Who's my Daddy?

[SoberBoi]

I am a sissy boi (not femme) who is attracted to non-sissy boi's and gentlemen butches... no bdsm, no "who's going to be the girl" stuff...

Tell me stories of boi's who found their Daddy's...

I feel like Pinnocchio ... I wanna be a real boi someday ....LMAO
Thanks!

[Chancie]

Soberboi, I truly hope you find your Daddy, but

'Who's going to be the girl?'

What does that mean?

[SoberBoi]

Chancie,

I was talking to someone from BFP and she said to just ask people about their experience finding a Daddy. I want to understand the Daddy/Boi dynamic better.

As for the "who's going to be the girl" comment, what I meant was that I personally would want to be with a stronger butch than myself, but not wanting someone who would try to treat me like a femme to complete a butch/femme dynamic.

I want to be with someone who understands that, while I may not be a tough butch, that I am still male identified. I like to say that I am like Will from Will and Grace...not a femme like Jack, but not a very butch guy. Will was always trying to date more masculine guys, but he was lousy at team sports and other masculine myths.

Thanks for responding. I really want to hear other people's experiences of being in a Daddy/Boi dynamic.

Thanks,
SB

[The_Lady_Snow]

First of all Jack from Will & Grace is not a femme so please don't use that comparison again.

Let me see if I can help:

You're a boy looking for a butch Top of the masculine nature?

Did I hit the nail on the head?

I'm gonna let you in on a secret girl doesn't equate sissy, or does it NOT equate laying on your back collecting pony stickers etc etc.

The verbiage you used can be read as insulting towards women, femme's and girls.

Also just in case Daddy = Femme .

I'm Snow I'm a Femme Daddy nice to meet cha and good luck on you Daddy search.

[atomiczombie]

Originally Posted by SoberBoi

Chancie,

I was talking to someone from BFP and she said to just ask people about their experience finding a Daddy. I want to understand the Daddy/Boi dynamic better.

As for the "who's going to be the girl" comment, what I meant was that I personally would want to be with a stronger butch than myself, but not wanting someone who would try to treat me like a femme to complete a butch/femme dynamic.

I want to be with someone who understands that, while I may not be a tough butch, that I am still male identified. I like to say that I am like Will from Will and Grace...not a femme like Jack, but not a very butch guy. Will was always trying to date more masculine guys, but he was lousy at team sports and other masculine myths.

Thanks for responding. I really want to hear other people's experiences of being in a Daddy/Boi dynamic.

Thanks,
SB

What does being male identified necessarily have to do with being butch? There are lots if not most butches who ID as women.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by atomiczombie

What does being male identified necessarily have to do with being butch? There are lots if not most butches who ID as women.

I think Sober boi is having a difficulty with verbiage and is not meaning any ill intent.

At least I am giving them that benefit of the doubt and trying understand what they seek which is:

boy seeks Butch Top male identified is Sober's preference. Daddy/boi/boy relationships are rare and Sober is reaching out to see what he could find here.

I could be wrong...

[EnderD_503]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I think Sober boi is having a difficulty with verbiage and is not meaning any ill intent.

At least I am giving them that benefit of the doubt and trying understand what they seek which is:

boy seeks Butch Top male identified is Sober's preference. Daddy/boi/boy relationships are rare and Sober is reaching out to see what he could find here.

I could be wrong...

This is what I got out of it as well. I think it's mostly a vocab issue. What I'm getting is that they are a boi and bottom and looking for a butch top, but don't want to be seen as less masculine becuse of it, or that they've been called a femme because of certain misconceptions in the past and want to clarify that they don't ID that way? At least that's how I interpreted it.

Soberboi, btw, do you prefer female pronouns or male pronouns? Your preferred pronoun says "she," but you later say you're male id'd. If you id as male but still want the "she" pronoun that's cool, I just want to make sure I'm not misreading anything, so stuck with "they" for now. Hope you don't mind.

[SoberBoi]

Wow! This is cool.... I am getting lessons already! I like that "Femme Daddy" phrasing that was awesome.

I did not mean to isolate anyone with my lack of proper verbiage. Everytime I am being topped by a butch-er female-identified partner, they like to call me a Sissy. But, I do top well. I am a good boy (boi).

As for the "who's going to be the female", I want to totally retract that because I did not mean it how it came out. I didn't want a butch who was used to dating stone femmes to assume that, just because I wasn't the Daddy, to assume I was going to cross-dress (put on feminine clothing) to role-play or stay on the bottom.

Finally, I am male-identified in that I do not consider myself a woman nor a man, but I do consider myself a boy in thought and feeling. I say boi instead of boy because I do not want to transition now. When I was a teenager, I thought it would be cool to trans. People call me she or Sir, but I still think boy.

I now prefer having female parts, especially when I am on the bottom.
I don't want to turn this into a "what do I do in bed" discussion because I believe that is rude in front of the ladies, but I am not shy in private conversation.

I just want to understand. Okay, so I get the Daddy/Boi thing is rare and strange... maybe I am still getting that wrong... I have had butch lovers who occasionally like to wear eyeliner, but I draw the line at fingernails (ouch!). There are female-identified butches/strong females that are more butch than I am at times. I like that too. If they are in public, I open doors and other gentlemanly gestures. If they open doors for me, they are definitely male-appearing. I open doors for female-appearing partners and am protective. Either way, I tend to be submissive to a more dominant partner.

Is my foot still in my mouth? (my fetish isnt feet... I do love muscles, tattoos, nice chests, and I love uniforms or button-downs). My mother is Irish and would totally freak if she knew I was having this discussion.

Keep teaching me. This is fun

[Corkey]

Well at least your open to learning, that's a good start. Welcome to the site, there's a thread for butch/butch you may want to check out.
I'll see if I can find the link for you.

[Corkey]

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...read.php?t=438

Here ya' go.

[SoberBoi]

Thank you, Corkey

[Corkey]

Originally Posted by SoberBoi

Thank you, Corkey

You are very welcome.

[LaneyDoll]

Originally Posted by SoberBoi

I am a sissy boi (not femme) who is attracted to non-sissy boi's and gentlemen butches... no bdsm, no "who's going to be the girl" stuff...

Tell me stories of boi's who found their Daddy's...

I feel like Pinnocchio ... I wanna be a real boi someday ....LMAO
Thanks!

I have a dear friend who found their Daddy. However, they (the couple) are in the BDSM lifestyle so their story may not interest you since you stated "no BDSM." But I did want to let you know that the relationship they share is one of the strongest that I have seen-in any world. Best of luck to you!