Would you date yourself?

Kobi · 01-04-2011, 09:59 PM

This was the topic of conversation at dinner tonight.

This has nothing to do with the labels you use i.e. I am a guy and I dont date guys or I am butch and dont date butches.

It is about you as a person. So take a look at your strengths, weaknesses, quirks/quirkiness, where you are in life, where you plan on going in life, how you prefer to live your life etc.

And decide....would you date you? Why? Why not?

bigbutchmistie · 01-04-2011, 10:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

This was the topic of conversation at dinner tonight.

This has nothing to do with the labels you use i.e. I am a guy and I dont date guys or I am butch and dont date butches.

It is about you as a person. So take a look at your strengths, weaknesses, quirks/quirkiness, where you are in life, where you plan on going in life, how you prefer to live your life etc.

And decide....would you date you? Why? Why not?

Abso frieking LUTELY

I would. I am awesome, extremely faithful, highly romantic, affectionate. Love to laugh, make others laugh. Im a huge teddybear with a big giving heart. Ive been told a great lover, and a great friend... And Im hella sexy

Just for starters. Im so much more. Im not perfect. I have my flaws...

I never require in a femme what I dont already possess... Just sayin..

katsarecool · 01-04-2011, 10:08 PM

I would without a doubt. I am a good catch. Kind, compassionate, well read and yes attractive to boot.

Strappie · 01-04-2011, 10:09 PM

I'd date myself, I just made dinner for me and I and gotta say.. I'm pretty damn good to me in bed too! *smirk* Sometimes I have a headache or me is too tired...

Gaige · 01-04-2011, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

I'd date myself, I just made dinner for me and I and gotta say.. I'm pretty damn good to me in bed too! *smirk* Sometimes I have a headache or me is too tired...

lol...and you have a great sense of humor

Corkey · 01-04-2011, 10:13 PM

No, cause I'm married, and I don't fool around on my wife.

moxie · 01-04-2011, 10:16 PM

I would have to lean towards no.

Don't get me wrong, I have lots of qualities I like about myself. That's not it.

I am looking for someone who complements me, not someone who is exactly like me. If they are exactly like me and like ALL the same things that I do and has all the same exact opinions that I do then I will not be challenged. There have to be some commonalities but not everything.

Strappie · 01-04-2011, 10:20 PM

Well I know "Strappie" would love me but I'm not so sure I would love "Strappie" The heat seeking moisture missile is a lot to handle.

Ohhh I went there......

Kobi · 01-04-2011, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by June

Yes, I admire me for my awesome cooking and mad sexual skillz too. I would definitely send myself some flowers and ask for a second, or even third date.

Kobi knew there was a reason June was on the women to lust after from afar list.

Arwen · 01-05-2011, 01:10 AM

Me? In a New York minute, I would. I like my company. I think I'm very funny. I like to do all the things I like to do so it's easy to plan a date.

I will go out to eat alone.
I will go out to the movies too.

I sometimes have to force myself because so-called society thinks it's weird, but there ya are.

I'm officially weird.

I just get annoyed when I double book myself and stand me up.

weatherboi · 01-05-2011, 07:29 AM

i would but after much thought there would have to be limits when dating myself. we would also need a safe word for a timeout on those days we just can't deal with me anymore!!! ohhhh and i would have to like using vampire gloves on me, that is important.

NJFemmie · 01-05-2011, 07:59 AM

I think I would, but then again, I'm already with someone who is very much like myself - which is quite spooky at times - but other times - very comforting. Being on the same wave length, thinking the same things at the same time, sharing a lot of the same experiences, qualities, etc...

On the other side of that, we do have our differences and I think that is the key to what makes me a better person.

01-05-2011, 08:02 AM

Good God no! I'm not my type, far too grumpy and impatient.

The_Lady_Snow · 01-05-2011, 08:19 AM

Oh yeah I would!!! It would have to be polyamorous though, and the other me COULD NOT own a goat damn BEAGLE!!!

MsDemeanor · 01-05-2011, 08:19 AM

I'd probably be too frustrated by how little time that I would have to spend with me right now. Maybe in another year or so, when things have settled down a bit.

Even then, though, there will be the issue of always wanting to kick me out of the kitchen so that I can cook.

JustJo · 01-05-2011, 08:50 AM

Not only would I date me...I'd move me in and be in a committed relationship pronto!

Just think...someone who cooks the way I like it, bakes, makes the coffee, wants to go to the beach all the time, plays like a big goofy kid at Disney, has a job with lots of freedom, and gets things done around the house...awesome!

On the down side...it's hard enough to get me to go for a walk or to my doctor appointments now. If I had me giving myself more slack...that could be an issue.

Sexually...ummm....not going there

betenoire · 01-06-2011, 09:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

This has nothing to do with the labels you use i.e. I am a guy and I dont date guys or I am butch and dont date butches.

It is about you as a person. So take a look at your strengths, weaknesses, quirks/quirkiness, where you are in life, where you plan on going in life, how you prefer to live your life etc.

OPFTMFW!

chai~ · 02-24-2012, 06:23 PM

I would date me for some of my characteristics.
I'm not sexually attracted to femmes, but I do make a great femme bff!
I prefer masculine energy sexually.

As others have said about themselves, I can also be a handful, sometimes moody, forgetful, distracted, aloof, disinterested, crabby, emotional, and messy.

I would make a better best friend to myself!

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Metro · 02-24-2012, 10:44 PM

yes and no. most often i find myself gravitating toward those with a similar low-key personality. i am the strong silent type but by no means shy. creativity and shared values also set a good foundation for the types of relationships in which i thrive, see myself and feel most comfortable. and, while i salute other butches, i am physically attracted only to those of the femme persuasion.

LaneyDoll · 03-21-2012, 09:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

This was the topic of conversation at dinner tonight.

This has nothing to do with the labels you use i.e. I am a guy and I dont date guys or I am butch and dont date butches.

It is about you as a person. So take a look at your strengths, weaknesses, quirks/quirkiness, where you are in life, where you plan on going in life, how you prefer to live your life etc.

And decide....would you date you? Why? Why not?

Hell yes I would!!!

Not only do I know how to woo me, make me weak in the knees etc, I know everything I like in bed

Honestly though, I may not. My life is pretty fast-paced and I really need someone to rein me in when I commit to too much. Since I move at the speed of sound, I do better with someone who reminds me why the quiet days/nights at home are so much fun and therapeutic.

01-04-2011, 09:59 PM	#1
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katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323365	I would without a doubt. I am a good catch. Kind, compassionate, well read and yes attractive to boot. __________________

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Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,299 Times in 6,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	No, cause I'm married, and I don't fool around on my wife. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

01-04-2011, 10:16 PM	#7
moxie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a cynical princess wannabe Preferred Pronoun?: lipgloss junkie Relationship Status: yep Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: the ville Posts: 3,027 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,544 Thanked 6,770 Times in 1,847 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I would have to lean towards no. Don't get me wrong, I have lots of qualities I like about myself. That's not it. I am looking for someone who complements me, not someone who is exactly like me. If they are exactly like me and like ALL the same things that I do and has all the same exact opinions that I do then I will not be challenged. There have to be some commonalities but not everything. __________________ "Accept what people offer. Drink their milkshakes. Take their love." - Wally Lamb

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Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,131 Times in 6,414 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Me? In a New York minute, I would. I like my company. I think I'm very funny. I like to do all the things I like to do so it's easy to plan a date. I will go out to eat alone. I will go out to the movies too. I sometimes have to force myself because so-called society thinks it's weird, but there ya are. I'm officially weird. I just get annoyed when I double book myself and stand me up. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

01-04-2011, 10:09 PM	#4
Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,946 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I'd date myself, I just made dinner for me and I and gotta say.. I'm pretty damn good to me in bed too! smirk Sometimes I have a headache or me is too tired...

01-04-2011, 10:20 PM	#8
Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,946 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Well I know "Strappie" would love me but I'm not so sure I would love "Strappie" The heat seeking moisture missile is a lot to handle. Ohhh I went there......

01-05-2011, 07:29 AM	#11
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,559 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	limits!!! i would but after much thought there would have to be limits when dating myself. we would also need a safe word for a timeout on those days we just can't deal with me anymore!!! ohhhh and i would have to like using vampire gloves on me, that is important.

01-05-2011, 07:59 AM	#12
NJFemmie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The original lime-twisted femme Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to most things, especially lesbian. Relationship Status: Still loving my Mare ;) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 4,683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,343 Thanked 11,425 Times in 2,978 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I think I would, but then again, I'm already with someone who is very much like myself - which is quite spooky at times - but other times - very comforting. Being on the same wave length, thinking the same things at the same time, sharing a lot of the same experiences, qualities, etc... On the other side of that, we do have our differences and I think that is the key to what makes me a better person. __________________

01-05-2011, 08:02 AM	#13
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Good God no! I'm not my type, far too grumpy and impatient. Last edited by Daktari; 01-05-2011 at 08:03 AM. Reason: colouring in

01-05-2011, 08:19 AM	#14
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,119 Times in 15,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Oh yeah I would!!! It would have to be polyamorous though, and the other me COULD NOT own a goat damn BEAGLE!!! __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

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JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,407 Times in 4,661 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Not only would I date me...I'd move me in and be in a committed relationship pronto! Just think...someone who cooks the way I like it, bakes, makes the coffee, wants to go to the beach all the time, plays like a big goofy kid at Disney, has a job with lots of freedom, and gets things done around the house...awesome! On the down side...it's hard enough to get me to go for a walk or to my doctor appointments now. If I had me giving myself more slack...that could be an issue. Sexually...ummm....not going there __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

02-24-2012, 06:23 PM	#18
chai~ Member How Do You Identify?: Self possessed Aquarian Preferred Pronoun?: Don't call me baby~ Relationship Status: Deliciously single and loving it. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: lotus land Posts: 1,173 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,937 Thanked 3,383 Times in 864 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I would date me for some of my characteristics. I'm not sexually attracted to femmes, but I do make a great femme bff! I prefer masculine energy sexually. As others have said about themselves, I can also be a handful, sometimes moody, forgetful, distracted, aloof, disinterested, crabby, emotional, and messy. I would make a better best friend to myself! .

02-24-2012, 10:44 PM	#19
Metro Senior Member How Do You Identify?: • Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: • Posts: 1,606 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,476 Thanked 2,916 Times in 733 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	yes and no. most often i find myself gravitating toward those with a similar low-key personality. i am the strong silent type but by no means shy. creativity and shared values also set a good foundation for the types of relationships in which i thrive, see myself and feel most comfortable. and, while i salute other butches, i am physically attracted only to those of the femme persuasion.