What "title" do you use for your SO? what do they use for you?

stephfromMIT · 08-15-2012, 02:41 PM

Amanda and I call each other fiancee. Once we marry, we'll both be "wife".

The_Lady_Snow · 08-15-2012, 03:04 PM

If people insisted on knowing our titles, they would be Master and slave.

starryeyes · 08-15-2012, 03:19 PM

Daddy first and babe in public. Ummm... Yeah. That's it. I call her other things too but she would KILL me if I posted them here. Lol.

She calls me baby girl, hunnie and beautiful or something to that effect.

:-)

joyful albatross · 08-15-2012, 03:24 PM

i call c. husband. or sometimes husbandy. or sometimes partner. c. calls me wife, wifey, or baby girl. r. and i use partner or boyfriend/girlfriend.

LaneyDoll · 08-15-2012, 07:31 PM

Owner and pup for us.

In vanilla world, it is boyfriend/girlfriend. But, I also call him "baby" and "sweetheart."

When he is really good or I want to make him sink a little, I call him "Spartan." (He is very protective of me).

thedivahrrrself · 08-15-2012, 07:43 PM

I think "lover" describes us best.

And of course, I have all kinds of pet names I use that I won't be sharing here...

Bard · 08-15-2012, 08:00 PM

Desd is my wife my partner and my better half

princessbelle · 08-15-2012, 08:03 PM

Upon introduction, we use Partner.

In private,
Sir
Daddy

Loads of pet names...well this is the South, we do that a lot.

Depending on our moods and the ebb and flow.

ruffryder · 08-15-2012, 08:07 PM

she calls me papi, daddy, babe, amor. I call her babe, babygirl, beautiful every day!, amor. In public she is my girl, g/f, or partner.

nycfembbw · 08-15-2012, 08:32 PM

Note: I went a bit overboard with this post because I just couldn't stop myself.

BB calls me Jenny, Jennifer, and Jen. Fascinating, I know.

I call BB Cindy, Boston, Daddy, Boston Butch, and sometimes whatever name I feel like. My mom calls BB Cindola (Yiddish- we're both from Jewish families).

I refer to BB as my husbutch, my partner, my wife, my boifriend, or my girlfriend. BB refers to herself as my "opening act" because hy tends to arrive at events earlier than me.

For pronouns all feminine pronouns are for me, and BB goes by and I use for her either masculine or feminine pronouns. If I were living in a zanier world I'd love to use and have everyone use the "ze" pronoun for all of us.

I identify as lesbian or a bi dyke (this for me, means I have made the life choice from a young age to have relationships that are not with bio men). BB is not at all bi, IDs as lesbian, and also has secondary trans butch leanings as well. We both ID as feminists, and I ID as a bottom/sub/baby girl, and BB IDs as a top/dominant/Daddy. I ID as a masochist and BB is neither a masochist or a sadist. I have a poly nature, though I only flirt because this is our agreement, and we have a monogamous relationship. All of our varied sexual and gender identities somehow work for us because we've been happily in love for over seven years, and it just keeps getting better!

spritzerJ · 08-16-2012, 06:40 AM

I find what we call our SO's very interesting. I just adore Jennifer's post above. It reminds me of how delightfully layered our relationships can be.

In public or at work I use partner. Mostly because boifriend would not make sense to co workers and girlfriend isn't how Stoney would want to be called.

The General calls Stoney DJ and I call hym DJ most of the time with others.

When I am just talking to hym, or a few friends that get it, I use Jack. I use various terms of endearment (honey, sweetheart, sweetie). Daddi as often as possible.

We are approaching the phase in our relationship that involves scratching out words on forms and rewriting. I'll probably put partner or SO. We'll see how that goes.

Corkey · 08-16-2012, 01:04 PM

I have several Titles from her, but they are private. I call her by her name most often. On here she is Ami.

jac · 08-16-2012, 01:35 PM

I love when she calls me Jack, Honey, Syr, and Daddi... She is my Sweatheart, Beautiful, Doll and Babygirl.

When speaking of Spritz to others I refer to her as my girlfriend or Jenn.
I feel we are approaching the next level of our relationship and even though we have no intention of having a legalized marriage, wife and wifey are right there on the tip of my tongue when I speak of her.

And we have a couple others but nothing we need to put out there.... those are for "ear whispers"!!

RNguy · 08-16-2012, 03:12 PM

99.87340837 % of the time she calls me daddy
The other .0135234782 % she will say Blake and I know she is a littttttlllleee upset when I get called Blake .
I call her all kinds of goofy names that make no Sence to make her laugh and say stop making up words

DamonK · 08-16-2012, 03:23 PM

She is girl, girlfriend, partner.

He is boyfriend.

girl_dee · 08-16-2012, 10:06 PM

Leather titles are Master and slave

Everywhere else she is Syr and Daddi, and a few others that i won't be posting !

i am girl, the girl (my personal favorite), dee, little girl, babygirl, and a few others that i certainly won't be posting!

08-15-2012, 02:41 PM	#1
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08-15-2012, 03:04 PM	#2
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08-15-2012, 03:19 PM	#3
starryeyes ~ Lisa² ~ How Do You Identify?: A round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, Miss Starry if you're nasty. Relationship Status: Justin loves me, yes I know for she always tells me so! Join Date: May 2011 Location: North San Diego, with Justin and our 4 fur babes! Posts: 1,805 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,865 Thanked 6,993 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474840	Daddy first and babe in public. Ummm... Yeah. That's it. I call her other things too but she would KILL me if I posted them here. Lol. She calls me baby girl, hunnie and beautiful or something to that effect. :-) __________________ *"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"* ~Dr. Seuss There is a voice inside of you that whispers all day long, "I feel this is right for me, I know that this is wrong." No teacher, preacher, parent, friend or wise man can decide what's right for you--just listen to the voice that speaks inside.” ~Shel Silverstein To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Starry To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

08-15-2012, 03:24 PM	#4
joyful albatross tiny dancer How Do You Identify?: femme shark Preferred Pronoun?: she/her/hers Relationship Status: loved. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: kansas a.k.a. the promised land Posts: 1,383 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,767 Thanked 5,923 Times in 1,192 Posts Rep Power: 21474839	i call c. husband. or sometimes husbandy. or sometimes partner. c. calls me wife, wifey, or baby girl. r. and i use partner or boyfriend/girlfriend. __________________ oh, mitakuye oyasin / this is the place for all my relations / to bring celebration and meditation / giving thanks for all of creation / we are so provided for / we are so provided for. - nahko

08-15-2012, 07:31 PM	#5
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Fatale Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Committed. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,036 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,543 Thanked 7,145 Times in 1,505 Posts Rep Power: 21474841	Owner and pup for us. In vanilla world, it is boyfriend/girlfriend. But, I also call him "baby" and "sweetheart." When he is really good or I want to make him sink a little, I call him "Spartan." (He is very protective of me). __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.

08-15-2012, 07:43 PM	#6
thedivahrrrself Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Sapiosexual Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Queen of Awesomeness Tournaments Won: 4 Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Posts: 2,389 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,720 Thanked 10,119 Times in 2,054 Posts Rep Power: 21474840	I think "lover" describes us best. And of course, I have all kinds of pet names I use that I won't be sharing here... __________________ Small business owners around the world use microfinance to help expand their businesses and provide for their families. You can help! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

08-15-2012, 08:00 PM	#7
Bard One Very Married Cowboi How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: A study in contrasts it does not define me Relationship Status: Married to the beautiful Desd 5-26-12 I liked it so I put a ring on it smartest thing I ever did Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upsate NY Loving life with my beautiful Wife Posts: 1,900 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,001 Thanked 8,079 Times in 1,593 Posts Rep Power: 21474841	Desd is my wife my partner and my better half __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain And a hundred percent reason to remember the name!

08-15-2012, 08:03 PM	#8
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Knoxville, Tn Posts: 5,820 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 27,565 Thanked 28,163 Times in 4,920 Posts Rep Power: 21474845	Upon introduction, we use Partner. In private, Sir Daddy Loads of pet names...well this is the South, we do that a lot. Depending on our moods and the ebb and flow.

08-15-2012, 08:07 PM	#9
ruffryder Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: guy ones Relationship Status: ♥ Zimmeh Join Date: May 2011 Location: chillin' in FL Posts: 3,520 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,440 Thanked 9,122 Times in 2,713 Posts Rep Power: 21474842	she calls me papi, daddy, babe, amor. I call her babe, babygirl, beautiful every day!, amor. In public she is my girl, g/f, or partner.

08-15-2012, 08:32 PM	#10
nycfembbw Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 3,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,451 Thanked 9,014 Times in 2,348 Posts Rep Power: 21474843	nycfembbw and BBinNYC Note: I went a bit overboard with this post because I just couldn't stop myself. BB calls me Jenny, Jennifer, and Jen. Fascinating, I know. I call BB Cindy, Boston, Daddy, Boston Butch, and sometimes whatever name I feel like. My mom calls BB Cindola (Yiddish- we're both from Jewish families). I refer to BB as my husbutch, my partner, my wife, my boifriend, or my girlfriend. BB refers to herself as my "opening act" because hy tends to arrive at events earlier than me. For pronouns all feminine pronouns are for me, and BB goes by and I use for her either masculine or feminine pronouns. If I were living in a zanier world I'd love to use and have everyone use the "ze" pronoun for all of us. I identify as lesbian or a bi dyke (this for me, means I have made the life choice from a young age to have relationships that are not with bio men). BB is not at all bi, IDs as lesbian, and also has secondary trans butch leanings as well. We both ID as feminists, and I ID as a bottom/sub/baby girl, and BB IDs as a top/dominant/Daddy. I ID as a masochist and BB is neither a masochist or a sadist. I have a poly nature, though I only flirt because this is our agreement, and we have a monogamous relationship. All of our varied sexual and gender identities somehow work for us because we've been happily in love for over seven years, and it just keeps getting better! Last edited by nycfembbw; 08-15-2012 at 08:39 PM.

08-16-2012, 06:40 AM	#11
spritzerJ Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Dyke Preferred Pronoun?: she, knower of all... brainy descriptors get my attention. Relationship Status: engaged to jac Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: NH for a few more days then Up North to Maine. Posts: 2,926 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 27,146 Thanked 14,013 Times in 2,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474841	I find what we call our SO's very interesting. I just adore Jennifer's post above. It reminds me of how delightfully layered our relationships can be. In public or at work I use partner. Mostly because boifriend would not make sense to co workers and girlfriend isn't how Stoney would want to be called. The General calls Stoney DJ and I call hym DJ most of the time with others. When I am just talking to hym, or a few friends that get it, I use Jack. I use various terms of endearment (honey, sweetheart, sweetie). Daddi as often as possible. We are approaching the phase in our relationship that involves scratching out words on forms and rewriting. I'll probably put partner or SO. We'll see how that goes. __________________ ----------------------- spritzerJ

08-16-2012, 01:04 PM	#12
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 7,145 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 40,856 Thanked 23,982 Times in 5,675 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	I have several Titles from her, but they are private. I call her by her name most often. On here she is Ami. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

08-16-2012, 01:35 PM	#13
jac Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch stone Preferred Pronoun?: masculine ones work best... Relationship Status: ♥ engaged to spritz ♥ Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: bangor, maine Posts: 3,137 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,282 Thanked 14,607 Times in 2,761 Posts Rep Power: 21474841	I love when she calls me Jack, Honey, Syr, and Daddi... She is my Sweatheart, Beautiful, Doll and Babygirl. When speaking of Spritz to others I refer to her as my girlfriend or Jenn. I feel we are approaching the next level of our relationship and even though we have no intention of having a legalized marriage, wife and wifey are right there on the tip of my tongue when I speak of her. And we have a couple others but nothing we need to put out there.... those are for "ear whispers"!! __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. "I create what I experience. I can change it. It's my illusion..."

08-16-2012, 03:12 PM	#14
RNguy Member How Do You Identify?: paw prints Preferred Pronoun?: He preferredably :) Relationship Status: Im married to this hot girl named desirae Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: we live in a house on a hill in a town in a state Posts: 826 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,530 Thanked 1,725 Times in 406 Posts Rep Power: 21474840	haha 99.87340837 % of the time she calls me daddy The other .0135234782 % she will say Blake and I know she is a littttttlllleee upset when I get called Blake . I call her all kinds of goofy names that make no Sence to make her laugh and say stop making up words

08-16-2012, 03:23 PM	#15
DamonK Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: May 2010 Location: . Posts: 2,197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,527 Thanked 7,743 Times in 1,879 Posts Rep Power: 21474842	She is girl, girlfriend, partner. He is boyfriend. __________________ "You cross my mind. A lot. More times than I care to admit; you seem to have taken up permanent residence, making your home in the deepest corners of my mind. And sometimes I get caught up in my head, I'll lose myself in the colour of your eyes -- even in my head I'm helpless -- and I have to remind myself to breathe." -- Julia Pollacco, 'Inhale, Exhale'

08-16-2012, 10:06 PM	#16
girl_dee Syr's Cajun Monstah How Do You Identify?: girl Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Daddi's lagniappe Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Born on the Bayou Posts: 13,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,493 Thanked 29,586 Times in 7,376 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Leather titles are Master and slave Everywhere else she is Syr and Daddi, and a few others that i won't be posting ! i am girl, the girl (my personal favorite), dee, little girl, babygirl, and a few others that i certainly won't be posting!

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