The Things You Wish You Had Not Done

Jesse · 10-23-2010, 11:19 PM

Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older?

For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol.

I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me.

I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did.

katsarecool · 10-23-2010, 11:26 PM

I wish I had spent a lot less time listening to others tell me how to live my life.
I wish I had taken the time to realize that I wasted many years not listening to my gut feelings about so many things rather than giving others the benefit of doubt.
I wish that I had been less generous in my life. Now that I am living on limited income and those folks are no longer around nor did they appreciate it; I could sure use that cash!!!
I wish I had spent more time with my mother.
Other than this I have no more real regrets. This is a great thread!

Rockinonahigh · 10-24-2010, 10:53 AM

I wish I had listened more and talked less.
I wish I had spent less on crazie ideas.
I wish I had taken better care of my health,now im paying for it.
I wish I had bought more land and less horses...would have worked out better.
I wish I had stoped trying to prove something cause I didnt need to,I was fine the way I was.
So much more ,but later.

Guy · 10-24-2010, 11:09 AM

I wish I wasn't sitting at that red light when the truck behind me plowed into me.

Jet · 10-24-2010, 11:49 AM

I don't regret anything when I was young. It was good a time.

Kobi · 10-24-2010, 12:07 PM

I wish I hadn't grown up. The 20's were an awesome time!

Blade · 10-24-2010, 12:10 PM

I wished I hadn't tried for so many years to make others proud of me when I know now I'm all that matters.

I wished I'd NEVER said I do, when I knew from the beginning I really didn't want to.

I wish I had not stopped in town the evening Cindy died.

Sure I wish I hadn't wasted some of the money I've spent over the years.

All in all I've learned much from my mistakes in my life and there are only a few things I can honestly say I wish I had not done.

Gemme · 10-24-2010, 12:24 PM

I wish I had not done a lot of things....marry to get out of an abusive home....spend money wastefully....make poor decisions regarding trust....as I am sure that I could get to where I am now without many of them. I'd be much better off, I dare say.

Jet · 10-24-2010, 01:00 PM

There was only one time I ignored warning signs; it damn near cost me my life.

Greyson · 10-24-2010, 01:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tranzman

Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older?

For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol.

I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me.

I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did.

Ditto and what has helped me is to also realize the positive things that have come from some of my past choices. I had some life lessons to learn. I never stop learning. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.

bigbutchmistie · 10-24-2010, 01:14 PM

Buried My Mother

Jesse · 10-24-2010, 01:27 PM

I started this thread because I feel that it's important to know what our regrets are, so that we understand better where we are and why, and what, if anything, we want to change about it.

I truly appreciate everyone's honesty. Sometimes I can see myself clearer through others and their experiences. For this reason, I am truly thankful for each and everyone one of your replies.

Jesse

Chancie · 10-24-2010, 01:29 PM

I wish I had been bolder, experimented more, fooled around more, been braver about trying new things.

I wish I hadn't always worried about being a good girl, and that I had done more that was dangerous and a little risky.

I wish I taken a cross country road trip, and that I had slept with more unsuitable butches, and drunk more tequila.

cuddlyfemme · 10-24-2010, 01:36 PM

i wish i hadn't spent some of my money the way i did

Converse · 10-24-2010, 01:52 PM

I wished I hadn’t believed that time was running out and always rushed to find out what was behind every corner. Though I’m grateful that I have experienced more than many because of it, I often wonder if I missed making the most of what was around me because I was always too busy packing and planning for the next leg of my journey.

IrishGrrl · 10-24-2010, 02:01 PM

I rarely have regrets. I have learned that every action has shaped who I am as a person, and I like who I am today.

In my 20's

I wish I hadnt taken a bath in Lysol because I thought I had chiggers and read on the internet it was a home remedy.

Jesse · 10-25-2010, 11:16 AM

BUMP........

Soft*Silver · 10-25-2010, 03:44 PM

I wish I hadnt believed the lies I suspected were lies

I wish I hadnt stopped working on my credentials.

I wish I hadnt been sitting at that red light where that semi hit me in the front and then in the back (nodding to the Guy in Florida)

I wish I hadnt used that damn hand held gas powered fence auger by myself that almost tore off my right arm

I wish I hadnt fallen off my horse and broke my tailbone, broke ribs, suffered a head concussion, detached retinas, and lost my hearing for two weeks

I wish I hadnt been such a piss poor mother to my child when I was drinking. I am so glad I am a much better mother now.

dixie · 10-25-2010, 03:58 PM

I wish I hadn't fallen into the "do what's expected of you" trap that involved the marriage (to an abusive deadbeat loser) and the (falling down) white picket fence. I wasted so much time by trying to hide the "real" me...

I wish I had gone on to college instead of working 3 jobs to support the deadbeat, the deadbeat's juvenile delinquent teenage sister, and the deadbeat's drug-addicted homeless uncle. My son and I would be much better off right now if I had finished all my schooling early.

I wish I had taken better safeguards with my finances, instead of getting completely hijinxed and railroaded from the identity theft by both the deadbeat and deadbeat's sister. (I'm still finding out about credit cards from 10 years ago that I never knew existed...)

I wish I had never believed the old saying drummed into me by my family, of "you've made your bed now lie in it..."

Kenna · 10-25-2010, 04:35 PM

...wish I would have listened to my best friend and not have paid for a particular ticket.... she's very wise and knew I was wasting my money because there was no guarantee and it was sold "as/is".

....wish I wouldn't have left the Logistics field....I'd be an Operations Manager by now.

....wish I would not have wasted (spent so fast) the lump sum of money that I got last fall from my "retirement refund". Even if most of it went to bills and rent, I should have rolled it over into a Roth IRA (especially since I have no retirement fund after struggling as a single parent) and/or spent some to purchase my COBRA insurance. Yeah, I wish I woulda kept my insurance.

....after having insurance for 8 years, I wish I would not have waited so long to see a specialist about my Lupus...or left PA without talking to either of my doctors.

(dinner's almost ready, catch up with ya later...)

10-23-2010, 11:19 PM	#1
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,783 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	The Things You Wish You Had Not Done Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older? For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol. I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me. I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

10-23-2010, 11:26 PM	#2
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	I wish I had spent a lot less time listening to others tell me how to live my life. I wish I had taken the time to realize that I wasted many years not listening to my gut feelings about so many things rather than giving others the benefit of doubt. I wish that I had been less generous in my life. Now that I am living on limited income and those folks are no longer around nor did they appreciate it; I could sure use that cash!!! I wish I had spent more time with my mother. Other than this I have no more real regrets. This is a great thread! __________________

10-24-2010, 12:07 PM	#6
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,657 Times in 7,654 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I wish I hadn't grown up. The 20's were an awesome time! __________________

10-24-2010, 12:10 PM	#7
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,417 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I wished I hadn't tried for so many years to make others proud of me when I know now I'm all that matters. I wished I'd NEVER said I do, when I knew from the beginning I really didn't want to. I wish I had not stopped in town the evening Cindy died. Sure I wish I hadn't wasted some of the money I've spent over the years. All in all I've learned much from my mistakes in my life and there are only a few things I can honestly say I wish I had not done. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

10-24-2010, 12:24 PM	#8
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,496 Thanked 108,178 Times in 25,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474887	I wish I had not done a lot of things....marry to get out of an abusive home....spend money wastefully....make poor decisions regarding trust....as I am sure that I could get to where I am now without many of them. I'd be much better off, I dare say. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

10-24-2010, 10:53 AM	#3
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,936 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I wish I had listened more and talked less. I wish I had spent less on crazie ideas. I wish I had taken better care of my health,now im paying for it. I wish I had bought more land and less horses...would have worked out better. I wish I had stoped trying to prove something cause I didnt need to,I was fine the way I was. So much more ,but later.

10-24-2010, 11:09 AM	#4
Guy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 1,858 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,258 Thanked 2,574 Times in 889 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I wish I wasn't sitting at that red light when the truck behind me plowed into me.

10-24-2010, 11:49 AM	#5
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I don't regret anything when I was young. It was good a time.

10-24-2010, 01:00 PM	#9
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	There was only one time I ignored warning signs; it damn near cost me my life.

10-24-2010, 01:14 PM	#11
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Buried My Mother

10-24-2010, 01:27 PM	#12
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,783 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I started this thread because I feel that it's important to know what our regrets are, so that we understand better where we are and why, and what, if anything, we want to change about it. I truly appreciate everyone's honesty. Sometimes I can see myself clearer through others and their experiences. For this reason, I am truly thankful for each and everyone one of your replies. Jesse __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

10-24-2010, 01:29 PM	#13
Chancie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-inist Relationship Status: I'm lucky. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 3,757 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,419 Thanked 14,517 Times in 2,726 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I wish I had been bolder, experimented more, fooled around more, been braver about trying new things. I wish I hadn't always worried about being a good girl, and that I had done more that was dangerous and a little risky. I wish I taken a cross country road trip, and that I had slept with more unsuitable butches, and drunk more tequila.

10-24-2010, 01:36 PM	#14
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496122	i wish i hadn't spent some of my money the way i did

10-24-2010, 01:52 PM	#15
Converse Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Vancouver Posts: 147 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 323 Thanked 685 Times in 105 Posts Rep Power: 2551406	I wished I hadn’t believed that time was running out and always rushed to find out what was behind every corner. Though I’m grateful that I have experienced more than many because of it, I often wonder if I missed making the most of what was around me because I was always too busy packing and planning for the next leg of my journey. __________________ I don't act this way to change the world. I act this way so that the goddamn world won't change me! -Desert Hearts

10-24-2010, 02:01 PM	#16
IrishGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Leatherdyke Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: In a relationship/non-monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 877 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 1,209 Times in 366 Posts Rep Power: 2427288	I rarely have regrets. I have learned that every action has shaped who I am as a person, and I like who I am today. In my 20's I wish I hadnt taken a bath in Lysol because I thought I had chiggers and read on the internet it was a home remedy.

10-25-2010, 11:16 AM	#17
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,783 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	BUMP........ __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

10-25-2010, 03:44 PM	#18
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,911 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I wish I hadnt believed the lies I suspected were lies I wish I hadnt stopped working on my credentials. I wish I hadnt been sitting at that red light where that semi hit me in the front and then in the back (nodding to the Guy in Florida) I wish I hadnt used that damn hand held gas powered fence auger by myself that almost tore off my right arm I wish I hadnt fallen off my horse and broke my tailbone, broke ribs, suffered a head concussion, detached retinas, and lost my hearing for two weeks I wish I hadnt been such a piss poor mother to my child when I was drinking. I am so glad I am a much better mother now. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-25-2010, 03:58 PM	#19
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,384 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I wish I hadn't fallen into the "do what's expected of you" trap that involved the marriage (to an abusive deadbeat loser) and the (falling down) white picket fence. I wasted so much time by trying to hide the "real" me... I wish I had gone on to college instead of working 3 jobs to support the deadbeat, the deadbeat's juvenile delinquent teenage sister, and the deadbeat's drug-addicted homeless uncle. My son and I would be much better off right now if I had finished all my schooling early. I wish I had taken better safeguards with my finances, instead of getting completely hijinxed and railroaded from the identity theft by both the deadbeat and deadbeat's sister. (I'm still finding out about credit cards from 10 years ago that I never knew existed...) I wish I had never believed the old saying drummed into me by my family, of "you've made your bed now lie in it..."

10-25-2010, 04:35 PM	#20
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,193 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	...wish I would have listened to my best friend and not have paid for a particular ticket.... she's very wise and knew I was wasting my money because there was no guarantee and it was sold "as/is". ....wish I wouldn't have left the Logistics field....I'd be an Operations Manager by now. ....wish I would not have wasted (spent so fast) the lump sum of money that I got last fall from my "retirement refund". Even if most of it went to bills and rent, I should have rolled it over into a Roth IRA (especially since I have no retirement fund after struggling as a single parent) and/or spent some to purchase my COBRA insurance. Yeah, I wish I woulda kept my insurance. ....after having insurance for 8 years, I wish I would not have waited so long to see a specialist about my Lupus...or left PA without talking to either of my doctors. (dinner's almost ready, catch up with ya later...)