If the stone "melts," is it stone?

[Nat]

I ran into an opinion today elsewhere - that if a person isn't always stone (butch) every moment of their lives, then they are not stone and should not claim stone.

This person claims that identifying as stone when one occasionally allows touch (even if years apart and with someone incredibly trusted), then that person is encouraging others to see stone as something that "melts" rather than somethig rigid and impermeable. The further supposition is that allowing this perception to flourish encourages people who interact with stone-identified people to violate their boundaries.

It's been a while since i read a good stone conversation and i am curious if an exact and agreed-upon definition has emerged.

Do you identify as stone? If so, what does that mean to you?