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Listen to those (many) moments when there are no words.
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What to do in a relationship, eh?
the very word relationship comes from the word relate,
to feel related to another to feel it deeply in your heart, in your mind, in your blood that is the very essence of relationship to lie to another human being would mean that you don't really care for that person, and that there never was any kind of real relationship to begin with; we are all connected, and a liar is someone who doesn't care about the consequences to humanity for their lies; I don't bother about such people, whether they lie to me or to someone else, they have their own life, such as it is |
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being in a relationship to me was the friendship side of love .
passion is what brought us together and maintained our life's desires but the friendship that became the source of our full time exsistance with eachother. Understanding we have no right to change them or ourselves be true to thy own self. Accept, don't judge. We all change threw the years, be able to laugh and or engulf the changes . Every change has passion, be a part of it or you will loose your lust for life . Don't loose your smile .
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I so agree Miss Katz... Knowing someone's love sign just makes good common sense IMHO
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It is, I believe, inevitable that relationships leave us with baggage. Life gives us baggage. It's part of what makes who and how we are. I think it's so important, albeit often incredibly difficult, to do our best not to let that baggage negatively impact new and burgeoning relationships. It's not fair that a new person has to bear the brunt of crap another has burdened us with. No doubt some of that is unavoidable, but do what needs to be done to lessen the load. See a therapist, exercise self care, talk with good friends...find an emotional baggage porter.
We owe it to ourselves and whoever comes next.
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I hope this isn’t derailing the thread, but regarding the topic of baggage, I’ve done a lot of reflecting lately about how we learn from relationships. Essentially, how to contextualize difficult (and sometimes painful) lessons we’ve learned from exes or even friends and family. So, instead of viewing one’s “baggage” as “I have trust issues because someone hurt me,” one could view it in a positive light by spinning it as “Oh, I learned that not everyone deserves my immediate trust. I should wait to get to know someone and then make an informed decision about whether or not to trust them, to what degree, and with which specific things.”
I really do believe the relationships we have and the people we meet all serve to teach us something. Even if it’s what we don’t want. Anyway, this mentality has been really helpful for me. I hope it proves equally beneficial for y’all. xoxo Last edited by ardentfemme; 01-18-2018 at 02:15 AM. |
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I totally love the reframe. i used to say i needed to put my *must have* list out to the universe to attract the right partner for me when it was time. Well i did that, and they showed up! They had all the things on my list. They also had addictions, anger issues, major debt, insecurities etc... i learned the hard way that that sort of *baggage* can outweigh all the good stuff... So now i have a *must have* and *must not have* list..... and it worked! |
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Listen more and talk less. I think that listening is a skill that needs to be really sharpened. If we listened more we would are less and have less misunderstandings.
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