Instant Turn-Offs - Page 11

Tuff Stuff · 07-01-2018, 03:13 PM

A mother cat who eats the head off her new born kitten.

Ya know if a human mother did the same..that would definitely be an instant turn off for me.

I think people are human beings with many faults and they don't always get it "right".
I can't tell others they better be perfect, because I know for a fact that I'm not.

Just don't eat your kids head off, cause that's like,not cool..and I wouldn't want to be around you after that.

clay · 07-01-2018, 03:21 PM

Really self centered people

Mean people who hurt others unjustly!

Arrogance...I say I am cocky confident, but am NOT cocky arrogant...BIG diff!

Alcohol excess

Cruelty to others & animals

Not being true to your core values

Conceit

Reach *BANNED* · 07-08-2018, 04:23 PM

When out on the date- and my date's phone rings- in the middle of the meal- and she answers- only to tell me that it is her ex asking advice about something.

Seriously?

Oh, and she continues to eat while talking to said ex.

Did I mention that was the ONLY date?

homoe · 01-30-2019, 10:00 PM

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Negative & jaded, especially when it comes to matters of the heart, folks.............

homoe · 01-31-2019, 12:40 PM

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A killjoy...............

FireSignFemme · 01-31-2019, 02:45 PM

Whiners. Whining, pleading learn the difference. One gets you not invited to parties and the other, with any luck, gets you laid.

WheatToast · 01-31-2019, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by FireSignFemme

Whiners. Whining, pleading learn the difference. One gets you not invited to parties and the other, with any luck, gets you laid.

Now, that was funny!

I'll choose:

Dishonesty
Blame Game & never wrong
Cheapskate/selfish/stingy
Bad hygiene
Hates sex & affection
Too moody

easygoingfemme · 01-31-2019, 05:38 PM

Lazy. Don't be lazy- like as your default setting. Lazy days should be treats.

cathexis · 02-01-2019, 03:36 AM

LYING
" " deserves 2 lines
poor hygiene
low intelligence
Gain detergent, dryer sheets or anything else reeking of Gain
Misogyny
Any and all bigotry
Intolerance

homoe · 02-01-2019, 07:48 AM

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A Debbie Downer.............

PlatinumPearl · 02-01-2019, 08:29 AM

Bossy people.

Especially Domme's that are power tripping thinking they can boss anyone and everyone around.

There's a difference between asking someone to do something and telling someone to do something. Learn the difference!!

Orema · 02-01-2019, 08:33 AM

Testers ... people who like to test you to see what you'll do. Often the test is doled out in passive-aggressive actions.

CherylNYC · 02-01-2019, 08:33 AM

Inability to apologize when wrong. I'm turned off by that now more than ever.

WheatToast · 02-01-2019, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

Someone who is rude and condescending to waitstaff or anyone in the service industry!

That is a major turnoff! Also, people who work waitstaff to death.
Ex: I once had lunch with a potential new g/f and she asked about salad dressings.
The waitress named off the usual- ranch, bleu cheese, thousand island, vinegrette and the house dressing. I can see asking to sample the house dressing, but this woman asked the waitress to bring her samples of ALL of them--during the lunch rush.
Then she chose ranch. On a small side salad.
She also asked questions about the rolls, the ingredients of several entrees and the entire dessert list.

Being overly late. After 15 minutes is bad. At 30 minutes, I cancel.

Another turn off is bad grammar. Supposibly and irregardless are the worst.

Borrowing without returning, returning things in wrecked condition--basically everything my pushy new next door neighbor says or does.

One quirky turn off I have is people making "air quotes" with the fingers.

Sharing details of our sex life in a group of people, in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, nose-picking, intentional belching and farting, or doing the usual bathroom things with the door open. I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

Finally, the silent treatment or ghosting without any explanations.

Martina · 02-02-2019, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by WheatToast

I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags.

homoe · 02-02-2019, 10:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WheatToast

That is a major turnoff! Also, people who work waitstaff to death.
Ex: I once had lunch with a potential new g/f and she asked about salad dressings.
The waitress named off the usual- ranch, bleu cheese, thousand island, vinegrette and the house dressing. I can see asking to sample the house dressing, but this woman asked the waitress to bring her samples of ALL of them--during the lunch rush.
Then she chose ranch. On a small side salad.
She also asked questions about the rolls, the ingredients of several entrees and the entire dessert list.

Being overly late. After 15 minutes is bad. At 30 minutes, I cancel.

Another turn off is bad grammar. Supposibly and irregardless are the worst.

Borrowing without returning, returning things in wrecked condition--basically everything my pushy new next door neighbor says or does.

One quirky turn off I have is people making "air quotes" with the fingers.

Sharing details of our sex life in a group of people, in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, nose-picking, intentional belching and farting, or doing the usual bathroom things with the door open. I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

Finally, the silent treatment or ghosting without any explanations.

If I had a neighbor like that, I'd learn real fast to say to whatever she wanted to borrow "Oh I just ran out of that myself"
"I could care less" vs "I couldn't care less" are my grammar irritations!

WheatToast · 02-02-2019, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags.

If a butch really loves her partner, then sweats, face cream and do-rags wouldn't change a thing. I just don't need to see, or be seen, conducting certain bodily activities. It's got nothing to do with what she wears.
Just like you said--flossing and other gross things, I'd rather not see.
And I like a little mystery surrounding my love's allure. *Who doesn't?

*A rhetorical question

Martina · 02-02-2019, 04:13 PM

That mysterious woman thing is sexist. Nothing that we do is so baffling that it can not be understood by another human being. Implying so puts pressure on women to maintain sexist standards of behavior.

Women are fucking ashamed of their sweat or the shape of their labia. Fuck that crazy shit. We are fully human, not fairies or aliens. We sweat, belch and excrete like everyone else. And if we choose to use beauty products or even to get cosmetic surgery, it is not magic. It's expensive, time-consuming effort that I hope most of us do primarily for ourselves, not to maintain the "mystery."

Some people do this mystery femme thing playfully and by choice. All power to them.

But saying everybody feels like this is sexist. Women are not mysterious, unless they want to be.

MrSunshine · 02-02-2019, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Orema

Testers ... people who like to test you to see what you'll do. Often the test is doled out in passive-aggressive actions.

What about taste testers?

MrSunshine · 02-02-2019, 06:41 PM

[QUOTE=Martina;1239683]I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags. QUOTE]

Do rags and sweats are hot.

07-01-2018, 03:13 PM	#201
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,318 Times in 506 Posts Rep Power: 9408452	Just plain mean A mother cat who eats the head off her new born kitten. Ya know if a human mother did the same..that would definitely be an instant turn off for me. I think people are human beings with many faults and they don't always get it "right". I can't tell others they better be perfect, because I know for a fact that I'm not. Just don't eat your kids head off, cause that's like,not cool..and I wouldn't want to be around you after that.

07-01-2018, 03:21 PM	#202
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,096 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 96,036 Thanked 31,683 Times in 7,714 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	Really self centered people Mean people who hurt others unjustly! Arrogance...I say I am cocky confident, but am NOT cocky arrogant...BIG diff! Alcohol excess Cruelty to others & animals Not being true to your core values Conceit __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

02-01-2019, 08:29 AM	#211
PlatinumPearl Member How Do You Identify?: Femme, Human Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her Join Date: Jul 2017 Location: Canada Posts: 1,116 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 948 Thanked 2,354 Times in 863 Posts Rep Power: 21474844	Instant Turn-Offs... Bossy people. Especially Domme's that are power tripping thinking they can boss anyone and everyone around. There's a difference between asking someone to do something and telling someone to do something. Learn the difference!!

02-01-2019, 08:33 AM	#213
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,150 Times in 1,206 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Inability to apologize when wrong. I'm turned off by that now more than ever. __________________ Cheryl

02-02-2019, 04:13 PM	#218
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,367 Times in 4,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	That mysterious woman thing is sexist. Nothing that we do is so baffling that it can not be understood by another human being. Implying so puts pressure on women to maintain sexist standards of behavior. Women are fucking ashamed of their sweat or the shape of their labia. Fuck that crazy shit. We are fully human, not fairies or aliens. We sweat, belch and excrete like everyone else. And if we choose to use beauty products or even to get cosmetic surgery, it is not magic. It's expensive, time-consuming effort that I hope most of us do primarily for ourselves, not to maintain the "mystery." Some people do this mystery femme thing playfully and by choice. All power to them. But saying everybody feels like this is sexist. Women are not mysterious, unless they want to be. __________________ "No matter how cynical I get, I just can't keep up" - Lily Tomlin

07-08-2018, 04:23 PM	#203
Reach BANNED Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Scammer. Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: Moratorium Join Date: Apr 2018 Location: Where the horses roam.. Posts: 1,369 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,019 Thanked 3,275 Times in 1,018 Posts Rep Power: 0	When out on the date- and my date's phone rings- in the middle of the meal- and she answers- only to tell me that it is her ex asking advice about something. Seriously? Oh, and she continues to eat while talking to said ex. Did I mention that was the ONLY date?

01-30-2019, 10:00 PM	#204
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,586 Times in 14,918 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	... Negative & jaded, especially when it comes to matters of the heart, folks.............

01-31-2019, 12:40 PM	#205
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,586 Times in 14,918 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	... A killjoy...............

01-31-2019, 02:45 PM	#206
FireSignFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: N/A Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: WA Posts: 4,434 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37,962 Thanked 10,499 Times in 3,157 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Whiners. Whining, pleading learn the difference. One gets you not invited to parties and the other, with any luck, gets you laid.

01-31-2019, 05:38 PM	#208
easygoingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Lil' Miss Sassy Pants Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: My place by the river Posts: 3,366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,723 Thanked 14,128 Times in 3,010 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Lazy. Don't be lazy- like as your default setting. Lazy days should be treats.

02-01-2019, 03:36 AM	#209
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,710 Times in 1,603 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	LYING " " deserves 2 lines poor hygiene low intelligence Gain detergent, dryer sheets or anything else reeking of Gain Misogyny Any and all bigotry Intolerance

02-01-2019, 07:48 AM	#210
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,586 Times in 14,918 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	... A Debbie Downer.............

02-01-2019, 08:33 AM	#212
Orema Superlative Soul Sister How Do You Identify?: Lesbian stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, shawty Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Cottage of Content Posts: 13,021 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 41,070 Thanked 34,088 Times in 8,590 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Testers ... people who like to test you to see what you'll do. Often the test is doled out in passive-aggressive actions.

02-02-2019, 06:41 PM	#220
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,889 Times in 1,154 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	[QUOTE=Martina;1239683]I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags. QUOTE] Do rags and sweats are hot. __________________ "Kissing is like drinking salted water. You drink, and your thirst increases." -Chinese Proverb.