The Things You Wish You Had Not Done [Archive]

Jesse

10-23-2010, 11:19 PM

katsarecool

10-23-2010, 11:26 PM

I wish I had spent a lot less time listening to others tell me how to live my life.
I wish I had taken the time to realize that I wasted many years not listening to my gut feelings about so many things rather than giving others the benefit of doubt.
I wish that I had been less generous in my life. Now that I am living on limited income and those folks are no longer around nor did they appreciate it; I could sure use that cash!!!
I wish I had spent more time with my mother.
Other than this I have no more real regrets. This is a great thread!

Rockinonahigh

10-24-2010, 10:53 AM

I wish I had listened more and talked less.
I wish I had spent less on crazie ideas.
I wish I had taken better care of my health,now im paying for it.
I wish I had bought more land and less horses...would have worked out better.
I wish I had stoped trying to prove something cause I didnt need to,I was fine the way I was.
So much more ,but later.

Guy

10-24-2010, 11:09 AM

I wish I wasn't sitting at that red light when the truck behind me plowed into me.

Jet

10-24-2010, 11:49 AM

I don't regret anything when I was young. It was good a time.

Kobi

10-24-2010, 12:07 PM

I wish I hadn't grown up. The 20's were an awesome time!

Blade

10-24-2010, 12:10 PM

I wished I hadn't tried for so many years to make others proud of me when I know now I'm all that matters.

I wished I'd NEVER said I do, when I knew from the beginning I really didn't want to.

I wish I had not stopped in town the evening Cindy died.

Sure I wish I hadn't wasted some of the money I've spent over the years.

All in all I've learned much from my mistakes in my life and there are only a few things I can honestly say I wish I had not done.

Gemme

10-24-2010, 12:24 PM

I wish I had not done a lot of things....marry to get out of an abusive home....spend money wastefully....make poor decisions regarding trust....as I am sure that I could get to where I am now without many of them. I'd be much better off, I dare say.

Jet

10-24-2010, 01:00 PM

There was only one time I ignored warning signs; it damn near cost me my life.

Greyson

10-24-2010, 01:12 PM

Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older?

For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol.

I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me.

I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did.

Ditto and what has helped me is to also realize the positive things that have come from some of my past choices. I had some life lessons to learn. I never stop learning. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.

bigbutchmistie

10-24-2010, 01:14 PM

Buried My Mother

Jesse

10-24-2010, 01:27 PM

I started this thread because I feel that it's important to know what our regrets are, so that we understand better where we are and why, and what, if anything, we want to change about it.

I truly appreciate everyone's honesty. Sometimes I can see myself clearer through others and their experiences. For this reason, I am truly thankful for each and everyone one of your replies.

Jesse

Chancie

10-24-2010, 01:29 PM

I wish I had been bolder, experimented more, fooled around more, been braver about trying new things.

I wish I hadn't always worried about being a good girl, and that I had done more that was dangerous and a little risky.

I wish I taken a cross country road trip, and that I had slept with more unsuitable butches, and drunk more tequila.

cuddlyfemme

10-24-2010, 01:36 PM

i wish i hadn't spent some of my money the way i did

Converse

10-24-2010, 01:52 PM

I wished I hadn’t believed that time was running out and always rushed to find out what was behind every corner. Though I’m grateful that I have experienced more than many because of it, I often wonder if I missed making the most of what was around me because I was always too busy packing and planning for the next leg of my journey.

IrishGrrl

10-24-2010, 02:01 PM

I rarely have regrets. I have learned that every action has shaped who I am as a person, and I like who I am today.

In my 20's

I wish I hadnt taken a bath in Lysol because I thought I had chiggers and read on the internet it was a home remedy.

:seeingstars:

Jesse

10-25-2010, 11:16 AM

BUMP........

Soft*Silver

10-25-2010, 03:44 PM

I wish I hadnt believed the lies I suspected were lies

I wish I hadnt stopped working on my credentials.

I wish I hadnt been sitting at that red light where that semi hit me in the front and then in the back (nodding to the Guy in Florida)

I wish I hadnt used that damn hand held gas powered fence auger by myself that almost tore off my right arm

I wish I hadnt fallen off my horse and broke my tailbone, broke ribs, suffered a head concussion, detached retinas, and lost my hearing for two weeks

I wish I hadnt been such a piss poor mother to my child when I was drinking. I am so glad I am a much better mother now.

dixie

10-25-2010, 03:58 PM

I wish I hadn't fallen into the "do what's expected of you" trap that involved the marriage (to an abusive deadbeat loser) and the (falling down) white picket fence. I wasted so much time by trying to hide the "real" me...

I wish I had gone on to college instead of working 3 jobs to support the deadbeat, the deadbeat's juvenile delinquent teenage sister, and the deadbeat's drug-addicted homeless uncle. My son and I would be much better off right now if I had finished all my schooling early.

I wish I had taken better safeguards with my finances, instead of getting completely hijinxed and railroaded from the identity theft by both the deadbeat and deadbeat's sister. (I'm still finding out about credit cards from 10 years ago that I never knew existed...)

I wish I had never believed the old saying drummed into me by my family, of "you've made your bed now lie in it..."

Kenna

10-25-2010, 04:35 PM

...wish I would have listened to my best friend and not have paid for a particular ticket.... she's very wise and knew I was wasting my money because there was no guarantee and it was sold "as/is".

....wish I wouldn't have left the Logistics field....I'd be an Operations Manager by now.

....wish I would not have wasted (spent so fast) the lump sum of money that I got last fall from my "retirement refund". Even if most of it went to bills and rent, I should have rolled it over into a Roth IRA (especially since I have no retirement fund after struggling as a single parent) and/or spent some to purchase my COBRA insurance. Yeah, I wish I woulda kept my insurance.

....after having insurance for 8 years, I wish I would not have waited so long to see a specialist about my Lupus...or left PA without talking to either of my doctors.

(dinner's almost ready, catch up with ya later...)

Random

10-25-2010, 04:41 PM

I wish I had gone straight to college after high school..

but then again, if I did that, then I would have been on the wrong coast to get pregnant with my son...

hmmmm...

No... Every mistake I made, every regret I might have has led me to where I am and who I am now...

Nina

10-25-2010, 04:51 PM

I've released myself from looking back...I can not turn back time...
it is counterproductive (for me) to live looking over my shoulder when I want to be moving forward with clarity of vision and strength of purpose...

I am not always able to achieve this goal, but I try...I wish to put my energy into meeting these goals rather than being sidetracked by hindsight and hindered by regrets...

Glenn

10-25-2010, 05:09 PM

THE DAMN CIGGIES:mohawk:

vixenagogo

10-25-2010, 06:16 PM

"There is nothing for you to go back and live over, or fix, or feel regret about now. Every part of your life has unfolded just right. And so - now - knowing all that you know from where you now stand, now what do you want? The answers are now coming forth to you. Go forth in joy, and get on with it."

-abraham-hicks

Corkey

10-25-2010, 07:11 PM

There is nothing I did that has not brought me here.
There are a whole lot of things that happened that I wish hadn't, like getting t boned in my car, but all of the things that happened, made me stronger and able to face the things that go wrong, with honor and compassion.
Things happen for a reason, we often don't know the reason for it, but I believe it is how we adapt that makes us who we are.

Tcountry

10-25-2010, 08:09 PM

Everything happens for a reason...gives opportunities to learn and grow...I could wish I hadn't done a lot of things but then again what fun would that be? ;)

Goes along with one of my favorite quotes: "You don't find life worth living; You make it that way!"

How boring it would be without the learning...

rlin

10-25-2010, 08:12 PM

my my my
what i wouldnt give to be able to erase just a few stoopid moments in my life...

but... im stuck with them... and the consequences that i left myself with...

would i rather not have the regret... of course not...
but... people in hell would rather not be there either...
so i guess i will just have to deal withem...

Bard

10-25-2010, 08:12 PM

Listened more been a better friend.. stopped trying to e what everyone else thought I should have been, not been a player taken the keys from her that last night.. just wish I would have taken the time to find me. I know the slips we make along the way shape us make us who we are but I think I could have done it better.. ahh regrets bitter pill:cigar2:

bright_arrow

10-25-2010, 08:55 PM

I'd say I am sorry I screwed up my credit so bad, but it's taught me to be more careful of my finances and don't impulse buy (in big amounts, at least.. and okay maybe I still wish I hadn't a little, but that was 3-5 years ago and I have paid off every account - with documentation to prove so - and pay my bills on time if not ahead now)

I'd say I am sorry I dropped out of college, but I did so to take care of my partner

I'd say I am sorry I ignored the red flags, but it showed me that was a path and type of person I didn't want to follow

I'd say I am sorry I didn't meet you sooner, but I had to learn to love myself and more importantly, stand up for myself

So really, the only thing I wish I hadn't done was starting smoking a long time ago - but I have given it up again and doing my damnedest to stick to it.

WhiteTigress

10-25-2010, 09:11 PM

Just wish I hadn't been suckered by the people who suckered me.

My fault for being so trusting.

WT

Miss Scarlett

10-26-2010, 04:44 AM

Non, je ne regrette rien!

http://youtu.be/0YkLq6J_6cA

CrankyOldGuy

12-18-2010, 08:16 AM

to have sold my house sooner :praying:

Tommi

12-18-2010, 08:48 AM

had not gone to sleep at the wheel and killed my car

had not puked on that CHP's Motorcycle boots. .blah

Blade

12-18-2010, 09:15 AM

I wish I had never gotten Plantar fasciitis in both feet and then a partially torn achilles tendon. The last 3 yrs of being very sedentary for me has cost me about 60 or 70 pounds and I know it will take a miracle to get it back off of me.

justkim

12-18-2010, 09:29 AM

Taken the ride that guy offered, when I was walking home...
As for the rest...
If I would not have done those things I wouldn't be the person I am today...
Isn't there a saying about, you would rather have loved than lost than to never have loved at all... I can't remember who said it or if I have even said it right but I would rather take a risk and risk it all than never have tried...
Live with no regrets!

katsarecool

12-18-2010, 09:32 AM

Oiler41

12-18-2010, 09:33 AM

I wish I had finished college the first time around. It only took me until I was in my early 40's to finish my Master's degree, lol. But still, I did it!

I wish I had met my beautiful wife sooner in life, but I do cherish every moment we have; we both had a path to travel to get to where we are and our lives crossed when the timing was perfect!

I wish I would have talked to my mom more; questions about my family and no one left alive with the answers.

I wish I hadn't moved to where I did when I finally left my hometown. I'd have a lot more money toward retirement were it not for that HUGE mistake. In the end, its going to cause me to have to work a few more years than planned, but overall, I'm still in pretty good shape!

All in all, I try to live with as few regrets as possible. I have a few lasting ones, but not many. Sometimes I might think something is a regret in the moment, but the advantage of hindsight usually lets me know that it was not a regret at all, but was instead exactly what was supposed to happen, and what needed to happen!

Great Thread!

Glynn

morningstar55

12-18-2010, 09:36 AM

wishing I had not continued with this trucking on the road, last spring when i had the chance to get out of it..... *sigh*

Hack

12-18-2010, 09:49 AM

I have no regrets. Nothing you can say or do can change the past. I take each day as it comes, live it completely, and move on to the next. I can't dwell on my mistakes. I can't think too much about my future. I'd rather live it a day at a time.

afixer

12-30-2010, 08:14 AM

I wish I would have told way before I did.

Venus007

12-30-2010, 08:34 AM

Things I regret from my 20s. . .
I like who I am today and the choices I made and the things I have endured have made me who I am today. I would not change a large thing. For the small things. . . .

Bought that E-Bay stock
Bought that Google stock
Danced even more than I already did
Avoided smoking cigarettes
Slept with more women
Took more chances (not the illegal kind but the life kind)
Learned to love myself better sooner
Wore more daring clothes back then

I have settled so much more into myself as I age (I am 43) and I wish I could impart that understanding to my younger self, I would have had so much more fun, so many more adventures if I knew then what I know now.

princessbelle

12-30-2010, 09:01 AM

I wish i had never been a disappointment...to anyone.

lipstixgal

12-30-2010, 09:17 AM

I wish I would have studied nursing but still can its just going to take some time...:(

Blade

01-04-2011, 07:58 PM

bite my dang thumbnail down to the quick OUCH

Kenna

01-04-2011, 08:36 PM

I wish I had not lost touch with my only brother...especially at a time when he needed me the most. I regret loosing a chance at that early bond, becoming a family, getting to watch him become a father and getting to watch his baby girls grow up. I missed out on so much because I wasn't mature enough to handle raising a head-strong teenager that had never known a stable home and who's mother was more worried about the numerous men in her life. I should have been the stable, secure, strong, understanding, mature family/foster mother that he needed.

In my early 20's, I was too hot-headed, immature and had made several bad choices/decisions that didn't affect me and me alone.... it also affected my son and my brother and now has had a trickle down effect.

I miss being a Big Sister to my brother and now am missing out on watching my nieces grow up.

asphaltcowboi

01-04-2011, 08:39 PM

i wish i had never rode my motorcycle after drinking and run threw the guardrail at 65mph!! (10 yrs ago)

Soft*Silver

01-04-2011, 09:10 PM

I wish I had not moved out of state twice for LDRs

Strappie

01-04-2011, 09:20 PM

I wish I had never told my mom when I was 13 yrs old to F*** off... I still regret ever saying those words. The guilt kills me to this day even though she has long for gave and for gotten.

It's the one word I will NEVER allow a gf or partner to say to me or I show them the door. I can't imagine what it done to my mom when I said because I certainly know now how I feel.

Ryobi

01-11-2011, 01:32 PM

THAT! I wish I hadn't done that!

cinnamongrrl

09-15-2012, 06:35 PM

I wish I hadnt sold my Echo.... I loved that car :(

I wish I hadnt left SC the way I did...If timing hadnt been the issue, I would've made a go of it on my own....

I wish NUMEROUS times over that I hadnt given my time and love and effort to the wrong women.....so much wasted time....

I wish I hadnt listened to the people who told me to wait on school till my kids were older...it put me wayyyy behind in my life plans..