Top 10: Things To Have In Your Home That Women Love

[Andrew, Jr.]

I thought it would be a fun thread to have to talk about what we have in our nests that the women in our lives love.

Enjoy!

Andrew

[Andrew, Jr.]

Ok, I will go first.

:sailing: Photographs everywhere

:sailing: Dino Martini - the ladies just love him. He is a lovebug.

:sailing: My deck

:sailing: The hammock for 3 people (think 2 people and a dog and a cat or 2)

Andrew

[Blade]

Ummmmmmm Me

[MsDemeanor]

If you love me you'll have a TV in the kitchen so that I can be entertained while cooking your meals and baking your pies and cakes and stuff.

[Blade]

My buddy chair
My buddies Skippy and Ms T
My fireplace
Shade, my house is shaded all but about 2 hrs a day, so it stays pretty cool
My Pampered Chef collection of stuff
My deck
My wild critters both in and out of the house
My glass top coffee table with my collection of Armed Service gnomes under it and a small collection of critter salt and pepper shakers

[Sachita]

Brace yourselves... this is what would impress me make me very happy to see in a your(hys, hym, he whatever)

1) a few pets especially dogs

2) good taste and collection of fine wines

3) gourmet and natural spices, ingredients that YOU cook with

4) good music

5) something you made your with own two hands- handy, creative

6) plants that are healthy and thriving

7) flat screen TV in the bedroom

8) king size bed, clean sheets- actually everything MUST be clean. hate slobs

9) large bath tub or hot tub

10) sex toys you bought just for me! Thats another list!

[apretty]

for any would-be women in my life: my collection of 'soldier of fortune' magazines.

[adorable]

Well I don't know about all women but I do know what I love and they are pretty universal regardless of whom I'm going to visit and aren't not required. I do get all excited when I find any one of the following:
(I am thinking if I'm going over to someone's house to hang out for a while or to spend a week)

A TV in the guest room is wonderful, so is a fan....

I actually do like TVs in every room in the house cuz I'm into CNN like that.

I like fresh cut flowers.

I love the handpushy handsoap at every sink (no washing my hands with dawn isn't the same thing!)

An air hockey table is nice or just a pool (sniff cuz I don't have one)...or access to a computer in case I didn't bring my laptop. :)
(I have an air hockey table ;))

Control over the remote....no I really don't want to watch fishing shows all week or MTV or ESPNs 1-30. (really.)

Ice tea. <---if anyone knows me well enough that I'm going to their house then this is already in the fridge and ready.

I stayed at a good friend of mine's house in Florida last year and she had all the things that she had in her bathroom in the guest bathroom too which was really nice. So there were q-tips, neosporin, bandaids, tylenol....ect. I came home and did the same in my guest bathroom. I thought it was really thoughtful and perfect so guests didn't need to ask for it.

[Kenna]

Hot running water and a LARGE bathtub for bubble baths ;) ;)

[Queerasfck]

Material things are nice but there have been plenty of times in my life when I couldn't afford much. I've never had any woman come to my house to watch my tv and leave feeling unhappy or unsatisfied.

[Random]

Hmmm

If I'm going to someone home.. what impresses me.. hmmmm

books..
books..
books..
books...
books...
books...
books...
books...
a clean bathroom
a clean kitchen
and did I say books?

[Emmy]

A puppy would be awesome!

[Kenna]

yummy scented Candles (especially at bubble bath time)
"fixin's" to make blueberry pancakes
warm, clean, soft, cozy place to curl up every night with my luv-bug-pooches

[Mister Bent]

I like to leave my underwear on the bathroom floor, to give her something to do, you know, so she can feel womanly.

[Emmy]

Wrong list. That goes on the list of things to make partners bitter and, in time, vengeful.

I like to leave my underwear on the bathroom floor, to give her something to do, you know, so she can feel womanly.

[Mister Bent]

Wrong list. That goes on the list of things to make partners bitter and, in time, vengeful.

Really? You think?

[Soft*Silver]

a black board where you have written "I will not be a snot" one hundred million times....for the bad butch boi in you...

seriously...

[Sachita]

a black board where you have written "I will not be a snot" one hundred million times....for the bad butch boi in you...

seriously...

sounds like you have experience and issued an assignment. lol

[Queerasfck]

Really? You think?



Yeah, ya bad butch boi.

[Soft*Silver]

I would like to see

cleanliness is a good sign..but OCD cleanliness is a red flag

dogs and cats are good..snakes are not.

food in the fridge that is not processed or solely microwavable.

ecofriendly environment is important too. Do you recycle? Are you concerned about the world?

lack of alcohol and drug culture. A bottle of wine or a small amount of beer is ok. Three bars in the house and a fridge just for the beer is not

pretty soaps set out for my visit in MY bathroom

my own coffee mug

something to do with horses somewhere in the house

fresh sheets

a nice library even if you own one of those kendall things. Good lord I still dont know what an ipod is and you all are doing something weird with books like you did with music..stop it!

if you use scented candles, incense, etc, none of it is vanilla because you know and havent forgotten it makes me gag

groceries. Let me make you dinner or bake something...

you. If I come to you, spend time with me. Its you I want...thats why I am there...

[Soft*Silver]

sighing..oh yes.....

sounds like you have experience and issued an assignment. lol

[Mister Bent]

Yeah, ya bad butch boi.

Rude! Reported!

[Toughy]

The following is what I, as a (butch) woman have (or not) in my house:

I don't drink alcohol. No alcohol in my house.

I work with dogs every day. No dogs (or cats or critters) in my house.

I love to cook. I have a well stocked pantry and fridge. I don't like anyone messing around in my kitchen, although I will make exceptions on occasion and try not to lose my mind in the process. I prefer to cook and you do the dishes.

I'm not crafty or creative in that sense. No macrame plant hangers..........actually no plants in my house at this time. Maybe I will have them again at some time.

Most all my books are in storage. I live in a studio apartment.

I have a double bed.....I live in a studio apartment. What idiot would not put clean sheets on the bed if you have a date coming over for supper?

My house is clean, especially the bathroom and kitchen.

I live in CA and have been recycling for at least 20 years.

I can tolerate limited smelly candles, incense. I do have some in my house. I prefer fresh air to smelly stuff.

I have bubble bath stuff because I like to take a bubble bath on occasion. It's not really smelly though. I have a 'dyke' labeled pushy thingy soap dispenser in my bathroom. Don't have that at my kitchen sink.

I have plenty of coffee mugs of all sizes. Pick what you want for this stay.

I have a nice deck with a little creek gurgling. This creek runs behind my building and you can hear it at night when all is quiet.

Maybe, later, I will post what I want to see in a femme's house. We will both be women so that well be an interesting comparison on what different types of women want in their home.

[apretty]

i like to have a variety of different sizes of tampons and i share--just don't use the last one.

[princessbelle]

Things i would love to see.....

Flowers, flowers and more flowers, sweet smelling lovely flowers.

Sunshine through the window.

Whispy shears letting in the gentle breeze.

Pictures of "your" family.

A clean bathroom.

Books on everything.

Music, and preferrably 70s rock.

A comfy cosey couch to snuggle on.

Dim lighting with candles that smell heavenly

knick nacks that show "your" personality

[Toughy]

i like to have a variety of different sizes of tampons and i share--just don't use the last one.

dang it all to hell.....see this is where I so fail miserably........I had my uterus and cervix removed in 1982 (where you born then?? <grin>) and I just have never ever bought tampons for my house since then. I don't bleed and haven't for years.........it's just not on my radar..........

I am a utter and complete failure .........:badscore:

[Kim]

Running water (with hot and cold), electrical hook-ups, logs for the fire, a kitten to wrestle the snakes, washroom, duct tape, rope, and booze.

[weatherboi]

Top 10 things i have in my house just for my Ms.

A variety of body washes.

Babyoil

Ice

Hummus

Taboulli

Pita Bread

Designated Belt

A nice space for my Ms to play her music.

Needles

7up

[apretty]

dang it all to hell.....see this is where I so fail miserably........I had my uterus and cervix removed in 1982 (where you born then?? <grin>) and I just have never ever bought tampons for my house since then. I don't bleed and haven't for years.........it's just not on my radar..........

I am a utter and complete failure .........:badscore:
ha! and to think i was going to start a campaign to send you a houseplant!

(1973, btw!!)

[Rockinonahigh]

These are the thinga in my house at them moment that may work for a femme.

A well stocked kitchen with a bazillion applyances to us if u need them.

Cook books from so many places its unreal.

LOts of books,I have libary in the den and more books on shelves in the liveing room.

A movie collection of over two hundred tapes and cd's

Lots of music cd's and casets form the 60's till now.

Two loveable furry critters who will keep u laughing so hard u will hold your sides.

Fuguriens of all kinds,nortaki china,fsncy silver ware I dont use,crystle glases of all kinds.

Wood carveings from many place in the world.

A big double bed with clean sheets and cover...lots of pillows too.

A puter.

Tv in the liveing room,two extra ones in the garage incase I need one.

A cadilac seville that rides like a dream.

A fair sise shower with glass doors that had a detatchable shower head.

All I need is a princess for my castle....

[Waldo]

This thread may be depressing me.

I am, how shall I say this... spartan. Perhaps infamously so. (SHUT IT JUNE).

I'm not opposed to having nice things or things especially for the mythical "her", but I like everything in my home to serve a purpose. There's very little in my home that is extraneous.

I prefer my Kindle to books. I prefer my Netflix via Wii to DVDs. I think you get the idea... simple and uncluttered.

Perhaps to a fault.

[Random]

This thread may be depressing me.

I am, how shall I say this... spartan. Perhaps infamously so. (SHUT IT JUNE).

I'm not opposed to having nice things or things especially for the mythical "her", but I like everything in my home to serve a purpose. There's very little in my home that is extraneous.

I prefer my Kindle to books. I prefer my Netflix via Wii to DVDs. I think you get the idea... simple and uncluttered.

Perhaps to a fault.

How do you share a kindle?

[Waldo]

How do you share a kindle?

Simple. I don't. For me convenience trumps loanability. I travel far too much to carry books with me. Kindle is with me all the time.

Then again I did gift someone with my "old" Kindle which is still attached to my Amazon account and she's able to read all of the books I've bought. But that's just one person.

[ravfem]

Thinking about when Daddy comes to visit... :thinking: :deepthoughts:

lots of books :glasses:

a comfy, oversized chair :love1:

a mug just for Hym and Hys favorite tea (Hy may hafta bring it with Hym though) and the correct fixins for it :tea: :bringcoffee:

a sampling of the foods i would like for Hym to try :cookielove:

a clean, stocked-to-Hys-specifications kitchen, ready for Hym to work Hys magic :chemist: :linecook: :cooking:

The cds i know Hy likes at the front of the collection :tango:

Bath towels just for Hym :curtain:

lots of fizzy, flavored drinks in the fridge :koolaid:

the nightstand fully stocked with supplies that might be needed :bedfuck: :whip:

and i would have my girl purse stocked with on-the-go supplies like an extra pack of Hys cigarettes & extra lighters, sun screen & lip balm, lotion, and anything else Hy requested to be in it or that i thought would be important to have while out & about :carride:

[Linus]

Being a smart guy, I let my wife pick our house.
I saw it for the first time when I flew to the south from California to do the walk through and sign the deed paperwork.
So that little ditty is covered.

I don't care whats in it, or what colors she picks... or how she wants furniture arranged.

The house is hers, the garage,yard and shop is all MINE. :cheesy:

As long as I pick up after myself, I don't face the :bananasplit:

I dont have a top 10, but she does.:police:


LOL. Sounds like me, except instead of garage, yard and shop I have an office and "man cave" (for cigars and such) :cheesy:

[Kenna]

LOL. Sounds like me, except instead of garage, yard and shop I have an office and "man cave" (for cigars and such) :cheesy:

Hey, :(
Can I have a garage with a shop - or at least a LARGE shed- for all my power tools AND a small loft for my art stuff?
Just askin' ;) for when I'm asked to do another oil change. I'll be sure to put my vanity with all my "femmie" stuff up in the art loft.

Andrew,
Can I put extra power strips down on my Xmas list?

[Random]

Simple. I don't. For me convenience trumps loanability. I travel far too much to carry books with me. Kindle is with me all the time.

Then again I did gift someone with my "old" Kindle which is still attached to my Amazon account and she's able to read all of the books I've bought. But that's just one person.

Ahhh...

I'm antiquated in that I like the feel and heft of a book.. Although the thought of having a couple hundred books at my finger tip when stuck at the airport is very nice...

[Miss Scarlett]

Toilet paper!!!

[cinderella]

You are a good man, Charlie Brown. :)

Being a smart guy, I let my wife pick our house.
I saw it for the first time when I flew to the south from California to do the walk through and sign the deed paperwork.
So that little ditty is covered.

I don't care whats in it, or what colors she picks... or how she wants furniture arranged.

The house is hers, the garage,yard and shop is all MINE. :cheesy:

As long as I pick up after myself, I don't face the :bananasplit:

I dont have a top 10, but she does.:police:

[cinderella]

You're easy... ;)

Toilet paper!!!

[Bad Bad Boi]

My place is an expression of me... so of course it is charming...

I have made my own soap for years now so yes, you will get fresh soap just for you!
I also make my own trailmix which all seem to enjoy.
I have an organic garden which provides tasty goodies for our meals.
I do keep my space reasonably clean as I never want to be embarassed to bring home a guest... LoL
Zima the wonder dog (with one eye and half of one ear missing) is always a hit with everyone! I call her the Snuggle Smuggler as even people who don't like dogs find themselves petting on her and doting on her.

Then best of all - in my space - you get ME and my sunny, cheerful personality!

Peace and Blessings,

David

[Sachita]

My place is an expression of me... so of course it is charming...

I have made my own soap for years now so yes, you will get fresh soap just for you!
I also make my own trailmix which all seem to enjoy.
I have an organic garden which provides tasty goodies for our meals.
I do keep my space reasonably clean as I never want to be embarassed to bring home a guest... LoL
Zima the wonder dog (with one eye and half of one ear missing) is always a hit with everyone! I call her the Snuggle Smuggler as even people who don't like dogs find themselves petting on her and doting on her.

Then best of all - in my space - you get ME and my sunny, cheerful personality!

Peace and Blessings,

David

what kind of soap?
what do you grow in the garden?

[Bad Bad Boi]

Glycerin soap with only natural oils and scents. Haven't tried adding any dried herbs yet, but thought I might this year.

Garden is small and simple. Heirloom tomatoes, green beans, cukes, putting in an asperagus bed and some blackberry bushes this year. I am in a new space so am just getting it going - I know - a little late but it will be better than nothing... and great for next year!

[Kenna]

A puppy would be awesome!

Why settle for just one? ... If they don't have a puppy in their home for me to love, they must have a love of puppies!


Ok, I will go first.

:sailing: Photographs everywhere

:sailing: Dino Martini - the ladies just love him. He is a lovebug.

:sailing: My deck

:sailing: The hammock for 3 people (think 2 people and a dog and a cat or 2)

Andrew



I do love photos of family and their favorite landscapes like sunset at their favorite lake-get-a-way (and photos that show their personality), YES we LOVE Dino!!, and I'm the Weber Grill Queen so I would certainly LOVE a deck... but you can keep the hammock, I might get sea-sick? LOL

Ummmmmmm Me :pointing: :rofl: :rolleyes:

Only if you make really awesome blueberry pancakes!! :awww::raspberry:

[waxnrope]

different women (do you mean femmes, Andrew?) respond differently to things that I have in my house. These are the things that garner a response:


books - they are everywhere and shelved in library sized bookcases
music and videos (I am an audiophile)
a big kitchen (it is big enough to dance in) that is well stocked
wine selection
critters, including a "puppy" (well, she is 7, but will always be my puppy)
photographs that I have taken and those others have taken (particularly of the Middle East)
they seem to like the decor and the way the rooms are laid out
I don't have anything to do with it, but the way the morning sun illuminates the kitchen.


I don't think that I managed 10 things <shrugs>, but these are the things that come to mind as I recollect comments made by women who come to my house.

[ravfem]

different women (do you mean femmes, Andrew?) respond differently to things that I have in my house. These are the things that garner a response:


books - they are everywhere and shelved in library sized bookcases
music and videos (I am an audiophile)
a big kitchen (it is big enough to dance in) that is well stocked
wine selection
critters, including a "puppy" (well, she is 7, but will always be my puppy)
photographs that I have taken and those others have taken (particularly of the Middle East)
they seem to like the decor and the way the rooms are laid out
I don't have anything to do with it, but the way the morning sun illuminates the kitchen.


I don't think that I managed 10 things <shrugs>, but these are the things that come to mind as I recollect comments made by women who come to my house.

:threadneedspics:

[waxnrope]

:threadneedspics:

You are such a stinker! Massive? Can't you do something about your woman? :whip:

[Soft*Silver]

when one is invited into my home:

drool towels..not for them to use because they drool, but to protect them from the infamous newf drool. Lay it in your lap and wait..especially when they come to tell you how good the water tasted out of the toilet bowl...and dont think I havent tried everything to keep them from doing that...I have...they win. Love me, love my newfs...

really nice long towels if they are staying overnite

their own bedroom..because at this point in time, I am not sharing beds.

reading material in the bathroom of his choice...I have three baths. Pick one and the material will appear...

a lint brush that will also remove cat and dog hair...

coffee in the morning made as they prefer it, in a cup that will be designated as his whenever he comes to visit and one I will use in the mornings sometimes when I am particularly missing him

a throne. This doesnt happen overnite. It takes him time to feel at home and to chose his place of honor. Some like to sit at the head of the table. Some like the end of the sectional. Some prefer a recliner. As long as its not MY throne, it becomes theirs when they come back.

beside his throne, a place of altar...things he needs...specific to him. Perhaps the tv guide and the remote. Or his favorite book he is working through on his visits to me. Or a bag of lemon drops and horehounds because he cant find them where he lives. Something, anything that says that I lovingly meet his needs

quietness. My house is very quiet. I dont often watch tv. I dont listen to alot of music. Even my appliances run quietly. It is a way of surrounding myself in the Present and keeping myself there. In the quiet of my home, he would find himself Present with me and I with him. In the early times of wooing, this is especially important. In order to build knowledge of the soul of another person, you really need to be Present with them in the Stillness so that you know you are meeting their Core and not their surroundings.

and in between the times of quietness, there will be times of his and her pleasures...does he like to watch Bruce Willis movies and tv shows (Moonlighting was wonderful!) Will he watch SeaBiscuit with me? Will we put on some country music and dance slow and close, as someone put it once, buckle rubbing music? Does he want to pop in a video game (horrors! I wouldnt know what to do if this happened!) or spend time on the computer? moments of activity to please him and myself, beyond and outside of the other...

[Kenna]

One'a these for my sore, tired feet....
http://www.footspafootmassager.com/foot-baths.jpg

And LOTS of Strawberry-Blueberry or Strawberry-Mango smoothies on hot days. :cheer: :cheer:

[Sachita]

when one is invited into my home:

drool towels..not for them to use because they drool, but to protect them from the infamous newf drool. Lay it in your lap and wait..especially when they come to tell you how good the water tasted out of the toilet bowl...and dont think I havent tried everything to keep them from doing that...I have...they win. Love me, love my newfs...

really nice long towels if they are staying overnite

their own bedroom..because at this point in time, I am not sharing beds.

reading material in the bathroom of his choice...I have three baths. Pick one and the material will appear...

a lint brush that will also remove cat and dog hair...

coffee in the morning made as they prefer it, in a cup that will be designated as his whenever he comes to visit and one I will use in the mornings sometimes when I am particularly missing him

a throne. This doesnt happen overnite. It takes him time to feel at home and to chose his place of honor. Some like to sit at the head of the table. Some like the end of the sectional. Some prefer a recliner. As long as its not MY throne, it becomes theirs when they come back.

beside his throne, a place of altar...things he needs...specific to him. Perhaps the tv guide and the remote. Or his favorite book he is working through on his visits to me. Or a bag of lemon drops and horehounds because he cant find them where he lives. Something, anything that says that I lovingly meet his needs

quietness. My house is very quiet. I dont often watch tv. I dont listen to alot of music. Even my appliances run quietly. It is a way of surrounding myself in the Present and keeping myself there. In the quiet of my home, he would find himself Present with me and I with him. In the early times of wooing, this is especially important. In order to build knowledge of the soul of another person, you really need to be Present with them in the Stillness so that you know you are meeting their Core and not their surroundings.

and in between the times of quietness, there will be times of his and her pleasures...does he like to watch Bruce Willis movies and tv shows (Moonlighting was wonderful!) Will he watch SeaBiscuit with me? Will we put on some country music and dance slow and close, as someone put it once, buckle rubbing music? Does he want to pop in a video game (horrors! I wouldnt know what to do if this happened!) or spend time on the computer? moments of activity to please him and myself, beyond and outside of the other...

Damn you are very accommodating Girl!

I'm with you on the sleeping. I prefer to sleep alone. They would get their own bedroom, towels, etc.

BUT I'd show them where the coffee is and how I like it. I'd then give them a list of chores to do around the farm and if all went well I'd cook an awesome meal, wear something very pretty and he's be rubbing my feet whilst I perch on that throne! lol

Slow dancing sounds nice. If he was a really good boy I might even dance for him. (wink)

I love candles, nag champa, I like my space to be eclectic and have a nice spiritual feel about it . I am the Goddess of my domain and anyone who enters does so symbiotic with everything here. He must approach with great care, respect and compassion. I'm totally in no nonsense mood these days. Notice the hoops at the entrance of my long driveway.

[NJFemmie]

hmmm ...

Deck .... check
Jacuzzi .... check
HD screen with video game systems ..... check
Fuzzy little people ..... check
A house She makes a home no matter what's in it ....... check (and frankly, the aforementioned doesn't compare to that).

:)

[Lynn]

When we were visiting back and forth, all I needed was a clean bed, a working shower, and a big, clean towel. Some breakfast food in the fridge and a working TV somewhere in the place were also nice. All the rest was icing on the cake.

[Rockinonahigh]

For ll the things I have in the house,its all just stuff..nice stuff but stuff just the same.I would be just as happy liveing way out in the country in a log cabin with a pot bellied stove and a home made bed.I do really live a more simple quiet life,the tv I watch is more to the tune of discovery,national geo,syfy,hallmark ect.I dont care to watch anything with blood n guts or things that are cruel and distasteful...keeps my mind at a calmer pace..use to horror shows were like u knew it was just a show but a bit scary ..now they are just to real for me to watch,I dont care to much for tear jerker movies either.
I have one lonely fern hanging is a basket that is well taken care of,but as im not good at growing thigs...black thimb hear..I would like to plant some fruit trees in the yard.I do have a small herb guarden growing in a large kids wagon in pots so if the weather isnt good I can take them out of harms way.
I haved always taken care of others but really have no idea how it would feel to have someone do that for me.

[Andrew, Jr.]

I apologize to anyone if I offended them by the usage of the word in my title "women".

Namaste,
Andrew

[Rook]

~looks around~....huh...
:glasses:

I do have plasma tv, in both living room and bedroom / I prefer tv in living room, be warned, closed captioning is permanently On, touch my captioning, we'll have issues...If the show or channel Lacks CC access & I have the remote, it gets changed...or I just find somethin' else to do {-eg-}

I have 2 different types of Coffeemakers, 3 si eres boricua como yo....

I like different types of Tea stocked in my Kitchen, I'm not fond of herbals..

I also like picking out Unique coffee mugs & Cups in small stores, so...take a pick...

I don't bother with spice racks, whatever spice I need, it must be accessible, and of course Functional...

I do stock up on scented candles *in case the Electric fails*, my preference is citrus n Sage, or whatever grabs my attention at the time of Purchase {I avoid fruity/food smells because that just makes me thirsty/hungry}
It's not very often I buy "incense", for 2 reasons, a} I'm asthmatic b} There has to be a compelling reason to buy it {prayer/ritual}...

I very rarely smoke, for obvious reason, if the visitor does, I'll explain and kindly show them to a part of the house where they *can*{outside, by the tree, if it's a pleasant day}...

I haz deh Ferrets, love me, love my fuzzies...

Books...Everywhere, in every room, of almost every subject, Books, drive-you-nuts-at-every-corner...Books.

My bathroom is small, but very clean[a mandatory, a MUST, borderline OCD!!!!] and comfortable, when on the phone with my boi, we refer to it as My "office"...And yes, I'm also picky about the TP....

There's no plants INSIDE, cuz of ~points to Ferrets, and Dog~ and I'm working on figuring what to plant above ground outdoors {my landlord has a stupid policy, if u Do get permission to plant anything, it has to stay there}

Same deal with my Hammock {fits 2 people, max weight 350 pds}

My food pantry stocks whatever tickles my fancy at purchase time..IBC root beer is a must, or creme soda, as is Pepperidge Farms orange Milanos...

Like Toughy, I don't use sanitary pads of any kind...Walking thru that aisle in itself is a very awkward experience for me, so...I'll happily visit the home improv. section while u browse kotex...

I'm still working on my Deck...
it shall be ....eventually...my magnum opus -strut- {if i dont skip town}

[Diva]

If I were invited into a guy's home for the first time....what I would love to see is/are:

~Books

~Tasteful art on the walls/shelves

~A clean bathroom (toilet paper/over, please....clean towels even hung, etc.)

~A home that reflects the person I have come to know (or believe I know)

~Simple, tasteful class.....extravagance is not needed to impress me ~ good taste is.

~The bed will be made (not that I would see it that first visit, but I would enjoy/appreciate a 'tour')

~A pleasant scent in the home

~A sense of pride in the owner's surroundings (again, that doesn't mean extravagance or tons of worldly possessions)

~A welcoming entry



Something like that.

[PinkieLee]

I'm an easy kind of girl...

Baked Cheetos
Diet Coke
Miller Lite or MGD 64

and Charmin toilet paper with Aloe ;)

:nothingtoadd:

[Chancie]

I apologize to anyone if I offended them by the usage of the word in my title "women".

Namaste,
Andrew


I wasn't offended at all, but I did assume that you were directing your question to butches and guys, and I didn't post what my Pete, a woman identified butch, loves about my home.

[Rockinonahigh]

Andrew
No problem buddy,like popeye I am what I am,just butchere that all get outs.

[Thinker]

..especially when they come to tell you how good the water tasted out of the toilet bowl...and dont think I havent tried everything to keep them from doing that...I have...they win.

Keeping the lid down???

[Soft*Silver]

you would think keeping the lid down would fix it. But a big knows no barriers, and they (the newf breed) are so genteel and honest of a personality, that they dont understand that it is wrong to drink from the inside watering hole. In fact, they come up to me and thank me for giving them such fresh cold water..as it drips out of the flews of their mouth. I have watched my newfie slide her nose under the lid and just slide her face down to drink. She didnt even bother to lift it up to stay. She figures if I want the seat down, the least she can do for such an accomodating Missus, is to slide the lid back down when she is done.

The newf is a water dog. Puppies fall asleep with their heads in water bowls. Adults join kids in their wading pools. Unlike finicky little dogs who cannot stand to step in water puddles, mine walk and plod right in them.

I have even tried to duct tape the lid and seat down. LOL. Oh no...they just have to work a little harder at it. And Story lays down in front of the bowl until its fixed so she can drink. Patience is her middle name and she can sit there for hours.

When I clean the bowl I literally have to lock her out of the bathroom. I could do that all the time, but the bathroom floor is the coolest tile there is. Being a long haired double coated breed adapted for weathers from Newfoundland Canada, cool tiles are cherished ground...

So i leave the seat and lid up and they drink. People who find a problem with this, well, sorry. Thats why I live alone...I wont let anyone tell me they love me and then turn around and berate my newf. Love me. Love my toilet drinking long tendrils of drool, smiling newfies!
Keeping the lid down???

[Thinker]

you would think keeping the lid down would fix it. But a big knows no barriers, and they (the newf breed) are so genteel and honest of a personality, that they dont understand that it is wrong to drink from the inside watering hole. In fact, they come up to me and thank me for giving them such fresh cold water..as it drips out of the flews of their mouth. I have watched my newfie slide her nose under the lid and just slide her face down to drink. She didnt even bother to lift it up to stay. She figures if I want the seat down, the least she can do for such an accomodating Missus, is to slide the lid back down when she is done.

The newf is a water dog. Puppies fall asleep with their heads in water bowls. Adults join kids in their wading pools. Unlike finicky little dogs who cannot stand to step in water puddles, mine walk and plod right in them.

I have even tried to duct tape the lid and seat down. LOL. Oh no...they just have to work a little harder at it. And Story lays down in front of the bowl until its fixed so she can drink. Patience is her middle name and she can sit there for hours.

When I clean the bowl I literally have to lock her out of the bathroom. I could do that all the time, but the bathroom floor is the coolest tile there is. Being a long haired double coated breed adapted for weathers from Newfoundland Canada, cool tiles are cherished ground...

So i leave the seat and lid up and they drink. People who find a problem with this, well, sorry. Thats why I live alone...I wont let anyone tell me they love me and then turn around and berate my newf. Love me. Love my toilet drinking long tendrils of drool, smiling newfies!

Wow. Interesting. I learned something new today!! :)

[Toughy]

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

(and S/He is also a great book by Minnie Bruce Pratt.........a kick ass femme who has written some great stuff)

[JustJo]

My sweetie hasn't yet been to visit me at my home, as much as I would like that. Because of work and child commitments, I'm the one logging the frequent flyer miles. :flying:

There are some sweet things she does for me when I'm there....and some I try to do for her...

:rrose: She always has diet coke and doritos...my two big weaknesses

:rrose: She is my chauffeur to the beach :beachkids: ...not in the house, but still a biggie :)

:rrose: scented candles

:rrose: and more important than anything else....her attention, affection and love

And for her....I try to make her a home-cooked meal (when she lets me :) ), bake some brownies or cookies...and give her a massage.

:awww:

[Massive]

You are such a stinker! Massive? Can't you do something about your woman? :whip:

No, sorry wax, I love her just the way she is!

[Thinker]

So, Thinker -- Tell us. What did you used to like to have when you were entertaining "The Lay-day's"? You know, before you got hitched.

Ohhhhhh.....let's see...

I don't know that it was any different for a lady caller than it would have been or has been for guests in general.

I always started out by finding what she wanted to have in the house (bathroom products, drinks, breakfast items). I made sure she had access to whatever she needed in the bathroom and that clean, fresh towels and linens were ready.

I once read that having, for example, towels out and ready for the guest was a big way to show her that she was welcome (could be him or her, obviously).....a guest shouldn't have to ask for things such as towels, toothpaste, etc... It should all be easily accessible.

I would have an extra blanket in the room, water beside the bed, a couple different shampoos and soaps... I learned the hard way (getting shamed once by a lady) to make at least one drawer available, plus room in the closet.

Really, it's the same as I do for guests we have in our home today.

I remember........a gazillion years ago......that a lady came to visit me (local situation...just a day visit). My best friend roommate at the time waited a good amount of time before finally offering the girl something to drink.

Because I never did!!!

I sucked at that sort of thing and didn't know the first thing about being a host. I think I was about 22 or 23. That incident was seared in my mind forever, and I made sure I did what I could to be a good and welcoming host.

You're always at a disadvantage when not on your home turf, so it's really huge for the host to do every possible thing to make the guest feel at ease and welcome. ...whether the visit is for "romance" or friendship or family.

[Gemme]

I'm going to Thinker's house. :thumbsup:

[Diva]

I'm going to Thinker's house. :thumbsup:



Me, too. <packin' my bags> (I know The Lady won't mind....I'll cook & bake when I get there! ;) )

[Thinker]

I'm going to Thinker's house. :thumbsup:

Me, too. <packin' my bags> (I know The Lady won't mind....I'll cook & bake when I get there! ;) )




C'mon then!!!! You are both most certainly welcome!

[Diva]

C'mon then!!!! You are both most certainly welcome!

<stockin' up the Diva~Mobile>


:choir:

[Kenna]

My favorite flavor of ice cream, please.

[Gemme]

C'mon then!!!! You are both most certainly welcome!

Weeee!

I can voucher for Diva's culinary talents. And she can bake a mean cookie too. :cookielove:

Red or white wine? House guests should never come empty-handed.

[SuperFemme]

power tools
books
porn
booze
shoes
fabulous kitchen ware
dogs
and of course...

ME!

[Kenna]

One of "your" comfy long sleeved, button up shirts that I can slip into after "you" leave for work early and I get to sleep in...

Or one that I get to slip on after I get out of the shower.... each must be lightly scented by "your" cologne.

[Bad_boi]

Ipod compatable stereo
Some neat posters
Over stuffed bookshelf
Comfy bed

[Ms Vixen]

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

...or you might use he... or she... depending on how your own personal construct theory runs.

I certainly use "he" for all butches... if they tell me that they prefer "she" I will use the title out of courtesy, but to me butch is "he", femme "she". This has held true for all of the butches and transguys I've known/dated, including those that identified as women. And in the case of the female identified butches I've known/dated, they understood and were comfortable with the fact that the "he" pronoun to me, and to them themselves in their interactions with me, honoured their butchness rather than their feminity.

Also not sure that we can assume that we know what the default pronoun is for all of the butches on this site.

Each to their own, diversity does make the world go round.

Cheers,


Ms V

[Thinker]

Weeee!

I can voucher for Diva's culinary talents. And she can bake a mean cookie too. :cookielove:

Red or white wine? House guests should never come empty-handed.

Whichever you two prefer... Neither I nor the lady drink wine. We can put away some cookies though!!!

[diamondrose]

I am going to just put it out there..

1. Clean Kitchen
2. Clean Bathroom
3. I always peekie in the fridge to check the cleanliness. :sorry:
4. Hand soaps
5. Dustless
6. A pet cat
7. Remote control fan haha
8. Art and photography are a big thing for me
9. big tubs
10. good company

[apretty]

and people want to know why the SHE is marginalized.

well here ya go:


I certainly use "he" for all butches... if they tell me that they prefer "she" I will use the title out of courtesy, but to me butch is "he", femme "she". This has held true for all of the butches and transguys I've known/dated, including those that identified as women. And in the case of the female identified butches I've known/dated, they understood and were comfortable with the fact that the "he" pronoun to me, and to them themselves in their interactions with me, honoured their butchness rather than their feminity.

Also not sure that we can assume that we know what the default pronoun is for all of the butches on this site.

Each to their own, diversity does make the world go round.

Cheers,


Ms V

[weatherboi]

ten more things i have for my Ms in the house

really soft blankets
space in closet to hang clothes, floggers and store shoes
a few empty drawers
shelf space in bathroom closet
all the makings for fresh veggie spring rolls
specific items for coffee her way
specific cereals
bananas
pnut butter
honey

[Chancie]

...or you might use he... or she... depending on how your own personal construct theory runs.

I certainly use "he" for all butches... if they tell me that they prefer "she" I will use the title out of courtesy, but to me butch is "he", femme "she". This has held true for all of the butches and transguys I've known/dated, including those that identified as women. And in the case of the female identified butches I've known/dated, they understood and were comfortable with the fact that the "he" pronoun to me, and to them themselves in their interactions with me, honoured their butchness rather than their feminity.

Also not sure that we can assume that we know what the default pronoun is for all of the butches on this site.

Each to their own, diversity does make the world go round.

Cheers,


Ms V

You're joking, right? Just to get a rise out of us?

[SuperFemme]

I want a pet pretentious twat. I shall name her Victor and make her do man jobs. It would be fun.

[Gemme]

Whichever you two prefer... Neither I nor the lady drink wine. We can put away some cookies though!!!

Juice it is, then! :)

Her chocolate chip cookies are off the chain (and I don't like many choc chip cookies)!!!

[Gemme]

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

(and S/He is also a great book by Minnie Bruce Pratt.........a kick ass femme who has written some great stuff)

I'll bite.

When I am not referring to a specific person, I do use he because that's the majority rule in my life. The majority of people I've partnered with, and tend to partner with, prefer he or hy over she.

As you mentioned, using he as a pronoun for a butch woman is not appropriate. If I were partnered with a butch woman or was making specific reference to someone I know who identifies as a butch woman, I would make sure to address them accordingly, whether it be she, shy, zi, ze, or whatever feels right to them.



Vixen, I certainly hope that your post wasn't made just to stir the pot. I chose not to quote it when answering you because, even though I've never had to fight within this community for my identity to be acknowledged, I found it offensive. I can be pretty dull about what's going on in others' heads, so if I'm up in arms about this, I can only imagine how hurtful your words are to other members of our community.

[UofMfan]

power tools
books
porn
booze
shoes
fabulous kitchen ware
dogs
and of course...

ME!

Will the power tools be used while watching porn? :blink:

My answer to this thread.

Common sense!

Being clean is not something to have for a woman or anyone for that matter it is the right thing to do. Keep clean sheets, bathroom, kitchens, etc for yourself and to show respect for others who may share your space.

Have the things that show your personality. If the woman loves you it is because of who you are, so must likely she is going to love your place.

Have things that she has requested, in case of a visit.

What you find in my home are pieces of me, my books, music, things that friends and family have given me, and the things that I enjoy like wine, coffee, and more books.

[Diva]

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

(and S/He is also a great book by Minnie Bruce Pratt.........a kick ass femme who has written some great stuff)


Since this thread is in The Trans Zone, and since I am primarily attracted to male~identified butches and/or transmen, I used "guy" (I believe) in my particular post. I did not include 'she' because I didn't feel the need to be inclusive.... as this is The Trans Zone.

[Rook]

• a Grill {the kind u cook on}

• Pepperidge Farms orange Milanos....

• Pepperidge Farms Sausalito Crunchy cookies {getting the message?}

♦ Functional LG front washer/dryer..

♦ Coffee....

♦ Tea

• Jelly Bellies {Mostly Popcorn and Pomegranite}

• Wide variety of CD/DVD

♦ Comfortable Furniture...period.

• Occasional bottle of Wine in a nicely Stocked Fridge.

:candle::mohawk:

[Toughy]

Since this thread is in The Trans Zone, and since I am primarily attracted to male~identified butches and/or transmen, I used "guy" (I believe) in my particular post. I did not include 'she' because I didn't feel the need to be inclusive.... as this is The Trans Zone.



Diva, you pointed out something I had not even noticed. I rarely ever look at where a thread is located in the forums. I didn't realize this was the 'trans zone'. Point taken.

-------
MsVixen just makes me mostly disgusted. I'm not at all surprised by her ignorance and lack of respect. However, that is not the first time a femme has said "all butches are he' to me...........the difference with this one is I read the words instead of them being said to my face. And it's not even the first time I have read those words.

Been there done that more than once.......*yawn*

[chefhottie25]

10 things that I would love to encounter while at femme's house



1. a clean bathroom
2.a clean well stocked kitchen...i am a chef and they always want me to cook
3.clean bedroom...with the bed made
4.a good collection of books
5.good background music
6.a dog
7.flat screen tv in the bedroom
8.a good bottle of wine from chile or argentina
9.plants that are actually alive and full
10.a nice place to sit outside

[Ms Vixen]

Apologies for the minor derailment. The discussion about he/she has been moved to the red zone.

Cheers,


Ms V

[Andrew, Jr.]

I almost fell over when I heard that Tipper and Al Gore were separating after 40 years of marriage. Wow. And to think that most of us would bend over backwards to make each other feel welcome just by talking online, meeting at bashes, parties, talking on the phone, and so on.

[Nat]

I have been especially pleased to find a nice deep tub and lots of bath goodies readily at hand. I rather like cluttered when it feels comfy and well-stocked, but I am sort of a brambly hedge mouse like that.

[Gemme]

In no particular order, I would like:

Food that I will eat
Beverages that I will drink
A place to sit free of stuff and tacks and junk
If I am staying overnight, a comfortable place to lay my head
Boardgames and dice somewhere in the house
Electronic connection (cell service, internet, etc)
Good smelling things (whether it's flowers or cologne or whatever)
Good feeling things (I like textures)
Pets are nice, but certainly not required
Photo albums or something along that line (I want to see where you come from)

[CrankyOldGuy]

Running water (with hot and cold), electrical hook-ups, logs for the fire, a kitten to wrestle the snakes, washroom, duct tape, rope, and booze.

don't forget the indoor plumbing!