12-18-2020, 03:33 PM | #14681 |
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there will always be B&F in our community ~ everyone has gone on facebook or sites for younger aged people . When it comes to peoples sexual identity ~ I don't wanna know lolol I know who I am and what I like ~ that's all I need to know. ~~ ** wink **
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12-18-2020, 03:45 PM | #14682 |
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Re:Cin's post
And THAT is the kind of post we used to have here before we drifted off almost entirely into recipes for cabbage rolls and corn bread. I'm not smart enough or well versed enough to write that kind of post but I sure as hell loved reading it and learned a whole lot about one person's identity journey. Breadcrumbs for my own walk in the woods. For some, that is reason enough to treasure this site and keep returning.
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12-18-2020, 05:04 PM | #14683 | |
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I have always thought that butches were a third gender. To consider that our entire human race is only two genders, as complex and unique as we are, seems somewhat arrogant and yet simplistic. I do believe we are entering a new generation of discovery where not only will multiple genders be realized but that they may be fluid as well. It is indeed a very exciting time to be young and coming into your own. Biases and pegged genders as well as the gay or straight sexuality trap, are becoming archaic ways of thinking.
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12-22-2020, 12:52 PM | #14684 |
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Here's what's on my mind today. Way back in the day when I was considering transgender as an identity I really felt like it fit somewhere, somehow for me. When I would look in a mirror there was always a moment of shock while I realized my idea of who I was did not match with the reality. I was always unpleasantly surprised by my breasts. You'd think I would have retained the knowledge of their existence, but I was able to put them out of my mind. Until I saw them. They were so disconcerting. I'd be like what are these things doing there.
Over time I decided I was not interested in transitioning but I spent a bit of time considering it and what I understood for myself was my attraction to femmes were/are a part of a transgender/transgressive sexual orientation. I am not transgender in the way that I feel my sex is male but I feel butch as a sort of transgender identity much more than I feel it to be a transgressive identity. I understand femme as a more transgressive one. Both are subversive in my mind. So I understand butch and femme attraction as a transgender/transgressive attraction. A yin/yang attraction to a degree. Which I think can be duplicated in other non binary identities and sexual attractions and orientations. Maybe
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12-22-2020, 04:54 PM | #14685 |
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RIP KT Oslin
Just read that KT Oslin passed away. She was 78! I saw her in HotLanta years ago...when she first began her career. She wore a silk brocade gold jacket, sleeves rolled up and long, black gloves, up to her elbow. When asked about them, she told the crowd, an older lady friend of mine gave me these, said it will be your trademark. I LOVED 80's Ladies of hers!! I have all of music on CD's a friend recorded for me.
RIP KT...the lovely gloved one!!
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12-24-2020, 07:34 PM | #14686 |
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On my mind is how awesome it is that President-Elect Joe Biden is appointing exceptionally competent people from the LGBTQ community to posts in the Biden-Harris administration.
You can read about the latest news, over @ The Advocate.
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12-25-2020, 07:03 AM | #14687 |
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My family. I seldom get homesick, but I’m really missing them this holiday season.
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12-25-2020, 03:21 PM | #14688 |
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I had a nice chat with my dad today. It's been good to reconnect.
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12-25-2020, 07:05 PM | #14689 |
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I am so sorry to hear of K.T.s passing. I met that lovely woman five times and each time I gave her a boomerang (I'll always come back as in her song). Each time I wrote when and where on it and she said she hung them in her hallway in her home. I saw her three times in concert, twice in Canada and have lots of her posters and autographs. She was such a nice person and I know her health was failing but did not know she had passes. RIP K.T. you are among the stars and have found your place, sing to the angels.
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01-14-2021, 06:23 AM | #14690 |
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Sight unseen
Am probably going to purchase my next home sight unseen.
Found a condo I like, my offer has been accepted, but there’s no way I will make it there in time for the home inspection early next week. I have a relative who can view it, but that’s not the same. I trust my realtor, but not to the extent of choosing my home. With the inauguration next week, it would be my luck to fly there this weekend and run into some MAGA fucktards in the airport or on the plane. This is what I’m most concerned about because the inauguration is next Wednesday. Thought of flying first class (smaller cabin, less people, less chance for COVID?) but I could end up dealing with MAGA haters because they fly first class, too. There will probably be more undercover Marshals on the plane than usual, but I DON’T TRUST ANYONE TO PROTECT ME if I’m caught up in some MAGA shit on a plane or in an airport. I might travel there the following week (after the inauguration), but by then I would have approved the deal. Still, I’d get a chance to see the condo and could still pull out of the deal, but would lose my deposit. Maybe that’s the price I’ll have to pay to buy a condo during a pandemic and political upheaval. I’m researching “buying a home sight unseen,” am speaking with people, using technology (Google Maps street views), and am writing a list of questions and concerns for the home inspector and realtor. I’ve been lucky with finding places to live. Have loved most homes I’ve lived in. Here’s hoping the condo Gods aren’t laughing at me. |
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01-14-2021, 03:48 PM | #14691 |
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I'm wondering when or if Walmart grocery items coming through the mail will arrive. My most recent food delivery order placed with them was hell. I've had so many issues ordering food online from our local store I'm not going to anymore, or recommend anyone else take that risk either, it's just not worth it. However, I've always had good luck buying both food and grocery items through Walmart and having them shipped direct to my home from the manufacturer, wholesaler, non-Walmart retailer and so on. So here's to hoping.
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01-14-2021, 10:09 PM | #14692 |
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I'm thinking how much trouble it is breaking in a new phone and getting it set up the way I want. I was not even able to answer calls on my new phone, until I chatted with tech support and was told what to change in my settings. Who would think that being able to turn off answering your phone would even be a valid choice? It's a phone, for Pete's sake.
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01-15-2021, 04:08 AM | #14693 |
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Lol..I have one on Tues following a liquid diet..😮😨😟
Then the following week another boob smash!!!🤨
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Food
Getting my appetite under control. Have been eating like a mad woman lately. Have been eating the right (for me) foods, haven’t gained weight, but haven’t loss any either.
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01-17-2021, 01:26 PM | #14696 |
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School it starts in february so i'm so happy to be back in noiselandia 😅 and how i'll like to transform the person who hurts mom and my aunt in little pea with a baseball batte that rat should have a taste of her own medicine! 😑
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01-23-2021, 10:56 AM | #14697 |
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I'm going to convert my tub to a shower. Have done this before with really good results.
The top two showers use lighter tiles than what I want, but I like the low-key patterns of the tile and the overall design. I like the one below a lot but would use different hardware. Will probably go with these colors. Not sure any of these will fit into my budget. Will find out once I get some quotes. Will do the shower conversion after I move in, but will get new flooring and a paint job before I move in. It's not a done deal yet, but we're getting there. Expecting to close the second and third week of February. And I expect to be in the mitten by March 1. Lucky me. |
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I really like the contrasting tile in the recessed shelf area in the top photo. The contrasting floor might be a bit much for me, though - I think I like the 3rd one better for the floor. Excellent to have a grown-up shower! I know that's what people want now. Personally, I don't think I could live without a soaking tub, though.
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I’m drawn to the earth tones, but want something different than what I’m normally drawn toward. Though I may need to get a prefab. As long as it’s a walk in shower with seating it will work. |
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Therapy
It's time to get back into therapy.
Have been holding onto some bad and negative feelings. One area I've been holding onto since childhood—months or years can go by without it crossing my mind and then something reminds me of it and BAM, there it is, like a concrete block obscuring or distorting everything. I have another area of bad and negative feelings that came about in the last 7 or so years. It's more controllable, but it's something I need to address. Luckily, neither of these problems involve sexual abuse. I had much success with a therapist a few years ago who helped me after my car accident and with a sexual abuse issue I had. But I had to stop seeing her after she downplayed my fear of Trump. I didn't even want to discuss it with her. I just wanted to do my hypnotherapy for driving, but she pushed it wanting to know how I felt. I told her and she poo-pooed and downplayed the importance of my fear. She just didn't get it. I had hoped that she could help me in other areas but we never got that far. Anyway, I do well with cognitive therapy when focusing on specific areas and problems. I'll get back into therapy once I'm in the midwest. |
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