What do YOU need to feel loved? - Page 12

clay · 08-18-2016, 02:36 PM

for someone to be in that moment, its in the kiss, the touch, the pheromones....a gentle touch, a kind heart, & honesty, being able to actually communicate....

homoe · 08-18-2016, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by MitchM42

There is quiz you can take online that will tell you what you #1 and #2 languages are out of five. It was interesting, because my wife and I took and realized that we not only do NOT need the same things....but we also didn't "talk" in the language the other needed. I am a touch language and she is an act of service.

Yes, and a book as well The Five Love Languages written by Gary D. Chapman. I just re-read it last year and even tho it's aimed at straight people, I've found it very helpful.

JDeere · 08-26-2016, 04:50 PM

To feel appreciated, to be shown appreciation.

Orema · 08-26-2016, 04:57 PM

I have to be heard. I need hym to listen to me. And listen to me with the intent of understanding, not with the intent of changing my mind. We don't have to always agree, but I have to know I'm being heard.

candy_coated_bitch · 08-26-2016, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Orema

I have to be heard. I need hym to listen to me. And listen to me with the intent of understanding, not with the intent of changing my mind. We don't have to always agree, but I have to know I'm being heard.

This. I need to feel listened to. I need to feel accepted no matter what as well. And to feel valued. I also need a fair amount of attention.

gotoseagrl · 08-26-2016, 05:52 PM

The actions, efforts, simple things. I read between the lines/words.

kittygrrl · 08-26-2016, 07:08 PM

thoughtful leadership, kind guidance, respect, meaningful kisses

JDeere · 08-26-2016, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by gotoseagrl

The actions, efforts, simple things. I read between the lines/words.

Actions is another good one to add to my list.

Actions do speak louder than words!

gotoseagrl · 08-26-2016, 08:34 PM

Yes they do, they speak volumes, and I think that is what you can always count on.

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Originally Posted by JDeere

Actions is another good one to add to my list.

Actions do speak louder than words!

JDeere · 08-26-2016, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by gotoseagrl

Yes they do, they speak volumes, and I think that is what you can always count on.

I agree whole heartedly as well!

RockOn · 08-27-2016, 07:34 AM

I need her to be respectful and it is shown through her actions.

I am talking about those intrinsic characteristics along the lines of but not limited to respect, ethics, character ...
Here are some thoughts on that:
To feel loved I need a woman who is honest, won't lie to me or intentionally leave out certain parts because I consider that withholding part of the truth (not telling entire truth) which to me is a subtle form of lying ... one who believes in me enough to realize I really have integrity which encompasses thing like
being open and honest with her, won't lie to her, won't say or do things to evoke jeoulousy, won't betray her, cheat on her, realizes I know my humor can be somewhat goofy at times, I need a femme who can give in to her silly side

I could go on and on but need to get up off this patio chair and get busy with my outdoor work. All of this does not matter anyway. I have been off the romance market for a very long time and intend to remain that way. I am content.

kittygrrl · 08-27-2016, 09:24 AM

I never have to worry, I know I can count on you

Cin · 08-27-2016, 09:31 AM

It's hard to put into words what makes me feel loved. I'm not sure I even know half the time what will work during any given set of circumstances. I know we all have our issues and our baggage. Personally I have a lot of luggage. I'm no picnic for sure. But whatever it is I need, whatever it is it takes, my wife is doing it. Thirteen years and counting. I am so lucky she loves me. She just naturally finds the holes in my heart and somehow fills them.

McGeek · 08-30-2016, 05:12 PM

when i feel trusted i feel loved...as im a loyal old dog

C0LLETTE · 08-30-2016, 05:50 PM

intimacy, good food, no yelling.

Jesse · 08-30-2016, 07:50 PM

I agree. For me, actions definitely speak louder than words...sometimes so much they scream!

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Originally Posted by JDeere

Actions is another good one to add to my list.

Actions do speak louder than words!

homoe · 08-30-2016, 08:48 PM

A Honey Do List..................

Stud_puppy1991 · 08-30-2016, 10:06 PM

Appreciation, loyalty, to be told I have worth, cuddles, kisses, gentle touches, and honesty. I don't think that's asking too much

Gemme · 08-31-2016, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by homoe

A Honey Do List..................

It's good to feel wanted and needed!

Zimmeh · 08-31-2016, 11:15 AM

That I will have days where I just need a hug to make my day complete.

Zimmeh

08-18-2016, 02:36 PM	#221
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,096 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 96,036 Thanked 31,683 Times in 7,714 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	for someone to be in that moment, its in the kiss, the touch, the pheromones....a gentle touch, a kind heart, & honesty, being able to actually communicate.... __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

08-26-2016, 04:50 PM	#223
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08-26-2016, 05:52 PM	#226
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08-26-2016, 07:08 PM	#227
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08-27-2016, 09:24 AM	#232
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: je ne sais quoi Preferred Pronoun?: baby grrl Relationship Status: a few laughs Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the real Posts: 8,802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,381 Thanked 21,371 Times in 6,721 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I never have to worry, I know I can count on you __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca

08-26-2016, 04:57 PM	#224
Orema Superlative Soul Sister How Do You Identify?: Lesbian stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, shawty Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Cottage of Content Posts: 13,021 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 41,070 Thanked 34,088 Times in 8,590 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	I have to be heard. I need hym to listen to me. And listen to me with the intent of understanding, not with the intent of changing my mind. We don't have to always agree, but I have to know I'm being heard.

08-27-2016, 07:34 AM	#231
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,308 Times in 2,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I need her to be respectful and it is shown through her actions. I am talking about those intrinsic characteristics along the lines of but not limited to respect, ethics, character ... Here are some thoughts on that: To feel loved I need a woman who is honest, won't lie to me or intentionally leave out certain parts because I consider that withholding part of the truth (not telling entire truth) which to me is a subtle form of lying ... one who believes in me enough to realize I really have integrity which encompasses thing like being open and honest with her, won't lie to her, won't say or do things to evoke jeoulousy, won't betray her, cheat on her, realizes I know my humor can be somewhat goofy at times, I need a femme who can give in to her silly side I could go on and on but need to get up off this patio chair and get busy with my outdoor work. All of this does not matter anyway. I have been off the romance market for a very long time and intend to remain that way. I am content.

08-27-2016, 09:31 AM	#233
Cin Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Truly Madly Deeply Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: In My Head Posts: 2,805 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,326 Thanked 10,619 Times in 2,489 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	It's hard to put into words what makes me feel loved. I'm not sure I even know half the time what will work during any given set of circumstances. I know we all have our issues and our baggage. Personally I have a lot of luggage. I'm no picnic for sure. But whatever it is I need, whatever it is it takes, my wife is doing it. Thirteen years and counting. I am so lucky she loves me. She just naturally finds the holes in my heart and somehow fills them. __________________ The reason facts don’t change most people’s opinions is because most people don’t use facts to form their opinions. They use their opinions to form their “facts.” Neil Strauss

08-30-2016, 05:12 PM	#234
McGeek Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Transman Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: Scotland Posts: 3 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 16 Times in 3 Posts Rep Power: 0	when i feel trusted i feel loved...as im a loyal old dog

08-30-2016, 05:50 PM	#235
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08-30-2016, 08:48 PM	#237
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08-30-2016, 10:06 PM	#238
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08-31-2016, 11:15 AM	#240
Zimmeh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: I am a human and not a possession Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Volusia County, FL Posts: 6,746 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23,549 Thanked 13,441 Times in 4,316 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	That I will have days where I just need a hug to make my day complete. Zimmeh __________________ "A loving heart is the truest wisdom" -Chinua Achebe

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