On/off the market?

[Kobi]

I took part in a discussion recently as to when people considered themselves on or off the market.

There was a wide variety of answers to both i.e. some felt they were off the market if they weren't actively dating, others in 20 year monogamous relationships considered themselves on the market until there was an actual wedding - gay marriage is legal in this state.

So, I'm just curious as to how people interpret what it means to be on or off the market. What do both or either mean to you?

:detective:

[Bard]

I may be old fashoned but if you make a comitment to each other as to being in a relationship you are off the market it may be poly situaton or the monog type but still. Desd and I became exclusive in June of 09 and now we are going to have a wedding even tho it ain't legal in NY but I want her to have that day in front of our family and friends even if is cares this comitment phobe BOI

[AtLast]

I'm off the market when it is agreed by both of us that we are exclusive. Marriage isn't a factor. And still won't be when the Prop 8 issue is settled in California and same-sex marriage is legal (yes, I am staying positive).

[pajama]

Cool thread.

My ex-wife considers herself off the market if she finds you interesting enough for a second date. She pursues one person at a time.

Honestly, I don't know that I ever consider myself "off the market". LOL I may not put out the "On Sale Now" flyer, but it's always on the shelf. But I do warn girls ahead of time that I am a leacherous bastard. :D Also as I've gotten older, I don't actively look for love interests (whether I'm in or out of a relationship), I just let the cards fall where they may....also whether I'm in or out of a relationship. No additional cards are falling right now, just clarifying for Dixie. :)

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[Soft*Silver]

I am not in a relationship. But I am off the market I do not want a romance. One can be "off the market" even if they arent in a relationship.

(I have a submissive. It is a BDSM relationship.
Mistake not the two.)

But if I Were in a romance, once we as a couple made the determination we were exclusive with one another, from that moment on, both would be off the market.

[dixie]

Hmm...usually it's rare for me to consider myself off the market. I'm always on the market if it's just casual dating and sometimes even if there are deeper feelings involved. There have only been 2 relationships where I actually cared enough for the person to consider myself unavailable to others (one with an ex, one with my current). Any off market status is subject to change, though, depending on how I'm feeling in/with a relationship. I also rarely go "on the prowl" for other avenues. I just tend to have a flirty nature with pretty much EVERYONE, and sometimes it leads to certain scenarios/individuals that are more enticing to me.

[Abigail Crabby]

I am off the market

There is one person I love and am deeply in love with and the market holds no value for me.

[DapperButch]

I am "off the market" if I am in an exclusive relationship.

"Off the market" simply means I am in an exclusive relationship. If I am in an exclusive relationship, it means that I am not looking to date others and I see the current relationship as a possible "forever" one.

It does not mean that I am married or have chosen my "forever partner".

[Daywalker]

No surprise here.
:wine:

Off The Wall & Off The Market.

:countpetal:


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[Scorp]

As most of you know, I'm off the market and have been for quite a while. I know, I know...Sorry to disappoint you but these things happen. :superfunny:

However, it doesn't mean I can't play and be my crazy ass self :p

[atomiczombie]

I'm kind of adjacent to the market. :shocking:

[Glenn]

I've always been a fundamental type of stock that never jumped on or off the market. By now my expiration date has expired. The market has been kind of risky anyway with tax increases and uncontrolled federal spending. However, Netflix has been on my mind for a while. There has been a need for cable TV beyond the sofa, and they are tapping into it. Their stock should explode when they go cable in a couple of years:)

[WingsOnFire]

Great thread...I am in a poly relationship with my Sir. I do not consider myself "off the market", however, anyone myself or my Sir are interested in is something that we both discuss and come to an agreement on before said relationship would begin. I am not actively "on the market" but am open to that prospective should the right person come my way.

[Martina]

i am off the market. i could play with others, but only with permission. So i guess that makes it possible for me to go back out there. But i have two Dominants and a busy work life. And honestly my health isn't ideal. i feel like my time is best served by getting healthy.

[TickledPink]

Off the market, yes! Yet, I've never considered myself for sale in the first place :|

[JustJo]

I don't know that I've ever considered myself on the market actually. I've been single for the majority of my adult life...and for most of it have had no interest in seeking a relationship. I've just always been focused on my son, my work, getting a degree, etc. - and was never really one to flirt or date.

Meeting Scoote was a serendipity...and I went from "off the market - not looking" to "off the market - taken." :)

[Heart]

I like fresh fruit markets, fish markets, book markets, and little old-fashioned corner markets.

[bright_arrow]

I may be old fashoned but if you make a comitment to each other as to being in a relationship you are off the market it may be poly situaton or the monog type but still. Desd and I became exclusive in June of 09 and now we are going to have a wedding even tho it ain't legal in NY but I want her to have that day in front of our family and friends even if is cares this comitment phobe BOI

I've considered myself off the market since I started talking to you. I knew there was something special about you and I told the few other people "Sorry, you're SOL, I got me a keeper!"

Seriously, I did.

:sunglass:

[undone]

Being unfamiliar with said market, I would presume never to have been on the shelf to begin with, partly due to very few very long relationships the last 16 years.

Secondly I am not much for active searching, and am truly unpracticed at dating or flirting. Still I consider myself off the market at this point because I am happy enough as myself and choose to be selfish about what I want and where I want to be or go. Having always taken into account what was "better for us"

I however, did have an out of state flirtation that took it unwell when I accepted a dinner request from another. I mentioned that the invitation came to test her reaction, and when I heard nothing in her voice or words I accepted the invitation, latter she showed hurt feelings about it.

I would imagine once a person feels that the relationship is one worthy of more attention and the other person intriguing enough to explore more thoroughly they might consider being unavailable to others, or when both parties agree to not see others. Either way I would not believe any one could/should presume that another considers them selves attached or off the market till it is agreed on mutually.

sorry I ramble just following my thoughts....

:tea:

[Bard]

I've considered myself off the market since I started talking to you. I knew there was something special about you and I told the few other people "Sorry, you're SOL, I got me a keeper!"

Seriously, I did.

:sunglass:


She thinks my tractors sexy it really turns her on :wine:

[bright_arrow]

They might say "Hi"
And I might say "Hey"
But you shouldn't worry about what they say
Cause they got nothin' on you baby

[AtLast]

I always know when I am "Off The Market" when the thought of anyone else touching me makes me feel icky in my tummy.

It's very scientific.

Love this!

[Gemme]

I'm in a commited relationship with Ebon. We live together and have discussed, at length, our plans for our joint future together.

That would make me off the market.

[dixie]

Yeah, but hypothetically speaking: What IF someone came along and offered Ebon say, $1,000,000.00 for you? Would that put you back on the market for resale? Could we get as much for you the next time? Or, is it like once you drive the new car off the lot, you lose some of your value?

Do we need a poll?

We always need a poll.

[Gemme]

Yeah, but hypothetically speaking: What IF someone came along and offered Ebon say, $1,000,000.00 for you? Would that put you back on the market for resale? Could we get as much for you the next time? Or, is it like once you drive the new car off the lot, you lose some of your value?

Do we need a poll?

Hypothetically speaking, if someone wants to pay a cool mil for me, then they need to pay ME (regardless of what the money would be in exchange for).

I'm no prize....ask Ebon. :blink:

If we get a poll, would it affect my asking price if I jammed it up someone's ass?

[Gráinne]

I don't think I've ever been out of the stockroom and on the shelf!

Seriously, I suppose I'm "on the market", but not seeking. I'm busy with school, my family, and a lot of personal issues right now. However, I'd make time for the right one.

"Off the market" within a relationship is when both people (or more) involved agree that it's an exclusive relationship.

[dixie]

Hypothetically speaking, if someone wants to pay a cool mil for me, then they need to pay ME (regardless of what the money would be in exchange for).

I'm no prize....ask Ebon. :blink:

If we get a poll, would it affect my asking price if I jammed it up someone's ass?

Sounds kinky. You should definitely get a higher bid for that.

[Waldo]

I am the market.

Er, Marketmaker?

Eh, whatever.

[Kenna]

I've been off the market since 1996, seriously....and for MANY years, I was not interested in or even thought about dating or relationships. I didn't want a "revolving door" in my son's life; raising him without more upset from him getting attached to someone who might not be around for long, or might not accept him as a "package deal" was very important to me. A revolving door in a child's life can do much harm. I can prove that...

I stayed off the market for several reasons, that being the most important to me....

Then, once he was out of the house on his own, when I did decided to date "mom's neighbor" in the Summer of 2007 (a Soft Butch I'd had a minor crush on for 5 years) and come out at the same time.... I still considered myself off the market, but not because I was dating. (WOW!! 11+ years without "any"! :| no wonder I had a crush on Min!)

When I was/am single: I'm off the market because dating or the possibility of a relationship happens on my terms.... and I don't go looking for "it", nor am I open to "propositions". I don't like being pursued or someone being "aggressive" with their interest in dating me or other sexual attractions....(I certainly don't like an aggressor...it sends me into a "bad zone"...)....I am a loner, most often. I was never comfortable in the "dating scene" or actively pursuing a "mate" and I'm NEVER comfortable with someone "coming on to me"....it's just not in my comfort zone.

If/when I decide to become involved with someone, I am off the market... not solely because of monogamy, but because it has more to do with it takes a great deal of effort and a VERY special "place" for me to consider or be actively involved and/or intimate with any individual. Sharing that level of intimacy for me and of me is a VERY special place. I haven't found a comfort zone that allows me to share that place with "just anyone" that might peek my interest. ...I have dated some since 2007, but I must be in MY comfort zone to share "my all". Just because I date, look around or play the field, does not mean to me that I am "on the market".... maybe dating means to me that I am trying to see where that person or situation fits in "my zone"?

If a person does not appreciate, respect or honor my "special place" ... then I become mentally and sometimes physically off the market.... I might share intimate things/times with them.... but I become guarded and refuse to "give my all"; therefore, parts of me are off the market.

[Lynn]

When I'm in a relationship, I'm off the market. If we both agree to be exclusive then it should be no less of a commitment than if we are married. For me, marriage (legal or in the heart) is about far more than exclusivity.

[Martina]

Although i am in service and have to ask permission, i would be looking to play with others if i felt well and were less busy. i like playing with others, people i have known a long time and new people. It is the spice of life. Or one of them. i am truly poly. i can safely say that i would never enter an exclusive relationship. For me, health and happiness are found in polyamory.

[Venus007]

I am very happily long-term-dating someone but we have a relationship with negotiated non-monogamy, so I am not for sale on the market but I am for rent, and sometimes, if your lucky, you get a 2 for 1 bonus. (hubba hubba)

[Starbuck]

My gf and I have agreed to an exlusive relationship, which makes me OFF the market, just as if we were married. And I wouldn't be tempted by the $1,000,000 offer from someone else...and yes, we've talked about that!

[greeneyedgrrl]

i don't use on/off the market to describe my status. Either i'm looking/open to dating or not. if i'm taking time for myself or i'm in a committed and/or monogamous relationship, then i'm not looking/open to dating.