01-09-2018, 08:23 PM | #4521 |
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01-09-2018, 08:53 PM | #4522 |
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I'm feeling stunned.
Stunned and heartbroken. I just found out that my first love, Michelle, died this morning. She was not only my first love, but my Birthday Twin as well. I am one year younger than her. She died of cancer. Leiomyosarcoma (LMS) to be exact. She was diagnosed in June last year...she left behind 2 adult daughters that are much too young to not have their mother (or father who died of Parkinson's 2 years ago). I'm sure quite a few people on this site have lost their parents and are young as well, but it just seems so wrong. I'm feeling very sad that I haven't talked to her for quite awhile... The lesson I need to take from this is that I need to reach out to people a lot more than I have been, and let them know I love them...before it's too late again. RIP Michelle... |
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01-09-2018, 09:21 PM | #4523 |
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Blah... had a hard day fighting with my blood sugar levels, but was very thankful for a sunny warm day. Was very tempted to take a picnic, but by the time I was feeling better, it was too late.
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01-09-2018, 10:45 PM | #4525 |
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Lord, it's been a rough day. I was looking forward to a relaxing bath to de-stress, but now it's a bit late for that.
Maybe tomorrow will go smoother. Wishing you all a wonderful day/night. xoxo |
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I'm so very sorry.
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01-10-2018, 06:25 AM | #4527 |
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Cranky. I don't want to go to work today.
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01-10-2018, 10:35 AM | #4528 |
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Chilly.
I'm sitting on the couch, with the back door open, enjoying coffee, listening to the cars travel by on wet roads. It's on the chill side and that means I get to wear a sweater! I love it. It will be hot and humid soon enough.
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01-10-2018, 11:23 AM | #4529 |
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I feel good.
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01-11-2018, 05:12 AM | #4531 |
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Excited and scared .... perfectly normal i am sure
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01-11-2018, 07:54 AM | #4532 |
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i’m suddenly soooo hungry
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01-11-2018, 02:58 PM | #4533 |
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Somewhat depressed. Some important papers I need I can't find, and my body aches today (I took Tylenol so it's okay now), life isn't perfect and I need to remember that!
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Broken and so damn angry that I'm not fake.
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It's been a rough week. I freaking miss my Mom.... Thank gosh for therapy.
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Sad. The abandoned cat I've been taking care of is female and definitely expecting. One extra cat in addition to Monte maybe, but one unplanned pet, plus a whole litter, plus Monte to care for... In the interest of all animals involved I know relinquishment is the right decision. Still it doesn't make it any easier. I wish people would give a crap and if not in a position to take on kittens see to it their animals are spayed.
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I feel grateful. Someone really helped DC and me out today because 'we're all supposed to take care of one another'. Such a nice lady! I wish everyone had that outlook.
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Just a lil bummed. How easily ones mood can change when the response from a friend is not as positive as expected. It wasn't even a negative response... just not the uber positive one I expected. Expectations... that's the problem. I'd make a poor Buddhist.
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I am feeling absolutely elated with my new iMac!
Freaking 4.2GHz with an i7 processor on a 27" screen!! It only came with 8GB of ram but I have already ordered 2x16GB DDR4 sticks and am going to upgrade it myself (because Apple wanted $600 for this and I'm all "REALLY, bitches??") My old Macbook was 5 years old and it served me well but shit, this new machine is so freaking fast that I wish I had done this sooner! I've been sitting here for hours doing fresh installs of all of my various applications and products and setting up my VPN and it's got me all giddy and sparkly. Needless to say? WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!
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My mom just said, “What if your hormones are out of whack? What if you have too much testosterone? And if we change that, then maybe your feelings about women will change.”
It’s interesting that just earlier today I was reflecting on how much pride I derive from passersby openly staring at me when I’m accompanied by butches – that is, when my femme identity is salient. I thought about how I’ve learned so much from being Otherized and how much these interactions have shaped me in a positive way. But when it comes to my mom, comments like these are really hurtful. It feels like this aspect of my identity – one that I consider beautiful – is disgusting to her. It doesn’t matter what I do in life, how many degrees I earn, how much money I make, how compassionate I am, how fiercely I love those around me. I will always be a disappointment to her. Or, at least this one element of my selfhood will always be a disappointment to her. Something she wishes she could cure, like the stomach flu. It’s also interesting because I’m not sure that all of my previous partners/crushes would feel comfortable being lumped into the category of “women.” My mom’s comment felt disrespectful to those who identify as butch, but simultaneously trans, lesbians who use they/them pronouns and those who use he/him pronouns for reasons that are entirely valid and entirely their own. These individuals have complex and nuanced relationships with womanhood and to toss them in with “women” seems reductive. At the same time, I do claim the term lesbian, so what does that say about me? How could I articulate that to someone standing on the outside? I didn’t say any of this to her. I just said, “That’s not how it works” and changed the subject. I figured it was better to process these thoughts in private. [And now on the internet for the whole world to see lol.] |
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