What Women Have Helped You Become Who You Are Today?

[SuperFemme]

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March is National Women’s History Month, so “Do Tell” us what ladies have inspired you, helping you become who you are today. What women have influence your life? Share your story here.

[SuperFemme]

I had Sister Carol Ann in grade school, and sister Agnes in high school.
They encouraged me through a rough home life and showed so much patience and love. Because of them I am still here.

My Aunt Erminia who took me in during summers so I didn't have to be in the war zone that was my parents marriage. She worked me on her ranch and it was kind of like "wax on, wax off" (learning important stuff without realizing you are learning).

A whole big list of Femmes who taught me too many things to list here, but gosh my world would be so different without them. They are the ones that continue to touch my life every day.

[Rockinonahigh]

My grandma,from an early age she knew I was going to be diffrent than any other of her grandkids.Grannie always told me not to be anything but who i really was cause doing anythinhg else would cause me great pain in lots of ways.
My aunt Mary..she kept me sane by listining to all my crazy shit thrue my teenage years with a calm eye and warm heart.
My aunt Louise...not really blood family but as colse as u can get..she was flanboiant,fast liveing,drove a mg convertable that had a repo of a dick for a gear shift stick.She finaly got threw to my thick head that I was the only one who could change my life as well that life was lots of give and take...the diff was knowing when to give and when to take what was offered.
My mom..Even tho we fussed a lot,didnt always get along.She taught me responsablity even if u choked on it that sometimes u just have to do it.
The one thing I wish I had learned was how to let ppl in my life easyer and not guard my heart so tightly..ya know that wall so many of us put up to sheild us from more hurt?I gess I will be working on that one till the lights go out or someone comes along that is brave enough to reach over or threw the defence.I learned there is two sets of rules,one for me and one for the rest of the world even if we all are in the same place.I gess this is some of what my grannie ment about life.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Arwen and Bit saved my life, literally. I was suicidal after my botched top surgery. They both talked to me and checked in with me, and held my hand, and hugged me telepathically. I was on the edge. They were there pulling me back.

Rosie for caring for this ol' fart 24/7. I am not the easiest person to live with. :frog:

My adopted sister, again for caring/loving this ol' queer guy. :sock:

I am very blessed. :pipe:

[Miss_Tia]

the nuns in my CCD Sunday School took a liking to me (hmmm) and worked with me to keep me from burning in hell. So far so good....

my drivers ed teacher who was my first lesbian relationship.

my sister was and still is my hero...

my daughter too...they have both survived some amazing things in this life..

my grandmother, the gypsy...she taught me so much...

my sponsors in AA...I just buried one of them and lord...I ache from how important they are in my life...

Samantha, from Bewitched. She was my first lady crush...

Alice Walker and Toni Morrison....their written words woke up parts of myself..

[Jet]

My grandmother and mother were the greatest women I knew. They gave me everything. A toast *raises flute* to those whom we have loved and lost.

My mother:

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[Princess4u]

My grandmother and mother were the greatest women I knew. They gave me everything. A toast *raises flute* to those whom we have loved and lost.

My mother:

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Very pretty lady Jet.....classic!!! and a very kind face....you look a great deal like her....!!!

[Miss_Tia]

I am ashamed I did not include my mother...she was in the forefront of my mind but I wanted to get the others down so I wouldnt forget them..believing I would NEVER forget Mom...

well I did...

this woman was my rock. Even when I was at my worst, this lady carried me through. But dont believe for a moment she was a cuddly loving mother. Nope..i didnt get that from her. I got tough love. And for decades resented her for it. But then,as I got more and more sober, and with more therapy, I realized 1) she did what she could with what she had as a parent 2) she was dealing with alot of family baggage, her side, dad's side and us kids 3) she had her own compulsive problem with gambling 4) she lived in a time when women were second class citizens and yet she had to fight hard and give up so much to support the men in her life 5) the way her kids repaid her for all she did for the family was to commit suicide, give birth to an illigetimate baby (in a time when that was really taboo) and me, the drunken lesbian...

this woman was incredible for all she had to deal with. She taught me alot of things..including foremost how to be a good parent by watching her be a wonderful grandparent. (she sucked at being a parent!) She taught me how to have a long term relationship...a marriage. Her and my dad were married almost 50 years. She taught me what deal breakers are...and how so much we think are deal breakers, arent. But those that are, are unconditionally deal breakers. She taught me frugality and she taught me generosity.

how did I forget to mention this woman?


the nuns in my CCD Sunday School took a liking to me (hmmm) and worked with me to keep me from burning in hell. So far so good....

my drivers ed teacher who was my first lesbian relationship.

my sister was and still is my hero...

my daughter too...they have both survived some amazing things in this life..

my grandmother, the gypsy...she taught me so much...

my sponsors in AA...I just buried one of them and lord...I ache from how important they are in my life...

Samantha, from Bewitched. She was my first lady crush...

Alice Walker and Toni Morrison....their written words woke up parts of myself..

[Corkey]

My Mom, Rosa Parks, Maya Angelou, Jane Goodall, Marie Curie, Dianne Feinstein, Ellen. These are but a few, there are many more.

[Jett]

Hands down 1# was my mom, she wasn't perfect but she was one hell of a strong woman... I could never thank her enough if I had had a thousand years for all she has given.

[julieisafemme]

My Mom, Deborah, Jane, Maggie and Murphy, my sisters, Natalie and many folks here.

[Gemme]

I loved my mom and she did the best that she could, but most of her inadvertant lessons were trenched in what I shouldn't do or who I shouldn't be versus what to do and who to be and the like. So, while she did help mold me, it became more about how not to be like my mom than anything else. She was a very selfless person though and that is something I try to keep in mind as I make my way through the world.

The women that helped mold me the most were my best friend (though a child at the time) and her mother, my surrogate mother. As I grew up and out, my second husband's mother and I were close until her death.

A few years later, I found another site and met so many wonderful, beautiful femmes and they helped me define myself and to grow, not only as a femme, but as a human being. I've looked to them when I needed clarification, off and on, for years now and they've never steered me wrong. Arwen, Bit, Diva, and Laura (until her passing a few years ago) have been exceptionally important to me and my growth.