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I hear so much....yet feel nothing but pain...sometimes...there arent any tears to release it...yet it grows so much more day by day...reality is....hard to stare in the face and accept ones place in life...yet i suppose we all must do this at some point in time...or even several...you are all such wonderful ppl...and yet I am so unworthy...undeserving of such kindness. How can one as dirty and devoid of value....deserve such kind ppl....you know whats funny is ppl who dont even know me ..havent met me...held my hand...are kinder than the ppl in my real time life...including the ex...funny huh...makes me wonder...if you arent wasting your time and kindness ...there is someone else way more deserving ....if ppl who say the "love" me...cant find time to care...why would you? Yes reality...is sad...but true...and ever more painful to face..especially alone....
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Princess, you are never truly alone. There is always someone in the same place as you even if it is for different reasons and there is always someone there with a hand or a hug just for you if only you can see them. And sometimes if the only true friends you have are here and not in real life it still means you have real friends who care. You know i can be a joker but know i am always here as well- sometimes at the oddest hours
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I am ALIVE!!!
Depression is not the only thing that kills. I suffer from OCD and spent the first 40 years of my life locked in a box. I still have the box and still go there on occasion (took a little visit this morning). With the help of my amazing therapist and medication I am actually here, present, accounted for, showing up. I have lost so many years and I have so much to learn about the world. I am building instead of rebuilding right now.
Thank you to everyone here who has posted their story. We have to remove the stigma of mental illness. I tell people all the time as it is relevant to the conversation. I am not ashamed. We can get better. I just thank G-d every day that I have access to very good health care. Thank you MisterBent for bringing this important topic up. Oh and I would write on my arm or put on a shirt or whatever. Because *I* do know what the hell I am talking about and would talk and talk and talk to anyone interested to learn. Julie |
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I have tears in my eyes as I read and respond to this...first, because I lost my brother to suicide due to severe depression and reading stories of those who battled with it just suck the breath right out of me, even 35 years later. You just dont know how much it hurts to be the one left behind...
and then the tears spill because this past year was one of my hardest years I ever got thru. I was SEVERELY suicidal most of last winter and early spring. Talk about losing everything...good god...everything, including my sobriety of 20 years. Lost my daughter who wouldnt speak to me because of the relapse. Lost any hope of living happily ever after. Lost my cord that kept me to this earth...yep... small things pull us thru sometimes...it was my dog's dementia that kept me from pulling the trigger. She was so attached to me and so needy and so lost when I wasnt there for her. To kill myself would essentially be killing her. And I just couldnt do that to her. Sounds silly now, sounds like an excuse not to follow in my brother's footsteps (and suicide is often a family coping mechanism) and I am almost ashamed to say a dog saved my life...it sounds so..silly.. but it is what kept me here. And I called my sister one night, and she came over and I purged all of my suicidal thoughts of worthlessness and pain. And she wept hard...because I had called her BEFORE and she was not needing to do for me what she had done for my brother...(too graphic to tell here...) Now I am sober over a year again. My daughter clings to me so glad I am home and alive. I have a wonderful guy in my life and we are building slowly. My health is shot but I am working on establishing some way I can feel worthwhile again in the mental health profession. And more importantly, I am grounded again...I see myself as a person worth living for. I love the title of it...To Write Love On Her Arms. I did subtle things to cue myself of my worth..I would paint my nails a new color every day so that when I looked at my colors, I would think of how much I loved myself and wanted to stay. My honey never knew this...we have a LDR...but he sent me dozens of polishes this summer. His love, with mine, pieced me back together again... thanks, Mr Bently, for making this thread. For me. For all of us. Thank you.
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Not silly at all...this makes so much sense to me it brings tears to my eyes....you have shown how strong and kind you are by staying here for those reasons...
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We hold on to what we have. Who cares if it's a little thing? It's our version of "One Day at a Time", and as long as it works, that's all that's important. Since I came out of the worst of my depression I've had to deal with lung cancer, and now am waiting for test results to confirm a diagnosis of a particular type of arthritis. I'm in pain ALL the time. Now here's the good news: I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to handle major crises in life after my depression. I was afraid that the black monster would come back and claim me. Well guess what - I'm stronger than it is. I may have lost a lot because of it, I may be a change person since it. But I am stronger than it. So are you. We are ALL there for you. You only need to ask. Any one of us will help. You will have your life back. You are working on it. It won't be the same life, but it will be YOURS.
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Dear Softness,
How amazing you are....how wondefully amazing you are...your courage and strength are evident in what you have survived and how you took control...YOU took control....I was just telling a friend lastnight that we have to take control of our lives.....we have a right to take our lives back from the demons which torment us....and you did.....and for one..I can say........Softenss...I am gladd you did......keep painting your nails sister....perhaps we can have polish swaps when you run out.......thank you for calling your sister...and thank you for taking your life back...and thank you for coming here to share with us!! Love and peace..Princess
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well, my sister...you have walked in your darkness and survived. Count yourself amongst the courageous!
We all have demons..some demons more ugly than others but I try to remember that the demons are not us. We are not the ugly. The ugly is all that unhealed pain of generations of torture, until it got down to us. Now that I realize that, I simply wont pass it on and I wont die from it. Not now. My old dog has taught me alot about love. Such as, those you can depend on and are always there for you are the ones worthy of your love. All I did was love her enough not to die for her. I put her first. In doing so, I saved my own life. Its funny how that works... but if I had done that for someone OH so not worthy of it, I am sure it would have made my depression worse... hang in there...dont let go...call out for someone...hold on for some reason....just dont go... Quote:
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If you mean survive because I am still breathing....then yes....i am lucky as we all are....but I think we all know otherwise...surviving doenst just mean "going through the motions" and breathing in and out 20 times a minute...which even then takes more effort than its worth. Softness....I am blessed you are here....I am greatful that you reached out....and I hope that should such a time come again you would reach out just once more...We all continue with the struggle of "not giving up" and sometimes it takes someone else to remind us why we are here....and its as simple as just breathing so we can be here for one another when we are needed the most. much love my nail polish sister.....I am holding you high and I am holding you tight!!!
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wow Softness I can totally relate, last year the only thing that kept me around were my 4 cats. I was so depressed that it was all I could do to put one foot in front of the other and not slice my wrists open but these felines that have chosen me..not the other way around mind you.....saved my life
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Now that I am on this side of the depression, what I figured out, was as long as I put one foot in front of the other, and breathed in and out 20 times a minute, I was close to the sun than I was to the darkness...and because I kept doing it, I am where I am now.
when my brother killed himself, he ended his ability to look back and say, "wow, glad I didnt do that".... and if you think no one loves you enough to stay here, think again. You have NO idea what the people left behind go thru. And they go thru it because they do love you... even if its your dog, dammit, stay for them...
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honey, I am going to say this to you...and to anyone who says things like "I wonder if it even really matters...." Have you thought about going to therapy? And if you say it wont help, NOT GOING really wont help. GOING might....
I did...and yes, lord yes, it helped... there is no harm in seeking help. No shame. Its far better than dying... just saying...consider it.... Quote:
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how much longer does this hell have to continue?
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After getting clean from heroin and cocaine, I suffered many bouts of depression. I ended up seeking help at a local mental health clinic. I was blessed to be assigned to an amazing psychiatrist who specialized in addiction. He put me on meds and waited for me to be 6 months clean before diagnosing me. I was eventually diagnosed with schizophrenia. The thought of that alone put me into a deep depression. My doc kept changing my meds until we found the combination that works the best. I still get depressed from time to time, but nothing like before. I believe that meds and therapy help. I know it seems hopeless when you are depressed, but help is available. You just have to make yourself seek it out.
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"Depression" has been a part of my family history and at times, I know I have experienced levels of depression over my life. I have often wondered about the correlation between genetics and physiology of the human body we are born, gifted with and what seems to be interconnected with our individual identity. Varying levels of depression run on both sides of my family and uncles, aunts, and even my eldest son have either successfully taken their own lives or lived to face their challenges with as much dignity as possible. I think that if healing can come by practicing TWHLOA - writing loving text upon the body - improves how one feels about oneself, then I wholeheartedy want to support this endeavor! Again, thanks so much for the opportunity to come alongside with others and help to foster wellness, hope, peace and to express loving kindness for people in an integrative approach! ~ALK |
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I'm feeling better than I have for years. Now that may be hard to read if you're having a bad go of it right now, but I say it so that you can know that there's light at the end of the tunnel. I don't think either my therapist or my doctor thought I would survive my depression. I know I didn't think I would. So just get through today. Take the steps you can - but DO what you can. This damnedable disease robs us of our hope.....but please know (you may not feel it, but -KNOW) that there IS hope!
I posted during the winter that I thought I had arthritis: turns out it was a virus that mimics severe arthritis by affecting the auto-immune system, and it seems to be passing. Thanks to all those who showed concern for me. Sue
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Mister Bent! What a wonderful subject for a thread, I am so very sorry I did not see it until now.
I would love to see a To Write Love on Her/His Arms Day! I would support it 100%. Many of us here struggle with depression. I am humbled at the outpouring of support for people with depression. SuperFemme, the story about your daughter made me cry. How wonderful that Snow was there to tell her about this and get her motivated to help others as she helps herself. Love to all of you!
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