It's the little things, like.....

[princessbelle]

I was just thinking about this today and wondering if there is a thread like this. If there is, i didn't find it.

Relationships are complex and so many variables play into how they work and if they work. Sometimes, it's the little things that really make a difference. It's the little things that you notice or maybe should notice.

I feel they are important. IMHO, little things can be just as important as big things in relationships.

I'm talking ALL relationships here. With partners, kids, parents, friends....every part of our lives.

What little things in your relationships have meant so much to you or you have felt meant so much to someone else. What seemingly little things make you smile big all the way to your bones.

I'll go first...

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It's the little things, like....

Watching Bully's face light up and smile so big when i sang "Little bunny foofoo" this afternoon complete with hand jesters. She loved it. She appreciated it. She appreciates me and all of my silly ways. Sorta a little thing to most but was huge to me.


:)

[Gemme]

I think that there is another one like this, but who doesn't need to be reminded of the little things once in a while?

I love Lil Bunny Foo Foo and would have smiled and laughed too.

I have a day off today. That's a little thing in the scope of life, but it's a welcome respite from the daily grind.

[Hollylane]

It seems like a little thing, but today...

My roommate's girlfriend sent me a picture of her arm, adorned with the bracelet I made for her. The text said "I love it! It fits my arm, and me perfectly!"

[JustJo]

I so agree with you....little things mean a lot. :rrose:

When I am having a rough day (or a rough moment) my son never fails to give me one of what he calls his "bone crushing Rooster hugs."

They are bone-crushing....and wonderful. :)

[princessbelle]

Gemme, days off are wonderful. I so agree with you. I hope you slept late, my friend, and found time for yourself!!!

HollyLane, that does sound wonderful to get a pic like that. I imagine it would make you smile to your bones for sure!!!!

Oh yes Jo i so agree. Our kids can do the sweetest things and not sure if they know what it means to us.

Brad will sometimes call when he is on his way home from work just to ask if i need anything from the store, etc. He also always finishes his phone call with "I love you mom". No matter who he is with at the time.

It means more to me than he will ever know.

Thanks all of you for posting. THESE things you write are making me smile ear to ear.

Thanks for sharing!!!!

[UofMfan]

Like my son calling me and asking me for advice. Over and over again.

[Mtn]

Great thread Belle, I count the small things as most important....

Endearments, having your own special phrases, and ways your affection is shared.

My visiting kid bringing me the tea she knows I drink. She made time to see me, even though she was down in these parts to see her in laws. She's a good kid.

[girl_dee]

I was just thinking about this today and wondering if there is a thread like this. If there is, i didn't find it.


:)



There is!
http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=578

Admin can combine them and build on it because it's a great thread idea!

The little things can be such big things!

[durrrrrrrr]

Even Sunday I "face time" with my niece so I can see and visit with her children. My great nephews and niece.

I talk to my niece and catch up on things. then my 2 yr old great nephew gets in front of the camera / phone so I can see him while talking ( face time ) with him. He always says hi and that he loves me.

the twins are now 5 months old so my niece will just hold the phone over them so I can see them. the lil 5 month old niece is smiling now...its just to freakin cute.

Christmas Day, they set up their IPad so I could face time again with them, so i could literally watch my 2 yr old nephew come down the steps, get excited that Santa had been there and I got to watch him open his gifts.

after that, I cooked the same thing they did for breakfast ( and nope, I didnt burn anything that day ) then once everyone was done cooking we all "face time" again and sat down and had Christmas breakfast together.

that means and meant a lot to me :)

[princessbelle]

Oh ok Sassy. Gemme said that too i just didn't find it. The other one is in the fluff threads. This is about relationships but i'm sure they are similar enough.

And yeah, admin will take care of it if they want them combined. Whatever works best. And you are right.....little things are really big things when they add up. It's amazing!!!!

Mtn, it is precious your daughter got to see you bro!!!! I guess that makes me her Auntie Belle...lol.

Durx8, time with family is so important. It sounds like you really appreciate it a lot and take it all in. That's wonderful!!! :)

Today i have this to say about "little things"....

I had a mentally handicaped patient today. He was just precious. The mom said he had the mind of a 3 year old. She was amazing and was taking such wonderful care of him.

He kept reaching for me and when i would get close he just rubbed my arm or hers or whoever he could touch.

When i was about to leave, he was reaching for me again. His mom says..."he always does that, you go ahead about your day".

I was about to leave and looked back at him. So innocent. So pure and sweet. I couldn't help but walk over again.

He didn't want to rub my arm. He pulled me down and gave me a hug.

That.

Made my day.

Hugs even from strangers or people we don't know that well are beautiful things.

:)

[Hollylane]

Belle, I absolutely love your little(HUGE) thing today. I know exactly how that feels. Thank you for sharing that.

My little things today...

My roommate asked me to go to church with him tomorrow. His girlfriend is going to the Buddhist Temple in the morning, and he said that he would enjoy the company of his best friend tomorrow at church. It was really quite sweet. I am not a church goer, but I will go, and appreciate sharing that with him. As well as Super Bowl after church! :)

I met someone from our local community for dinner tonight, she was really a very nice person, and has the hook up for local activities like game nights, movie nights, hiking, and biking. I have really been looking for a group that does these activities on a monthly basis, and it looks like I may have found it! Friends, outside of work, in the local community are something I have really felt was missing from my life in the Portland area for a long time. I'm really excited to meet some new friendly folks!

and the last little thing...

Dinner was absolutely scrumptious...I suggested Gustav's (because the last time I went there it was fabulous), so it was Chicken schnitzel, with shitake mushrooms, and spaetzel with paprika sauce. The appetizer, fondue with bread and sausage, was to die for. More workouts in my future, but well worth it!

It was a really lovely day. New friends, old friends, and good food.

[always2late]

Two of my little things...

My son telling me he missed me when he comes home from a visit with his dad.

My honey bringing me a cup of coffee in the morning (made just the way I like it) when I'm just getting out of bed. Seems like such a small thing...but it always starts my day off with a smile :)

[WingsOnFire]

I love this thread Belle!!

The little things for me are....

Damon bringing me a cup of coffee when he knows I cant breathe well... knowing it helps...

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Riley being there to bury my head in her fur when I was having to go through the daily gauze packing after my surgery... worked much better than pain pills...

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Riley... sensing when I am having a bad night just nudging me with her head.

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The new baby Coco who INSISTS on crawling across my face and smothering me with her belly when we go to bed... good thing she only weighs 15 pounds.. I still dont know what thats about lol..

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And of course Peppa.. my sweet holy terror Peppa... every night when "she" is ready... she nudges the blanket aside and crawls under curling behind my knees (usually after stomping on Damon's chest to get there).. warm Peppa's make everything better..

Thats what Damon says anyway..

And... just now... as I type... Damon playing "I hope you dance" for me.. just because..

[BullDog]

My sweetie bringing me home pens and notebooks and loving it as much as I do. :D

[Kenna]

Even when you insist on paying your own way ...being treated to your favorite latter and later in the evening your favorite hot apple cider when they saw you were chilled from sitting outside with everyone. It was a nice treat indeed ...and for some strange reason, it feels good to have doors opened for me and being escorted to my car in a dark parking lot.

[BullDog]

the pups coming in to greet me good morning :D

[girl_dee]

waking up with puppy kisses......

[JustJo]

Getting a card in the mail...that smells like him. :)

[Lazy Daze]

Love this thread Belle!

I love that He always slows down by the little lakes so I can look for gators bc he knows it tickles me pink to see them out sunbathing

How His hand always finds mine everytime we walk together

That He makes me chocolate chip cookies late at night and let's me eat them in bed

He always says I love you Baby, not just I love you

How my nephew, even though he is 17, let's me call him Baby Pumpkin Butt and doesn't cringe, and always says I love you twice before he hangs up

How Chevvie loves to lay across my feet while I watch tv

That Dodger nickers when he hears my voice as I walk in the barn

[Massive]

It may not seem like much, but I'm still buying my Mum flowers, ever since she told me no-one had ever bought her them when she was with them, it broke my heart, she's the sweetest, most generous, loving, giving and forgiving woman I've ever met, and it always makes me smile seeing her face light up when I walk up to her with a bundle of flowers in my arms, even if she does then tell me off for spending my money on her.
She's worth it, hell, she's more than worth it, she's not only my Mother, she's one of my best friends.

[princessbelle]

Thanks everyone for posting!!!!!!!!

ITLT like..........

Being held tight after a long, frustrating day and then before i know it laughing about the silliest things. Just cause she can find and bring out the happiness in me no matter what.

Getting a call from my mom who is watching the Superbowl and she just KNOWS she's gonna win that car in that giveaway even though she signed up just once and there are millions of people registered.

Sitting at my desk finishing my work computer stuff and taking time to notice all the things on my desk that are special to me. Like, things co workers have bought me over the years, my certifications, an antique nurse that my uncle bought me when i graduated, a picture of me and Bully in our 50s attire at the reunion, sand from Julie's trip, curious George trinket box that another friend bought me and she has since passed away, a pink ceramic shoe that i just adored and got at Goodwill oh about 20 years ago, a tiny ceramic tea pitcher that i made myself....

Ok i'll stop now lol. But, it is wonderful to have these little things around me from all of these wonderful and different relationships that all mean so very very much.

[spritzerJ]

finding the prize hy left under my pillow. Why didn't I look there first? Silly me, but content me.

[Nadeest]

Some guy at the train station made me a rose, out of palm leaves, just because he liked talking to me. That was so very sweet of him.

[Gemme]

One of my favorite customers came in reeking of cologne. The scent lasted looooong after he left. This made me happy because it was a pleasant smell that covered the smell of what my employee did in the bathroom right before going home.

:blink:

[Novelafemme]

i love this thread!

itlt...like drifting off to sleep with my 10 year old snuggled deep under the covers between us.

...text messages from family letting me know they miss and love me.

...watching my almost 14 year old hanging out with her in the kitchen while she makes dinner, chatting away. that is a first EVER!!

...doggy kisses after a long day at school and work.

...being able to log in here every now and again during the day and find myself smiling at all they joy you folks bring into my life!

[princessbelle]

Being called "Princess" today at a meeting at work by my boss.

Bully handing me extra money for play when she knew it was a shopping day!!!!!

My son eating dinner with us and loving what i cooked.

Doing something today very special and fun and together with lots of laughter.

Bella being clean and just adorable with her cute little hair cut and floppy ears.

Finding and buying hair clips that i've been looking for and they were just $1.00!!!!!!!

[girl_dee]

The little things, like this thread!

Today Syr grabbed me by the ponytail when i almost cut myself cutting up a cucumber.. she said through grit teeth *Don't cut yourself*


Yup the lil things are sometimes very BIG things!

[BullDog]

Seeing Bella prance in with her cute little bandana and new hair cut (I sure did miss her while she was at the beauty shop)

Belle coming home and showing me all her prizes from shopping (including more notebooks for me- score!)

Being put to work on a secret project

[girl_dee]

i single opened tulip on the table......

[spritzerJ]

the message that said, "we do things together now...".

[girl_dee]

a puppy that follows me around everywhere

[Greyson]

A sore foot rub. Thank you Julie.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Little notes.
Bringing me lunch to work.
Visiting me on my route.

[clay]

those cute little smiles
amazing friends
milk chocolate covered ginger from the Chocolate Tree.....
too bad I can't send a box of these goodies....would bring a huge smile...grin

[girl_dee]

a "good girl" text!!!

[midwest chick]

it's the little things like,
giving hym a hand massage after training and watching the swelling go down immediately.

[princessbelle]

~ watching Titanic with me and enjoying it.

~ handing me tissues at the cryie parts.

~ Eating popcorn in bed together.

[girl_dee]

pups that dream..........

[Amber2010]

The little things say so much in any relationship.
Such as; I had to tell my partner I broke that plastic ear hook for my bluetooth and I don't use my phone so much without it because I always seem to be needing both hands for things. Ha Ha Then a few days later in the mail she made me a ear hook herself. I just love it. :) It is such a great way to feel someone is thinking about you.

[PinkieLee]

It's the little things like....

being able to be silly with eachother ~ singing really cheezy songs completely out of tune, or breaking out in an old school rap song at any given moment.

[princessbelle]

~ Her noticing i fixed my hair differently today

~ Enjoying nature together

~ Fixing her Zen garden for her to put on her desk

~ Hot coffee and warm night nights in our cozy home, after a long day in the mountains

[sylvie]

- being called 'sunshine'..
- days off from work for relaxation & reconnecting
- date nights, cooking adventures & constant appreciation & love..
- a fb connection & much in common with His precious daughter, feels pretty wonderful to me..♥

[chai~]

When they get up to get something for themself, and ask, "Can I get you anything?"

The sweetest bouquet of hand picked road side flowers, or flowering weeds!

[girl_dee]

a kiss right on the lips!


:awww:

[Mr Nice Guy]

Her helping to find your keys because you lost them again.

[girl_dee]

because She is present with ME, always aware of me,,,, i feel like a priority

[sylvie]

- Our moon, every night, connects Us & keeps Us close.. ♥
- memories of dancing under Our moon on the jetty one night..
- Thich Nhat Hanh
- my teenage daughter helping me with Supper, full of smiles & chatter..
- airborne...............................okay, not really..

[midwest chick]

Like how hys voice makes me feel loved, wanted, desired, and above all else, necesarry to hym, the desire to be there~~not only for the love and protection hy provides, but for the feeling that I can provide something for hym. I want hym to feel the compassion, love, adoration, desire, (lust?) longing, and happiness I feel, and all that I can't express, but hy already knows....

The little things, like the furbabies not fighting, and discussing boundaries.

Like saying when I hate me, and feeling love from hym anyway.

Hearing hym breathe, after a night of so many patients having 'trouble'

Hearing how happy hy is, in hys voice, and choice of words.

Just feeling what hys voice does to me physically, emotionally, and mentally, regardless of what hys saying....

I wish I had the vocabulary to describe my feelings...but in many ways, I think that may make them commonplace, which they aren't. So, I'm content with the reality, and continue to strive for the eventuallity. I think I like that more.



The little things, are the major things,
and I love them both.

[DamonK]

A text making sure I'm up for work.
An offer for soda to be brought home.
Food.
Climbing in bed, hearing her CPAP, knowing she's just fine.
Getting sprayed with water from her CPAP and waking her up to tell her to put it back on.
Coco between our heads.
Peppa behind her knees.
Kisses as I sleep.
Waking up to feel concerned hands on me, whilst telling me I feel feverish... even though she's running late.
I love you so much! texts
Excited texts about plans

[sylvie]

- Seeing Him wearing His stud muffin tshirt i got Him..*smiles* & all the attention He receives for it from everyone... love my stud muffin !!

[Hollylane]

The little things....

I went to get the mail today, and discovered the most thoughtful little envelope with a little card and a candy bracelet from my friends Belle and Bully, for Valentine's Day. :)

A wonderful busy weekend with friends. :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

The way she puts perfume and sprays the inside of your car so that on the way to work or home you'll be thinking of her. Never had that done but wouldn't mind. Actually it's something I would do for her.

[cinderella]

My bed is super high, so my Pinky (she's a little mite) can't jump into it. She sleeps at the foot of my bed in her crate (door open, of course) which is padded with a pink bed and a pink blankie (is she spoiled, or what!?).

In the mornings she comes to the side of the bed and starts hopping up and down and whimpering/talking to mommy to get the heck up and feed her! Sometimes I tease her, and make believe I don't hear her - boy, does that get a reaction! She will continue in this way until I get up. Then she brings her toys for me to throw so she can fetch - but she never wants to let go, lol, so it's tug-of-war time. This is our daily routine. My Pinky is a scamp/imp, and I adore her to no end. And the fact that she's adorably cute-as-a-button, doesn't hurt her any either! She is approaching the 'terrible twos' - may heaven preserve me! ;)

These are the small and joyous things in my life that are really BIG things.I love my Pinky!

[softheart]

The way he always brings beautiful flowers, when he picks me up.
The way he opens the car door for me and closes it when I get in.
The way he always smells so good.
His voice and the way he laughs.

[sylvie]

- little doodles in my book from my daughter reminding me she loves me♥
- my son carrying a sketchpad with him everywhere he goes these days , he's so talented, and so glad he's pursuing his art!
- baked apples!
- Daddy understanding my need for organization *looking around my desk with all of my lists i've written for my upcoming trip to Oregon* lol!!

[Soft*Silver]

I sleep in the recliner downstairs because of my shoulder surgery. He comes down three times a night to check on me, to make sure I am ok. I have caught him doing this...its so tender and sweet

Sometimes, coming home from work, he brings me treats. Ice Cream Drumsticks, bit of honey bars, fresh fruit, Diet Dr Pepper...these are things I wont keep in the house because I will eat too much of it. So he paces them out and surprises me with them

he brags to everyone how I save leftovers for the wild animals outside, and feed the outside birds when it is cold and snowy, and how I freeze and save bread all year round that has gone stale so I can coat it with bacon or peanut butter for the outdoor birds in the winter

he argued his point (and won!) to the director of the theater show he was in, that he didnt need to cut his hair (which is half way down his back), because he knew how much it mattered to me that his hair stay long...

he warms the lotion before he puts it on my feet...

[girl_dee]

a peck on the head..............

[MsTinkerbelly]

A Valentine's card slipped under the windsheild wiper....:loveletter:

[Inked_Trinity]

...Making it easier for me to eat healthy. Massaging my aching forearm after boxing. The sound of her voice next to my ear as I wake up. The feel of her body next to me as I sleep. All small things that mean the world to me.

[Hollylane]

Little things...

Just munched on the little candy bracelet, and it made me feel like a little kid...

A nice little Valentine's bag with a beautiful card, pretty red journal embossed with flowers, and Ferrero Rocher chocolates...

[Rocket]

Every little thing about her is absofuckinlutly amazing....I'm completely in love.

[deedarino]

This is one of the most beautiful threads I have ever read...

[princessbelle]

Reading all of the wonderful things everyone did on V-Day here on the webs and learning by phone what others did or had done for them.

Me and Bully taking Mom some candy on V-Day knowing she was missing my Dad and just being with her for awhile, laughing, talking about old times and lots of hugs and kisses.

After an awesome two day celebration of V-Day here in the Bully/Belle Villa, going to bed, snuggling, and hearing in the stillness of the dark "Happy Valentines baby, i love you".

Love and romance are beautiful things. (f)

I went to sleep smiling ear to ear.

[LaneyDoll]

~Coming home to a clean place, which he took the time to do before he got on the road to drive back home.

~Posts on FB that start off "Hey Laney, look at this!"

~Telling me that I do not need the make-up, the eyelashes etc because he thinks I am beautiful anyway.

~His grooming of my eyebrows; he does an amazing job of this (must be the perfectionist in him).

:sparklyheart:

[Arwen]

When he calls me at midnight because he has a dream and just wants to share it.

[choochoo-enginerd]

Meandering about Portland....finding the nearest Stumptown coffee to bring home for when she arrives. Knowing she will smile and let me do the work. SHutting the world out for a day....the coalescence of energies which few see through the myopic scope:bunchflowers:

[foxyshaman]

Having my favorite soy cheese in the fridge when I come for a visit.

[christie]

Meandering about Portland....finding the nearest Stumptown coffee to bring home for when she arrives. Knowing she will smile and let me do the work. SHutting the world out for a day....the coalescence of energies which few see through the myopic scope:bunchflowers:

The little things such as this make all the difference in the world. The preparations you make for Me are always appreciated and noticed. My heart bubbles over when I look in the fridge and all around are My favorite treats, the coffee is set and programmed to brew for My internal east-coast clock and My slippers are waiting for Me by the bed.

All of these little things comprise very immeasurable things...love, adoration and devotion. :awww:

[PinkieLee]

It's the little things like...

in the middle of chaos, no words needed, just reaching for their hand.

[BullDog]

I was laying in bed watching basketball with my computer and my sweetie brought me the computer lap desk to use to be more comfy. :)

[sylvie]

- Daddy saying He is proud of me
- hearing the words "goodgirl"
- every moment We spend doing things We love doing together, so the distance isn't so hard as it could be...
- keeping it real, ALWAYS...that amazing connection, Halfsides.♥

[*Anya*]

A beautiful bottle filled with sand and special stones and shells from the beach, along with an original poem scrolled, placed inside and written just for me.

The first few lines:

My Sweetheart

It is our first Valentines Day

The first of many to come

I love you as I have no other

In ways I never could have imagined
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The rest of the poem is even more beautiful but too personal to share.

Tears were shed by this femme.

[TimilDeeps]

CIJS bibbitybobbityboo

[girl_dee]

the treat of a coke!

[spritzerJ]

like making her wait even when she has been good. gggrrr....

[Mr Nice Guy]

The little love notes you get. I miss that.

[sylvie]

seeing an amazing Dear post in the Dear thread, that brings me to tears, because His love & support for me blows me away sometimes.. Especially on my difficult & challenging days in my Recovery & this Eating Disorder...
He so publicly adores me and puts it out there so proudly - not only online but with His loved ones that are so dear to Him & i truly never doubt that i am so loved and that He is proud of me, seriously proud of me.. i love Him, so damn much..

[princessbelle]

Ever since i was a child i get so frightened if i lose sight of the person i'm with while in a crowd of people. I freak out actually.

So, She never lost sight of me tonight at the Lady Vols Basketball game and i felt totally safe.

Oh AND She bought me cotton candy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Hollylane]

Today's little thing...

My mom called to tell me she loves me, and that she thought of me today when she was looking at bracelets at a local shop in Tucson. She said she thought "I'll just have my daughter make me one", and left empty handed.

:)

[PaPa]

A wonderful friendship where it is nice to be understood without having to explain....

Kind words heard on a bad day...

Being needed...

and something that may appear very little to some...just the ability to still have my mother at 86 and father at 92 years of age....their love is immeasurable and their generosity still exceeds any ability to make it up to them...

[BullDog]

My sweetie always being so wonderfully supportive of me and also noticing and appreciating all the little things. (f)

[Turtle]

I left work early the other night and she just showed up here ;-)

Laughing together

[midwest chick]

...hearing hys voice caress my soul, soothe me and even make me smile and laugh, after an impossible night at work.

[Mtn]

She always asks me..." How did you sleep" even though I am fuzzy and cranky first thing, and I usually say, fine I guess.

She calls me handsome.

[chai~]

It's the little things like...

in the middle of chaos, no words needed, just reaching for their hand.

this one made me cry...thank you for sharing~

[DamonK]

She went out to a "good bye" dinner and brought me food.
Automatically saying yes when I asked if it was okay if I bought something
Excitement over the move
Listening to my worries
Taping her and Coco playing so I can see it

[girl_dee]

steering me in the right direction even when i want to head the wrong way!

[LaneyDoll]

...how he calms me without even knowing that he is doing so.

And it is the big things like teaching me how to trust in love again.

:sparklyheart:

[princessbelle]

Settling in after a long weekend with popcorn, watching sports on tv. Yes, sports and i loved it!!!! Our ability to shut the entire world out and enjoy time together...no matter what we are doing.

Her in Her Daddy Chair, smiling ear to ear as the Lady Vols win!!!!!!!!!

[Miss Scarlett]

Like when hy patiently peels shrimp for me while hys own dinner gets cold....

[spritzerJ]

Having someone to share the kiddo's doctors visit with that wants to know.

[christie]

Not really "little things" to Me... but rather big things that mean so very much....

Having her move a week of vacation so she will be here to help Me... early morning booking of plane tickets...

[shadows papa]

It's coming home to a surprise gift bag on the kitchen table with a sweet, sweet card. A "just cos" gift of an UnderArmour running shirt with my high school logo and two pair of hot weather running socks. It's not so much the material gift as it is the gift of thoughtfulness that went into it. I'm a lucky bastid!

[Lazy Daze]

Fixing my burnt fingers when I was stupid enough to test hot streudel on the muffins I was making. Then kissing them later after the burning subsided...and checking the progress of the blisters through the day

[Hollylane]

Play by play descriptions, with little touches added for comedic value...

[WingsOnFire]

him pulling me close for a hug after a long day of last minute things to accomplish and more packing. It settled my frazzled nerves.

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him rescuing my head from coco as she tries to burrow her body into my face as I try to get into bed.

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him making sure the Holy Terror Peppa.. love of my life dog... comes to bed with me so I can snuggle with her and fall asleep... well... she doesnt snuggle... she roots under the blanket til she can crawl under and falls asleep behind my knees... so snuggling with my knees is good right? lol.

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Benadryl.. a dog owner's best friend on a VERY long drive with a VERY hyper Peppa.

[girl_dee]

kitchen music

our own corner of the world

[spritzerJ]

sharing lotion

[girl_dee]

the froth on top of the oatmeal.....mmmm

[UofMfan]

Class, self-respect and self-love.

Oh, and being real, not tofu. :)

[VintageFemme]

secret love notes tucked away where i will find them - one hershey kiss - one flower - handpicked wildflowers - when things are tense or out of sorts, holding my hand in a strong reassuring way - winking - brushing stray hair away from my face - comfortable silence - having an 'our song'

[Turtle]

~ a post-it on the bathroom mirror

~ a caress on the back of my head whilst driving

~ when she brings me a cup of coffee or cooks for me, things I usually do for her...

[girl_dee]

blueberry cobbler and watching Her enjoy it !

[princessbelle]

Cheering for our home team and watching them win.

Knowing that she really "gets" me.

That sweet energy exchange.

Another work week over.

Bella's sweet little dirty face.

Plans for the near future ;)

[girl_dee]

that sweet energy exchange

thanks Belle, was worth repeating


no words at times, just the presence of each other

[Mr Nice Guy]

The little kisses.

[justkim]

Flowers for no reason....

[~ocean]

knowing u can trust :)

[Miss_J]

Lunch peanut butter on decadent bread, animal cookies, skittles with the red and purple picked out so only the orange green and yellow stay, a cold bottle of water and a kotc as I head out the door. Little, simple, special, missed.

[UofMfan]

4xZPMlCkDY8

[spritzerJ]

acceptance as you are in the moment you are in

[RNgirl]

A text or call out of the blue just saying that they are thinking of you.

[girl_dee]

They way She brings me where I need to go!

[spritzerJ]

a friend not laughing when you trip over a curb until you point out how embarrassing and dumb that was. which is of course not really what happened but lets go with that. thank you I will just slap a band-aid on my skinned knee and wander along now.

[Hollylane]

Good friends, and knowing they will always be there for you, with you, and that they know you will do the same for them at the drop of a hat.

[Mtn]

Sweet easy days, laughter, commitment, and being positive.

[Bard]

coming home after a long night at work to her cuddled in our bed. then climbing in with her sleepy kisses and being home..
they way she textes me to let me know she got to work so I get love notes when I wake no matter what

[bright_arrow]

Waking up to a daffodil and cuddles and kisses
Texts throughout the day while I am working to tell me how much she loves me
Her picking me up my favorite candy
How she makes my bad days better by taking me out for dinner AND ice cream
Foot massages and back rubs
Cuddling in bed watching movies
Laying beside each other reading
Her willingness to come with me to take the pup for a walk at 11:30pm when I get home from work

[WomenMoveMe]

Sincerity when being told you are a 'prize', from one you consider a 'gift'.

[spritzerJ]

when hy cares enough to gently ask if I will try getting things ready the night before. that hy prods me to do it because it will make my day easier and so much nicer. it is hys way of caring so far away.

That hy considers doing the little things to be romantic. I never felt like I could claim I was romantic since I was bad at the big gestures. The everyday little things I love to do. "Like simple moments adding up..."

[Scorp]

She heads out before me on my work-from-home day and when I wake up, I find sweet love notes near the Keurig with my coffee mug and spoon waiting for me.

God, I love that woman. :heartbeat:

[JustJo]

She heads out before me on my work-from-home day and when I wake up, I find sweet love notes near the Keurig with my coffee mug and spoon waiting for me.

God, I love that woman. :heartbeat:

Nice! When Snack was here it was so sweet to stumble out to the kitchen and find the coffee made, and my favorite mug sitting there waiting... :)

[MsTinkerbelly]

Our morning kiss and prayer before i leave for work...the routine and loving things she does with/for me.

[Hollylane]

She said she misses me.

[Lazy Daze]

When He walks up behind me and puts His arms around my waist... He always seems to know when I need this the most.

[sylvie]

- His tuck ins, holding me close, safe & keeping monsters from under my bed..
- His expectations, rules & permissions..being His property..earning that each day..
- Always including me, sharing with me the goings on in His day, trusting me with knowing those He loves dearly, His children, His grandchildren, His friends, Mom & Our pup.. & trusting Him with those i love dearly in my life as well.. It all coming together, and having more family to know & love.. i feel blessed for that.. ♥
- Plans for this summer & then plans for Our future!!

--- His love for me, period.. being His first stop, first thing in the morning, even before His coffee *smiles*, Sunshine songs He sings to me, Our moon connection, that wink He gives me when Our eyes meet, that pats on my ass when i walk by, pulling me on His lap, that look in His eye and the commitment around my neck..

Gratitude for the little things - but they're such wonderful, wonderful things.. Life is good, the girl is happy, and .... reading this thread, makes me smile, BIG ..i ♥ this thread!

[Miss Scarlett]

Despite trials and tribulations hys smile never fades...

That amazing inner strength...

That fiercely protective side...

And hys beautiful, gentle, loving heart...

Clay, my love...You are incredible....i love you so!

[Jaques]

.....my youngest son saying "its great having a transgender mum, i can borrow your shirts"

[Hollylane]

She tied my shoes...:)

[clay]

ankle and foot massages...she is the BEST!!! Yummm
the pedicures she insists on giving me herself
the stocking of my fridge, freezer, and pantry she always INSISTS on doing before she leaves...ensuring I have the "proper nutrition" to heal and maintain my body post Cancer!
her loving and giving heart!!!
those eyes.....when they are a liquid green...
her devotion to always taking care of me..her butch!!!

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

That even when I expect it the least like last night I still got the Goodnight Sir text to let Me know she is safe in bed.

[BullDog]

her serving me coffee every morning :)

[starryeyes]

The way we laugh together :-)

[PinkieLee]

When I'm having a cranky day, that crooked smirky smile she gives me & says "who loves you boo?"... then all is right in my world.

numerous trips to Home Depot for flowers for me to plant... in all my favorite colors.

[Talon]

When the hair is brushed from my eyes.

[scootebaby]

the way she allows me to have my moment

how every night after we hang up she sends me a text telling me what i mean to her

the randomness of hugs and kisses and "i loves you" from my son

[kannon]

It's the little things that make the difference."Little" is relative.

[sylvie]

the fact that He has blinders to what i feel are 'my' imperfections.. sees me as beautiful and makes me feel so every single day.. It's one thing to hear it, but another entirely to feel it, see it in His eyes & know that i am so cherished, adored and loved, every moment of every day..

the fact that We accept one another for who We are, do not pass judgements and love every little quirk, imperfection and know that We have a history, and respect those and embrace one another in all ways.. We don't try to change one another.. i love every scar, every story & part of who He is, the people in His life that love Him and He loves right back - because it's all shaped Him to the most amazing Being He is today..

definitely, blessed to be His, each day.
& thankful my path led me to Him.♥

[princessbelle]

....when she plays with my hair.

[LaneyDoll]

~ Like coming to PC Beach Friday night instead of Saturday morning b/c he knew my vacation was turning on me.

~ Like taking care of me when I find out the hard way that those two super delicious drinks at Red Robin (yum!) had more alcohol than I can tolerate, even with food.

~ Like referring to me as "the lightweight" now.

:sparklyheart:

[Corkey]

reaching over and patting my forearm.:rrose:

[Miss Scarlett]

Snuggling together under a blanket and holding hands while watching a movie...

When hy packs up some leftovers to send back with me so hy knows i will have "a couple of good meals"...

Pumping gas for me...

When hy carries my bag to/from the house to/from the car even though hy shouldn't and it causes hym pain...

The way hy responds to my pedicures, ankle, knee and foot massages...i love watching/feeling hym completely relax...

When hy fixes coffee and bagels in the morning...

[ruffryder]

getting me a napkin every night for dinner.. since I'm a messy. hehe.

leaning over every time at a red light to get a kiss.

how she wants to get close and hold hands while we are walking together.

snuggling her body close to me while we lay in bed and how she wants my arms around her.

her smile!

[barnes]

that damned homemade chicken soup ! everytime it gets me ! stops me dead in my tracks !

[sara-bera]

His desire to have me cuddled up in his arms all night.

Compliments he makes about things no one else has ever noticed or appreciated before.

The completely innocent yet mildly possessive way he touches me at times.

Finding my salt and pepper shakers kissing after he's stayed over.

Hearing him say he misses me.

Really long hugs and lots of kisses when we've been apart for a few days.

[JAGG]

Always returning text messages and missed phone calls.


An afternoon text , that says, are you thinking of me ? :)

[Leigh]

Feeling like I truly matter to someone :)

[stargazingboi]

it's really the small things that matter and make me smile...


the way she sends little surprise text messages through the day
the little notes left, cards sent
the way she reaches out to hold on to me no matter where we are
the way she sings to me

*pauses a moment and grins*

so, many little things

[spritzerJ]

The little things like encouragement when work is tough in a message or two. Hys appreciation of my passion for not assimilating the "oh who cares" attitude.

[NorCalStud]

Sends me a kissy photo after making me wait ....

[starryeyes]

Driving me to get a cake batter frozen yogurt, with caramel, sprinkles and crushed Oreo cookies when having a mental health moment.. <3 love her!!!

[Leigh]

Simple words coming from the heart, knowing they mean something :)

[Miss Scarlett]

The way hy patiently listens and calmly reassures me when there are ugly thunderstorms raging overhead so i feel safe enough to fall asleep...:beddybye:

[girl_dee]

These being sent over my iphone.... :hk14::hk13:

[sara-bera]

The way he'll say "I love you" or "goodnight" at the end of a phone call... but never 'goodbye.'

[spritzerJ]

the way hy'll go help a friend pack when they are running behind schedule at night even though hy has been busy and is sore. what a total sweetie! I sure love that gy!

[Hollylane]

She stopped on a dime so that I could run right down the middle of a busy Norfolk Virginia street to rescue a wayward turtle from certain death...

[barnes]

the tray of drinks i get,not 1 drink i get 3 drinks ! she knows ima thirsty guy !

[Corkey]

Sharing a belly laugh...ya' just can't make this stuff up.

[MsTinkerbelly]

Itltl....having a good, solid, life partner that you can trust with your child, life, heart.

[Leigh]

Reassurance, understanding, patience ~ those little things go a long way :heartbeat:

[Hollylane]

The tone in her voice when she says endearing things, and feeling the weight and honesty of her words.

[Talon]

Kissing my forehead whenever I'm worried about something.

[ruffryder]

Cutting up my sandwich for me! Teeheee. Frickin adorable. :)

mutual respect

We still both say be careful or be safe to each other

[PaPa]

In hindsight it is the little things.....like her smile, her voice, her laugh, her immature silliness that used to drive me crazy and eventually had me yelling "grow the **** up!" and to which she would laugh because she knew she got to my core. LOL! Her gifted insight to see things in the future. The fact that she always remembered me when she was out of the house and brought little gifts home. Her stealing my clothes just to wear them and to feel close to me. The little things....*nods.

[miss entycing]

a strong, gentle hand raising my chin up to behold devoted, wise and loyal eyes that say-
'shhhh.... I got you.'
oh my, such a little thing that speaks volumes to me, especially when i believe it .

also, that same gentle strong hand upon my face, or upon the small of my back- guiding me, thru life in general.
its all about the little things...

goodness, i could write in here all evening!
this is such a lovely thread.
(f)

[Random]

spending 30 mins pruning and weeding to get to the back of the blackberry bushes because that is where the big ripe berries lived...

My girl does love blackberries

[Miss Scarlett]

Spending time together doing crafts and talking about nothing in particular...

[*Anya*]

It is the little things like...

Strong, welcoming and enveloping arms

The kindest, most loving eyes that have ever looked upon me

Smiles that melted the the most protected and afraid heart into a puddle of joy

:cheer:

[sara-bera]

When he says things like, "I love you; you can have whatever you want," and all I want is him.

[laruss]

Text reminders that she is thinking of you

[Massive]

Actually enjoying being told off because I bought something, when I was told not to, cos, sometimes, random presents just have to be bought, no matter what's been said.

[JustJo]

...his caring for my comfort enough to carry beach chairs, umbrella and a cooler of cold drinks down to the beach

...his noticing that the back yard was getting scruffy and mowing and edging it completely just because it needed it

...his putting gas in my car...paying and pumping...because it needed doing and the smell of gas makes me feel icky

...him assembling the new fans....rather than me doing it and cussing. I can assemble stuff and have done a ton with this house, but it stresses me out and he knows it

...him running to the store for ice and bread because we need them, instead of expecting me to do it

...talking about building raised beds, and the kiwis and tomatoes and peppers we will grow

...it's having a partner in life....the "we're in this together" and working together towards a goal and handling the tasks of daily life together kind

:stillheart:

[Lazy Daze]

That He offers to help me get comfy on the bed with the heating pad because He knows I hurt THAT bad...

That He stands patiently in the makeup section while I pick out what I want/need... and then pays for it even though He doesn't need to

That He HELPS.. with cleaning, cooking, picking up around the house, etc.

When His hand rests on the small of my back while we walk through the store

That He thinks of AWESOME dates, like going to the batting cages!

[ruffryder]

showing that I care for her by waking up with her in the morning on my day off to spend time with her and make her some breakfast before she leaves for work. It's little things like "actions" sometimes.. I didn't miss a drop of sleep, loved the conversation and took advantage of the time together being we work conflicting schedules. :)

[Gaige]

candy buttons :) thank you baby

[ruffryder]

her leaving notes on my car for me to find. :)

her being happy makes me happy!

[Corkey]

Her making cookies and giving me first try.(f)

[Julien]

Like a simple caress of your lover's face. The kind that gives you chills.

[Kenna]

For me being single, I don't need a partner to appreciate the little things....
Listening instead of tuning out

Making me laugh

Distracting me from stress instead of adding to it

Taking me to breakfast and helping with chores

True worry for our comfort ...making sure we have what we need to live comfortable ...like getting pharmaceuticals we need and necessary things for home

Not pushing my boundaries and respect when I need space (physical and emotional)

(The next wasn't done by a partner or companion, but done by a very respectful young man that drove all the way from another county to help me)...changing my oil on a blistering hot day without complaint or grumbling ....driving many miles to meet me at house.

[~ocean]

waking up and having the coffee ready
sitting on hys lap facing hym, trimming hys hair
taking care of all the little things when hy has too much on hys mind
a suttle wink and smile ~ showing ur proud
making hys fav.meal in a healthy way
knowing when hy needs me.

[ValKyrie]

My kids waking up super early a getting in bed with me just to snuggle a bit before we have to start our day.

Getting sweet texts periodically throughout the day from my love.

Reading books with the kidlets before bed.

Snuggling with my love and watching tv (like big bang theory) before we go to bed.

Waking up late for work, only to find out that she made me coffee and packed my lunch, so I'm really not running behind.

[gaea]

its the little things like
a brush of the hand on the hip in the morning
a cuddle before coffee
dinner for two or three or 5
a shared picnic
watching a movie together
a simple good morning how are you?
the dinner hour conversation
its in all the little moments that make up the day

[sara-bera]

Texts before bed, even when he's very busy, to say goodnight and sweet dreams.

[Miss Scarlett]

The way those sapphire blue eyes sparkle...tho the gleam in them is equally delightful! :hk1:

[Mr Nice Guy]

The way she touches my arm when she talks to me.
A visit at my work with a cold/hot drink all depends on the weather.
The way she smiles at me.
All the notes and texts.

[Hollylane]

The sleepy sweet message I just received, she just wanted to tell me she was thinking about me as she was falling asleep. Sigh.

[Novelafemme]

Smelling her cologne on the pillow after she's left for work. <swoon>

Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing the two of you fell asleep holding hands. <le swoon>

Making sure her t-shirts are organized just so...because she likes them that way. ;)

Finger painting I love you in the dust on her windshield. HEY! We live in the desert!! ;)

When she's bent over installing new wood floors, sticking a celery stick in her butt crack. HEY! No judgement! <she HATES celery!!!>

Getting up with the dogs and taking them for a walk so she can sleep in a bit longer.

Just looking into her beautiful eyes and feeling my heart skip a beat. Every. Single. Time. :blush:

[LaneyDoll]

Text messages like this...

"I am glad we found each other."

"I want to go to bed everynight with you and wake up next to you."

:heartbeat:

:heartbeat:

:heartbeat:

Coversations like this...

"So pup, how do the new curtains look? Do they match the new rugs ok or would the other curtains have been better?"

(grumbles) "You were right, they look really good."

"I thought they would. This is what happens when you have a femme girlfriend."

"I know and I do not always mind it when you are right things like this. But I am still going to growl at you."

I would epect nothing less pup."

:sparklyheart:

[MsTinkerbelly]

It's the little things like.....

Still reaching over to hold my hand...after almost 10 years she still makes my heart sing!:blush:

[spritzerJ]

Knowing I am going to have a meeting that I am nervous about and sending me on my way with a mantra that is simply perfect! Hy doesn't tell me what to do or how to do it. Hy supports my doing it in my own way and time.

[StillettoDoll]

Coming to my rescue , when my car stalls out:hk1:

[jac]

Knowing I am going to have a meeting that I am nervous about and sending me on my way with a mantra that is simply perfect! Hy doesn't tell me what to do or how to do it. Hy supports my doing it in my own way and time.

Like appreciating my efforts to give you the freedom to experience. What works for me may not always work for you... It's not my job to tell you what to do or how to do it... It is, however, my pleasure to support you and your experiences in life.
:wine: Relax Doll, this day is done... :rrose:

[Teddybear]

The little things like setting a phone date to watch a movie together. Remembering the bread she like and making sure its here when she gets here.
Knowing that she is the world to me and I am to her.
Little things like asking if I want something from the kitchen and vice versa.


We have so many little things it hard to really list them all. However they are the things we do without really thinking about then due to all the bad we have had in past.

I shall remember to continue to do the little things for her to show her just how much she means to me.

[ruffryder]

getting me coffee and / or making my coffee in the a.m.

picking up some groceries for me while she's at the store.

asking each other every day how our day is even though we see each other!

:)

[bkisbutchenuff]

She is my sunshine and she calls me her Rock. :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

The cute little nicknames you call each other.

[princessbelle]

Sitting on the deck just enjoying each other's company and the beautiful sunshine.

Grillin burgers on the grill.

Hearing a mockingbird and counting 15 different types of bird sounds she could make. And both of us clapping for her when she was done.

[Leigh]

Never going a day without knowing how much hy loves me :)

[Mr Nice Guy]

The way she smiles when she's up to something.

[spritzerJ]

The way hy thinks of us as family and how that means sweet consideration, commitment and time to grow.

[sara-bera]

The way he listens to me. Always.

[ruffryder]

just being there for each other every day and especially after a long day.

knowing it's her I'm coming home to every day.

seeing her smiling face every day.

[Talon]

Taking the time to write me a handwritten letter.

[JAGG]

All the things she does that show me I'm a priority in her life. It's a wonderful feeling :heartbeat::heartbeat::heartbeat:

[thedivahrrrself]

...words of encouragement throughout a tough day.

[ruffryder]

washing her delicates. bahaha! :p

[girl_dee]

A Daisy a Day..........

[JAGG]

The amount of integrity and compassion she has in all of her actions and interactions.

[gaea]

the way conversation just flows naturally
the honor,integrity,compassion and passion
the comfort
the satisfaction
the smiles
the laughter
the sprituality

[Kenna]

finding someone that loves Bass Pro Shop as much as I do!

[MissItalianDiva]

The way hy is there to comfort me even before I know I am going to lose it.

[laruss]

A hand to hold

[gaea]

its the one day at a time
its in his voice
its in the way my smile is suddenly brighter
its the beautiful mornings
the warm afternoons and the
gorgeous sunsets
its in the beautiful flowers that grow
the green of the grass
its the amazing spiritual connection
its the one day at a time

[Ginger]

Saving the Science Times section for me every week.

[thedivahrrrself]

...constant encouragement
...being proud of me, and saying it
...getting sweet words every morning

[Mr Nice Guy]

Her kissing you when she thinks your being cute.

[clay]

her hand...soft & silky....when she gently touches my cheek.....smile!

[princessbelle]

Sitting on the deck hearing someone playing blues guitar a few houses down and Bully saying she was gonna go crash the party. Both of us laughing about that possibility; because neither of us put that past her.

Bella's tiny face up in the window when i drove in the driveway. Her little face is so tiny she looked like a stuffed animal. So sweet she knows when it is about time for me to be home and she jumps on the couch and watches for me. (f)

Going 5 hours without anything to drink today because i didn't pass any stores and was trying to get my day done and get home. When i finally got a coke....i could have easily been on a coke commercial. The humidity must have been 3281. It was freaking HOT. That coke, when i finally got it, was FREAKING WONDERFUL.

I may not ever get over it. :blueheels:

[Hollylane]

Like what happens when my Baby gets some good rest, and catches up with my posts on BFP...:)

https://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-snc7/384606_3035929596557_1410740900_n.jpg

[girl_dee]

a daisy..........

[thedivahrrrself]

Remembering anniversaries in months

:bunchflowers:

[ruffryder]

Your smile
your face
the way you are is priceless
and it's love
I know
nothing is more valuable than a faithful kiss

a hug
and " I miss you "
and the way you look
that's what teaches me how to love
and the way you express
This is what surpasses the material things
because I can breathe through your love
I want to be here

a memory forever
a kiss on the forehead
is the most important
and it's love
I know
Nothing can match your simplicity


cpZZKtRvAj8

[stepfordfemme]

Knowing what I'm saying even when I'm not saying it.

Having my back when the chips are down. Not giving up.

Knowing what my coffee order is. Because I am not a morning person :|

[rockstar lover]

Knowing what I'm saying even when I'm not saying it.

Having my back when the chips are down. Not giving up.

Knowing what my coffee order is. Because I am not a morning person :|


At least you have awesome friends who have your back :gimmehug:

Quad venti white mocha or vanilla latte right?!

[stepfordfemme]

At least you have awesome friends who have your back :gimmehug:

Quad venti white mocha or vanilla latte right?!

You're such a dork.

[sara-bera]

... remembering the little things.

[Holly.88]

It's the little things like....

When she willingly makes a trip to McDonald's just to get me a sweet tea when my head hurts.
The cute little notes she leaves for me to find in my luggage.
Watching Olympic soccer with her.
Cooking a meal together. (Our specialties now include: cheesy shrimp and grits, chicken stir-fry, and tacos)
Making her laugh till she's short of breath. I love her laugh :)
Knowing that I am loved by her.
When she stops the car for us to stalk a stray dog we passed by.
The way she asks me to rub her back every night we're together.
The way she makes me feel.

[Greyson]

The little things in one's relationship can literally include a little one. My relationship does. My girlfriend has a daughter that is 10 years old. This may be another thread but I have got to say, sometimes being the "step-parent" figure can be a challenge and sometimes also a wonderful gift. Today when this little 10 year old acknowledged I had gone out of my way in doing something for her, I paused and realized just how much her letting down her guard and saying "Thank you Grey. Really, thank you a lot." That was one of those little things in a relationship. I am grateful.

[Gemme]

Like Greyson, I am a step parent to a 10 year old. I really enjoy it because she's old enough to have her own opinions and we're able to sit down and have some real quality conversations, like we did this morning.

Breakfast and some family chatter with a little rain in the background makes for a pretty good start to the day.

[jac]

Seeing her FB response to my status... (big bois do cry... okay tearing up but still) :bigcry:

[girl_dee]

Holding hands in the Farm truck on the way back from dinner.

Yeah, that.

[Hollylane]

She said (all the way off in Maryland): "It's sitting on your side of the truck"

[starryeyes]

Coming home to roses and stargazers for no reason *swoon*

[cinnamongrrl]

Coming home to kisses and snuggles after a longgg day :)

[FemmeBibliophile]

While not in a relationship... I can say, that it's the little things like:

Bringing me coffee in bed every once in a while.
Holding hands.
Random flowers showing up at my job.
Late night snuggles talking about anything and everything.
Remembering my favorite desserts.
Picking out a book for me.

[princessbelle]

A fire in the fireplace (even though it's a fake one)
Pumpkin spice triple candle filling the house with Autumn pleasure.
Happy puppies bouncing around playing with new toys
Darkness
Quietness
Restfulness

Easiness

[ruffryder]

snuggles and cuddles at the end of the day. her beside me when we go to bed at night. :)

[gaea]

its the little things like

dinner with friends
chatting it up with friends
knowing they are all there by my side, even when they are on another coast
meeting new friends along the way
cherishing everyone here
the quiet the much needed quiet time
never giving up
my pup right by my side
virtual hugs and virtual fun
the smiles
the love
the laughter
most of all
knowing
you are all here :)

[Kätzchen]

For me, the little things in life are:

Quiet mornings spent gazing out toward the west side of life where I often times see the smoke rise from my neighbor's chimney and the pine trees that sway in the gentle wind or hear the chimes on my patio deck or hear birdsong, no matter the time of day.

When my kids come to me for help or to share something about their day or when my children do something totally unexpected and thoughtful for me - which always makes me smile and feel very special, since I am their mother.

When my mother does something totally unexpected, too. Like the time she called me on her way home from work to tell me about a dear friend who passed away from brain cancer - my closet childhood friend, Ingrid. The way she told me little things that she was finally able to talk about (because Ingrid's partner called her out of the blue, unexpectedly). This was a "Little, Big" moment in that it's taken the better part of 30 years for my mother to realise that I am who I am and not some person who deserves to suffer family ridicule or social shame or be discounted as a person in society because I'm not of the heterosexual persuasion. Over the years, I have shed slowly in layers who I am not only to my own children but to my own family and friends who I work with or know outside of work or even to this community.

Sometimes it is the big things about me that I share so little about and mostly the reason I am so protective about who I am is the tremendous level of rejection I have suffered through on my own, over the years. The "Little,Big" things for me are often found right here in our community because I learn to trust people slowly and reveal myself in shades of who I am. That's a huge privilege for me to 'grow up' here and be counted a friend by many of you. I don't take any of you for granted. And for that pleasure, I am deeply grateful to be here counted among us all.

:stillheart:

[bright_arrow]

Crawling into our cold bed when she is still at work, and waking to find her wrapped around me (f)

The girls trampling each other to give me kisses after I have been at work all day.

A co-worker helping me carry bags to the car because I got tremendous deals on cleaning products that we are no longer carrying!

Smiling big and telling a fellow cashier "Ommmmm!" and hugging her when she looks flustered

Getting lost in the vastness of a night sky

Planning to cook dinner together.. such a simple moment but one I love

I try not to take every day for granted, but damn I love waking up next to her.. especially when we have a day off together and I can shut off the alarm and just bury my face into her neck, wrap my arms around her and go back to sleep! (f)(f)(f)

[Gaige]

The beautiful smile that emerges when she looks up to see me admiring her.

[Soft*Silver]

just that its so easy...life might not be easy...but we are ....

[sara-bera]

He, while putting one of his fancy dress shirts on me: you never wore anyone's shirt before?

She: no. They didn't want my breasts stretching them out.

He, buttoning the front of the shirt up: (rolling eyes) yes... well... the way this works is that you get up in the morning, put on my shirt and your panties, come out to the kitchen with your hair a little disheveled and have breakfast...

She: what if I'm not hungry? (as I smile sweetly)

He just stares at me for a good ten seconds: you have a little bit of the very nice breakfast I make for you, and then we plan out things we're going to do that day... (a long pause as he looks me up and down in his shirt)

She: and then?

He: and then... we don't do any of it.

[sara-bera]

... sudden kisses in the rain.

[Liam]

How she stretches up on her toes to reach my face, and kisses me.

[StrongButch]

Her morning emails and songs she posts for me.You rawk huney.

[Tcountry]

...knowing the secret of the most amazing sweet tea..

[Kenna]

there's been only two people in this life that have given me "sparks "....
it's the little things like them making me feel valued and appreciated (mutual feeling) and how we spend quality time together.

[BoDy*ShOt]

being single is good, but it's the little things i miss..