage on my land sooner than later. My mom turned 86 years old yesterday and is having trouble living alone. I am concerned because I don't like living with other humans but it might inspire me to build that cottage.
I am grilling steaks tonight to celebrate mom's birthday. Yummy! |
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