Instant Turn-Offs

[Chad]

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

I am glad too, no one should experience the yuckiness that I have lived.

[cathexis]

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

homoe and Chad, explain this to me, I don't get it. 2 people who became fulfilled enough with their tryst that they have fallen asleep, one (presumably the femme) awakens psychotic, stabs you and steals items from you.

Let's break this down: You meet chic, presumably at a club, have a few alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

You choose to leave said drinking establishment with her going to a place where a bed exists. You become horizontal (dressed or not-unclear). Do an activity causing you both to take a deep dive into sublimation.

Suddenly, unbenounced to the butch of the species, the femme suddenly arises wielding a knife, threatening the previous sex partner, actually injuring the sex partner. I have not heard of this practice. In how many cases of casual tryst does it occur?

This type of behavior seems more prevalent in certain types of spiders, chimpanzees, or grasshoppers. Is anyone familiar with this occurring in any others out there? I'd be particularly interested in higher primates, with special interest in these types of aggression in Bonobo and the Orangutan.
Would like to do this first study before going to Fet Life's BDSM Theory. I ask, please that no one else act on this topic. Thank You.

[charley]

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

Ditto... idk what to say, the entire subject is foreign to me, never knew anyone like that. Even talking with other womyn, no-one they knew had behaved like that. Having said that, of course, there are womyn who hook up with others in a kind of arrangement instead of a relationship, where they expect something in return for sex - that is, a financial incentive, whence the expression "gold-digger", in other words, a "partner" who likes/loves you not for who you are, but for what you can provide them with. For richer or poorer, in sickness or in health would mean nothing to such a person. Whether butch or femme, straight or gay, etc., they always have an agenda, and it is very difficult to know what such a person really thinks. Of course, our society still promotes this "arrangement".

um.... from the expression, caveat emptor... might be better to say caveat "tryst" !

[homoe]

homoe and Chad, explain this to me, I don't get it. 2 people who became fulfilled enough with their tryst that they have fallen asleep, one (presumably the femme) awakens psychotic, stabs you and steals items from you.

Let's break this down: You meet chic, presumably at a club, have a few alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

You choose to leave said drinking establishment with her going to a place where a bed exists. You become horizontal (dressed or not-unclear). Do an activity causing you both to take a deep dive into sublimation.

Suddenly, unbenounced to the butch of the species, the femme suddenly arises wielding a knife, threatening the previous sex partner, actually injuring the sex partner. I have not heard of this practice. In how many cases of casual tryst does it occur?

This type of behavior seems more prevalent in certain types of spiders, chimpanzees, or grasshoppers. Is anyone familiar with this occurring in any others out there? I'd be particularly interested in higher primates, with special interest in these types of aggression in Bonobo and the Orangutan.
Would like to do this first study before going to Fet Life's BDSM Theory. I ask, please that no one else act on this topic. Thank You.

cathexis, it has NEVER happened to me. You'll have to depend on Chad for an explanation.

[kittygrrl]

when it's important to think/plan ahead and you don't:tea:

[Chad]

homoe and Chad, explain this to me, I don't get it. 2 people who became fulfilled enough with their tryst that they have fallen asleep, one (presumably the femme) awakens psychotic, stabs you and steals items from you.

Let's break this down: You meet chic, presumably at a club, have a few alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

You choose to leave said drinking establishment with her going to a place where a bed exists. You become horizontal (dressed or not-unclear). Do an activity causing you both to take a deep dive into sublimation.

Suddenly, unbenounced to the butch of the species, the femme suddenly arises wielding a knife, threatening the previous sex partner, actually injuring the sex partner. I have not heard of this practice. In how many cases of casual tryst does it occur?

This type of behavior seems more prevalent in certain types of spiders, chimpanzees, or grasshoppers. Is anyone familiar with this occurring in any others out there? I'd be particularly interested in higher primates, with special interest in these types of aggression in Bonobo and the Orangutan.
Would like to do this first study before going to Fet Life's BDSM Theory. I ask, please that no one else act on this topic. Thank You.

This sounds like that movie Fatal Attraction. If you experienced that situation then I am sorry about that. I have nothing to add here.

[cathexis]

This sounds like that movie Fatal Attraction. If you experienced that situation then I am sorry about that. I have nothing to add here.

Sheesh, this was an attempt at jocularity. Life ain't that serious. Homoe got it...I think. Or maybe my sense of humour is Really that twisted. Anyway, Happy Chanukah!

[Gemme]

This sounds like that movie Fatal Attraction. If you experienced that situation then I am sorry about that. I have nothing to add here.

But you are the one that said this .... *points down*

Been there done that. Watch your back buddy. I have spent too many nights worried that a femme would stab me in my sleep.

I don't have the same sense of humor as cathexis but I believe this post is the catalyst for cathexis' post that confused you.

[Chad]

But you are the one that said this .... *points down*

Yes, and what I said is true based on my own life experiences. I have posted other life experiences here in different threads like the in the scarred thread.

These are my life experiences. I don't pretend to understand other human's life experiences.


I don't have the same sense of humor as cathexis but I believe this post is the catalyst for cathexis' post that confused you.

Perhaps you are correct.

[homoe]

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A cheapskate, penny-pincher, tightwad, miser, skinflint....well you get the picture......

[Orema]

People who don't vote.

[Stone-Butch]

I will not venture to say after the last fiasco I went through for speaking my mind but there are 3 major things I do not like and would not date a woman who is or does any one of them. Not picky, just lots of experience.

[~ocean]

I will not venture to say after the last fiasco I went through for speaking my mind but there are 3 major things I do not like and would not date a woman who is or does any one of them. Not picky, just lots of experience.

Stone the best part of being confident in ourselves is we KNOW what we want ~ settling is for house foundations, not for life lol lol ~ freedom of speech don't forget ! when you speak your mind ~ you just taught someone else your truth , capish ?

[Stone-Butch]

ocean I know what you are saying, however I KNOW I will be chastised in a serious manner and probably put on time out once again so I can't. I can just say I do have them and so I can only speak for my personal self the fact I have instant turnoffs.

[PlatinumPearl]

Weak, cowardly and deceitful people/person.

[Kätzchen]

Smoking cigarettes or smoking anything. Smoking can and will kill you.

Such a huge turn off.

Im glad i have been smoke free since June 6th. Ive had many stressful events happen since i quit but i never once wanted to light up and smoke. That was a very bad, unhealthy habit i have had for years and im so glad i finally saw the light.

[Canela]

Those who drink yet lie about it. Just own your stuff man…

[Stone-Butch]

When going on a first date to a party let your date know if you are a "drug user socially". Works both ways. No surprises.

[kittygrrl]

Boundaries...when you step on/over them(on purpose)

[Reach *BANNED*]

Disrespect and rudeness in any form.. shown to Me.. or to anyone else.

[Bèsame*]

ankle biters

[VintageFemme]

Arrogance and conversely, being timid or shy.

[Reach *BANNED*]

People that think that others are beneath them - that the world revolves around them - and in general they think you are "out of their league". In a word: narcissist.

[JDeere]

tobacco smokers, 420 is fine but only medical
poor hygiene
no home training, ie how to wash dishes by hand, keep the house clean, et al...
dirty smells of any kind, dog, cat, human, you get the idea

[Stone-Butch]

When you are being yourself and she says "It's ok I can open my own door" LOL. Spoiled my whole dinner before we ate. Our first and last date.

[Reach *BANNED*]

When you are on a date, and you catch that person making side glances (or even straight out looks) that are suggestive to another.

Also, when your date monopolizes the conversation- or even worse just talks about herself the whole date.

[cathexis]

You're out on a date with someone whom you know lives with others. There are 3 separate full-bathrooms in this large four or five-bedroom home where several people of different sexes, genders, and orientations live.

The date and I get hot, heavy, gooey, and messy. Toward the end of the date, I head for the nearest bath to clean up a bit before getting dressed.

Right before sitting down, I notice something sitting on the lid top. I decided to look closer at the item. There, in plain sight, sitting on an otherwise clean toilet tank lid is a used and leaking condom. The nasty guy could have put a knot in it, put it in the trash, or flushed it. No, he's gotta be gross setting it on the lid where many of us would have shells, dop. kit, kleenex, tp, or pick any other suitable item. I had to stop my clean-up and move to one of the other washrooms. It was years (maybe 40 plus) ago, but it's nothing I'll probably ever forget. :brainsucker::deepthoughts::deepthoughts:

[Bèsame*]

Don't you dare try to control me. I'll be out of there in a min!


Just control as I'm being submissive😉

[Kätzchen]

People who have an incessant need for personal attention … in all ways, shape or form. A huge big red flag, if you ask me. :firetruck:

[Stone-Butch]

Going to dinner and the person you invited can't get her face away from her cell phone. Happened once. I got tired of it and just picked up my cutlery and my plate of food and walked to an empty table. First and last.

[Bèsame*]

Those who tell tales of how they live their life and then it changes as the situation changes.

Don't ya think we will remember????

[Kätzchen]

1) Not sure how to articulate this particular type of a huge turn-off, but it turns me off when I hear veiled threats, the type of talking to others that seems like one-up-manship, or the type of verbiage that is insulting to me or others.

I quit my Facebook acct years ago because of noticing this type of verbal behavior by others in their f.b. Posts.

2) Another thing that turns me off is manipulation tactics. Just don’t do it.

3) Another thing that turns me off is perceived superiority. Superiority complex issues is a huge turn off.

[Gráinne]

Maybe it's just me, and these weren't even in a dating situation. If I spot these upon meeting, there wouldn't be a date! I have too much football to watch.

1. "Then she was like…And then I was like…So He was like….and then I was like…". I'm sure there are 15 year old's who speak without using "like". I'm talking people my age!

2. "Oh, I'm too old to learn ______". I know people younger than I am who are old, and people many years older than I am who are up for anything. Guess who I'd rather hang out with?

3. A cousin to #2 is: "I'm just not good with math/not a computer nerd/athletic/ artistic/smart enough for *whatever*/insert denigrating statement here. We're all not good at everything, obviously, but I respect people who try something new. How do you know you're "not good"?

4. Any excuses, though I have to work on this myself. That's why I want someone dedicated to owning themselves, not excusing themselves.

[kittygrrl]

snow, snow jokes, snow ice cream, people who make snow ice cream and think it's the coolest

:seeingstars:

[nhplowboi]

A woman that has no idea what is going on in our country or internationally for that matter. I prefer someone knowledgeable and with an opinion.

[kittygrrl]

A woman that has no idea what is going on in our country or internationally for that matter. I prefer someone knowledgeable and with an opinion.

well-spoken:tea:

[Stone-Butch]

Those who send vague messages cryptically.

Those who speak in innuendoes.

[kittygrrl]

know what you want enough so that you aren't tempted to change it...displaying such weakness with a femme is a catastrophe ...

[Soft*Silver]

Big things …., Possessiveness makes me cringe. Its twin is jealousy. If I sense someone carries these swords into a relationship, past or present, I am uninterested.

I know my worth. I am a good woman. If I wasn’t being treated as such, that would be very distasteful.

Little things…. Not brushing teeth or any poor hygiene, rolling their eyes, and poor manners

[kittygrrl]

Mediocre .....

[Stone-Butch]

Being judged by a few words on paper after having never met that person.

[kittygrrl]

co dependent....inotherwords she may be into you but it's not because you're f**king amazing but available to fill her void...clue ..

it won't

[Kätzchen]

Don’t get me wrong, I like coffee. But it’s knowing that there might be super creepy people who drink coffee and stare at pictures of women who are half dressed in revealing clothing — which to me, screams “Y U C K O.”

I find this type of behavior a huge turn off because in American media we already are inundated with this type of very abnormal behavior (ie, the orange cheato, etc).

[kittygrrl]

Don’t get me wrong, I like coffee. But it’s knowing that there might be super creepy people who drink coffee and stare at pictures of women who are half dressed in revealing clothing — which to me, screams “Y U C K O.”

I find this type of behavior a huge turn off because in American media we already are inundated with this type of very abnormal behavior (ie, the orange cheato, etc).

If you're referring to My coffeebreak thread why not come out in say it Kat instead of passive aggressive smack? If i'm yucko to you so be it..but i DON't judge people for their tastes, only their cruel uncalled remarks. That's what Trump does, and it's surprising coming from you. Disappointing actually

[Kätzchen]

If you're referring to My coffeebreak thread why not come out in say it Kat instead of passive aggressive smack? If i'm yucko to you so be it..but i DON't judge people for their tastes, only their cruel uncalled remarks. That's what Trump does, and it's surprising coming from you. Disappointing actually

This happened this morning while waiting in line at a local coffee shop.

I’d appreciate it greatly if you did not make assumptions like this.

Thanks.

[kittygrrl]

This happened this morning while waiting in line at a local coffee shop.

I’d appreciate it greatly if you did not make assumptions like this.

Thanks.

Give me a break Kat, cop out if you want to but it's obvious that's what you meant and you made your point. Nobody is forcing you to look in Coffee break. It's a free country to be as narrow minded as Trump, just admit that's who you are, i'd at least respect owning your truth. If you don't want to follow the TOS that's up to you, but don't try to gaslight me..It's not cool