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Old 11-07-2010, 03:29 PM   #1
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Speaking of privacy; why are guests allowed into the forum to read? That kinda makes me feel icky!
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I can't link from my phone but there are some recent posts in the "Ask A Moderator" thread that address both these questions.
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The galleries are private. One has to be a member and signed in to see them. Your posts on the threads outside of The Inner Sanctum are public and can be found by anyone online, not just members here.

Sometimes we forget that this is still a part of the interwebz because the site feels so safe and cozy but we must always keep in mind not to post stuff that you wouldn't want just anyone seeing.


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Guests are allowed in the public areas because how can those who need to find the site without being able to see the site? The site projects a positive image of our community, I think, and that means opening our collective arms to those who haven't found us yet. Of course, yes, there are going to be those who are less than stellar that find us, but overall, I think we've done great.

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i was reviewing the terms of service and i am down for and love this one but i have a question since i am considering getting a paid membership i was noticing that it allows you to be invisible

the TOS i have a question on is

"Drama - "Break-up posts", trolling, shit-stirring, stalking, or harassment of any member"

how do you know if you are being stalked or harassed if people can mask they are checking out your profile and can see you online with out your knowledge

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i have a question

i was reviewing the terms of service and i am down for and love this one but i have a question since i am considering getting a paid membership i was noticing that it allows you to be invisible

the TOS i have a question on is

"Drama - "Break-up posts", trolling, shit-stirring, stalking, or harassment of any member"

how do you know if you are being stalked or harassed if people can mask they are checking out your profile and can see you online with out your knowledge

just wondering thanks for any and all feedback


You can see who is checking out your profile, the ones who are invisible are not invisible to the mods. They see everyone, so if you have concerns I would suggest contacting one of them.
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i have a question

i was reviewing the terms of service and i am down for and love this one but i have a question since i am considering getting a paid membership i was noticing that it allows you to be invisible

the TOS i have a question on is

"Drama - "Break-up posts", trolling, shit-stirring, stalking, or harassment of any member"

how do you know if you are being stalked or harassed if people can mask they are checking out your profile and can see you online with out your knowledge

just wondering thanks for any and all feedback


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One of the features we provide is being able to see who has visited your profile. Visiting profiles is not considered harassment in most cases unless you are doing it to your ex. If you have broken up, you need to move on and stay out of your exes profiles or that of their current love interest. We hope people will do that voluntarily, however, sometimes if it keeps happening, we will request that you (general) stop doing it. In some cases, if it continues after we have made the request, we will issue a timeout. We don't like to do that.

People who have a Sentinel membership are able to be "invisible" except to other Sentinel members, the Admins or Mods. You can still see their posts and all other regular information.
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ok so you will be able to tell if invisible people have visited your profile then?
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Only if you get the Sentinel subscription.
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ok cool so there is a way to protect yourself from those behaviors

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ok cool so there is a way to protect yourself from those behaviors

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Actually there is no way to protect yourself from anyones online behavior only ones own behavior. Someone visiting your profile is not necessarily doing so against the TOS. But you still have the option to report them and let the Mods handle it.
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Ok it is always good to know though

that was one of the questions i had about membership since there are the terms of service how do you prove it with the invisibility status

any other tips or suggestions for online safety on your site?
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that was one of the questions i had about membership since there are the terms of service how do you prove it with the invisibility status

any other tips or suggestions for online safety on your site?
There is no such animal as online safety on any site. Anyone can read anyone else's posts except for the red zone and another forum. So if you are expecting to be invisible, that isn't going to happen. Your posts are still going to be visible.
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We are testing the invisibility thing right now.

And also, visiting profiles or viewing someones posts is not necessarily harassment. Some people are just more fascinating than others. Stalking can be really subjective, I think it depends on intent. Is someone looking at everything you post in order to harass you off-site, or report because it *might* be about them?

There's lots of threads and information out on the web that talk about safety on the internet. We're all responsible for our own safety and it's good to remember that this, like most is a public forum, so if you don't want folks to read stuff you write, a public forum, blog or even a facebook account with lots of people on it isn't really the place for it.
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it is just nice to know that the serious nature of problems are handled by the administrators of the website the terms of service are awesome

i was directed to this website from a friend and i find it to be a safe area to go

i am sure others feel comfort knowing that the moderators and administrators are stern on the rules and privacy of others

the gossip, across domains, it gives a comforting feeling i am happy and excited to be here!

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Okay -- We just did a test.

In addition to being a Moderator, I am also a paid Sentinel member. I never use the invisible thing, but we created a new test member and I went invisible.

I visited that profile three times, and Medusa (as the test member) could see three visits, but not by who.

So, if you are a Sentinel member and another Sentinel member visits your profile, you can see they were there.

If you are a non-paid member, or at the BFP Supporter I or II (And we appreciate you all equally!) if a Sentinel member visits your profile, you will not be able to see it.

Moderators or Admins, regardless if they have a paid membership can see who has been in your profile, even if you can't.
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I am confused about some terminology that comes up at times regarding some of the "privacy issues".

With the internet being public domain, anything you write on a public forum as I understand it becomes public information. Just Google your screen name and put in butch femme lol it's out there. I google myself frequently because of the nature of my work, and believe me it's all out there. So while this is a group unto it's self, because it's the internet I think we need to keep in mind that once we hit submit, our sharing's are now recorded public information. HMMM makes one think, right?

So participating on the internet is not private. Reading can be, but written information is not, this includes profiles, forum posts, anything written down. I believe images as well.

My next thought in this convo is the loose usage of the word "stalking". This being a public forum, we all wonder who is on here, and what they are about. That's why we read each others posts, look at profiles, comment etc. There are some eloquent writers and really funny people on here. People with strong opinions as well as those looking for love or new friends. It's all part of the online community experience. So if someone is interesting in their online presence, it may attract onlookers, followers even. This is not stalking, in my mind. LOL look at my profile all you want follow my posts, it's a compliment isn't it? I know there are people on here who's expressions interest me, and at times I will go see what they have been up to. Isn't that part of what an online community is all about?

Where we cross the line in my mind is when a member is being verbally attacked, or contacted PERSONALLY via forum or PM by someone who's behavior is bothersome or threatening. I think this is where stalking comes in. And intervention may be necessary. I think it's important to be clear about this. We all joke about who's stalking who today, and I always understood that to mean they were interested in what you are saying or doing, like it's a fun thing.

I guess my point in all of this is if a person is not contacting you personally, harassing you directly or indirectly, take a deep breath and enjoy the public sharing. The question then becomes does one feel safe sharing themselves in a public place, where what is written and shared can and will be seen by others basically when ever they want. I understand some people have reasons for being private, and needing to feel safe, so you have to know you are ready for all this.....

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