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Old 03-15-2014, 12:12 AM   #101
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Hi Anne and everyone. I'm Rebecca and my partner and I live near DC. Hope everyone is enjoying this Spring weather!
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I'm too tired to flirt, but mingling would be nice!
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I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.
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I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.
It's like riding a bicycle. If you haven't taken the bike out for awhile, it might be a little rusty. But get it going again and it will come back to you naturally.

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I hear ya sissy!! Be good to yourself and give yourself confidence. I too am struggling with feeling confident but I am working on it daily . Love ya!
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I find unwanted challenge in meeting like-minded (or open-minded) people. It is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
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Hi Everyone,

I have not done any reading here until now but something different came into my mind about a week or two ago ... I had not ever considered or given any thought to poly type relationships before now. At this point, I honestly don't know much about developing guidelines or what they are ... well f* ck, being direct always seems better for me so let me simply say I know nothing about this and how the general poly community goes about things.

I think the best thing I can do is come here and educate myself by reading your posts ...

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I hear ya sissy!! Be good to yourself and give yourself confidence. I too am struggling with feeling confident but I am working on it daily . Love ya!
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MARK your calander... I'm camping at the cabins again starting June 29th...
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MARK your calander... I'm camping at the cabins again starting June 29th...
Okkkkkkkkkk will do
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I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

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I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

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I'd definitely recommend The Ethical Slut. I think it's very accessible for someone new to polyamory, or for someone who is just curious. I haven't really read any other books about it, so I couldn't really say. I did a quick glance at what came up on Amazon and I didn't recognize even one other book I've heard other people talk about, let alone read myself.

There are as many ways to be poly as there are to be a Butch or a Femme. It's kinda just what works for you and your partner(s). That's probably a process if you've never tried it before. I know a lot of people in the kinky world who are poly and I can say I have seen many different ways of structuring (or not structuring) poly relationships. If you asked a hundred people what poly means you'd get a hundred different definitions, as they like to say.

For me personally--my partner identifies as poly and I don't and we had to do a LOT of negotiating until we could get to a place where we both felt we were getting what we needed. I think for us the most important part was to be able to figure out and name what each of our core needs was.
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I second the endorsement for The Ethical Slut. I also recommend Opening Up by Tristan Taormino.
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Opening Up - A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
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I agree that Opening Up is a wonderful book!
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Hi Y'all!

Currently single and open to poly relationships. Have been in poly relationships in the past and have found that I am much happier when I am not monogamous.
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Welcome...seems kinda quiet in here but maybe if we keep bumping the thread it will perk people up
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