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Old 12-14-2017, 12:18 PM   #21
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This introvert could never do that. I would spend the five minutes palms sweating and tripping over my words, only to have to move on. I suck at small talk, and real conversations canít happen in five minutes.
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This introvert could never do that. I would spend the five minutes palms sweating and tripping over my words, only to have to move on. I suck at small talk, and real conversations canít happen in five minutes.
It makes me almost break out in a sweat just to think about it...
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I did a speed dating once at a queer kinky event and met someone I played with that night. That was like seven years ago and we're still good friends and occasionally indulge in some kinky play. I say that speed dating was very successful! I haven't been to a "real" one though, and probably never would.
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Old 12-14-2017, 07:31 PM   #24
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I have never tried speed dating but I would try it at least once.

Made me think about my youth in the disco bars but "dating" was not what we were doing by a long shot.
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I would do speed dating in a heartbeat........

And not to derail the thread but I once read about a party/event where everyone brought 1 person with them that they felt was a very nice person but there just wasn't any chemistry/connection between them. This sound like something I'd like to give a shot to as well.........
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I would do speed dating in a heartbeat........

And not to derail the thread but I once read about a party/event where everyone brought 1 person with them that they felt was a very nice person but there just wasn't any chemistry/connection between them. This sound like something I'd like to give a shot to as well.........
Has anyone else ever either heard or attended one of these events?
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Has anyone else ever either heard or attended one of these events?
No but I did try speed dating once. Well I don't know that it was speed dating proper, like they used to show on television but I did do, if not that, something simillar. For me it wasn't a pleasant experience. First there was the possible, potential stranger danger factor. Not liking it - people coming unknown/not recommended by trustworthy, reliable sources. We had to give our real names and what if afterwards some kook followed me, stalked us. The alley we'd went down to get there wasn't very comforting at all. Like this would be nice, safe, fun place, full of non-creepy people, we were headed to. But having a friend with me gave me courage. It turned out it was a mostly male/female heterosexual, maybe bisexual thing going on. I didn't see any butch lesbians, at least not any obvious ones. There was one woman who told me she was butch and only there dressed femme because her friends had convinced her she'd have better luck finding a match to date if she toned it down some, tried dressing more femme. She pulled off her wig to prove it to me but come on she was there in a wig and a dress with makeup on, attempting to try and deceive people. I certainly wasn't going to take her at her word. No to truly determine it, that would require closer inspection, from a distance, with binoculars. Just because well if she was a butch, pretending to be femme, who's to say she wasn't a man pretending to be a butch lesbian, or a serial killer pretending to be some Dudley Do-Rite. Not that there's anything wrong with being a man or femme or a Good Samaritan it's just - be yourself because there is nothing attractive or even remotely interesting about a consummate liar. I don't know, maybe it would have been a different experience in a honest environment. But on the other hand if I haven't felt a compelling need to try it again, in over a quarter of a century, well I think that right there is very telling, speaks a lot about how miserable I found the whole experience.
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Never...never will "speed" date...doesn't fit with "savoring"...in other words, getting to know a femme woman who deserves more than 5 mins...Greco
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