Facebook

Sachita · 09-03-2012, 03:17 PM

I know that social media has it's ups and downs. I also know that some people find it invasive to their privacy... however

I have met the most extraordinary people there. Some that are here at the planet are my friends and I so enjoy learning about you and your families. It gives me warm fuzzies when I hear about your kids, the things you love and are passionate about. I equally love sharing my world with you. It's a special type of bonding I feel with those of you that are my friends. Thank you for trust me.

I know that some people have concerns about being out on social media. Let's face it, it has it draw back too. But all and all, I see have learned so much about you, those who are here and my friends.

How do you feel? Thats what I want to know. Do you find social media to be intrusive? Do you fear it? Or do you feel like I do?

Sachita · 09-03-2012, 03:35 PM

I also want to hear from those of you who steer away from this and why. I admit that i had my doubts because I also have my family and business there but I have nothing but positive experiences. Then again I don't hide anything and I am an open book. But I so understand and respect those who feel differently.

Babyangeleyez · 09-03-2012, 03:43 PM

I like Facebook. I have enjoyed catching up on classmates, family who live outta the area and other people who I meet along the way.

OS Butch · 09-03-2012, 03:47 PM

I love Facebook...I am one of those good morning kinda people that can annoy some people.

Depending on the day, I post a bunch, other days not so much. I don't find it intrusive as I am very particular who I friend, since my family is also on my page and I pretty much put lots of personal stuff on it, it is like my own personal blog.

There are maybe 6 people on there that I haven't actually met in real time. I keep it closed to friends only, not even the friends of friends. The only opening is anyone can send me a message.

I think FB is one of the reasons I am not on the Planet as much.

Martina · 09-03-2012, 03:53 PM

My nearest and dearest either aren't on it or don't use it much. I found myself spending significant amounts of time reading about people rather peripheral to my life. Sometimes it was fascinating and inspirational. But I thought that a better use of my time would be to email or call my longer distance friends who I neglect. So I signed off, and lo and behold, I have had more contact with the buddies in other states.

Syr · 09-03-2012, 04:57 PM

I am enjoying it. Don't often have time for real time socialization so this helps. It is about as social as this old hermit is comfortable with.
It's a more honest idea of a person than threads, forums etc.

princessbelle · 09-03-2012, 05:06 PM

I am on facebook. But, i'm not crazy about it. The reason i started was because my two sons were on it and honestly i found i could figure out more about their lives than asking them. LOL.

It confuses me honestly. I post things here and there and "like" things but i'm not there everyday like some peeps. I never know if what i say is seen by all or not and sometimes the same exact "post" will be seen on Bully's home page and not on mine by someone who is on both of our friends list. It's really odd to me.

I think it's ok. But, it's not the bomb-digity in my book. I feel much more at ease, much more at home, and much more in touch with my community friends, here on this site.

Quintease · 09-03-2012, 05:18 PM

I've moved around a lot so Facebook is a godsend. There are a lot of people I would have lost/thought I'd lost if not for FB. It amazes me that every day I know what friends of mine, who I havent physically seen for 6 years, are doing in their day. Plus it gives my mother a chance to keep her eye on me

alexri · 09-03-2012, 05:19 PM

I am on it. It's helped me connect with a lot of old friends and members of various clubs I belong to. People use it to share news, photos, discount codes, set up meetings/events, etc. It's also helped me connect to a larger nationwide/worldwide group of people just like me.

Sadly, I have two accounts. One for the "biologically female" me for family, coworkers, etc. and one for the "real" me. I have lot of friends in this dual position, where they are not out to family/friends/work about being trans, so their trans person has a separate account to connect with groups and organizations.

I know some people get annoyed by game requests; I just block them.

chefhmboyrd · 09-03-2012, 05:26 PM

i love FB because i can keep in touch with family and friends all over the country. i have my account set on friends only, so i don't have any issues.

i think it is amazing to reach out to old friends and high school buddies i haven't seen in a long time.
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lusciouskiwi · 09-03-2012, 05:26 PM

I like facebook - being so far away from home it's invaluable in easily keeping in touch with folks. But I also have friends in the US and as well as back in South Korea and some other countries. And, I find it's great for keeping up to date about events. But, I have a heap of people on my fb (including my sisters) that never bother to keep in touch, so sometimes I feel really frustrated with it.

Just had a phone call from my mum. She's all excited because she's got her computer up and running again and got it hooked up and is talking about facebook!

lusciouskiwi · 09-03-2012, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by alexri

Sadly, I have two accounts. One for the "biologically female" me for family, coworkers, etc. and one for the "real" me. I have lot of friends in this dual position, where they are not out to family/friends/work about being trans, so their trans person has a separate account to connect with groups and organizations.

I have two as well - one as a teacher, I have students, ex students, etc, some work colleagues and some Malaysian teachers there and no glbt content. I have another one that has plenty of glbt content as well as other interests and if anyone on that one doesn't like it they can sod off.

macele · 09-03-2012, 05:51 PM

it's the devil! lol i am not a facebook fan. i don't want to communicate with friends that live 5 minutes down the road. seems unnessary. i should go see them, call them. and too, i don't want to communicate with some of those folks/family. i'm a very private person. they don't need to know my where abouts lol. as far as high school friends, i wasn't that close to them then, ... now doesn't seem needed. family and friends far away, yeah ... ok, facebook is good for that. but i have a phone.

from what i've gathered, it can be a major gossip network. it's great for drama and pity parties. young people love to take their pictures in the bathroom, ... pucker their lips, ... stick their tongues out. people feel guilty for not "liking" a jesus post, so of course they do "like" it. just goes on and on LOL.

i get asked ever so often if i have facebook or why i don't have facebook, ... i say, it's the devil! lol

OS Butch · 09-03-2012, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Quintease

I've moved around a lot so Facebook is a godsend. There are a lot of people I would have lost/thought I'd lost if not for FB. It amazes me that every day I know what friends of mine, who I havent physically seen for 6 years, are doing in their day. Plus it gives my mother a chance to keep her eye on me

LOL! My mom loves that she knows where and what I am doing since I am on the road between here and Texas. It is great for keeping her in the know

morningstar55 · 09-03-2012, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by OS Butch

I love Facebook...I am one of those good morning kinda people that can annoy some people.

Depending on the day, I post a bunch, other days not so much. I don't find it intrusive as I am very particular who I friend, since my family is also on my page and I pretty much put lots of personal stuff on it, it is like my own personal blog.

There are maybe 6 people on there that I haven't actually met in real time. I keep it closed to friends only, not even the friends of friends. The only opening is anyone can send me a message.

I think FB is one of the reasons I am not on the Planet as much.

i love reading your morning hello's being the morning person i am .. lol

Martina · 09-03-2012, 06:54 PM

I was just at Home Depot, and the checkout guy reconnected on Facebook with a friend from grade school, married her, and moved out here (Norcal) from Ohio. I have heard several stories like that.

Lots of happiness has resulted from FB, I have to say.

If my good friends used it, I would too. But since they don't, . . . seems like no point.

I waste enough time.

Just_G · 09-03-2012, 06:55 PM

I love facebook for keeping up with my chosen family. I don't have any of my real family on my fb page because they don't approve of my lifestyle.

I think it's a great way to keep up since all of my friends are all over the country. When life changes and you want to re-arrange the people in your theater of life, if you delete someone from your facebook, it causes drama and feelings get hurt; even if you never EVER interact with this person. That is the one thing I don't like about it.

I could care less if someone takes me off their page. They had their reasons. I don't get mad and I don't stir up a bunch drama. Most people DO. I am so very choosey who I add to my page now. I only want people there that I care to know about what is going on in their life. I prefer to only add people I have actually MET in person.

bright_arrow · 09-03-2012, 06:57 PM

As an army brat and such, I have moved often, and FB allows me to keep in touch with practically everyone. I also come from a big family, some I have never met, but we have friended on FB and thus become a part of each other's lives.

My mother also uses it to keep an eye on me

I enjoy posting pictures from my phone, and gets lots of feedback when I need it. Even my grandfather is on FB - and actively uses it!

dixie · 09-03-2012, 07:11 PM

I like facebook and most other forms of social media. As most folks close to me know, I am not a social creature. Heck, I have pretty much fallen off the edge of the world recently, with minimal to zero interactions at all. I do not enjoy the "regular" socialization (night with the girls, dinner get-togethers, group outings, etc) that a lot of folks enjoy. It's just not in my nature to do more than a few social things per year. However, I do enjoy lots of folks (their humor, personality, thought processes, etc), so social media gives me the opportunity to observe and connect, despite my odd and sometimes quirky social phobias/awkwardness/loner personality.

OS Butch · 09-03-2012, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

i love reading your morning hello's being the morning person i am .. lol

Well, thank you

Good to know you don't hide my post and that my good morning posts don't annoy you

09-03-2012, 03:17 PM	#1
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,249 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Facebook I know that social media has it's ups and downs. I also know that some people find it invasive to their privacy... however I have met the most extraordinary people there. Some that are here at the planet are my friends and I so enjoy learning about you and your families. It gives me warm fuzzies when I hear about your kids, the things you love and are passionate about. I equally love sharing my world with you. It's a special type of bonding I feel with those of you that are my friends. Thank you for trust me. I know that some people have concerns about being out on social media. Let's face it, it has it draw back too. But all and all, I see have learned so much about you, those who are here and my friends. How do you feel? Thats what I want to know. Do you find social media to be intrusive? Do you fear it? Or do you feel like I do? __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese Last edited by Sachita; 09-03-2012 at 03:33 PM.

09-03-2012, 03:35 PM	#2
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,249 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I also want to hear from those of you who steer away from this and why. I admit that i had my doubts because I also have my family and business there but I have nothing but positive experiences. Then again I don't hide anything and I am an open book. But I so understand and respect those who feel differently. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

09-03-2012, 03:47 PM	#4
OS Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch-BLW Preferred Pronoun?: Default-She Relationship Status: Closed Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 636 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 488 Thanked 1,378 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 12988703	I love Facebook...I am one of those good morning kinda people that can annoy some people. Depending on the day, I post a bunch, other days not so much. I don't find it intrusive as I am very particular who I friend, since my family is also on my page and I pretty much put lots of personal stuff on it, it is like my own personal blog. There are maybe 6 people on there that I haven't actually met in real time. I keep it closed to friends only, not even the friends of friends. The only opening is anyone can send me a message. I think FB is one of the reasons I am not on the Planet as much. __________________ You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I'll always love you. ~Tinkerbell~

09-03-2012, 04:57 PM	#6
Syr Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Syr Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northern Ontario, Canada Posts: 241 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 381 Thanked 1,130 Times in 217 Posts Rep Power: 13416616	I am enjoying it. Don't often have time for real time socialization so this helps. It is about as social as this old hermit is comfortable with. It's a more honest idea of a person than threads, forums etc. Last edited by Syr; 09-03-2012 at 04:59 PM. Reason: Added stuff

09-03-2012, 05:06 PM	#7
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,503 Times in 5,201 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I am on facebook. But, i'm not crazy about it. The reason i started was because my two sons were on it and honestly i found i could figure out more about their lives than asking them. LOL. It confuses me honestly. I post things here and there and "like" things but i'm not there everyday like some peeps. I never know if what i say is seen by all or not and sometimes the same exact "post" will be seen on Bully's home page and not on mine by someone who is on both of our friends list. It's really odd to me. I think it's ok. But, it's not the bomb-digity in my book. I feel much more at ease, much more at home, and much more in touch with my community friends, here on this site. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

09-03-2012, 03:43 PM	#3
Babyangeleyez Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 242 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 152 Thanked 813 Times in 169 Posts Rep Power: 6511028	I like Facebook. I have enjoyed catching up on classmates, family who live outta the area and other people who I meet along the way.

09-03-2012, 03:53 PM	#5
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,367 Times in 4,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	My nearest and dearest either aren't on it or don't use it much. I found myself spending significant amounts of time reading about people rather peripheral to my life. Sometimes it was fascinating and inspirational. But I thought that a better use of my time would be to email or call my longer distance friends who I neglect. So I signed off, and lo and behold, I have had more contact with the buddies in other states.

09-03-2012, 05:18 PM	#8
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,816 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10345577	I've moved around a lot so Facebook is a godsend. There are a lot of people I would have lost/thought I'd lost if not for FB. It amazes me that every day I know what friends of mine, who I havent physically seen for 6 years, are doing in their day. Plus it gives my mother a chance to keep her eye on me __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

09-03-2012, 05:19 PM	#9
alexri Member How Do You Identify?: - Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: - Posts: 549 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,209 Thanked 2,799 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	FB I am on it. It's helped me connect with a lot of old friends and members of various clubs I belong to. People use it to share news, photos, discount codes, set up meetings/events, etc. It's also helped me connect to a larger nationwide/worldwide group of people just like me. Sadly, I have two accounts. One for the "biologically female" me for family, coworkers, etc. and one for the "real" me. I have lot of friends in this dual position, where they are not out to family/friends/work about being trans, so their trans person has a separate account to connect with groups and organizations. I know some people get annoyed by game requests; I just block them.

09-03-2012, 05:26 PM	#10
chefhmboyrd Senior Member How Do You Identify?: man Preferred Pronoun?: beef Relationship Status: Uncle Daddy Snap Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: nashvegas Posts: 1,606 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,411 Thanked 2,845 Times in 898 Posts Rep Power: 14057154	i love FB because i can keep in touch with family and friends all over the country. i have my account set on friends only, so i don't have any issues. i think it is amazing to reach out to old friends and high school buddies i haven't seen in a long time. @ __________________ what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here?

09-03-2012, 05:26 PM	#11
lusciouskiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme lesbian feminist Preferred Pronoun?: Anything except for "aunty" Relationship Status: Happy with my butch. Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Aotearoa New Zealand Posts: 2,681 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25,494 Thanked 9,096 Times in 1,899 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I like facebook - being so far away from home it's invaluable in easily keeping in touch with folks. But I also have friends in the US and as well as back in South Korea and some other countries. And, I find it's great for keeping up to date about events. But, I have a heap of people on my fb (including my sisters) that never bother to keep in touch, so sometimes I feel really frustrated with it. Just had a phone call from my mum. She's all excited because she's got her computer up and running again and got it hooked up and is talking about facebook! __________________ happiness is a form of courage. George Holbrook Jackson Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth. Katherine Mansfield Motivate yourself or be miserable. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice. Wayne Dyer

09-03-2012, 05:51 PM	#13
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,239 Times in 849 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	it's the devil! lol i am not a facebook fan. i don't want to communicate with friends that live 5 minutes down the road. seems unnessary. i should go see them, call them. and too, i don't want to communicate with some of those folks/family. i'm a very private person. they don't need to know my where abouts lol. as far as high school friends, i wasn't that close to them then, ... now doesn't seem needed. family and friends far away, yeah ... ok, facebook is good for that. but i have a phone. from what i've gathered, it can be a major gossip network. it's great for drama and pity parties. young people love to take their pictures in the bathroom, ... pucker their lips, ... stick their tongues out. people feel guilty for not "liking" a jesus post, so of course they do "like" it. just goes on and on LOL. i get asked ever so often if i have facebook or why i don't have facebook, ... i say, it's the devil! lol

09-03-2012, 06:54 PM	#16
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,367 Times in 4,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I was just at Home Depot, and the checkout guy reconnected on Facebook with a friend from grade school, married her, and moved out here (Norcal) from Ohio. I have heard several stories like that. Lots of happiness has resulted from FB, I have to say. If my good friends used it, I would too. But since they don't, . . . seems like no point. I waste enough time.

09-03-2012, 06:55 PM	#17
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I love facebook for keeping up with my chosen family. I don't have any of my real family on my fb page because they don't approve of my lifestyle. I think it's a great way to keep up since all of my friends are all over the country. When life changes and you want to re-arrange the people in your theater of life, if you delete someone from your facebook, it causes drama and feelings get hurt; even if you never EVER interact with this person. That is the one thing I don't like about it. I could care less if someone takes me off their page. They had their reasons. I don't get mad and I don't stir up a bunch drama. Most people DO. I am so very choosey who I add to my page now. I only want people there that I care to know about what is going on in their life. I prefer to only add people I have actually MET in person. __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

09-03-2012, 06:57 PM	#18
bright_arrow ☆ the stars are aligned ☆ How Do You Identify?: strong, independent, badass redhead Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl, buttercup, sugah Relationship Status: married to my Boo Daddy <3 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: east bay, cali Posts: 2,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,643 Thanked 9,359 Times in 2,295 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	As an army brat and such, I have moved often, and FB allows me to keep in touch with practically everyone. I also come from a big family, some I have never met, but we have friended on FB and thus become a part of each other's lives. My mother also uses it to keep an eye on me I enjoy posting pictures from my phone, and gets lots of feedback when I need it. Even my grandfather is on FB - and actively uses it!

09-03-2012, 07:11 PM	#19
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,385 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I like facebook and most other forms of social media. As most folks close to me know, I am not a social creature. Heck, I have pretty much fallen off the edge of the world recently, with minimal to zero interactions at all. I do not enjoy the "regular" socialization (night with the girls, dinner get-togethers, group outings, etc) that a lot of folks enjoy. It's just not in my nature to do more than a few social things per year. However, I do enjoy lots of folks (their humor, personality, thought processes, etc), so social media gives me the opportunity to observe and connect, despite my odd and sometimes quirky social phobias/awkwardness/loner personality.