Question for everyone

[sweetbutch26]

I was wondering how many of you believe in soulmates. that there is that one special person for everyone out there. that there is someone everyone is MEANT to be with. i'm kind of on the fence. just wanted to get opinions from others please and ty :)

[AtLast]

I was wondering how many of you believe in soulmates. that there is that one special person for everyone out there. that there is someone everyone is MEANT to be with. i'm kind of on the fence. just wanted to get opinions from others please and ty :)

I do. However, I believe we can have more than one throughout life. Lovers do die and we might want to pursue a relationship after this.

[Mister Bent]

No.

Utter poppycock.

[sweetbutch26]

No.

Utter poppycock.

LoL makes me think of prince poppycock on america's got talent

[sweetbutch26]

I do. However, I believe we can have more than one throughout life. Lovers do die and we might want to pursue a relationship after this.

very true. i've always felt that there is more then one person. even if the wrong one comes into your life it happened for a reason

[WolfyOne]

I used to think that, but as I age I don't anymore
It would be like saying forever and nothing, I mean nothing lasts forever

[sweetbutch26]

I used to think that, but as I age I don't anymore
It would be like saying forever and nothing, I mean nothing lasts forever

yes i know. but i was wondering if that whole "everything happens for a reason" is true

[Jet]

No.

Utter poppycock.

touche'........

[princessbelle]

I do. However, I believe we can have more than one throughout life. Lovers do die and we might want to pursue a relationship after this.

I agree with AT...I believe you can have more than one. It is beautiful when you find a soul mate and it is seeing the glass as half full to know you may have another.

[EnderD_503]

Nope, I don't believe in fate or soulmates. Of course, there are people in the world that a person will be most drawn to as far as interests, chemistry etc, but I don't see that as the result of fate/possessing a soulmate one was "meant" to be with.

[sweetbutch26]

I used to think that, but as I age I don't anymore
It would be like saying forever and nothing, I mean nothing lasts forever

Nope, I don't believe in fate or soulmates. Of course, there are people in the world that a person will be most drawn to as far as interests, chemistry etc, but I don't see that as the result of fate/possessing a soulmate one was "meant" to be with.

ty end. i kind of agree with that. it is something i been reflecting on a lot lately. thank you for your answer :)

[Tcountry]

yes i know. but i was wondering if that whole "everything happens for a reason" is true

Everything for sure happens for a reason...people come in and out of our lives when we need them. Not when we "want" them...painful sometimes but so true!

[WolfyOne]

What it all comes down to is an old saying, a reason, a season or a lifetime
It has nothing to do with fate or soulmates
You can turn it around any way you want or need it to fit

[Corkey]

Is there someone for everyone, yes. Is it the right one for you, perhaps, but only you will know when it happens.
In the meantime, have fun and date, date a lot, date often.
Good luck.

[Ebon]

She will find you when you are her are both ready. In the meantime relax and have fun. She will come running with a 2X4 and bop you upside the head. You will know it is her.

[sweetbutch26]

She will find you when you are her are both ready. In the meantime relax and have fun. She will come running with a 2X4 and bop you upside the head. You will know it is her.

i'll know she is the right one when i see stars if she bops me

[Nawen]

Nah.

Relationships are work* and believing in 'The One' would make me give up on anything that is 'less than' some imaginary perfection.
* not in a bad sense.

I do believe there are people we click with more than with others based on interest, views on life and similiar things... and those are the people that are worth working on the relationship with and making each of us the other person's soulmate.

For me it's tied with that 'I can't control your actions, I can only control my reactions to them' - it's not about the other person being this or that, it's about me viewing those qualities as good (or bad).

Hm, hope this made sense.

[MaggieBluIze]

She will find you when you are her are both ready. In the meantime relax and have fun. She will come running with a 2X4 and bop you upside the head. You will know it is her.

It really should not take that OB
(you have been pushing that in my head for a while my friend) ...
And yes, unfortunately,
that is sometimes what it takes to get you guys to look our way
(not even trying to push and ask for an approach, just a look and we can take over from there, if needed).
*thinking I need to seriously make a trip to Home Depot*
:kissy:

[sweetbutch26]

Nah.

Relationships are work* and believing in 'The One' would make me give up on anything that is 'less than' some imaginary perfection.
* not in a bad sense.

I do believe there are people we click with more than with others based on interest, views on life and similiar things... and those are the people that are worth working on the relationship with and making each of us the other person's soulmate.

For me it's tied with that 'I can't control your actions, I can only control my reactions to them' - it's not about the other person being this or that, it's about me viewing those qualities as good (or bad).

Hm, hope this made sense.

it did :p thank you much hun

[sweetbutch26]

It really should not take that OB
(you have been pushing that in my head for a while my friend) ...
And yes, unfortunately,
that is sometimes what it takes to get you guys to look our way
(not even trying to push and ask for an approach, just a look and we can take over from there, if needed).
*thinking I need to seriously make a trip to Home Depot*
:kissy:

LoL let me just grab my jacket and keys and i'm on my way :p

[jenny]

I think there's lots of potentially good relationships out there for most people, and that it's mostly a matter of chance and timing as to who you end up with.

[Tcountry]

My take on ppl...
There comes a point in your life when you realize:

Who matters,
Who never did,
Who won't anymore...
...And who always will.
So, don't worry about people from your past,
there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future...

[AtLast]

It really should not take that OB
(you have been pushing that in my head for a while my friend) ...
And yes, unfortunately,
that is sometimes what it takes to get you guys to look our way
(not even trying to push and ask for an approach, just a look and we can take over from there, if needed).
*thinking I need to seriously make a trip to Home Depot*
:kissy:

LOL...

Yanno, some butches are simply shy and well..... a little nudge is needed.

[Soft*Silver]

I have met and coupled with, at two seperate and different times in this life, a set of brothers who have travelled lives with me.

I have been in love more than once. And I intensely remember loves from other lives.

I do not believe in Once.

I do believe in soul mates.

soul mate, in my definition, is someone who impregnantes your soul and gives birth to a contination of the Infinite that we left behind when we came to this earth.

They inflate who you are simply by being who they are.

like the clap of a bell

or the fragrance of jasmine outside your door

the moment it arrives and presents itself to you, your Self responds

[Soft*Silver]

and soul mates do not mean forever in regard to this life. When met upon in a life, there is work to be done.

in the course of eternity, a lifetime or two working on evolution together does not take away from love

it is the very thing love is all about....

someone says there is no such thing as forever.

really?

no matter where I go, there I am

it doesnt matter who I am with, I am forever.

who I share that with is part of my life journey

I change partners alot in this life. There is reason for it and difficult to explain nor should I try in public forum.

I know each person brought to me more tools I needed

and since the universe wastes nothing, I too, brought many things to them that they needed

I can be quite the earth monkey, playing around and throwing bananas at the passerbyes

but really, I work hard spiritually on this earth

HARD

and I am never lost for love.

[DamonK]

Yes.

You can have more than one. Everyone that is brought into your life is there for a reason. There is something for you to learn from them and vice versa. When that is done, things change, and you part ways.

There are cases, though, that the lessons that were supposed to be learned are NOT learned, and though you've parted ways, you keep re-entering each other's lives.

However, soulmates don't necessarily have to be romantic.

Thus far, I've been fortunate enough to have 2.

[pajama]

Wow! Lot's of great responses here. Really enjoy reading what folks believe and why.

I think I have to agree most closely with Softness.

I do believe in soulmates, as the complement to who I am. But just because they're a soulmate doesn't mean there's no work involved.

Also, to me, the love with a soulmate feels different. I have loved and been in love with many people. I have only been in love to the depth that I identify as soulmate twice. Once with someone that I have been with over many lifetimes.

I do not follow the beliefs, however, that soulmates are the soul seperated, or even that the soulmate completes the person. More a complement, but mostly it is a depth of feeling.

But yes, I believe in them. And yes, I believe you can have more than one. Get out there and meet people, date, fall in love, and maybe if your lucky you will come across one, maybe two, that will make that unique connection.

A

[girl_dee]

my soul doesn't need a mate.

I prefer to think of partners as lifemates.. some come for a short time in life.. others a lifetime.. I find the term *soulmate* so overused it has no meaning.

there is no right or wrong but I don't believe in mating my soul.

I think some people have a *lustmate* and confuse this with *soulmate*...

[AtLast]

I am a fortunate person. I learned from two people that were indeed, soulmates, my parents, that this is possible. And from a relationship of my own. Now, that doesn't mean that give and take isn't needed, or that it all is smooth all of the time. And we have to want to take this journey and nourish it.

[MysticOceansFL]

Yes I strongly believe that there is someone out there for everyone and maybe you just haven't met yet but I was in a six year relationship the love of my life so I had thought . But things happen for a reason and now I've been single for quite sometime and I am sure one day I will meet another who will share my life through good an or bad times. :glasses:

[Trinity3]

I was wondering how many of you believe in soulmates. that there is that one special person for everyone out there. that there is someone everyone is MEANT to be with. i'm kind of on the fence. just wanted to get opinions from others please and ty :)

I absolutely believe that there is one person, that is the other half of your soul...I believe that they are your Twin Flame, one soul split into two bodies. Soulmates are people I believe that you have had been involved with in past lives (if you believe that, I do) that you have not yet completed the lesson with them and you will continue to cross path with soulmates until you learn that particular lesson intended.

However, twin flames, I believe is the exact other half of your soul and when you meet that person that the two half immediately know and feel it, it goes beyond chemistry, beyond that initial "Wow they're hot!" attraction. I believe it shows itself like the world stops for a split second when you see each other or moves in slow motion. It suddenly and without explanation feels as if you have become complete, like a void has been filled. You know what the other is thinking, say what they were about to say etc. There is a balance between you that just seems to fit in all ways.

So yes, I believe in *Twin Flames*

[Tcountry]

my soul doesn't need a mate.

I prefer to think of partners as lifemates.. some come for a short time in life.. others a lifetime.. I find the term *soulmate* so overused it has no meaning.

there is no right or wrong but I don't believe in mating my soul.

I think some people have a *lustmate* and confuse this with *soulmate*...





I do respect your opinion...however I have to disagree...
*soulmate* is the one person who knows you all the way down to the core of your being...
Your smile, your voice tones, your secrets, your flaws...& loves you Because of them...
The person with whom you can communicate with (without words) no matter where you are or what situation you are in, be it alone in the bedroom or hosting a wonderful party with all of your friends...
They know when you need to be alone or when you need a hug and everything in between, & do and say just the right things at just the right moments...
& the only person who can make you smile when you really want to cry...
YES...it is rare to have someone know you so well...and you know them that well in return...but definitely someone who really makes you FEEL complete, not just happy or full of lust...but complete! *soft smile*

[skeeter_01]

I absolutely believe in soulmates! and I also believe that you can have more than one in your lifetime...

i was with my ex for 12 years...she was the love of my life...my soul mate...she knew me better than I knew me and she loved me anyway...

right now I'm single and I believe that someday I'll have that kind of love in my life again..and I won't settle for less!! and I would hope that the lovely lady in question wouldn't settle either!

[MaggieBluIze]

LOL...

Yanno, some butches are simply shy and well..... a little nudge is needed.

Well, some femmes are shy too ... But try to get over shyness and start the nudging ... How about y'all start looking for the looks and the nudges and help us out a little! :)

[Tcountry]

AND of course....being 90% of the comments on their CP page in one day...really helps :flowers:

[naturlover_52]

I don't understand what U meant

[sweetbutch26]

Well, some femmes are shy too ... But try to get over shyness and start the nudging ... How about y'all start looking for the looks and the nudges and help us out a little! :)

i would nudge but half the time i'm clueless. sometimes we butches need a good whack to the back of the head.

[Tcountry]

I don't understand what U meant

Well natur...if a femme dominates your reputation comments page...u may want to make some moves on her...that's all I am saying! ;)

[ravfem]

i do believe in soul mates, and also that there can/will be more than one in a lifetime.

i also believe that even if you've found a soul mate, it doesn't mean it's going to work out romantically. And....just because one of you feels that the other is a soul mate doesn't necessarily mean that the other feels the same.

Others have said nothing lasts forever. i think that no romantic relationship lasts forever, but i do know that for me, my first (and so far only) soul mate started out as a friendship and tried to move to a relationship that sooooo did not work.

She & i have had our ups & downs over the years...and i think (though i hope with all my heart i'm wrong) that we wont be speaking again because of a huge, huge misunderstanding... but that doesn't change the fact she is my soul mate. She always will be.

Like others, i believe all relationships, whether romantic or not, no matter the length of time you interact with them...are brought to us to learn and grow. There is meaning to everything important, whether we grasp the meaning or not.

[girl_dee]

I do respect your opinion...however I have to disagree...
*soulmate* is the one person who knows you all the way down to the core of your being...
Your smile, your voice tones, your secrets, your flaws...& loves you Because of them...
The person with whom you can communicate with (without words) no matter where you are or what situation you are in, be it alone in the bedroom or hosting a wonderful party with all of your friends...
They know when you need to be alone or when you need a hug and everything in between, & do and say just the right things at just the right moments...
& the only person who can make you smile when you really want to cry...
YES...it is rare to have someone know you so well...and you know them that well in return...but definitely someone who really makes you FEEL complete, not just happy or full of lust...but complete! *soft smile*


Thanks for your thoughts and words here.. I love all the interaction around this sort of thing...i love deep thinking and it's very hard to come by!

I just see this person you described above ( very nicely put and I believe we these people do exist for us) as my "lifemate", my partner, my forever (and I have found just this person so I do feel so fortunate,) but I just don't see a person as a *soul*mate..maybe it's the way the term is tossed around so easily that it really has no substance for me.. .to me this person you have described this is someone I have chosen to share my life with, but my soul is deeper than a human relationship. I've thought about this subject many times and I *think* that i feel that if my *soul*mate and I were to divorce, ( to believe this could not happen even in the best of relationships is not realistic to me) my soul would be damaged forever, that my very spirit would just curl up and die.. I just can't comprehend that.

I suppose this probably makes no sense ..LOL. Maybe at the end of the road, after we have been together for 100 more years, I will look back and say yes.. This was my soulmate, but I doubt it. I want my soul independent of a partnership. My head, my heart my body is all theirs, but my soul is not coming out to pair up LOL. I just can't bring myself to allow my soul to be that vulnerable,, its my higher self.... I mean how do you know this person IS your "soulmate" until after the lifetime has passed?

Maybe we all have a different opinion of what a *soul* is? And this is a great thing...I view my soul as my spirit, my mind, my I AM, it makes me who I am, and hopefully my spirit is loved and embraced by my partner ( I sure love his!) , I just feel that no matter what happens with my partner, my soul would be in tact (however deeply heartbroken ) and would continue to steer my spirit through life.. and I would hope theirs would too. In other words I guess I see a soul as a driving force that brings us to each other.. for the happily ever after. Relationships are formed and the the individuals embrace each other's spirits.. I don't see them as combined spirit/soul. . does that make any sense to anyone? LOL

[chefhottie25]

i believe in soulmates...however i don't believe that finding one means that you need to be in a love relationship with them. i have a friend who i consider to be one of my soulmates. we share an incredible friendship and love each other. we just don't share a physical attraction to each other. i do appreciate his good looks...but he is a straight guy. i have no desire to be with him in that way. i also think there are meant to be relationships throughout your life. someone that is meant to share that part of your life with you. if it lasts forever that is beautiful...but i don't think it has to last forever in order to qualify as a meant to be relationship. i hope that i expresses my thoughts clearly.

[Tcountry]

[QUOTE=sassy_girl;196117]

I've thought about this subject many times and I *think* that i feel that if my *soul*mate and I were to divorce, ( to believe this could not happen even in the best of relationships is not realistic to me) my soul would be damaged forever, that my very spirit would just curl up and die.. I just can't comprehend that. [QUOTE]

[COLOR="Blue"]I totally understand...I do have a few things to say to the *soulmate* part though. I think we do get caught up in this equal oppisite spirit in a person Having to be our one true Romantic partner...and therefore confused with chemestry...
I think you said it best when you said "I just can't bring myself to allow my soul to be that vulnerable"...and that is the isue when we are just thinking about a partner...not allowing ourselves to open up our souls...& not fully trusting this person is going to love us(or us them for that matter) unconditionally forever...
I am 100% sure that an equal opposite soul of mine is my best friend...we have that unconditional aspect and have had it for 9yrs, even though romantically not partnered with each other, but when u can go months or even yrs without seeing each other but yet still be able to pick up the phone no matter the hour and talk like you just saw each other yesterday...that's something...
Sorry there is so much more to it...but I cannot find the right words to explain everything...but it does involve you being completly vulnerable, honest, and trusting of another soul...& know that no matter what...Nothing is going to come between that connection...so you don't have to worry about the damage or loss, cause there isn't any...

[undone]

long winded i know but hear goes ;)

Soul mates…..
:deepthoughts:

Well in my own way yes. But in my own way. I have a soul mate she is my soul mate because she gets me knows all of my flaws and weaknesses and loves me still totally and completely even when I am a complete ass. She has been the friend in high school that I would have traded anything to switch her for my sister (if you had a little sister less than three years younger you know why) she is the one person who looked at me and said so what's you point when I came out. Never batted an eye or lost a step. I would defend her and her children with my life if it ever came down to it. She is the one person I can depend on or trust in this world no matter what happens. She is closer than any family I have ever known. I know it is the same for her.

A soul mate in a life partner? Maybe, some have found that kind of love I pray, I hope to someday. But in thought not feelings and emotions, I have to compare to history and my experience of course.
Marriage did not start out as a thing of love, it was a way for families to barter or combine for power wealth land title or just for survival purposes. Helping to run a farm and be able to have clean clothes or hot food on the table. She was there to comfort and his role was to provide. And then love came into it, a little more but of course parents had their say about whom would be acceptable, could she help build a strong family, keep a household running, be an asset to his character and reputation. Did he come from a good stock, will he tow the line, and again provide for her.
Then a little more heart and soul were permitted in to the choosing dating was becoming acceptable, and how they felt about each other began to take root and role in the choices, but even when a poor choice had been made they were not permitted to undo the vows once taken, when divorcé became more common and more acceptable then of course that leads to today. Where some marry many, many times or commit many times to various others or sometimes we do need a do over to learn what not to do and what does or does not work, and that second marriage or commitment is the on of a life time.

So in the end I do believe in soul mates but I don’t think they are always meant as spouses. I believe that our spouses and lovers come and go for reasons a time a season, and sometimes we just grow in different directions, and our needs change to something that the relationship can not fulfill as terribly sad as that is. I have experienced this twice in my stint on this planet so far, and I hope to have the opportunity to meet some one wonderful again that I can share with and grow with. I have learned how ever that forever well just is not a practical thought the way I believed it would be several times before. Ohh but wouldn't it be lovely to find some one who can help me to be a believer again :D


And hear come Mike Peter and Davey singing in my head :doh:

XfuBREMXxts

[storyofmylife]

i'll know she is the right one when i see stars if she bops me

Lol!....:seeingstars:

[Tcountry]

It is for sure possible for a soulmate to be a spouse tho.
Sunshine & I frequently tell each other "get out of my head"...but it is so much deeper than that.
When u can sense what the other is feeling...
When you call & it just so happens to be perfect timing...
When you are apart & it feels like part of you is missing...
When you hug for the first time & feel as tho that is exactly where you belong...

Yet I do understand.
I understand being absolutely skeptical....until you have it.
Cause then...there is not a doubt in your mind.

[redrose]

I do believe in soulmates,,, I believe we could only have just one in this lifetime...
She's the one who can see me crystal clear ...
(f)

[storyofmylife]

I enjoyed reading everyone's feedback!

For me.........

spending almost or a lifetime and in some case,sadly , till death do us part with unconditional devotions and to know that our love was a gift from God above.:candle:

[Daktari]

Yanno, I've felt I've had real special connections with a good handful of girls along the way...soulmate-ish stuff going on, that knowing what they're going to say, the freaky 'i was just gonna call you too' stuff. Then ya find way down the line that they weren't really what you thought.

However, I've found two fantastic women thus far in my 47yr life who I consider to be my soulmate, my true family. They will always be in my life, we will always care deeply about each other no matter where we end up. One I've had to let go of to see if she comes back - however she's not gone away yet!

I still share a house with the woman who I consider the great love of my life, I wasn't ready for her when I had her and lost her as a partner which was no bad thing really, we should never have been lovers. We're 'siblings', that's what we should have been from the start but I love her deeply and always will.

The soul-mate thang is pie in the sky, white picket fence thinking but there will always be those extra special people in our lives that will make us believe in abstract concepts and fairy dust.

[Quintease]

If soul mates exist, then mine is now :)

I'm not convinced however, were I to have met him 5/10/15 years ago, would he have been the right person then? 5 years ago I thought I'd met the love of my life. 10 years ago I didn't wish to settle down with anyone, I was too busy running and 15 years ago I would never have understood his gender struggles.

I believe that the right person comes at the right time, but are they your soul mate? If life waits for love, then maybe.

[Guy]

I was wondering how many of you believe in soulmates. that there is that one special person for everyone out there. that there is someone everyone is MEANT to be with. i'm kind of on the fence. just wanted to get opinions from others please and ty :)

The way this question was asked reminds me of when I was little and my parents asking me If I believed in Santa

I knew if I said no, then I wouldn't get any presents, so I always said yes, that I did believe.

So yeah I believe in soulmates.

[little_ms_sunshyne]

I didnt use to believe in soulmates or fairytales. I didnt like how what I thought was "love" felt. When I first met T, something happened. We hadnt even met yet and there was this ridiculous connection. A connection that scared me. The day came when T stood outside my home and as I appoached all of a sudden the world felt as if it stopped! We were frozen! It was unlike anything I had experienced before. T, the skeptic, stood there silent for quite a bit. I tell hym all the time that hy looked at me as if though a Smurf was approaching lol Everything just seemed to fit into place. A true moment of Serendipity. Now, anytime hy has to leave I feel like a piece of me is missing. Anytime my day is at its worst, my phone rings and it is hym calling. Hy understands me like no one else does. WE ARE OPPOSITES! But what is opposite about one only seems to compliment the other even more.

It may not always be a lover that is your soulmate. Perhaps it is a best friend or a companion.

Perhaps, soulmates don't exist. But if they don't, I dont want to know. lol I take comfort in knowing that there is someone out there for everyone that brings them this type of happiness.

[Glenn]

I believe they do exist because I believe in reincarnation of the Soul. If you have unfinished business with someone whether for good or evil, they will return. By unfinished business I mean having strong emotions about them, or thinking about them for the rest of your life. I believe we will attract those who we have loved greatly, and/or done wrong to, or they you, and cannot forget. That is why closure and forgiveness are so important on a Soul level, so you do not attract the ones who have given you troubles over and over, repeating the scene until you pass the cosmic test of love, which is not revenge, bitterness, or hate, but rather peaceful unattachment and letting them go.

[Ciaran]

I don't believe in a soulmate in the sense of there being one "special person" for everyone out there - but I do believe that certain people will come into each of our lives for a reason and, similarly, that each of us will come into others' lives for a reason.

Why and for what reason? I don't think we usually know until much later, if at all.

[Stud_puppy1991]

i believe in it, I just have yet to find mine.

[Jar]

I don't believe in much of anything anymore for me personally, but I do believe there are soulmates for some people

[LaneyDoll]

I do. However, I believe we can have more than one throughout life. Lovers do die and we might want to pursue a relationship after this.

I agree with this fully! The person I was with at 18 is NOT suited for me at 38.

I believe in soulmates. I believe that it is worth the time/effort to find yours and keep them. I know, I am a hopeless romantic but I refuse to believe that the great romance of my life was found at 18 and gone (as in no longer together) before I owned up to my true self.

I read this passage all the time and I find it to be reassuring. (I swear, I wish I has written this. It did, however, inspire the piece that I consider to be one of my best written works ever.)

"Some times I feel there is a hole inside of me, an emptiness that at times, seems to burn. I think if you lifted my heart to your ear, you could probably hear the ocean. In the moon tonight, there's a circle around it-a sign of trouble not far behind. I had this dream of being whole-of not going to sleep each night wanting, but still sometimes, when the wind is warm or the crickets sing, I dream of a love that even time will lie down and be still for. I just want someone to love me. I want to be seen. I don't know. Maybe I have had my happiness. I want to believe it but, there is no one. Only that moon."

[LipstickLola]

I believe in soul mates, but I also believe you don't necessarily have to be romantically linked to that person.

[Rox]

I was wondering how many of you believe in soulmates. that there is that one special person for everyone out there. that there is someone everyone is MEANT to be with. i'm kind of on the fence. just wanted to get opinions from others please and ty :)

Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace. I believe:sunglass:

[Talon]

No, I don't believe that is everyone's path on the planet...for some, yes..but not all.

[~ocean]

soulmate there is one in our lives ..a freind cane be a soulmate .. a lover as well. there r many levels of love, and we can love many times in a life time. if u wait for that one person to come along .. u r missing many oppertunitys to experience a lover .. who can become ur soulmate.. even if u never have a soulmate ..that doesnt mean u didnt love to ur fullest, or have been loved .. enjoy life ~ ocean :)

[Gráinne]

Short answer: no. I think the idea is out of romantic novels and movies.

Longer answer (and you knew it was coming! ;)): I think there are any number of people that we could be happy with in a relationship. I think compatitibility and committment are much more important than that "instant connection". Attraction is instant, real love takes a boatload of work.

I also don't believe in finding one's "better half" or the someone to "complete" you, or fill up some emptiness inside. I believe instead you better well be complete and filled on your own before you even try to find someone. To search around for completion or someone to fill in the blanks is asking for an unhealthy relationship.

[agape]

I do believe in soul-mates. I do believe in fate.
I also do believe that relationships need work, always.
But I wouldn't want to miss all the lovely people I might meet while "waiting" for a soul-mate.
Also, I'm not sure the soul-mate will always come... (you never know, they might get stuck in traffic, the world is a big place... etc)

[Daktari]

I believe there are people who are in your life at the right times but definitely don't believe in one 'true' love or 'soulmate'...too much white picket fence thinking for me.

I'm lucky enough to have had 2 great loves in my life...in amongst the numbers who weren't 'great loves'.

I don't understand making one person your everything. Jeepers! what a pressure to put on someone! I would hate to someone's everything; as a human being I can't live up to that job because I'm dreadfully flawed.

[Bad_boi]

Naw. I think that sort of thing is silly.

[puddin']

I b'lieve people come into your life to teach you a lesson. pure and simple...

[MysticOceansFL]

I firmly believe everyone has a soul mate and if your single Or been single a while that doesn't mean there's no one out there for you just means that the time isn't there yet for you to meet her or her meet you. Just enjoy life, friends, and family and let happen when it happens.

[akiza]

I was wondering how many of you believe in soulmates. that there is that one special person for everyone out there. that there is someone everyone is MEANT to be with. i'm kind of on the fence. just wanted to get opinions from others please and ty :)

hi ^^ what a question yes 'cause i'm a great romantic under the surface and belive that someone's waiting for you even if the garanty of your encounter is incertain so i can be happy with a mate for life

[girl_dee]

i don't think a soul actually needs or obtains a mate, but i get people stay together for life. i am not one of them.

[Chained Daisy]

This may be a bit of a contradiction in terms but....I do believe in soul mates but I dont think all soul mates are `lifelong` soul mates. Some years ago I thought I had found mine and thinking back to how we were I do believe we were soulmates in that time but circumstances changed, so did we, individually and as a couple. When we parted we were in no way soulmates even though it was a gentle and for the most part dignified end to `US`. I still think of Hym as my soulmate of that time and am so grateful to have had Hys love and for the person I became because of Hym. (f)

[Lyte]

I sure hope there isn't a single perfect person (aka soul mate) for everyone. I can see that leading to some wondering if there's something better out there at the first bumps in a relationship. Relationships need work... some more than others ... but work nevertheless.

[Deborah*]

Yes, I believe in soulmates. But finding that person... is another thing indeed. It's possible it may not happen.

Deborah