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Old 03-15-2012, 04:42 PM   #41
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Sentinels and Lifetime members can see folks who are also Sentinels and Lifetime members, even if they choose to use the invisibility feature. They show up with a * behind their name on the member list to the left for me. The Mods and Admins can see everyone who's online at anytime, even if they're invisible.

dixie* <---like that.

We can also see what folks are doing in the "Who's Online". That's why sometimes you'll get a little note from one of us because we feel you're spending too much time searching the posts of your ex, or your exes new "friend" when we've asked you not to.

Who else wonders what Toughy wants?
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Sometimes i click a name somewhere along the line and end up on a profile by accident, and i figure that could be how they showed up on mine, i have never felt icky about anyone "being" on my page at all, what's to see anyway? Maybe i am just too boring!


i love the *who's online* function, i love that where we are lurking can be seen by anyone. i have made several posts and then sat viewing who's online and saw someone checking out all my posts, made me feel kinda special

i do follow some people because i find them interesting, or want to see what DaddiB is up to
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Sentinels and Lifetime members can see folks who are also Sentinels and Lifetime members, even if they choose to use the invisibility feature. They show up with a * behind their name on the member list to the left for me. The Mods and Admins can see everyone who's online at anytime, even if they're invisible.

dixie* <---like that.

We can also see what folks are doing in the "Who's Online". That's why sometimes you'll get a little note from one of us because we feel you're spending too much time searching the posts of your ex, or your exes new "friend" when we've asked you not to.

Who else wonders what Toughy wants?

*Friend* ? that's cute, my mom still uses that. Hehe


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Sometimes i click a name somewhere along the line and end up on a profile by accident, and i figure that could be how they showed up on mine
I do this ALL the time...and always end up feeling like I should leave a visitor message that says "sorry, butterfingers again "
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I do this ALL the time...and always end up feeling like I should leave a visitor message that says "sorry, butterfingers again "

me too, sometimes i say *drive by HELLO!!!!*

maybe butterfingers would be better
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i always click on Toughy's name to see what she's reading. She reads everything and finds the interesting threads. i am way too lazy to do that so i just draft off of her. Seriously, if i didn't stalk her, i woulda missed some good threads.
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I like to refer to Kat as my "Special Friend" she loves that.

I think I have talked about this before, but I'm old, so I will again.

Back on the Dash site, I found the who's online thing by accident and was HORRIFIED that people could see where I was. I always wanted to go into the Butt Sex thread and read it, but I didn't want anyone to see me.

Now, I'll go anywhere.
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I like to refer to Kat as my "Special Friend" she loves that.

I think I have talked about this before, but I'm old, so I will again.

Back on the Dash site, I found the who's online thing by accident and was HORRIFIED that people could see where I was. I always wanted to go into the Butt Sex thread and read it, but I didn't want anyone to see me.

Now, I'll go anywhere.
I didn't even know there WAS a "who's online" on the dash site until this moment (speaking of which I didn't even know what the hell it was on this site, until tantalizing femme pointed it out to me)!
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HA! This kinda reminds me of watching the "anal fisting" thread and snickering.
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Yes. It was the Anal Fisting thread I was so curious about. Even though I am Exit Only
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So now everyone is making me wonder if I would participate differently on the site, if I were invisible. Is that what we used to call "lurking"? But "lurking" has negative connotations, and I think the invisibility we're talking about here, since condoned, and consensual in that everyone knows the deal, doesn't have any ethical problems associated with "lurking."
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Ehhh I just post and don't worry until I see threads like this, then I may or may not have a moment of paranoia. lol
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I have the same people that show up on my profile. I really don't care who sees me, stalks my threads, etc. The only one that creeps me out a bit is someone who is seeing someone I dated. She's probably even reading this now. ahahaha I'm not sure why but I seem to fascinate her.

But I know that some people do because they enjoy the same things I'm into. I get rep notes telling me so.

I don't know why I choose to be invisible. Its an option I have and I use it. I don't really care if people know what I'm reading or stalk me.
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I'm invisible right now. Watching all of you......
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I rather despise the fact that paid members can be invisible. It feels like I am not worthy of protection as an unpaid member. I know I am spied upon. There is a name that NEVER leaves my visitor list. But i also wonder who else watches me silently. It almost feels like how a set of dogs attacks..one from the rear, one in the front.

Yet I remain present. And I do not stop saying anything I want to say. If people want to keep tabs on me, so be it. I just hate that they can use that feature to do so. If I had the means to pay for a membership, i would, so i wouldn't feel shadowed. But not being able to isnt enough to keep me away from a site that otherwise, i feel comfortable in.

I go in the butt and fist threads. Hahaha. I make sure my silent watchers get their monies worth....
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I have the same people that show up on my profile. I really don't care who sees me, stalks my threads, etc. The only one that creeps me out a bit is someone who is seeing someone I dated. She's probably even reading this now. ahahaha I'm not sure why but I seem to fascinate her.

But I know that some people do because they enjoy the same things I'm into. I get rep notes telling me so.

I don't know why I choose to be invisible. Its an option I have and I use it. I don't really care if people know what I'm reading or stalk me.
i don't care either and i find it amusing that they do as i hardly post anything juicy
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I want to speak to your accusations and loaded words, here.

There's some really strong, fierce individuals on this site that 'protect' themselves and each other as needed, daily. If you were treated unfairly or badly in some real situation I and many others would readily come to your defense, despite your conclusion that as a result of a paid-user option, you live in fear of being strategically attacked by a pack of dogs.

This is to say nothing of the real and actual concern that the site administrators give every member on a daily basis. Meaning that your accusations are offensive, given the spirit of the site, and that the owners and the administrators are people I know to care about you and every other member, long after most people would lose interest or tolerance for each of our mini-dramas, our bad days, our exes and their exes, real and imagined, etc.

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I rather despise the fact that paid members can be invisible. It feels like I am not worthy of protection as an unpaid member. I know I am spied upon. There is a name that NEVER leaves my visitor list. But i also wonder who else watches me silently. It almost feels like how a set of dogs attacks..one from the rear, one in the front.

Yet I remain present. And I do not stop saying anything I want to say. If people want to keep tabs on me, so be it. I just hate that they can use that feature to do so. If I had the means to pay for a membership, i would, so i wouldn't feel shadowed. But not being able to isnt enough to keep me away from a site that otherwise, i feel comfortable in.

I go in the butt and fist threads. Hahaha. I make sure my silent watchers get their monies worth....
I have to wonder why you feel so watched, Miss_Tia? And what about someone visiting your page is so threatening to you? I visit a gazillion pages a day (just because I'm nosey like that) and the few times someone has questioned my intent, I simply answer honestly and make a mental note to respect said person's privacy.

I'm not sure if I am still invisible, but for a while I very much appreciated being able to log in here and know not everyone could see which threads I was visiting and where I was on the site. It was a vulnerable time for me. Now I don't feel so sensitive and I don't mind being observed in such a manner.

It is tricky trying to navigate the same space your ex occupies, but it can be done. For me the process has been about learning not to read everything through a "me" lens. And then, of course, being respectful of their right to move forward as they see fit, and vs-vs.

No one here has ever resembled a pack of dogs to me. I'm sorry you feel that way.
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I don't have any problems on here. After reading this thread, and this is the first time I have, I find the conversation interesting. Apparently, I am not that interesting. I don't think anyone follows me around.

Wait... .... I could take that personally and be all ... I...... could be boring...
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