Average Age of the Planet

[Linus]

Since it was mentioned, I have to admit that I am curious what is the average age. In the support group that I'm in, I'm one of 2-3 older guys. The rest range from 16-25 (and boy! makes me feel old!)

So identifiers, just curious as to what is the average age of the community at large.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Well, I am not that young either Linus. :cracked: Selling life insurance now? :pointing: No? :freak: I know, grave sites. :thumbsup:

Love,
Andrew
:superman::rofl::cigar:

[Apocalipstic]

Is it OK that we are older? Would younger people feel more welcome if those of us who are older were not here?

[Linus]

Well, I am not that young either Linus. :cracked: Selling life insurance now? :pointing: No? :freak: I know, grave sites. :thumbsup:

Love,
Andrew
:superman::rofl::cigar:LOL.. ya.. that might work. ;)

[Linus]

Is it OK that we are older? Would younger people feel more welcome if those of us who are older were not here?

I think it's ok. The younger guys have mentioned that they like to hear my side of things because it gives them an insight into what might be (good or bad). I don't any age is a bad thing; it's just a different thing and a different perspective. Being open to that perspective is important and closing your mind to it, IMO, isn't helpful for anyone. We all have a need to be heard and actively listened to on both sides of the coin of respect.

:2cents:

[Bit]

Would younger people feel more welcome if those of us who are older were not here?

Nope, Jen, because if we weren't here, there wouldn't be a website at all. People will come to us as they need to, whatever their ages might be; but if you and I and everyone who is over thirty left the site to make room for them, well, what on earth would anyone come to... since yanno... the site owners are also over thirty? ;)

I think the vibrancy and richness of the site is directly due to the mix of ages we have; having only one narrow age range would defeat the purpose, yanno?

[Andrew, Jr.]

I think age is just a state of mind. If you really think about it. We can all learn something from each other, only if we are open to it. If not, then we miss out on alot.

Love,
Andrew

[Apocalipstic]

:) I am a 16 year old boy in my head a lot of the time :)

*grin*

[NJFemmie]

So it seems that so far, we are outnumbering the younguns.
Can we flip our depends at them?
lol ... just kidding ... I am not quite there .... yet..... oy.

[NJFemmie]

Is it OK that we are older? Would younger people feel more welcome if those of us who are older were not here?

.. and who would provide the wisdom, the history, the target for all the old people jokes?

[Pixie]

I can honestly say by being one of the "youngins" cringe..... that I wouldn't be here if everyone was younger.... Wouldn't be the same atmosphere....

[NJFemmie]

I can honestly say by being one of the "youngins" cringe..... that I wouldn't be here if everyone was younger.... Wouldn't be the same atmosphere....

And I feel the same in reverse.
We all need each other to feed off of and learn from.
It's what we need for consciousness expansion.
:hangloose:

[Bit]

...being one of the "youngins" cringe.....

No cringing, sugar, you're fine. :bouquet: {{{{{{{{{{{{Pixie}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[Pixie]

Thanks NJ and bit.....wooot!!

[Sassybren]

I had to be forced into 50 kicking and screaming but now that I've arrived it's ok and I don't mind owning it.

The next poll should be How old do you feel. Of course if the mental pause monster is around some might have to wait a day or too to take the poll.
Just sayin. lol

[lee07]

i want ur lil picture thingamijigster :)
@ msLinus

[WILDCAT]

So it seems that so far, we are outnumbering the younguns.
Can we flip our depends at them?
lol ... just kidding ... I am not quite there .... yet..... oy.



WELL! The "youngin's" have a life!! AND, they are still gettin' laid! (Just kidding to some of you married and involved folks!)

OK, I may have "revealed" something here about myself, huh?!

Really, "we are some of the ones who paved the way" for what/HOW it is today. Whether or not young kids and/or young adults grow to learn and appreciate that in history or as part of the "process" to continue on - or not, remains up to them... and I HOPE they continue on to be radical for our cause(s). I will be, until I can no longer breathe! (But, I respect ALL ways of "contributing". It doesn't just have to be marching on the streets, etc...)

I'm OK, in fact... GOOD with all of that/this! I'm just so proud of our history and any part that I was fortunate to experience! Existing HERE (at this site), in fact - is "something" special in history and time!

(And I may or may not still get lucky now and then at age "fiddy-somethin'"... out here in the woods!)
____

Seriously, my best "female" friend died at the age of 98. I learned SO MUCH from her. And her gone from this physical plane has left SUCH A HUGE WIDE OPEN VOID IN ME!!!!!

SHE SAID TO ME:

I will always be alright, as long as I remain "teachable". I will never forget her, nor that advice.

:heartbeat:


*Hugs and kisses my sister Virgo! I love you and miss you terribly.

[Angelika]

45 and proud *smiles* .... I love being older ... and cannot wait to actually get older. Life is just better served when older *grins*

Angelika

[JustLovelyJenn]

I like the age range here. I don't often get along well with people in my own age range and tend to, instead, have a good number of friends who are older than me. Most of the time I just forget about age, I don't even remember to ask anymore, cause I don't care. If you make me smile and we have something to talk about. BRING IT ON!!

[Linus]

i want ur lil picture thingamijigster :)
@ msLinus

which picture thingamijigster?? :eyebrow:

[suebee]

Our household has an "age difference r us" thingie going on, so I don't tend to think about it that often. I don't have much contact with twenty-somethings though. I kinda miss that in my life.

[hottprof]

so I guess I am one of 8 or so "youngin's on this site" not too shabby... I am movin' my way up the ladder...

Smiles :frog:

[WolfyOne]

The older I get, the more I learn, the more I can share with the younger generation.

[MsDemeanor]

The planet is 4.6 billion years old, give or take ;)

[Unndunn]

The results look like a pretty standard bell curve, which I would think is the norm for an online site like this.

[sharkchomp]

Well crap! I was all excited thinking this was a thread about the age of the planet... earth! I was all ready to have a scientific convo.... sigh

~~~shark~~~~~~~
*equal opportunity chomper*

[SelfMadeMan]

Age is just a state of mind for me, I just turned 40 but I don't FEEL 40. No one is too old to be here and be an important part of the Planet. We all have something to offer others, and besides, the older you are, the more experience you have and the more insight you can bring to the table.

[Linus]

I suppose I should have referenced the thread (http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=365) and someone had said that the Online B-F community was a lot older, hence the desire to hold on to the older terms of Butch and Femme.

MsDemeanor: Smart ass! :p (although better than being a dumb one eh? :cheesy: )

[ZoeyJayne]

I can honestly say by being one of the "youngins" cringe..... that I wouldn't be here if everyone was younger.... Wouldn't be the same atmosphere....

I am going to have to agree with you... Although sometimes it can be frustrating to be part of the younger crowd, I enjoy having people that are older than I am around to look up to and hear how they have experienced things IMO that is

[Darth Denkay]

You're right, very much a standard bell curve, and that does make sense.

The results look like a pretty standard bell curve, which I would think is the norm for an online site like this.

[Milly]

I'm 53 with an 8 year old son. I party hardy in Disneyland twice a year and love kiddie movies. My spouse and I leave our "FUDDY DUDDIES" at home so that our son has two age appropriate playmates. I love my current age. There is not one day of my life that I would give up to relive another. The good was great and the bad was terrible. All of my same age friends agree, that none of us came into ourselves and realized ourselves until our 40's. Since then, it's been wonderful! Old age ain't for the meek and if I were all of you younguns, I'd start jogging now so that old age can never catch up with you!

[NotAnAverageGuy]

I can honestly say I like my age, 32, right now, I don't think I will mind turning 40 is say 8 years.

But I won't ever become a Manther (male version of a cougar)

[hippieflowergirl]

i've been looking forward to 50 since the day i turned 40. 4 more years to go!

[Dean Thoreau]

:groupphoto:


I dont know but if it were just old farts..... on this site it woould be awful boring......and not very diverse. Of course if was just younguns..... ya'all sure would miss me and all the other old farts and Depends crowd!

I like hanging with the young guys...and sure would miss them if they were not here!

I like the diversity, now if you can just add some kwanzaa smilies and tibet flag and maybe a few holidays that are not " judeo christian" and flags of various countries in Africa,South America, and puerto rico, Haiti, Dominican Republic, we would have diverse smilies as well :D

[hpychick]

I truly enjoy being in my mid-40s. I can't imagine returning to a previous age.

One thing I enjoy so much about my job is that I experience diversity in every aspect: age, race, sex, sexual orientation, religion, personality, etc.

So many things color my world and help me grow in becoming a more accepting and loving person.

[DapperButch]

*Bumping* because I'd like to see more data.

[Blade]

I'm 47 and some days feel 107 and some days feel 17 it is a mind set. I like the age diversity of the site. Keeps me thinking young, and sometimes makes me quite glad that I have already past some of the speed bumps in the road between 20 and 50. Also makes me look at the young people today and go.....now why didn't I do that? I guess as they say we live and learn.

[DapperButch]

*Bumping* again...('tis confidential, you know)

:cluck: <--- Side note: I really dig this chicken.

[Medusa]

Looks like a Bell Curve. :)

[Write14u]

Dammit....following my recent birthday, I'm now the "middle finger" of this. Heh. I give it the middle finger.

[AtLast]

Glad to see I am in good company!

[Gemme]

I'm 35, chronologically. My emotional and mental ages change and (d)evolve regularly. :blink:

[DapperButch]

Looks like a good and busy night for a bump!


:cluck: <--- still dig this chicken

[redrose]

i really feel young here ,,, (f)

[katzietootle]

<-------too young to be old but too old to be young!!!

[betenoire]

Is it OK that we are older? Would younger people feel more welcome if those of us who are older were not here?

I think that the only way that younger people would feel unwelcome would be if the older people were giant asshats about the younger people. I haven't seen any of it here, but I remember on the dash site I saw quite a bit of ageism toward the younger folks. I'm 32 now, but was in my early/mid-20s when I first started hanging out at the dash site, and there were quite a few people who were gigantic asshats to me and said some really shitty things regarding my age (or lack of age, or whatever).

Those people stopped giving me the business eventually, whether because I'd been around long enough that they got over it or because I got older and ergo more acceptable to them - but I haven't forgotten who they are. Believe me. (Ask me about my grudge-holding abilities!)

Frankly, the only queer space that I've ever experienced/been witness to shitty attitudes toward younger folk has been within our community (both irl and online). I don't know what that's all about.

[DapperButch]

*Bump*

Lots of people have joined since the last post in May, so I thought it would be good to bump this up to get more participation!

[Billy]

Old as dirt accounted for :)

[LipstickLola]

My chronological age and my emotional age are miles apart :)

[diamondrose]

I feel older in my mind than I truely am

[DapperButch]

Take the poll!

[Corkey]

I haven't moved slots yet :mohawk::praying:

[DapperButch]

I haven't moved slots yet :mohawk::praying:

I have. :-(

[Corkey]

I have. :-(



:mohawk::gimmehug::raspberry:

[DapperButch]

:mohawk::gimmehug::raspberry:

:mohawk: :fastdraq:

[Corkey]

:mohawk: :fastdraq:


:mohawk::cigar2::rofl::bolt:

[Apocalipstic]

Hangin steady, but not for long.

[Bad_boi]

Is it OK that we are older? Would younger people feel more welcome if those of us who are older were not here?

I like most of the older people on here. I have been on BF since I was 18(I started on the dash site). Back then there was almost no one my age. I am still here at 22. I feel I socialize better with older people because they are more mature.

The only thing that upsets me is when I get discounted because of my age. I know I don't have as much wisdom as others but that does not mean I am stupid or immature. People who underestimate me because of their age are proving to me they are immature and judgmental.

[BugsAndKisses]

wow...I'm kind pf a dork...I thought this thread was about the age of the earth debate!

[untangle]

I'm very surprised by the age range here, but it's a good kind of surprise. Let the passing of wisdom continue!

[Nat]

Maybe we should start saving to create a retirement community one day :)

[Luv]

It sure is different being refered to as an older person by the younger generation, but I think back through the years and it is a blessing, my 1st friend passed when she was 17,,I was 15, many years have gone by and alot of life,,Im thankful for what I have had,,even if my hair is gray and I dont move as fast as I used to, and actually check out scooters when I go to Disneyland !:glasses:

[Nat]

Maybe we should start saving to create a retirement community one day :)

We will make the most fabulous retirement fuckery ever! :)

[DapperButch]

Maybe we should start saving to create a retirement community one day :)

I think it is actually a really awesome idea. There are a few gay/lesbian communities out there, and people are flocking to them. They are expensive, though.

Someone who is good at creating that kind of thing should do it. If it was in a half decent location I would seriously relocate (a 55+ type community).

[AtLast]

Oh good, I'm not as far from the mean than I thought!! Oh yeah- a queer retirement community sounds great!

[atomiczombie]

Hmm, I first answered this when I was 39. I'm 41 now.

[Rox]

As I been surfing around and posting since joining yesterday.. I wondered also the average age group of this forum. Thanks for this thread)~

[Mr Nice Guy]

I started on the other B-F when I was 41. I'm now 48. Soon to be 49. I still feel young and look young. :)

[Gemme]

Holy Times Flies, Batman!

:blink:

I was 35 when I posted before and am now 37, almost 38.

[DapperButch]

Hmm, I first answered this when I was 39. I'm 41 now.

Same numbers here!

[Ciaran]

I'm 36 ... soon-ish to be 37.

I act older as I've an old soul although I usually pass, in real life, as a 30 something if I mosturise before going outside

[fever]

I used to be insecure about stating my age. I am 57, Gemini, femme, Canadian. I thought I was too old to be of interest to younger butches. I turned that around and am grateful to be my age. I have lots of life experience, a feisty attitude, a kind and gentle heart. I still haven't found a soul mate, but the journey is certainly a lot of fun. And, Ciaran, you are one of the butches who made this "older and wiser" femme have a marvelous time at the get together in Vegas.

:byebye:

[suebee]

I'm 53 - soon to be 54. It seems that people think I'm quite a bit younger - I'm not sure why. I generally pass for my wife's age - late thirties/early forties. I FEEL as old as dirt though! lol

[Bad_boi]

I was 18 when I joined the old B-F and I'm still here at 22.

[aishah]

i'm 24 chronologically, and around 5 mentally and 80 physically ;) it evens out. sorta.

[stephfromMIT]

I'm 23 (24 in October) seems like my youth is held against me.

[girl_dee]

I'm 23 (24 in October) seems like my youth is held against me.

i won't ! people will see that you are coming from the right place.

[chefhmboyrd]

I think it is actually a really awesome idea. There are a few gay/lesbian communities out there, and people are flocking to them. They are expensive, though.

Someone who is good at creating that kind of thing should do it. If it was in a half decent location I would seriously relocate (a 55+ type community).

i hear Hot SPrings is great for retirement. Maybe we should all gravitate to the hot springs as we age, then we won't have to travel so far for the reunion.....
just sayin'
:piratelaugh:

[BullDog]

I'm 23 (24 in October) seems like my youth is held against me.

I think you're cool. Sometimes people are a bit overly wary of new people. I like that you bring your own experiences from the real world and are not just another person who has been online for years and years and knows all the right lingo and protocol. You also don't get angry or defensive when people seem to misunderstand you, which shows a lot of class. We need new blood- in terms of new people and younger people. I am glad you are here. Enjoy your youth!

[Corkey]

Already said this to Steph, but we all have opinions, don't let anyone get to you. We are wary of newbies, but then many of us have been stung by folks who had nefarious intentions. That's our baggage, not yours. Just be you, said that before too.

[BoDy*ShOt]

wow. this made me all reminisce-y..

I was 28 when I joined the dash site, and here I am at 41. I've met the gamut of people, and made some good friends and some who don't like me much.. meh. I've met lovers, brief boifriends, and a very LTR off of each of these sites. it's where I discovered my femme, and where I continue to learn and evolve:).

[DapperButch]

wow. this made me all reminisce-y..

I was 28 when I joined the dash site, and here I am at 41. I've met the gamut of people, and made some good friends and some who don't like me much.. meh. I've met lovers, brief boifriends, and a very LTR off of each of these sites. it's where I discovered my femme, and where I continue to learn and evolve:).

Holy crap! That really does put the length of time into perspective. I was 28/29 when I joined the dash, and now I am 42! Yowza!

[gaea]

i was 26 when i joined the dash site the year they developed it.....watched it evolve and i too have evolved.....I went away for awhile and came back...and then in 09 when the planet launched i joined here...

I am currently 42

[ruby_woo]

I was 19 when I started posting on the dash site, and now I'm 30. :|

[Quintease]

I was 37 when I started posting here and I'm still 37...

[Red-Dragon]

i've been on the planet since i think may i havent had a age issue...either that or i'm dense lol. i am one of the youngings but i love learning what the older ones have to offer you just keep learning until you teach what you've been taught :canadian:

[Teddybear]

:) I am a 16 year old boy in my head a lot of the time :)

*grin*


I HAVE met u. U DON'T act like one. Well u didn't the nite I met u

[Teddybear]

I'm 24x2 however I act like I'm barely a teenager most the time and after work I think I'm 102

State of mind for me

[tazz]

i was 22 when i came out, 35 or 36 when i joined the site, and now i'm 46.

so much has changed with the site and ME! i Was a femme at first, but over the years i have evolved so much into the Athlete/Androgynous spectrum of life. Living, Loving, and Learning every moment of it!! :hangloose:

i've met some peeps, been involved with some peeps, yeah... life is good :D

[WintergreenGem]

So the average age for this site is between 40 and 49. That means if I am ever single again I will have to snag a younger butch. *wink*

[WintergreenGem]

I met Graham on a butch-femme chat list. I was 39 then. We've been together almost 13 years. Mmm, that makes me 52. My mind thinks I am still in my thirties or younger. My body says no way.

[WintergreenGem]

i'm 24 chronologically, and around 5 mentally and 80 physically ;) it evens out. sorta.

You pretty much took the words out of my mouth. The concept anyway.

[~baby~doll~]

I am old enough that I take more trips to the Doctor visit the local bar scenes. I now go to bed when I used to go out and wake up when I used to get home. But i love every minute of the age I am. I may even be able to lend some of my experiences to the younger people here.

[Daktari]

Just about to cross over into a higher age group :|

[DapperButch]

Just about to cross over into a higher age group :|

70 and above? :D

[Daktari]

70 and above? :D

Cheeky fekker :raspberry:

[Mopsie]

Love that my age range (40-49) is the majority! Woot!

[Queenie]

I was 19 when I joined the dash site. I felt really lost before I found it. I've laughed, cried and discovered who I am because of it. I've met some of the most amazing people over the years. Gotten my heart broken a time or two due to LDR's. I never thought when I was 19 that 13 years later I would still be on a b-f site. Oh I just wish I could go back in time and tell that 19 year old shy little girl, that it will all be okay and to stop being so fucking shy!

[Girl_On_Fire]

I was barely 23 when I joined the dash site. I'm 33 now. What a difference 10 years makes. I had only been out of the closet for a year and I knew very little about the butch/femme dynamic. I was just heart-broken over a breakup and Google'd "butch femme" and it popped up.

I met one of my closest friends on that site and a few others who would lead me through some of the most profound awakenings (and painful lessons) of my life. I don't regret any of it.

Although I've recently had a set-back due to a very difficult breakup, I feel like life began at 30 for me. So much makes more sense now. I can't explain it. It's like puzzle pieces locking together. I don't mind age at all so long as I can be healthy, happy, and "with it" for the duration. ;)

[KCBUTCH]

I think I was in my early 30's when I joined the dash site and now I'll see 42 this year - Love this place

[Gráinne]

I was ca.45-ish (can't remember the year) when I was very active on the Technodyke site, then spent about five minutes on Dash and ended up here for 2.5 years. I'm now 50.

[okieblu]

I'm 57, will be 58 not too long from now. Started finding my footing as a butch on the old 'dash' site, and the .net one as well. Was on here briefly for awhile, but it seemed pretty dead at the time. I DO see a lot of handles I recognize. I hope if any of y'all remember me, it's good and not bad.

Leigh here.

And I'm over-joyed it's a mixed age, multi-generational site. There is nothing so boring as a bunch of old farts sitting around watching each other die. Blah!

[DapperButch]

Gah. Over 5 years since this was posted and I responded. I was 39 back then. Now I am 44! :|

[Daktari]

Jeepers! I've moved up a whole age range too since signing up here. :|

[willow]

I'll be moving up, but not until August. Don't rush me! :giggle:

[Kätzchen]

Twas 43 when I joined a former community (spent 7 yrs on the 'dash').
I've spent nearly 4 yrs, here, this coming May. I'll be 55, soon.

[Leigh]

I will be 34 years old in one week from today :)

[EmJay]

I am 25, and I've been here for a year or two. :)