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05-15-2017, 10:05 PM
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☆ the stars are aligned ☆
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Don't ignore your gut feeling/red flags thinking love will conquer all and make everything okay/better. It needs to be good from the beginning.
Actions may speak louder than words, but words still mean something. Stand your ground. Don't let anyone intimidate/guilt you into staying. They do not own you, and you don't owe anything to anyone. Walk away from alcohol/drug use. You can't save them. They have to want to save themselves. Do what makes you happy. Chase your dreams. In the right relationship, you can have it all. A relationship should not entail sacrifice (unless you're sacrificing sleep for late-night sex!  )
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05-16-2017, 03:13 AM
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Practically Lives Here
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Hitched up 
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That you cannot deny who YOU are, and if you do, and you are unhappy, you cannot blame the other person.
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05-16-2017, 05:41 AM
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Brisa
Don't believe everything that you are told.
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05-16-2017, 05:54 AM
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To guide with a steady hand and an open heart
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08-12-2017, 10:38 AM
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To let go when people chose to leave.
It took a lot this time, but I accepted sometimes people don't feel the same as I do. All because I feel like I miss someone, doesn't mean they do. I needed to accept I'm not gonna die of sadness because someone else can get past things I can't. There are more people in this world to be stuck on someone, when there's people out there who will be interested in you and hang on your every word when they care. When I finally realized this, I started letting new people in. Allow yourself to enjoy when people are around, but when they go stop trying to show them anything, its okay to let them leave and move your effort to other people. After all the pain and suffering after they leave, it really is just a matter of time before the new prince/princess charming shows up. Fix your make up girls, it's just a break up. 
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08-12-2017, 11:43 AM
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don't jump to conclusions
respect his opinions, even if you disagree passionately listen more then talk laugh more then cry
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08-12-2017, 02:30 PM
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This is beautiful dee. And so true. We as individuals are responsible for making decisions that make us healthy and happy based on who we naturally are and what we really want. With relationships especially.
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Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot. D. H. Lawrence 
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08-12-2017, 03:26 PM
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To let go of the what went wrongs & focus on the what was rights, it's an important tool when moving forward & healing from the broken heart, when you only focus on the negatives it suffocates you...To trust in my gut instinct a little more & to not let a partner define my happiness because ultimately my happiness comes from me & me alone... I have that control nobody else...
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08-13-2017, 04:27 AM
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Practically Lives Here
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10-03-2017, 08:21 PM
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To be extremely careful of who you enter a relationship with. Use much intellect along with emotions. Pause yourself and ask if this is really the right relationship for you. Looks can be deceptive.
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10-04-2017, 12:18 AM
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Sort of inline with the above post.
Not to abandon true deep love and commitment to sizzling hot lust and blazing scenes. In short order, the sizzling and blaze will burn out. All that remained were cold embers and memories. Oh, and years of tears. |
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10-04-2017, 08:52 AM
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Practically Lives Here
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 ....So true, if someone wants to leave let them! |
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10-04-2017, 07:48 PM
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Infamous Member
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10-04-2017, 09:50 PM
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Senior Member
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I put my own care first 
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That the deep friendship in the relationship should come before anything else
That romance is not about grand gestures or words for me. It's about small, little acts of care that are natural. It's about stepping up for me when I can't but not in a "masculine hero" way, more like a "scrubbing bae's puke from around the toilet" way. <<< *that's* romance to me. I mean, that means someone sincerely loves me. That I find passion in humour, movement, and creative conversations. That loyalty is more important to me than fidelity That I'm no longer looking for the passion-romance-chemistry triad. What I want is maturity, skills, compatibility, self acceptance, self responsibility and wit. *fans self* |
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10-24-2018, 12:15 AM
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Junior Member
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Getting back my groove Join Date: Aug 2018
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Learning to wait at least 24hrs before reacting when I'm upset. No matter how hard it is to keep quiet.
Learning the difference between assertive and abusive. Learning to rediscover the raw vulnerable side of myself in the arms of another.
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10-24-2018, 10:06 AM
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Don't Do It Again!!!
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10-24-2018, 11:11 AM
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Junior Member
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What I Learned...
Oh, I learned so much from so many...(haha)
I learned: People can change - but only if they want to. Monogamy can be beautiful...and overrated. Washing butch cock is important. Don't aim a champagne bottle at anything breakable. Sex doesn't need love...but it does need like. Trust. I either do or I don't. How to let things go. Fuck the rules. Don't fuck the boss. Big brains are sexy. Kissing matters. How people treat others tells you who they really are. Strength isn't always muscle. I'm better suited as an aunt, not a mother. Keep the cowboy boots on. Even non-smokers like it when I smoke cigars. Don't hide who I am. |
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10-24-2018, 02:13 PM
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My potential/future relationships are negotiable.
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10-24-2018, 03:10 PM
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Infamous Member
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"don't get out over your skis"
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10-24-2018, 03:30 PM
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Infamous Member
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femme *blows a kiss off my finger tips ** Preferred Pronoun?:
~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status:
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I learned not to settle if they don't have this this about them..
Must love animals ,seafood , windy spring days , ocean air , watching sports , carnivals, European foods , music , artsy stuff.
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