Inside the Minds of Child Molesters - Oprah

[Andrew, Jr.]

Today Oprah had this show on 4 convicted child molesters/sex offenders. It was a no holds barred conversation. They talked about grooming their victims, outwitting parents, creating bonds with their victims, and talking to their victims like they were a couple. In some of their minds, they even pretended that they were a couple. Oy vey. I think they are manipulators, devious, and create a cycle of sexual abuse that lasts sometimes for years and years, and sometimes for a month or two.

How the child molestors/sex offenders ignore that they are damaging these children for life just blows my mind. One offender said that he murdered the child he molested for over 12 years. She will never be the woman she could have been. She forgave him, but he said what he did was unforgiveable. That is the only part he got right.

Not one of the 4 convicted molestors thought or believed they were causing harm to their victims. Each one believed that they were filling a void in the victims life. It changes who you are. The extent of devistation is just overwhelming as far as I am concerned. How a 60+ year old can molest a 5 year old just is unbelieveable to me. It is weird. I cannot wrap my head around this. Not at all. Children should talk if anything like this happens. It is a huge red flag waving.

I am a survivor. This show really hit home for me. I just cried.

Namaste,
Andrew

[Blade]

Was a very good show. Watch it tonight when it comes back on at 10 east coast if you get a chance. The men were very open and honest. Doesn't make what they did ok, but they are trying to educate. Oprah handled the questioning in true Oprah form.


I'll tell you what gets me right now. I just got off Indeed looking at jobs and you wouldn't believe how many postings there were for people looking for a babysitter for this weekend "Valentines". WTF Hope some of them watched Oprah today. I can't imagine leaving my child with someone alone that I just met this week.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Oprah and Lisa Ling are going to be interviewing women, and babysitters next. That should be 2 good shows to watch. The Lisa Ling show I think is on Discovery or A&E. I will have to research it. I feel like I was just punched in the stomach.

Andrew

[suebee]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Today Oprah had this show on 4 convicted child molesters/sex offenders. It was a no holds barred conversation. They talked about grooming their victims, outwitting parents, creating bonds with their victims, and talking to their victims like they were a couple. In some of their minds, they even pretended that they were a couple. Oy vey. I think they are manipulators, devious, and create a cycle of sexual abuse that lasts sometimes for years and years, and sometimes for a month or two.

How the child molestors/sex offenders ignore that they are damaging these children for life just blows my mind. One offender said that he murdered the child he molested for over 12 years. She will never be the woman she could have been. She forgave him, but he said what he did was unforgiveable. That is the only part he got right.

Not one of the 4 convicted molestors thought or believed they were causing harm to their victims. Each one believed that they were filling a void in the victims life. It changes who you are. The extent of devistation is just overwhelming as far as I am concerned. How a 60+ year old can molest a 5 year old just is unbelieveable to me. It is weird. I cannot wrap my head around this. Not at all. Children should talk if anything like this happens. It is a huge red flag waving.

I am a survivor. This show really hit home for me. I just cried.

Namaste,
Andrew

I truly believe it's a brain thing. I don't believe many, if any of them can actually achieve insight into the consequences of their actions, although some may be able to learn socially appropriate behavior. It would be interesting if anybody had any information on where research is at in regards to pedophilia: causes, treatments, etc.

[sylvie]

Originally Posted by Blade

I'll tell you what gets me right now. I just got off Indeed looking at jobs and you wouldn't believe how many postings there were for people looking for a babysitter for this weekend "Valentines". WTF Hope some of them watched Oprah today. I can't imagine leaving my child with someone alone that I just met this week.

wow, i couldnt even imagine doing that..
it's scary that people might do that, :-(

i only caught the end of Oprah today, but she did say at the end that the entire 2 hour interview would be posted on her website tonight - i'll definitely be taking a look once i can and watching it, the bit i did watched was.. well words cant describe but, well.. overwhelming comes to mind..i'm pretty sure Oprah is on late tonight as well, i may record it if i can find the listing and what time it's on.

[Rockinonahigh]

Way back in the 70's & 80"s when my boys were kids..never did I ever use a baby sitter nor did thay go to day care.Either they were with there grandma or one of my aunts and uncle if I was working hours they needed to stay with someone or they were with me..some ppl say I should have not been so restrictive with then cause u bet I checked out the friend and friends familys ..if I didnt like what I found out they didnt hang out with them.
I'm a survivor too.
Rockin

[Andrew, Jr.]

Reading posts here just makes my heavy heart even heavier. I can feel the pain and sadness.

Love to all,
Andrew