Butch Femme Planet  

Go Back   Butch Femme Planet > HEALTH: BODY, MIND, SPIRIT > Support: Abuse, Addiction, Coping

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 08-30-2010, 09:42 PM   #1
atomiczombie
Member

How Do You Identify?:
Femmesensual Transguy
Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His
Relationship Status:
Dating
 
atomiczombie's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Rio Vista, CA
Posts: 1,225
Thanks: 3,949
Thanked 3,221 Times in 757 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852
atomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputation
Default LGBT Youth resources for Manassas, VA?

Hi all,

I have a 14 y/o buddy I met on the online game I play, and he is a gay kid with very intolerant and potentially violent parents. He is afraid to come out to them for fear of being beaten. I am hoping there is someone here who might know of some local resources for him for counseling, gay youth support groups, etc. in his town. He isn't old enough to drive and can't go out to DC or a larger nearby city to find support. Any information or ideas you guys might have I would be grateful for. I really want to help this kid, he is miserable. Thanks everybody.

Drew
atomiczombie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-31-2010, 06:57 AM   #2
Jess
Timed Out - Permanent

How Do You Identify?:
decidedly indifferent
Preferred Pronoun?:
other
 
Jess's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Patrick Springs, VA
Posts: 2,812
Thanks: 9,247
Thanked 5,703 Times in 1,684 Posts
Rep Power: 0
Jess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Hey Drew,

I know it's a bit of a drive to Richmond, but this group might be able to help point the young fella into a safe direction. Sorry I don't know more about the Northern VA area. Hope it helps.

http://www.rosmy.org/
Jess is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Jess For This Useful Post:
Old 08-31-2010, 07:13 AM   #3
Julie
Senior Member

How Do You Identify?:
Angel * Femme * Lesbian * Girl * Woman * Slut * Bitch *
Preferred Pronoun?:
She
Relationship Status:
No longer a Virgin Bride to Dreamer ~ May 17th, 2014
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: New York
Posts: 4,674
Thanks: 17,676
Thanked 18,160 Times in 3,633 Posts
Rep Power: 21474855
Julie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST Reputation
Member Photo Albums
Default

There are a number of National Hotlines which can direct him to resources close by, or get him the help he needs ASAP!

http://www.glnh.org/talkline/index.html (GLBT National Youth Talkline)

http://www.nyacyouth.org/resources/lgbtqyouth.php (National Youth Advocacy Coalition)

This child is really fortunate to have found a person (such as yourself) who can hopefully help guide and keep himself safe.

Julie
__________________
“Sometimes only one person is missing and the whole world seems depopulated.”
~ Alphonse de Lamartine - 1790-1869


http://i374.photobucket.com/albums/o...ps4d9fb6c0.jpg

I Love You ~ I Love Us
May 17, 2014
Julie is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Julie For This Useful Post:
Old 08-31-2010, 09:54 AM   #4
christie
Member

How Do You Identify?:
A Force with which to be reckoned
Preferred Pronoun?:
just be nice...
Relationship Status:
I call her Mine
 
christie's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Transplanted to the PNW
Posts: 1,246
Thanks: 2,552
Thanked 2,476 Times in 706 Posts
Rep Power: 14753261
christie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputationchristie Has the BEST Reputation
Default

This link might also be helpful:

http://gayrichmond.com/GCCR/index.ph...d=53&Itemid=83

I'm also glad he found you
christie is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to christie For This Useful Post:
Old 08-31-2010, 09:57 AM   #5
The_Lady_Snow
MILLION $$$ PUSSY

How Do You Identify?:
Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme
Preferred Pronoun?:
Iconic Ms.
Relationship Status:
Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles
 
The_Lady_Snow's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: ** La Reina del Sur**
Posts: 22,488
Thanks: 32,231
Thanked 80,119 Times in 15,678 Posts
Rep Power: 21474873
The_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST ReputationThe_Lady_Snow Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by atomiczombie View Post
Hi all,

I have a 14 y/o buddy I met on the online game I play, and he is a gay kid with very intolerant and potentially violent parents. He is afraid to come out to them for fear of being beaten. I am hoping there is someone here who might know of some local resources for him for counseling, gay youth support groups, etc. in his town. He isn't old enough to drive and can't go out to DC or a larger nearby city to find support. Any information or ideas you guys might have I would be grateful for. I really want to help this kid, he is miserable. Thanks everybody.

Drew
((((Drew)))))

Your heart is so so kind, with that be careful talking with a minor with violent parents, especially meeting him online just keep your guard up and be really careful how you talk with him so it does not come to bite you in the ass.

Just lookin out for you
__________________
"If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden


The_Lady_Snow is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to The_Lady_Snow For This Useful Post:
Old 08-31-2010, 10:16 AM   #6
Sachita
Senior Member

How Do You Identify?:
Alpha Femme
Preferred Pronoun?:
Goddess
Relationship Status:
Completely in love
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Southern Virginia
Posts: 3,225
Thanks: 2,564
Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,249 Posts
Rep Power: 21474854
Sachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST ReputationSachita Has the BEST Reputation
Member Photo Albums
Default

Richmond isnt that far but he is only 14 and doesnt drive. Theres not much up that way. isnt Harrisonburg up that way?


maybe contact one of these people by email and ask if there are any teen support groups and resources.

http://therapists.psychologytoday.co...ate=VA&spec=11
__________________
You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else.
~ Daniel Franzese
Sachita is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Sachita For This Useful Post:
Old 08-31-2010, 05:58 PM   #7
atomiczombie
Member

How Do You Identify?:
Femmesensual Transguy
Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His
Relationship Status:
Dating
 
atomiczombie's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Rio Vista, CA
Posts: 1,225
Thanks: 3,949
Thanked 3,221 Times in 757 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852
atomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jess View Post
Hey Drew,

I know it's a bit of a drive to Richmond, but this group might be able to help point the young fella into a safe direction. Sorry I don't know more about the Northern VA area. Hope it helps.

http://www.rosmy.org/
Thanks theres a hotline number on that one I can give to her (I had the pronoun wrong, this is a young butch.)
atomiczombie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-31-2010, 06:03 PM   #8
atomiczombie
Member

How Do You Identify?:
Femmesensual Transguy
Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His
Relationship Status:
Dating
 
atomiczombie's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Rio Vista, CA
Posts: 1,225
Thanks: 3,949
Thanked 3,221 Times in 757 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852
atomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow View Post
((((Drew)))))

Your heart is so so kind, with that be careful talking with a minor with violent parents, especially meeting him online just keep your guard up and be really careful how you talk with him so it does not come to bite you in the ass.

Just lookin out for you
Yeah Ms Snow, I have thought of that. But she is miserable and all I am doing is directing her to local resources for help. I am not contacting her by email or phone or getting involved further in that way. I just want her to have some support cause I know I can't be the only or the best source. I am being a careful, responsible adult.
atomiczombie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-31-2010, 06:04 PM   #9
Chancie
Senior Member

How Do You Identify?:
queer femme-inist
Relationship Status:
I'm lucky.
 
Chancie's Avatar
 
1 Highscore

Join Date: May 2010
Location: Western Mass
Posts: 3,692
Thanks: 9,200
Thanked 14,343 Times in 2,665 Posts
Rep Power: 21474853
Chancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST ReputationChancie Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Try this link.

The young person's school may have a Gay Straight Alliance.
Chancie is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Chancie For This Useful Post:
Old 08-31-2010, 06:05 PM   #10
Jess
Timed Out - Permanent

How Do You Identify?:
decidedly indifferent
Preferred Pronoun?:
other
 
Jess's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Patrick Springs, VA
Posts: 2,812
Thanks: 9,247
Thanked 5,703 Times in 1,684 Posts
Rep Power: 0
Jess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by atomiczombie View Post
Thanks theres a hotline number on that one I can give to her (I had the pronoun wrong, this is a young butch.)
No problem at all! I used to work with this group and there is a wide age range. They also try to do outreach to nearby areas, as they are acutely aware of the need!
Truly wish the best of luck!
Jess is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-31-2010, 06:05 PM   #11
atomiczombie
Member

How Do You Identify?:
Femmesensual Transguy
Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His
Relationship Status:
Dating
 
atomiczombie's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Rio Vista, CA
Posts: 1,225
Thanks: 3,949
Thanked 3,221 Times in 757 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852
atomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputationatomiczombie Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme View Post
There are a number of National Hotlines which can direct him to resources close by, or get him the help he needs ASAP!

http://www.glnh.org/talkline/index.html (GLBT National Youth Talkline)

http://www.nyacyouth.org/resources/lgbtqyouth.php (National Youth Advocacy Coalition)

This child is really fortunate to have found a person (such as yourself) who can hopefully help guide and keep himself safe.

Julie
I am definitely passing along this info to her too. Thanks Julie!
atomiczombie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-31-2010, 06:11 PM   #12
Jess
Timed Out - Permanent

How Do You Identify?:
decidedly indifferent
Preferred Pronoun?:
other
 
Jess's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Patrick Springs, VA
Posts: 2,812
Thanks: 9,247
Thanked 5,703 Times in 1,684 Posts
Rep Power: 0
Jess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST ReputationJess Has the BEST Reputation
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Sachita View Post
Richmond isnt that far but he is only 14 and doesnt drive. Theres not much up that way. isnt Harrisonburg up that way?


maybe contact one of these people by email and ask if there are any teen support groups and resources.

http://therapists.psychologytoday.co...ate=VA&spec=11
Harrisonburg is actually further south. Think, between Charlottesville and Roanoke. I would actually think if ROSMY can't send her in the right direction, then perhaps checking in with HRC in DC or some of the larger groups that do outreach. I know the Richmond group has been pretty well established and does all sorts of outreach in smaller areas.

I would actually be surprised if "something" isn't forming in the Manasses area. It is basically a suburb of DC now, as so many folks who live there commute to DC or the NOVA area.

Glad the kiddo isn't down in our neck of the woods, as things here are still very tentative for sexual minority youth. Although, it does seem a hella lot more tolerant than it was when we were young.
Jess is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-31-2010, 06:11 PM   #13
Julie
Senior Member

How Do You Identify?:
Angel * Femme * Lesbian * Girl * Woman * Slut * Bitch *
Preferred Pronoun?:
She
Relationship Status:
No longer a Virgin Bride to Dreamer ~ May 17th, 2014
 

Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: New York
Posts: 4,674
Thanks: 17,676
Thanked 18,160 Times in 3,633 Posts
Rep Power: 21474855
Julie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST ReputationJulie Has the BEST Reputation
Member Photo Albums
Default

Anytime Drew... Just listen to what Snow said to you. Be very careful in how you speak to her. She is still a minor and you do not need her parents coming after you. You are a good person!

Quote:
Originally Posted by atomiczombie View Post
I am definitely passing along this info to her too. Thanks Julie!
__________________
“Sometimes only one person is missing and the whole world seems depopulated.”
~ Alphonse de Lamartine - 1790-1869


http://i374.photobucket.com/albums/o...ps4d9fb6c0.jpg

I Love You ~ I Love Us
May 17, 2014
Julie is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Julie For This Useful Post:
Old 08-31-2010, 06:33 PM   #14
lyric
Junior Member

How Do You Identify?:
Queer Femme
Preferred Pronoun?:
she
Relationship Status:
quiet and content
 
lyric's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Springfield, VA
Posts: 88
Thanks: 161
Thanked 303 Times in 56 Posts
Rep Power: 3971633
lyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputationlyric Has the BEST Reputation
Default

I'm in Northern VA, and I might be able to get my hands on some resources. When I was teaching at a local high school here, I was the advisor for our Gay Straight Alliance, but I would be surprised if many (if any) Prince William County Schools house any chapters. I work in behavior mod now in a private school, and we do have some services that work with some kids, and I know of one kid in particular who has someone who set up some outreach for him... he is a 15 year old gay male... but I can try to check and see if I can get some info on that, i.e. what the services are and if they provide a wider range of services that includes females as well as males. If you want to contact me privately here or put her in touch with me and my partner, we'd be happy to help.
lyric is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to lyric For This Useful Post:
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -6. The time now is 02:15 PM.


ButchFemmePlanet.com
All information copyright of BFP 2018