How to tell if she's into you... - Page 6

ScandalAndy · 02-15-2012, 10:48 AM

Now that this thread has popped back up on my radar, I feel compelled to add that ambulance girl and I did go on a second date, after which she asked to walk me to my car, then informed me that she had been seeing someone for a few months and she hoped i understood. Apparently I am really nice and smart and awesome, but she wanted to see where things went with this other girl. Whom she had been dating for three months.

I think it was questionable interest at best, so I still don't know how to tell if someone is ACTUALLY into me.

Kobi · 02-15-2012, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

Now that this thread has popped back up on my radar, I feel compelled to add that ambulance girl and I did go on a second date, after which she asked to walk me to my car, then informed me that she had been seeing someone for a few months and she hoped i understood. Apparently I am really nice and smart and awesome, but she wanted to see where things went with this other girl. Whom she had been dating for three months.

I think it was questionable interest at best, so I still don't know how to tell if someone is ACTUALLY into me.

I have had to revisit my thinking on this myself lately.

I know for me, I make it pretty clear when I am interested. It in the attention I give, the contact I maintain, the things I say and the things I do.

It's also pretty clear when I have mixed feelings. There is an inconsistency in the stuff mentioned above.

And, I still have no freakin clue how people date more than one person at a time.

Mr Nice Guy · 02-15-2012, 11:31 AM

When it comes to online....I have no clue unless she sends me a pm or hits me with a hammer.
When it comes to real life.... Well I sometimes have a clue.

LipstickLola · 02-20-2012, 11:14 PM

Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11

Greyson · 02-20-2012, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11

This made me laugh. Although, I get that you are quite serious about what you are saying here.

I am partnered so I am not in the dating pool but when I have been single, I have noticed sometimes (not always) if they appear to not pay attention or communicate, then oh yes, they are interested. This may not add up but it is true sometimes.

LipstickLola · 02-21-2012, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Greyson

This made me laugh. Although, I get that you are quite serious about what you are saying here.

I am partnered so I am not in the dating pool but when I have been single, I have noticed sometimes (not always) if they appear to not pay attention or communicate, then oh yes, they are interested. This may not add up but it is true sometimes.

It's ok, go ahead on and laugh..........

kidding! I'll be able to laugh again soon! I'll take the not interested/non-communicative under advisement

JAGG · 02-21-2012, 01:51 PM

If someone said you were good looking lipsticklola why would you run like hell? I'd be flattered. For me I always know when someone is attracted to me, if I'm attracted to them. I have never been attracted to someone and wonder if they like me too. Maybe because I am very direct with my flirting, and I find out either way right off the bat. If it seems like I'm not noticing you flirting or I am not responding the way you hoped and you have to wonder if I'm interested, then I'm probably not .

girl_dee · 02-21-2012, 01:55 PM

Apparently i am a 2x4 femme so i dunno.

always2late · 02-21-2012, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11

Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM!

Scuba · 02-21-2012, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Apparently i am a 2x4 femme so i dunno.

Ditto...butch that is.

afemmenatalie · 02-21-2012, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by scubadyke

Ditto...butch that is.

Ditto.....femme that is!

Cuddles · 02-21-2012, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by always2late

Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM!

That was my last relationship exactly. I feel like rescuing the damsel in distress sometimes and I'm all for being supportive but I couldn't take the pity-wagon day in and day out. I'm not saying she has to be the most confident person in the world (I can help her develop her confidence) but a little goes a long way... you know?

JAGG · 02-21-2012, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by always2late

Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM!

ABSOLUTELY!!! Or if they ask why me, why do you love me so much? Or if they say, you don't want to date me, I'm to this or too that or I'm not this or that. Just say oh ok I didn't know that, my bad and run!!! Count your blessings every step you take in the opposite direction. =)

LipstickLola · 02-21-2012, 10:21 PM

I'll be looking very forward to a more settled, boring existence

Sassy · 02-21-2012, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by always2late

Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM!

That or if someone tells you up front they're an asshole. Believe them. Yup yup...

Ginger · 03-11-2012, 08:29 PM

Is she into you? Words are nice. But I trust actions.

JustBeingMe · 08-10-2013, 07:34 PM

I'm definately a 2x4 butch and don't have a dang clue when someone is into me anymore. So if they don't just come right out and say they are interested in me, I have no clue at all anymore. I'm very shy until I get to know someone, but I dunno how to talk to them anymore either. LOL

Koffeelvr · 08-11-2013, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by justpjhere

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

If someone did this for me, I would be grinning all day long.

EmJay · 08-11-2013, 02:32 PM

It really sucks when you get all the right words.. But your left waiting for the actions to follow. Especially because all those perfect words make you want those actions so badly. *Heart is working hard to mend and try and move past this situation right now*

If you think telling a girl you are in to her, care for her, love her.. is the right thing to do, because you think that's what she wants to hear.. You are wrong. You just mess with our mind, and our heart.. And it hurts more in the end than just being straight up and saying your not for me.

^^^ that is what makes it sooo damn hard to tell if someone is really in to you or not.. Took me time to figure it out, longer than I would have hoped for.. But at least I get it now. Maybe it's not even that it is hard to tell.. Maybe sometimes you know it, but you just don't want to accept the truth.

Chinajewelry · 12-28-2013, 11:56 PM

Maybe licking/biting lips, or blinking fast. I do these sometimes. But I'm a femme so it doesn't apply to all

02-15-2012, 10:48 AM	#101
ScandalAndy Member How Do You Identify?: human femme spitfire Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: it's official! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: east coast USA Posts: 1,167 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,758 Thanked 3,220 Times in 753 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Now that this thread has popped back up on my radar, I feel compelled to add that ambulance girl and I did go on a second date, after which she asked to walk me to my car, then informed me that she had been seeing someone for a few months and she hoped i understood. Apparently I am really nice and smart and awesome, but she wanted to see where things went with this other girl. Whom she had been dating for three months. I think it was questionable interest at best, so I still don't know how to tell if someone is ACTUALLY into me. __________________ The joy of discovery is certainly the liveliest that the mind of man can ever feel. - Claude Bernard (1813-78)

02-21-2012, 01:51 PM	#107
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,545 Times in 4,142 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	If someone said you were good looking lipsticklola why would you run like hell? I'd be flattered. For me I always know when someone is attracted to me, if I'm attracted to them. I have never been attracted to someone and wonder if they like me too. Maybe because I am very direct with my flirting, and I find out either way right off the bat. If it seems like I'm not noticing you flirting or I am not responding the way you hoped and you have to wonder if I'm interested, then I'm probably not . __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

03-11-2012, 08:29 PM	#116
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,310 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	How to tell Is she into you? Words are nice. But I trust actions.

08-10-2013, 07:34 PM	#117
JustBeingMe Senior Member How Do You Identify?: as ME Relationship Status: I don't need no stinking status. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: somewhere you're not..... Posts: 1,808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,961 Thanked 1,691 Times in 694 Posts Rep Power: 12813868	I'm definately a 2x4 butch and don't have a dang clue when someone is into me anymore. So if they don't just come right out and say they are interested in me, I have no clue at all anymore. I'm very shy until I get to know someone, but I dunno how to talk to them anymore either. LOL __________________ Nothing more, Nothing less, I'm Just Being Me

02-15-2012, 11:31 AM	#103
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	When it comes to online....I have no clue unless she sends me a pm or hits me with a hammer. When it comes to real life.... Well I sometimes have a clue.

02-20-2012, 11:14 PM	#104
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678216	Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11

02-21-2012, 01:55 PM	#108
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02-21-2012, 10:21 PM	#114
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678216	I'll be looking very forward to a more settled, boring existence

08-11-2013, 02:32 PM	#119
EmJay Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Canada Posts: 124 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 338 Thanked 447 Times in 96 Posts Rep Power: 3970855	It really sucks when you get all the right words.. But your left waiting for the actions to follow. Especially because all those perfect words make you want those actions so badly. Heart is working hard to mend and try and move past this situation right now If you think telling a girl you are in to her, care for her, love her.. is the right thing to do, because you think that's what she wants to hear.. You are wrong. You just mess with our mind, and our heart.. And it hurts more in the end than just being straight up and saying your not for me. ^^^ that is what makes it sooo damn hard to tell if someone is really in to you or not.. Took me time to figure it out, longer than I would have hoped for.. But at least I get it now. Maybe it's not even that it is hard to tell.. Maybe sometimes you know it, but you just don't want to accept the truth.

12-28-2013, 11:56 PM	#120
Chinajewelry Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Lipstick Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: NM, USA Posts: 14 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 15 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 214759	Maybe licking/biting lips, or blinking fast. I do these sometimes. But I'm a femme so it doesn't apply to all