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Old 09-23-2018, 04:19 PM   #1
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Iím sorry if thereís already a thread like this out there, but Iím curious; as a butch or gnc or MoC person, how do you navigate the whole bathroom situation? Do you use the womenís and say f*ck the stares; or do you opt for the menís and avoid stares and weird looks?

Really curious as to how other butch or MoC people do the whole public washroom thing.

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Excellent question.

For me it depends on if I am binding or not.

Binding, mens

Non binding, womens, in the womens I get stares still but I tell them, look I have to go just like you.
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Excellent question.

For me it depends on if I am binding or not.

Binding, mens

Non binding, womens, in the womens I get stares still but I tell them, look I have to go just like you.
Interesting. It just feels like, for me, that whether I'm binding or not, I always get weird looks when I use the women's. Though, I'm still too scared to use an active men's washroom. I'll typically try to find a quieter washroom or a single-stall (unisex) washroom.

There's one gas station that I'll always go to when I'm in the city that I know has single-stall, unisex washrooms. Though, I am finding more unisex washrooms in the city.
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Interesting. It just feels like, for me, that whether I'm binding or not, I always get weird looks when I use the women's. Though, I'm still too scared to use an active men's washroom. I'll typically try to find a quieter washroom or a single-stall (unisex) washroom.

There's one gas station that I'll always go to when I'm in the city that I know has single-stall, unisex washrooms. Though, I am finding more unisex washrooms in the city.
If there aren't enough stalls or its uber busy I find the family bathrooms, they are way bigger and only one stall.
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The bathroom issue wasn't as bad for me until I moved South. I have never been told so many times I was in the wrong bathroom. I even flashed a crabby old bitchy lady who was hassling me when I really had to pee. Like that was my bathroom pass. I don't know what their problems are anyway. It's not like I'm trying to sneak some perverted nasty bathroom peek at women. Seriously!

Anyone else ever have to prove they had a right to be in a public restroom?
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I've never not used the ladies room and I don't recall ever getting dirty looks. Of course, now that I've put that out in to the universe, let's see what happens next time.

I've no idea as to why that has been the case. Maybe cuz I'm tallish... more "imposing?" <~~ that's been said. I've a "softer" ... kinda femme... sort of face? <~~ so I've been told. Or, cuz I don't really acknowledge anyone in a public restroom? I'm in then I'm out. Kinda like clothes shopping. lol

This is a most intriguing thread. I mean, no one who looks at me could think anything else but DYKE! So, I'm really curious at to why I've not been hassled. Of course, it could be that I have gotten the nasty glance and just didn't realize. Shrug. Dunno.
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Seek out the unisex washroom as much as possible. Even have a mental list of safe places to go, and go out of my way or hold it to use one.

Didn't have as many problems until buzzing my head. Have a large chest and don't bind (asthma), but in a down or leather jacket...

To be brutally honest, I have peed in a cup in the truck and gone behind buildings or between cars at night sometimes to avoid scary situations.
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