Would Like To Meet... a thread for your personal ad

[imperfect_cupcake]

This is a thread for those singles out there that are looking for dates. Post an ad in here so people can respond by IM to what you put up. Obviously you should have some photos on your profile - they help!

I know I'm on the wrong side of the pond, but since I'm starting it, I'll stick my ad up just to get the ball rolling...

Skinny Dipping, Thriller Movies and Counting Frogs


I'm just looking for some dates, really. (UK translation if there's any out there, "lets just hang out" but without the akwardness of not knowing whether it's a date or not or if it might be a possibility. Unless you need that, then let me know and I'll fein obliviousness and pretend I have no desire to snog)

After a bit (*cough*) of a rough time the last few months, I'm really feeling the need to be treated a bit special, treat someone else a bit special, bit of mutual spoiling and company appreciation. A good natter, some lovely food no matter how it's served up: could be restaurant, a winter pic nic, a lovely dinner at home, or maybe breckfast in bed...

I skip through the daises, laugh like a loon, can’t find my shoes/purse/keys, and love to cook. I can be random with my humour and rather off-the-wall. I adore science and love doing science based activites/outings. I want to learn to play the concertina/ukulele.

I live 50 min from London and visit my mates there often, lived there many years.

42, canadian, femme will eventually be looking for a butch cassidy (34 - 52, but can budge a bit) to my femme sundance kid. What kind of butch? Any kind. I'm very versatile with all of that: from stone butch to glitter butch. I'm feisty and independent so please be able to take the piss and have the piss taken. Understanding irony is a requirement.

I want adventures in companionship and slithery sheet foibles. Eat sushi in strange places. Have a glass of champers at 8am and then go swimming in a lake. Watch wierd/alternative movies with a homecooked spread or good take out, cuddle during suspense/thriller or kung fu films and exchange banter/theories. Get excited about BBC science programs and try to make a plaster of paris volcano. Make home made pizza and glue broken things around the house together in an absurd pile and stick a light in it. Pick wild food or count frogs while camping or on a day out.

I´m blunt and *very* open.- I don´t play emotional games as they bore the sh*t out of me. I value honesty, loyalty and an appreciation of the utterly ridiculous. I´m also an experimental gal and love a good toybox with an experienced owner. I have a great sense of play and good imagination – For the love of ****, be communicative: in the every day nitty-gritty to keep everything well greased and honest and also open enough to able to talk about what you want/desire sexually in glorious technicolour detail. I'm versatile with what's required from stone to switch - please enquire! I´ve got a good figure - I suit a corset quite well. Check my gallery.

I love cycling, camping and hiking and hope to frolick in the woods with an ethusiastic nature buff. I also love city breaks full of museums and dancing.

I´ve travelled quite a bit and would love to explore the world some more. I love new and interesting foods/experiences/sights. Spontinaity and adventurous spirit is required, talking till 3am is appreciated.

sex and friendship first, then maybe a bit down the road, if there's something good there, all of the above

[imperfect_cupcake]

I see this isn't a popular idea with peeps to post a "would like to meet" as no one has followed suit in the thread... I take it there's a butch-femme dating site that of more use that people use. Linky, anyone?

oh, and I'm good with holidays. *cough*. just sayin, like. In case someone charming is travelling through london/oxford... I know some very good kick ass real ale pubs with very good food and know oxford/london quite well for alternative queer night life...

[Martina]

god, if i were younger and butch and not in the UK and cool enough, i would so be responding to this one. Sigh at an available (but not) Honeybarbara.

[Martina]

btw i meant if i WERE in the UK. In fact, if i were, i might ask for a date anyway and hope she might mistake me for a butch who wears eyeliner.

[imperfect_cupcake]

I would suggest you meet up with Ciaran, but I suspect one of you (probably him) would be dead within the hour. I am not sure what color prison garb is across the pond, but it seems to be equally unflattering regardless of geographical location.

Happy New Years, Barb!

<3

really? that's sounds interesting..... I'm intrigued now.

Happy NY Juney!! <3 *MWAH*

[imperfect_cupcake]

As I recall, she doesn't discriminate against a bit of eyeliner.

#Talkingaboutherwhenshe'snothere

I would pin you down and lick the eyeliner off your face, martina.

LOL

aw, darlin, we could have a naughty femme night in. I *do* take brief forays in that direction. y'know, sometimes us gals gotta give each other comfort, y'know? lol

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I'm in the UK (Essex)....only, I'm a Femme.... ;)

[imperfect_cupcake]

I'm in the UK (Essex)....only, I'm a Femme.... ;)

lol hey darlin! Essex is pretty, I was just there the other weekend and am headed back for a walk on the mashes soon.


so I take it I'm recruiting for a *cough* pyjama party femme orgy now?

I could do that. but I need a leather gimp. any volunteers?

[1QuirkyKiwi]

lol hey darlin! Essex is pretty, I was just there the other weekend and am headed back for a walk on the mashes soon.


so I take it I'm recruiting for a *cough* pyjama party femme orgy now?

I could do that. but I need a leather gimp. any volunteers?

Pyjama party femme orgy….sounds good to me!

I was in Henley-on-Thames a couple of months ago (I used to live there a few years ago)…. I now live near the marshes, unless you mean the Maldon marshes, then I don't, lol!

[imperfect_cupcake]

haven't a fuckin clue which marshes, luv! LOL

I'm just learning now as I had never been there before. Oh, hey, if you are interested:

http://boards.gingerbeer.co.uk/index.php?topic=105025.0

I know bar wotever does this kind of stuff weekly on a tues but I figure a sat eve might suit some people more who are coming from a distance. :)

[1QuirkyKiwi]

haven't a fuckin clue which marshes, luv! LOL

I'm just learning now as I had never been there before. Oh, hey, if you are interested:

http://boards.gingerbeer.co.uk/index.php?topic=105025.0

I know bar wotever does this kind of stuff weekly on a tues but I figure a sat eve might suit some people more who are coming from a distance. :)

Thanks for the link....I'll be out at Chinese New Year celebrations. Next meet-up, hopefully! :)

[imperfect_cupcake]

Thanks for the link....I'll be out at Chinese New Year celebrations. Next meet-up, hopefully! :)

I'll be at those during the day myself :)

the next one will be in about 6 weeks. check back on the board. ;)

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I'll be at those during the day myself :)

the next one will be in about 6 weeks. check back on the board. ;)

Thank you, I will. :)

Can I ask; does anyone get to Curzon WITHOUT using the tube from East London? This is VERY important as due to an accident I had on the tube earlier last year, I now have a major fear of going on them. Thank you! :)

[Library_girl]

I see this isn't a popular idea with peeps to post a "would like to meet" as no one has followed suit in the thread... I take it there's a butch-femme dating site that of more use that people use. Linky, anyone?.

I think it's a great idea and I'm surprised no one has posted their own ad. (maybe I will post mine). And I'd love a link for a b/f dating site, a good one, for this side of the pond. :)

[nycbutch]

good evening ladies!!! just thought I'd sliiiide on in and say hello to all you lovely femmes!!

just a short add for now....52, single, available butch in NYC looking for a single, available femme within driving distance (preferably) see pics in gallery

enjoy your evening :rrose:

Jay

[Martina]

i haven't had a date off of OKCupid. i am poly but have been busy with work, gained a BUNCH of weight, and otherwise have placed a number of roadblocks in front of dating outside my D/s (which i am free to do and want to do at some point). ANYWAY, i am a member of OKCupid and love the folks they send my way. They seem like real and cool people. i do not know if there is an OKCupid for the UK.

[nicetgurl_30]

Hey I'm 32..., haven't given up hope yet! Be nice just to meet other singles to do things with

[Ciaran]

I would suggest you meet up with Ciaran, but I suspect one of you (probably him) would be dead within the hour. I am not sure what color prison garb is across the pond, but it seems to be equally unflattering regardless of geographical location.


I'm not sure about the colour but hopeful that, if I ask the judge nicely, he / she would allow me to get the prison garb styled by Roberto Cavalli. If so, it would make my time behind bars that bit easier.

In any event, with my record of bribery, I might just be able to get off with a fine ;)




I know bar wotever does this kind of stuff weekly on a tues but I figure a sat eve might suit some people more who are coming from a distance. :)

The last time I went to Bar Wotever was two years ago when I did a striptease. NEVER AGAIN !!! - I think that I'm still wanted for causing shock and upset to the more sensitive members of the audience :eek:

http://i926.photobucket.com/albums/ad103/ulyssesgq/wotever.jpg

[imperfect_cupcake]

there were sensitive members at bar wotever?? That doesn't sound like when I used to go!! you must have had a bad audience night? The room was usually full of delightful letches. Well. I haven't gone since it left kings cross when it was above the piss-play fuck club for gay men. I hope it hasn't gotten prudish. My heteroflexible mate got up and played an irish style folk tune on a fiddle and changed to words to having a hot load of jesus' love in her mouth (and other various sexual acts with the saviour) and no one blinked. It would be sad to have lost that randy aspect.

So then, what did you do that got some of the more delicate creatures in a bit of a flap? and did Ingo spank you?

[imperfect_cupcake]

Thank you, I will. :)

Can I ask; does anyone get to Curzon WITHOUT using the tube from East London? This is VERY important as due to an accident I had on the tube earlier last year, I now have a major fear of going on them. Thank you! :)

totally understand.

if you use:
http://journeyplanner.tfl.gov.uk/user/XSLT_TRIP_REQUEST2?language=en



and scroll down to only tick the type of transport you'd be ok with (bus and rail) then it will give you a couple of alternatives of how to get from Fenchurch rail station to soho.

I just pluged it in - take the 25 to oxford/soho. take you about 30 min. if you plug that in yourself, it will give you the map of where to get it and the route map. :)

[1QuirkyKiwi]

totally understand.

if you use:
http://journeyplanner.tfl.gov.uk/user/XSLT_TRIP_REQUEST2?language=en



and scroll down to only tick the type of transport you'd be ok with (bus and rail) then it will give you a couple of alternatives of how to get from Fenchurch rail station to soho.

I just pluged it in - take the 25 to oxford/soho. take you about 30 min. if you plug that in yourself, it will give you the map of where to get it and the route map. :)


Thanks for the link....my usual haunts in London are the West end/Waterloo/Kingston using the river bus and trains, and North London via Harlow.

[ArkansasPiscesGrrl]

I am single too. I have recently signed onto several of the dating sites (Zoosk, Compatible Partners, Butch-Femme-dating etc), but all of them require monthly fees just to even see possible matches, or to respond in any way. These sites even advertised "Free" matches! OK, I guess getting matched was free, but anything else was different. I have to wait till later this week (XMas shopping, rent, other first of the month type bills cut it kinda close for me last paycheck) to be able to find out.

I did see several very interesting possibilities, and most fairly close by to me too. Soooo....

So, singles, how many of you have used these sites to find others, and what were your results?

(working on putting myself out there a bit.. not wanting to rush into anything, but I need and deserve to have a little fun!)

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I am single too. I have recently signed onto several of the dating sites (Zoosk, Compatible Partners, Butch-Femme-dating etc), but all of them require monthly fees just to even see possible matches, or to respond in any way. These sites even advertised "Free" matches! OK, I guess getting matched was free, but anything else was different. I have to wait till later this week (XMas shopping, rent, other first of the month type bills cut it kinda close for me last paycheck) to be able to find out.

I did see several very interesting possibilities, and most fairly close by to me too. Soooo....

So, singles, how many of you have used these sites to find others, and what were your results?

(working on putting myself out there a bit.. not wanting to rush into anything, but I need and deserve to have a little fun!)

I still have a profile on Butch-Femme-dating, but, only sign in now when I get a message from someone. I have had many dates from UK based sites, Women at tangowire and PinkCupid/Sofa....the latter two also have women looking within Europe, which is great for me. :)

Best of luck! :)

[msW8ing]

I am single too. I have recently signed onto several of the dating sites (Zoosk, Compatible Partners, Butch-Femme-dating etc), but all of them require monthly fees just to even see possible matches, or to respond in any way. These sites even advertised "Free" matches! OK, I guess getting matched was free, but anything else was different. I have to wait till later this week (XMas shopping, rent, other first of the month type bills cut it kinda close for me last paycheck) to be able to find out.

I did see several very interesting possibilities, and most fairly close by to me too. Soooo....

So, singles, how many of you have used these sites to find others, and what were your results?

(working on putting myself out there a bit.. not wanting to rush into anything, but I need and deserve to have a little fun!)
There are only two that I know of that are free to join and free to communicate..I've made some dear friends from these sites..but that's I seek now...but there are many that are looking for LTR and dating...Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid. I have friends that met on these sites and are still together after all this time..I like them because there is something for everyone from a yard sale buddy...to a lunch/dinner companion to a serious relationship. Good luck!!!!

[ScandalAndy]

I'm also tired of getting my hopes up with people, only to find out that they didn't think it was a date, and aren't interested in kissing me goodnight and texting me the next day.

I'm on OKCupid (1grlentourage), but haven't gotten any dates from there. I'm also here, and have pics of my band geekery.

30, scientist, femme, wants to be treated like she's something special. I love doing nice things for a partner, or even a date, it's in my nature to be that way. I love it even more when I truly feel like someone listens to me when I talk, and cares about how I feel. And I would REALLY like to be kissed, it's been a long time.

I'm also not about to pretend I am any good at writing personal ads. :)

[Rope]

I'm posting for a femme friend of mine. I'll come back and post her official ad, but here's what I've got on her since I know her.

She's early 40's (apparently that's an issue for some butches), femme, into leather and more than just a fashion statement, smart, gainfully employed, wry sense of humor, GOURMET cook (I'm not exaggerating and she makes a mean PIE), and sexy. Poly or monogamous if it works. Multi-racial Jew via Native American and Black American.

Prefers California, she lives in San Francisco area. She's open to blind dates.

She's looking for dates and see how it goes, no rush to the altar.

Email me via the site with your email address.

Rope--

[imperfect_cupcake]

Ah well, I'll be in vancouver from Nov 8th till... I dunno, at least till I finish school. POF seems to be where the vancouver people are and quite a few on OKCupid.

But! not dating anymore. My head would explode. just doing friends till maybe something nice happens with a friendship.

*battle weary*

that doesn't mean I'm not frisky with friends.

eyeliner is hot. on everyone.

I might come visit seattle to say hi once I settle in.

[Darbonaire]

57 year old some say nice looking <check my pic then you decide> FTM into femmes BIG time.....I enjoy the male / female exchange of energy....a Daddy.....not into inflicting pain but I LOVE a good mind f*ck. Enjoying life in VA......would love to have someone to date, have sex with if that works for both, someone who laughs & who gets my sense of humor. Please be a drive distance away but, I welcome ALL chats....who knows what may happen between us...I'm open to the possibilities.

I am gentlemanly, have manners, enjoy spoiling a woman, appreciate intelligence & demand honesty on BOTH sides.

If you are interested, I am always open to a chat so let me know....& may we all be blessed with good times, good friends, & if we're lucky....lasting love !!

Jonathan

[juliebrave]

Based on HoneyB's add, I want to date her. I think we could make it work. ;)

[aishah]

i love this thread! i've had really, really horrendous luck with okcupid and i tend to go on fetlife more for the forums.

[Hominid]

I'll cut and paste some of my OKC profile - it really goes on and on (and on) - I'm Hominid9 there.

I'm kind of old fashioned, conversational - love to play devil's advocate. I'm smart, a smart-ass - sarcastic, funny, dry. I do not need "fixing" anymore than you do. I get phrases and words stuck in my head more often than songs. Lately, it's been "Pliny the Elder".

Things I would like to do:
-Get lost in Home Depot or that great old refurb/door/window store in Florence
- Drink hot chocolate in the Berkshires, sitting on the tailgate of my truck and watching a meteor shower
- Spend an afternoon at a sushi bar and try everything, tell bad jokes and people watch
- Get dragged out of the house to do something I complain about but we both know I'll love doing
- Go "dive bar" hopping
- Watch the Mars lander live on TV and break out a bottle of champagne to celebrate
-Read books together with our feet touching
- Roast marshmallows on the fire pit by the river in the woods and snuggle
- Long, winding road trips featuring lots of singing, stopping at antique shops, historical markers and diners
-Listen to long stories, what others know that I don't, and Terry Gross.

I detest extremism; I value the dialectic;
I don't believe in any of this, but I'm a classic Capricorn.
I have an unusual number of plants in my house; I'm an expert aquarist, but do not have an aquarium. I can't bring myself to mow my side yard this year because a little family of deer have found it, and they use it for ... something. It's now a little meadow instead of a yard. I like their paths in the tall grass. My neighbors hate me, but the deer, birds, bees and butterflies are very happy about this. Who matters more?

I seem serious, but in fact I'm shy. And intolerant of stupidity.
I seem stoic, but I'm sentimental and empathetic, and extremely goofy. The more I like you, the more I blush and stammer.
When someone dies, the hearing center of the brain lives for another 10-15 minutes. I sing to them after everyone leaves the room, usually something from their youth, if I can't come up with anything, "The Sound of Music". I will deny this to anyone with whom I work.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Based on HoneyB's add, I want to date her. I think we could make it work. ;)

HAHAHA bootches, I am pullin' the femmes! Eat my dust!

(obviously I am just rattling cages)

I will now court you in London style:

A'igh? *upwards head nod*

I have a tattoo. And a bus pass.

[DapperButch]

Based on HoneyB's add, I want to date her. I think we could make it work. ;)

We've ALL wanted to date HB for years. Get in line. :whip:

[imperfect_cupcake]

We've ALL wanted to date HB for years. Get in line. :whip:

really???? ??

there doesn't seem to be an appropriate icon for this information.

It's my bus pass, isn't it.

[Gemme]

Hey, a good bus pass means you're going places...

[DapperButch]

really???? ??

there doesn't seem to be an appropriate icon for this information.

It's my bus pass, isn't it.

You know, I really think it is. Bus passes are SO difficult to get that it just draws all of us to you. I think you first mentioned it back on the dash site and none of us ever forgot it. And now, bringing it up again...well, I can confidently say that I am not the only one on the site that swooned.

[DapperButch]

You know, I really think it is. Bus passes are SO difficult to get that it just draws all of us to you. I think you first mentioned it back on the dash site and none of us ever forgot it. And now, bringing it up again...well, I can confidently say that I am not the only one on the site that swooned.

C'mon people! This was freakin funny!

[DapperButch]

C'mon people! This was freakin funny!

Finally! I got a thanks on it. ha

[Heavenleahangel]

I could see myself saying the exact same thing! I am funny like that...

[imperfect_cupcake]

<<< Loves laughing at my own jokes. IM FUNNAY HAHAHAHA!!!!

I actually say that too. especially when someone else is looking fed up. :D

[Graham]

I'm butch, looking for a nice femme to be a great partner. Love the wifey types....good in all aspects of a marriage. I'm 54...just a lil chunky...with a good sense of humor. I have 2 kids...one daughter and a son, 2 grandkids I love to death and would do anything for. I am a loyal person and very loving. I can cook and clean for the most part...I need passion!

[Graham]

the date HB line
I used to be in that line....do I get to claim my old spot?

[Beloved]

Let's see...

I'm a 37 year old femme interested in meeting an FTM/butch within 10 years of my age. I really like nerds or those who appreciate education. Intelligence is sexy. Someone who is a gentleman, stable, has a career, and likes children because I have a 2.5 year old daughter. She is not a negotiable. Please be emotionally available. Someone who can laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously. Must be very liberal.

I'm a dental hygienist, very liberal, and generally happy. I like to go out to eat, explore cities and towns, travel, vegetarian, and fun. I also like to hang out at home. I try to be very positive and maybe to a fault. I am a very good person, very loving, and have a lot to offer.

Let's see if I get any bites....this dating thing is soooo hard. There's gotta be somebody out there.

[wahya]

I am in search of my bestfriend.. The rest will follow:praying:

[Metro]

I am in search of my bestfriend.. The rest will follow:praying:

Ditto... am a believer in this mindset, too.

^5

[Daktari]

We've ALL wanted to date HB for years. Get in line. :whip:

Takin' a number :glasses:

[skeeter_01]

ok! i'll play!! :) this is my POF profile...
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Do you wanna know something? Life is short! Seriously! It's also a wonderful journey, one that twists and turns and goes up and down...(I think I'm getting sea sick).

That being said, I'd like to tell you a little about me. I've been single for about 4 years now, and to be perfectly honest...I'm over it! I think I'm ready to meet my LAST wife. I want to meet someone who's kinda like me..BUT is a girly-girl. For instance, I love to cook and am pretty good at it, my specialties are "low south cooking" and BBQ/grilling. I don't drink alcohol however, I AM very 420 friendly ;)

I am a lover of animals but I'm especially crazy about dogs and have a huge soft spot for pit bulls. I believe in the goodness of most people and the evil in some. I believe in God and I pray..a lot. I'm kinda shy and at the same time I can be the life of the party. I love my job and about 97.5% of my co-workers. I believe that it's important to laugh and have fun. I listen to all sorts of music and love to "play" with anything with the word "Digital" in it's title.

I would like to meet someone who's happy, who loves to laugh and have a good time. I'd like to meet a woman who's kind to others and I want her to make me forget to breathe when she looks at me. I'd like someone who understands the butch/femme dance. I'd like her to be a femme, a girly-girl like I said earlier. I want to have a biggo crush on her! It would be so cool if she liked a bunch of stuff that I like! :)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

skeet

[imperfect_cupcake]

the date HB line
I used to be in that line....do I get to claim my old spot?

I missed this!!

I did see these at all.

I'm giving out tenners for compliments today so, thanks!!!!

I sincerely wish there were more people in vancouver that felt that way

thank you!!! xx :)

[BabyDaddy]

Tall (5'10"), athletic(big muscles) Butch Daddy looking for sexy femme girl. Must be open and honest and a non game player. I am looking for a sweet babygirl to take care of and who will take care of me. I am handsome, have a good job and my own car and home.

[snowinghawk]

I am going to try this on here..WHERE are all the FEMMES who like butches hiding? I know you are out there somewhere.

About me: I am white, 44, soft butch, 5'6'', curvy, short black hair and blue eyes, with lots of tattoos.

I am tired of being alone, and I am looking for Femme that feels the same way. I know your out there, and I am looking for you. I'm too old for games and lies. I am down to earth and honest, and would like my ideal woman to be the same. I am extremely easy going, yet very shy socially until I get to know a person. I'm very easy going and laid back kind of person. I hate drama and try my best to avoid it. I do not like crowds, but prefer a few close friends. I am rather quiet until I get to know someone. I enjoy most outdoor activities and love animals. I like to go to parks and take walks, sometimes off the path. I like to be on the waterfront and watch a sunset. Camping, hunting, fishing, and lots of outdoor things. Walks in the woods, and exploring. I'm not into the bar scene, but I will occasionally go out to one.

I would like to meet a woman who lives within 25 miles of town (Columbus,OH), and identifies as Femme (not an over the top barbie girl, but somewhat of a girly girl) someone white between 30-50 (although I might consider a bit younger or older) Blonde hair is my downfall (MAJOR TURN ON) but brunets are OK too, so are Goth looks and alternative hair colors, but please no redheads. Sorry ladies, but I have had nothing but BAD experiences with those. Tattoos and piercings OK. Right now I am looking to meet and date long term, and see what happens next. Possible relationship later, with no rush, but I am looking for my one and only. I want a woman who is out to everyone about her sexuality and not be afraid of lots of PDA when we are out somewhere together. I want to be able to hold your hand, kiss you, cop a feel, hug you, etc in public with no cares in the world. I would like someone who is honest and up front with their emotions and feelings. Must be a good communicator.

Feel free to ask me anything. I will respond to all inquiries.

If you made it this far, you might be the one for me. If your interested, drop me a line email removed by admin.com and let's see where it goes.

[Ciaran]

I would like to meet a woman who lives within 25 miles of town (Columbus,OH), and identifies as Femme (not an over the top barbie girl, but somewhat of a girly girl) someone white between 30-50 (although I might consider a bit younger or older) Blonde hair is my downfall (MAJOR TURN ON) but brunets are OK too, so are Goth looks and alternative hair colors, but please no redheads. Sorry ladies, but I have had nothing but BAD experiences with those.


I'm not going to turn this into a discussion about race but I don't think I've ever seen a personal ad where someone has posted for someone "white" before.

That's leaving aside what appears to be a discriminatory perspective on redheads.


After reading the above post, I'm suddenly viewing my curmudgeonous, embittered self in a whole new liberal light :|

[snowinghawk]

I was simply stating what I am looking for. Why should I settle for something that I do not want or that I have no attraction to? I am only stating personal facts when I mention redheads. Im sure not all of them are bad but I have tried more than my share and they have all been the same. I am just trying to save the time and effort of myself or anyone reading my ad. If you don't fit the description of what I am looking for it's probably better to just pass.

[CherylNYC]

I would like to meet a woman who lives within 25 miles of town (Columbus,OH), and identifies as Femme (not an over the top barbie girl, but somewhat of a girly girl) someone white between 30-50 (although I might consider a bit younger or older) Blonde hair is my downfall (MAJOR TURN ON) but brunets are OK too, so are Goth looks and alternative hair colors, but please no redheads. Sorry ladies, but I have had nothing but BAD experiences with those.

Wow. I'm with Ciaran. snowinghawk, I was really shocked that you would specify someone white. Do you really require whiteness? What's up with that?

And not to pick on you, but your insistence on something as insignificant, (and ephemeral), as hair colour being a deal-breaker is mind blowing. Good luck with that.

[snowinghawk]

Ok it's like this ladies. If I am not sexually attracted to someone it's just not going to work for me. I am not sexually attracted to women who are not white, who are redheads, or who are not femme. I am not racist. I have many friends of many ethnic backgrounds. I know what I want and will not settle for less. Why should I. And as far as having good luck with this....actually I have met an amazing femme here who fit my description of what I am looking for and so much more.

[Sweet Bliss]

I answered a singles ad once, we chatted for a while and decided to meet. She asked if I was a white woman. I said yes, and she replied "we'll see". I laughed and we met later that day for lunch. The first thing she said was "you really are white! " " yes, and I glow in the dark. " I replied. Seems she preferred white women for various reasons, but was partnered with women of various cultures in the past. It may not be PC or even polite, but not everyone needs to be. I have preferences also. It is important to me to be able to understand not only how someone likes their coffee in the morning , but whether we are compatible culturally. It relates to our race, our socioeconomic status, our religious education and beliefs, our education levels, whether we were bottle or breast fed.


There are probably on average 1,000 different variables on what attracts us to a potential lover, for lack of a crystal ball, we start with what we are most familiar. The face we see in the morning while we brush our teeth.

We may fall in love with an exotic face down the road, but until we are in a more comfortable space with the unknown, we will continue to go with the familiar.

PC or not. Like it or not. Very few of us grow up in a cosmopolitan, egalitarian home. Very few of us grow up eating cuisine from around the world. It's a miracle we can find a lover who sticks it out after the honeymoon. Let alone after the "you didn't replace the toilet paper" incident.

[Heavenleahangel]

I answered a singles ad once, we chatted for a while and decided to meet. She asked if I was a white woman. I said yes, and she replied "we'll see". I laughed and we met later that day for lunch. The first thing she said was "you really are white! " " yes, and I glow in the dark. " I replied. Seems she preferred white women for various reasons, but was partnered with women of various cultures in the past. It may not be PC or even polite, but not everyone needs to be. I have preferences also. It is important to me to be able to understand not only how someone likes their coffee in the morning , but whether we are compatible culturally. It relates to our race, our socioeconomic status, our religious education and beliefs, our education levels, whether we were bottle or breast fed.


There are probably on average 1,000 different variables on what attracts us to a potential lover, for lack of a crystal ball, we start with what we are most familiar. The face we see in the morning while we brush our teeth.

We may fall in love with an exotic face down the road, but until we are in a more comfortable space with the unknown, we will continue to go with the familiar.

PC or not. Like it or not. Very few of us grow up in a cosmopolitan, egalitarian home. Very few of us grow up eating cuisine from around the world. It's a miracle we can find a lover who sticks it out after the honeymoon. Let alone after the "you didn't replace the toilet paper" incident.

Sweet Bliss, I agree. IMHO I don't think Snowinghawk meant anything racial about it. Its just their personal preference.
I am not racial at all! I have many ethnicities in my family and love everyone equally. But when it comes to partnering or dating, I do have a certain "type" I am attracted to. I am not attracted to other femmes. Nor am I fond of multiple facial piercings or facial tattoos. That's not saying I would wouldn't befriend the person, but I wouldn't be attracted to them in general as partner potential.
That's the great thing about this site. We can all like or dislike anything and everything or nothing at all. As long as we aren't degrading or calling out a certain race or characteristic in someone and are respectful, our personal tastes/preferences are just that....OUR preferences. We don't all have to agree-just be respectful.

[Ciaran]

If you don't fit the description of what I am looking for it's probably better to just pass.


Well, the good news for you and me is that I think I do fit the description - in that I'm white with dark hair (I did have copper highlights in my early twenties - hope that is okay?) and I'm possibly in the femme camp as you've kindly referred to me as one of "ladies" in post # 457.

Alas, I'm not within a short distance of Columbus, OH ..... otherwise, we'd likely be making love with each other in the kitchen just now.



It may not be PC or even polite, but not everyone needs to be. I have preferences also. It is important to me to be able to understand not only how someone likes their coffee in the morning , but whether we are compatible culturally. It relates to our race, our socioeconomic status, our religious education and beliefs, our education levels, whether we were bottle or breast fed.

There are probably on average 1,000 different variables on what attracts us to a potential lover, for lack of a crystal ball, we start with what we are most familiar. The face we see in the morning while we brush our teeth.

We may fall in love with an exotic face down the road, but until we are in a more comfortable space with the unknown, we will continue to go with the familiar.

PC or not. Like it or not. Very few of us grow up in a cosmopolitan, egalitarian home. Very few of us grow up eating cuisine from around the world. It's a miracle we can find a lover who sticks it out after the honeymoon. Let alone after the "you didn't replace the toilet paper" incident.


I'm not sure that's true - well, I cannot speak generally but certainly from my perspective. I am culturally insular and far from PC - I will continue to be so. I grew up in an almost 100% monocultural, white British-Irish environment and, whilst I now live in a large cosmopolitan city, it's that monocultural environment that I yearn for and will always be home.


However, for me in terms of relationships, differences often attract. Doesn't necessarily mean a polar opposite but, certainly, I would run a mile (actually, more like a marathon) if I ever stumbled upon some sort of femme equivalent of me who had similar background, status, religion etc.

[DMW]

I know what I want and will not settle for less. Why should I.

There in lies the rub.

What you consider "less than" is what others may consider best.
Agreed, attraction is based on one's personal preference.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Etc.

The words..." Less than" are so caustic.
If you stated..." I know what I want and will not accept what I don't want."
That statement sounds so much better and leaves out the negative implications that do not belong there.

As far as experience goes,
I was just wondering what would happen if you fell for a blond haired woman who was a natural red head? She just happens to color her hair.

Just a few of my thoughts.

[snowinghawk]

[QUOTE
I was just wondering what would happen if you fell for a blond haired woman who was a natural red head? She just happens to color her hair.

[/QUOTE]

That would be perfectly fine with me. I just have no attraction what-so-ever to redheads.

[Heavenleahangel]

[QUOTE
I was just wondering what would happen if you fell for a blond haired woman who was a natural red head? She just happens to color her hair.



That would be perfectly fine with me. I just have no attraction what-so-ever to redheads.[/QUOTE]

I think the point trying to be made is you being superficial about a potential partner just because their hair is a certain color. It doesn't make a woman any better just because her hair is lighter or darker. So tell me this, if you fall in love with "Jane" who has awesome blond hair and a year down the road she decides to let her hair go back to the natural color of flaming red, you would end the relationship? After all, she is a redhead and that disqualifies her from what is acceptable. I'm curious to know....

[Sweet Bliss]

Being one of those artsy types, and being very visual, what attracts me initially is visual. Words on a screen, a pleasant face, or photo. Here at bfp it's usually the words on the screen. Not everyone posts a photo. Me included. That's due to my lack of techie skills.

Only once has someone posted a photo that sent me reeling with unrequited love. So anyhoo, its the tall dark handsome types that attract me usually. The opposite of me. The intellectual types with dry sense of humour, strong hands that play musical instruments. Someone with a strong lap to sit upon. There are loads of other things, at least a 1,000.

But that doesn't mean that's the one I fall for. It is usually undefinable, mysterious, and on the quirky side.

Would love to meet "the one " . Hasn't happened. Que sera.

[Daktari]

Being one of those artsy types, and being very visual, what attracts me initially is visual. Words on a screen, a pleasant face, or photo. Here at bfp it's usually the words on the screen. Not everyone posts a photo. Me included. That's due to my lack of techie skills.

Only once has someone posted a photo that sent me reeling with unrequited love. So anyhoo, its the tall dark handsome types that attract me usually. The opposite of me. The intellectual types with dry sense of humour, strong hands that play musical instruments. Someone with a strong lap to sit upon. There are loads of other things, at least a 1,000.

But that doesn't mean that's the one I fall for. It is usually undefinable, mysterious, and on the quirky side.

Would love to meet "the one " . Hasn't happened. Que sera.

I got it covered, apart from the tall and handsome parts :winky:

[Blade]

I like snowinghawk, have ideas about what, trips my trigger. I also use the phrase, I want settle for less. Not that the things that don't trip my trigger, make a femme "less than". It's the idea that I won't settle for less than what I want or am looking for. It doesn't have anything to do with anyone being or being made to feel less than. There are features I am not typically attracted to. Then again there are some femmes that have those features, but something else stands out about them.

I'm picky, all my friends tell me I'm to picky. Guess what, I'm the same way about cars, dogs, guns and clothes. If it's not what I want then I don't want it.

snowinghawk, welcome to your first crash course in learning to pick your words. God knows it has taken me years to learn how to pick the right words on the forum. I still mess up sometime. I just think "everybody" knows what I'm talking about and in real time they would.

[Sweet Bliss]

[QUOTE
I was just wondering what would happen if you fell for a blond haired woman who was a natural red head? She just happens to color her hair.



That would be perfectly fine with me. I just have no attraction what-so-ever to redheads.[/QUOTE]

Why is hair colour such a button pusher? I know peeps who go ape for red hair. So what if someone else doesn't.? What's at stake here? It's like having a personal say in what a total stranger likes for breakfast. My exe has thing for blondes, there are pictures of Marilyn Monroe in every room in her house. Not one of me, ever. Try competing with a dead Sexual Icon.

I'm a pretty good catch, as far as I know, I have a special way about me that's lovable.

And I'm still single. So red hair isn't the problem, I wish it were that simple.

[Daktari]

Aye Blade, I get ya.

I try be careful to pick my words here too. On a forum, our intent as we type, is not always apparent.

I just open my mouth and change feet in real life :cheesy:

[Metro]

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[Sweet Bliss]

I am the marshmallow in your hot chocolate
the sugar in your coffee
Ice cubes for your tea

The teaspoon in your bed
a pillow for your head
The pencil for your lead

The flowers in your garden
apple from your tree
pollen to your bee

Me and thee
At last you see
Are meant to be

[Sweet Bliss]

I am the marshmallow in your hot chocolate
the sugar in your coffee
Ice cubes for your tea

The teaspoon in your bed
a pillow for your head
The pencil for your lead

The flowers in your garden
apple from your tree
pollen to your bee

Me and thee
At last you see
Are meant to be

Oh my giddy aunt, I posted reply #69... it's an omen!!!!

[Sweet Bliss]

a sweet smart ass with twinkling eyes, crooked smile, and ticklish toes.
irreverent sense of humor, unabashedly naughtily wired for fun.
relaxed life view, infectious laughter, occasional flatulence in public.
admiration for natures gifts, fury, mystery.
voracious learner, under the sheets aficionados.
animal lover, cigarette free, silliness provider.

all nerds, goobers, misfits, underachievers welcome to apply :)

[Daktari]

a sweet smart ass with twinkling eyes, crooked smile, and ticklish toes.
irreverent sense of humor, unabashedly naughtily wired for fun.
relaxed life view, infectious laughter, occasional flatulence in public.
admiration for natures gifts, fury, mystery.
voracious learner, under the sheets aficionados.
animal lover, cigarette free, silliness provider.

all nerds, goobers, misfits, underachievers welcome to apply :)

You keep describing me, when will you see the Britlandian light? :hamactor:

[Sweet Bliss]

perusing for useless facts junkie,
avid spiritual seeker,
liberal taste buds,
sober magician,
nature lover .... :praying:

[Daktari]

perusing for useless facts junkie,
avid spiritual seeker,
liberal taste buds,
sober magician,
nature lover .... :praying:

...and still you continue to describe me :canoworms:

[Sweet Bliss]

...and still you continue to describe me :canoworms:

you are so cute :rrose:

why do you live so far away?

[Daktari]

you are so cute :rrose:

why do you live so far away?


vLBKOcUbHR0

Put kettle on love! :tea:

[imperfect_cupcake]

New ad by me:

My six month celibacy stint is over and I'm looking for something casual and fun. And I'm open to entertaining if you are on the way though my city, since most (all) of you don't live here. I personally can't travel due to school but I'm happy to be very good, attentive, charming and frisky ;) company... I give a great massage among a few talents.

I'm a sub, mostly a bottom but I service top for those that need a particular kind of finish and happy to do what's asked of me.
I like soft butch, butch, tg butch, non-transitioning ftm, stone butch, garden variety butch...
Daddy's and/or Doms and Dom heavy switches. I don't do well with old guard style leather stuff: I'm just a kinky dirty tart and a smart ass. I like those who are perverted and able to be dirty, look me over and be handsy,. I like those that can say the kind of filth on their mind and not worry about "offending a lady"

I am kind, I am actually really sweet in person but I am not a lady nor am I a princess - I do not wish to be treated like one (cautiously, afraid of offending). With casual sex and a quick visit (one or two nights) I really don't have the time to do a courtship style wooing to get to point. Treat me like a sweetheart tart.

Treat me well when we go out for dinner but be able to be dirty. Be able to touch me. Be able to read body language and be brave enough to touch my leg without having to ask permission. If it's not ok I will very gently let you know. But if we've had a chat long enough to agree to a visit, it will most likely be ;) I get curious just as much as you do.

OR I also would be able to swap sex texts or phone sex as I don't have a local play friend. No strings. If it's just the internet or texts there is no long getting to know you. Just hot play. I'm very good at being very descriptive, I have done it for a living.

Send me an IM if you are interested.

I know girls don't put these kinds of ads up here but there isn't really a place to put it. Craig's list just has men writing to me or bicurious house wives or dykes wanting a relationship! Even though I've been blunt. I have done this in other dyke forums when in other countries and it's received just fine.

So, I hope if anyone else was wondering where on earth they could possibly just get a little friendly attention... You can put an add here yourself or if you are butch... try sending me an IM and see if we mesh for a bit of fun.

[Happy_Go_Lucky]

What a refreshingly honest post, honeybarbara!
;)

Good luck!

[imperfect_cupcake]

thank you Happy go lucky! appreciated!

I forgot to add - I don't care what size anyone is: I've had partners from size 8 to size 26 and from 5'4 to 6'3. So in terms of casual fun, I'm more concerned about courage, drive, dirty and the ability to talk/state ones fantasies. I am also rather fond of anyone with a tit fetish.

ha.

:)

[fatallyblonde]

okay gonna give this a little try...

I would like to meet an old fashioned Butch or Stone Butch over the age of 35 who is down to earth, smart, kind, tough, has lots of self-respect and knows what they want...

... I'd prefer someone in Australia so the chance of meeting face to face is higher but honestly I am totally willing to do some long distance chatting and see what could happen...! Why not?

I'm 5'4" and would prefer someone taller. I love beefcakes and fitness freaks but also the sturdy, robust and cuddly... I guess in general I just like big people!

I value emotional intelligence over book learning and prefer the working class over white collar wankers. I like people to have healthy egos and good self-respect but not to be obnoxious jerks.

I need a good strong top who knows how to fuck hard but also understands tenderness and affection.

As for me... I'm a curvy Marilyn Monroe lookalike. I work in entertainment and am I nail artist. I'm a thorough glamour puss and love dolling up but no time for pretensions or games or being a jerk to anyone. I'm very strong willed and independent but also vulnerable and fragile in my own way. I've been around the block more than once so I have a tough outlook on life... but am a total romantic at heart nonetheless. I pride myself on integrity and kindness and being connected with others and the world around me.

I basically dream of settling down with a beautiful Butch in traditional bliss. If you are searching for someone too, please send me a private message... let's chat at least!

[okieblu]

I've been reading through the thread and it's been a hoot. HoneyBarbara, you are an absolute kick-ass femme.

While I would really like to date again, I'm still trying to do some needed work on myself. Seems I have been for years.

I'm 57, single, stone butch. Trying to get on SSI, currently on state assistance. I'm an artist and crafts person, working in a lot of different media, these days mainly jewelry making. Doing my damned-ist to get out of Oklahoma and in a State where I might have a hope of making a living/partial living as an artist. Really want a little piece of land, for a small home, with a big garden, fruit trees, some animals-yes, I'm an omnivore. I'm into alternative building, permaculture/green gardening/farming, and yes, I dumpster dive.

I'm on the far left politically, blue collar all my life and working class poor. I'm also OLP-Out Loud and Proud. My health isn't great, but I'm doing what I can to try to make it better, or at least keep it from getting worse. I quit smoking 5 yrs ago this spring. I'm not really a drinker, but I'm okay if you are a light/social drinker. I'm smart, mouthy as hell, sarcastic, and I PAY ATTENTION. I know how to do housework, I'm a pretty good scratch cook, and I take care of the bills and the necisities (even if I can't spell it) first. I love books, like movies, animals. I have a grown daughter and a 16 yr old granddaughter that I love very much, but I REALLY dont want to raise anymore kids.

I'm skinny, though getting a little heavy, I'm all arms and legs, 5'7" tall, grey hair and hazel eyes. lots of wrinkles.
And this is turning into a novel...

Dont say I didn't warn you...

[skeeter_01]

What the heck...here goes :)

I feel you, you're floating around in my mind and my heart. You're a classy femme woman. You're in your late 40's or early 50's, but certainly don't look or act it! You love to be spoiled, you love to laugh, you love to cook with a partner, you love adventures and you love DOGS! :)

You're looking for a butch lesbian that is funny, loving, romantic and will treat you like the princess you are. A butch that will take care of you when you need it and give you your "rein" when you want it. A butch that will have you laughing, dancing and loving. A butch that wants to make a life long commitment. NOT a hit and run. You're NOT looking for a one night stand, someone to share with your partner, or some sleazy "let's have phone sex", you are a femme, you're looking for REAL. And I hate to brag but, not only am I REAL but I'm AWESOME!! :)

Life is short. I'm looking for my LAST wife, not my NEXT. You must be a femme. I won't compromise with that. I am butch, I'm a stone butch and only attracted to femmes. I'm waiting for you baby.... Satisfaction guaranteed or your loneliness cheerfully refunded...

[WolfyOne]

I read all these posts and sit here, think to myself, why do words not come so easy for me when I want to write in this thread, but my poetry can flow. All I can say is if anyone wants to get an inside look at me, find my poetry thread and start at the beginning.

I'm slow out the gate when it comes to love. When I get interested in a single femme, she's usually dating someone by the time I get brave enough to ask her out. I often think, if it was meant to be it would. The powers that be would just put us in the same space and let the dance begin. I'm the kind of person that knows from the first look and the first hug, if we made a connection.

It's been over 4 years since I've been in a relationship. I had to make sure all the cobwebs were cleaned out of my heart and head just to be fair to myself and anyone that may take an interest in me. I didn't want to be vulnerable and perhaps open old wounds. In fact, it honestly scares me a little to get involved, let my heart feel again, but I know I can and I will. It's part of human nature. We want to feel without pain, but it happens. We want to love forever, but sometimes it doesn't happen that way. We take that leap of faith and always hope for the best...well, here I am taking that leap of faith.

I'm a gentle butch looking for a femme that accepts me as I am, flawed. I'm 55 even if my friends don't think I look or act my age at times. Must love animals, if you really want to get to know me. Those that do know me from BFP in real life can probably tell you more about me than I have written here.

[okieblu]

Short and simple

Single Butch, 57 ISO Femme into Permaculture/Homesteading/Etc

I'm looking for a best friend as well as a partner. Let's take it slow and see what happens.

[Sweet Bliss]

I am the marshmallow in your hot chocolate
the sugar in your coffee
Ice cubes for your tea

The teaspoon in your bed
a pillow for your head
The pencil for your lead

The flowers in your garden
apple from your tree
pollen to your bee

Me and thee
At last you see
Are meant to be


Still available for parties and small gatherings. :cheer:

a sweet smart ass with twinkling eyes, crooked smile, and ticklish toes.
irreverent sense of humor, unabashedly naughtily wired for fun.
relaxed life view, infectious laughter, occasional flatulence in public.
admiration for natures gifts, fury, mystery.
voracious learner, under the sheets aficionados.
animal lover, cigarette free, silliness provider.

all nerds, goobers, misfits, underachievers welcome to apply :)

[SleepyButch]

I read all these posts and sit here, think to myself, why do words not come so easy for me when I want to write in this thread, but my poetry can flow. All I can say is if anyone wants to get an inside look at me, find my poetry thread and start at the beginning.

I'm slow out the gate when it comes to love. When I get interested in a single femme, she's usually dating someone by the time I get brave enough to ask her out. I often think, if it was meant to be it would. The powers that be would just put us in the same space and let the dance begin. I'm the kind of person that knows from the first look and the first hug, if we made a connection.

It's been over 4 years since I've been in a relationship. I had to make sure all the cobwebs were cleaned out of my heart and head just to be fair to myself and anyone that may take an interest in me. I didn't want to be vulnerable and perhaps open old wounds. In fact, it honestly scares me a little to get involved, let my heart feel again, but I know I can and I will. It's part of human nature. We want to feel without pain, but it happens. We want to love forever, but sometimes it doesn't happen that way. We take that leap of faith and always hope for the best...well, here I am taking that leap of faith.

I'm a gentle butch looking for a femme that accepts me as I am, flawed. I'm 55 even if my friends don't think I look or act my age at times. Must love animals, if you really want to get to know me. Those that do know me from BFP in real life can probably tell you more about me than I have written here.




It's never easy getting back into the mode of trying to find a person to share our lives with. It's scary, especially if you've been hurt before. Who wants to get their heart broken time after time? So I applaud you for taking that leap!

We all have our faults, I like to think it's what makes us unique or differ from others. If we were perfect, we would be boring!


Femmes... I know this post was written awhile ago and not sure if Wolfie is still looking or not but...while I don't know Wolfie all that well, I do have to say that from what I do know.... (I'm not sure if you go by hy/she) hy is funny, loves to laugh, and is loyal to those people who are hys friends/family. I know that Wolfie loves to dance and has a great time doing so! I've seen that in person at past Reunions. I know hy loves animals as well, which in my book always says a lot about a person. Wolfie is definitely a great sport also... wore a tutu at last years reunion. I don't know many Butches/Guys who would have done that.. I wouldn't have lol.

Anyway, if you are looking for a genuine, caring, funny person... take a look here. You never know... you might find a like connection that could lead to more!

(Sorry Wolfie for writing this if you aren't looking anymore. Just thought since you said your friends could write more that I would add some stuff.)

[Chad]

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