What advice would you get your younger self

[jools66]

I thought this would be an interesting thread.
Going into a new year, and as we do sometimes look back at the year that as just passed this thought popped into my head.
i was wondering what you all would say to your younger self, whether it be last year,10 years ago, 20/30 or more.
What have you learned and how have you grown from it?
What would you do differently if anything.

For me personally, i would say dont be afraid to open up, to someone you can trust. dont hold the bad inside you because thats not good.
You are stronger than you think, so never give up.
Enjoy life and what is as to offer, and try to learn something new about it and yourself when you can.
oh and dont get married at 20 lol

[MsTinkerbelly]

The grass is not always greener somewhere else...just stay home, love your wife and thank God for your blessings.

[Rockinonahigh]

To my younger self: I know it's hard not to hurt when both parents walked out on you as a baby, they were and always will be childish self centered brats. You still have yourself, learn all you can so you can take care of your self then live well. Don't get married at 19...wrong move cause you will forever pay for that. Another thing, don't pay any attention to any one who blast you about the way ward parents you aren't them and will rise above what they will ever be. Be wary of people who act like friends then turn on you when they are done with you, yes you will get burned a time or two and it will hurt like hell its called life lessons we all get them. The word NO isn't a bad word to say learn it early and use it wisely. So much more to say, but later.

[gotoseagrl]

Just wait. And listen to your first instincts.

[Daniela]

Don't flip, it's not the end of the world (unless it is). :D

[clay]

Love harder, live wiser, and have no regrets (of which I have very few). Every.single.event. has made me who I am today!! I have lived a pretty decent life....made a few wrong turns, but again, made me wiser, and so much more appreciative!!!:pirate-steer:

[DapperButch]

Transition already! For both yourself and for those around you. You are a much better person after you become your real self.

[Jesse]

Grab hold of yer boot straps son and pull like hell, it's gonna be a wild ride! :cigar2:

[princessbelle]

Be true to yourself and wait....just wait. The tides a'comin. Patience my dear self. Good things come to those who wait.

Oh and also a big ole hug.

[Amulette]

Move to Argentina and study Tango. Raise your son dancing. Really it's OK...

[JDeere]

I would say to my younger self that stop the partying and focus on life.

[Gemme]

I would say to listen to my gut. When I listen to it, it never lets me down.

[Kätzchen]

During my young adult life, clear up until a couple years ago, I never could really wrap my arms around the idea that I am truly a fabulous woman. It's just been this past two years that I experienced my own "ah ha" moment when I could fully embrace myself as a person worthy of my own kind of fabulosity (1).

Second, always trust your inner intuition, even if others might not come up with the same inner-knowing. Your inner instincts will pretty much be right on target, most all the time.

[Kelt]

In the "trust your gut" department; I would say to my younger self to pay attention when issues of the mind collide with issues of the body. While not in medical vogue right now, that connection runs deep, to ignore it is folly.

I would also tell my younger self to truly appreciate the moment. You never know when doing that favorite thing whether or not it will be the last time you get to do it.

The most important thing I have is time. Everyone gets the same number of hours in the day. Everything else is decoration.

[Shystonefem]

Your heart is bigger than anyone can handle. Don't stop caring and don't be with someone who demands you stop caring.

Save as many as you can, never eat red meat or pork because they should not suffer just because you like bacon burgers.

DO NOT get in the truck with Leon. Believe me, it will save both your lives in different way.

[Rockinonahigh]

Younger self, another bit of hind sight, slow down chasing that big rainbow then enjoy what you have for as long as you can but don't take any sh85 from anyone. There will be people on the rodeo trail that would love to put doubts in your mind about you and you horses abliatie (sp). You are doing fine...they would love to see you off that horse you are on and on something not near as good, it's money in the bank for them if you cant win.

[job]

Grow up sooner, as in: plan for your future and don't be so hedonistic....ya little shit.

[Orema]

I'd tell my younger self, you're pretty AND black, not pretty BUT black. We'd have a long discussion on that misconception.

I'd also tell her that you're gonna make a few mistakes along the way and not always trust the right people, but that's okay. It's even expected. What's important is to walk inside your story and own it. Otherwise, you will walk outside your story and will have to hustle for your worthiness. (excellent advice from Brene Brown)

Be more forgiving of others and more compassionate and empathic to yourself.

Start saving early. Yes, there will be time later, but start early—you'll be glad you did.

[cinnamongrrl]

Stay in school. Its very hard to return....

Move to Asheville sooner. I wish my kids had grown up immersed in this environment

Do more of the things that interest you... hobbies are important too

Be better at being present

Be careful who you give your heart to

[Daniela]

Stop doubting yourself so much. There's nothing fundamentally wrong with you, even though you may think there is.

[Shystonefem]

PS..... On the night your mom calls and tells you that she is too tired to banysit, leave work and stay with her.....

That boy that was mean to you for so many years will ask you out later on and you will smile when you say "no".

[TL1]

Do not date that one there! (will keep her name to myself)
She will drive you mad and insane!

[Chad]

Mine will always be the same "stop partying and go to college"!

I must have been in disco bars from the age of 18 to 25 drinking and chasing ladies. I delayed going to college and wasted my youth in night clubs.

It was big fun and I have awesome memories but I wish that I had balanced disco with school.

:knighthorse:

[DapperButch]

Mine will always be the same "stop partying and go to college"!

I must have been in disco bars from the age of 18 to 25 drinking and chasing ladies. I delayed going to college and wasted my youth in night clubs.

It was big fun and I have awesome memories but I wish that I had balanced disco with school.

:knighthorse:


It is never too late to go back to school! Especially now that they have so many programs for the full time worker. Accelerated classes/programs. You can take a whole class over 3 weekends by being in class 8 hours on Saturdays and Sundays. Online classes. There are many options nowadays.

Consider it, or 10 years from now you might think about how you should have done it 10 years ago! :hangloose:

[Chad]

Thanks DapperButch,

I did make it to collage when I was 25 but just think I could be retired now if I had gone at 18 years old.

I still like to Party! Haha!

Chad

It is never too late to go back to school! Especially now that they have so many programs for the full time worker. Accelerated classes/programs. You can take a whole class over 3 weekends by being in class 8 hours on Saturdays and Sundays. Online classes. There are many options nowadays.

Consider it, or 10 years from now you might think about how you should have done it 10 years ago! :hangloose:

[jingles76]

Just relax and breath. Sometimes things aren't meant to be in life,love and even friendships. Don't change who you are to make others like you.

You are you. Honest,open and funny....if they can't handle you. Move on

[Logicaly]

Start saving money, now. Plan for the future expenses, because man oh man, are they ever expensive.

[Rockinonahigh]

To my younger self. Listen up meatball the saying that goes this way...faster horses, faster women and fast cars along with Mr. J Daniels .ONLY IN MODERATION!...I can't be leave I did all that s86T.

[Jesse]

Never light up that first cigarette dude, it will take you years to quit and you will regret every one you ever smoked.

Oh and use the money you save from smoking to go to college early.

One last thing dude, you matter to me!

[stargazingboi]

Your body wont last as long as you think...transition, be happy, and live healthier.

Don't walk down that hallway on 11/17/1998 it will start the dominoes falling and you'll never fully recover

Spend more time with friends..laugh hard and often

Don't let people define you...define yourself

Surround yourself with more positive vibes

Live on/near the beach...any beach...there is something about the ocean your soul needs

[flapdoodle]

and do only everything

[Bèsame*]

Your Mom really loves you. Don't let your hormones tell you different.

I wish I didn't fight with my Mom when I was a teenager. I would love to turn back the clock on that period.

[Gayandgray]

Follow your instincts!!!! Listen to that gut feeling!!!! Do what makes U happy, not anybody else. Stop partying and go back to school! Buy that little place so near the beach!!!!!!!

[Sweet Bliss]

Repeat after me:

I am enough.



Repeat every hour you are awake.

[grenade]

Everything that you think you know.....


wrong.

[Kenna]

*Wait until I'm 38 to have sex and wait to have kids.
*Spend more time with Momma D.
*Never get married before I turn 40.
*Take more vacations with my kids.
*Invest more.
*Don't work so many years in logistics; get a State job sooner.
*Go on more adventures.
*Love deeply

[Blade]

Younger think 6 weeks younger...
Don't go in the shower away from home without shower shoes. Lol, not funny

Always get an official accident report

Follow up quickly with property management to be sure they have notified their insurance company

Don't try to be nice in these instances, nice guys get taken advantage of.

[Kenna]

Become a certified welder, finish your mechanical drafting certification and take the advice of your fravorite professor to become certified in HVAC.

[Kenna]

Don't abuse your body...you'll need it in one piece when you get old.

[Glenn]

You were greatly loved by poor, yet wise, and progressive parents. Do not argue too much with them about jobs and money. There will come a time when you would gladly give away everything you have, for only one more day with them.
You experienced a poor, yet happy childhood to teach you that money will be needed to survive, but to also learn to share with those who are as poor, and oppressed, or more so. History taught you that our Mother Earth needs them more than the wealthy. You will know what She thinks about money, by deeply studying the souls of those who have most of it.
Never stop your Music lessons. For writing, playing, and teaching Music will give you joy and a job, and others as well.
Do not even go near a cigarette! Cigarettes can kill you!
When your body has grown, there will be many people who will desire it, for it was made from the finest Italian soil. Allow only a few deserving to possess it. Near the end of your life, when you are old, you will be happier living and working in Nature alone, rather than with those people who only lusted for your body, and what it could give them. Especially R.H. and M.O. Do Not Give Them Anything! They will be your wrong exit ramp, wrong turn, etc. All of your love, and hard work, will be downloaded into nothingness with them. Que Sera Sera.
Take heed to the words of your spiritual teacher from India who told you that- "The seeds of your past, bad, karma, cannot germinate in the fires of Divine Truth." Fortunately, you shall personally experience the love, power, and Divine truth of your Creator, which will make all the evil that happened in your life seem minor. You will never forget it, it will be the greatest experience of your life, and you will always believe in goodness of your Creator.

[Prudence]

Believe only half of what you see and none of what ya hear.

[Zimmeh]

Don't take shit from anyone and never give up!

Zimmeh

[C0LLETTE]

Don't pick up strays.


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[kittygrrl]

Live, Laugh, Love well..

[*Anya*]

Don't take things personally.

Objectively look at feedback.

Defensiveness does not help you grow as a person.

Everyone tries to protect their inner, vulnerable self.

[Tuff Stuff]

Life is way too short to stress out on the stupid stuff ,baby.

Stay in school.

You can't control how others live, move on with your life.

Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

[girl_dee]

Whatever you are thinking about doing, do the opposite.

[2qt]

What are you so afraid of? Just do it...... Work to survive not survive to work..... You can't fix what's broken.....Being a success isn't determined by others...

[Gayandgray]

Start putting money away for your retirement as soon as you can! Don't wait until your middleaged and realize you have nothing! Take time to stop and smell the roses, don't work yourself to death.

[kittygrrl]

listen to your mother, she really did know the score:blush:

[gotoseagrl]

Even if it feels impossible, just keep waiting. And listening to your instincts. And paying attention to the signs.

[MsTinkerbelly]

The grass is never greener.....

Appreciate who/what you have, and love the life you live.

[girl_dee]

grow a thicker skin, girl! it will save you a LOT of hurt feelings...

[~ocean]

there will be times u laugh and times your loaded with love ~ then other times u will cry and be sometimes you will feel hurt and mad ~ it's what u do with all the emotions living makes u feel. ~ being ugly goes deep ,be in control .

[Stronghealer]

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Take time to heal
you deserve kindness
listen to your mom
pray more



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[Esme nha Maire]

For heaven's sake don't play it safe ALL the time! Get out there and LIVE, girl!

[hopelessromantic69]

"Stop! Take a breath and listen to your boys more! Don't let the Navy keep you at such a fast pace when you are in your own home!"

"Fly there to see her! Don't let someone else take her away from you when you know where her heart is really at!"

[AmazonDC]

Turn around and walk away...those damn pills and alcohol are going to almost kill you and change your life permanently and make you dumb and forgetful for the rest of your life

[kittygrrl]

Leave before it's too late. Don't waste your youth trying to make a mistake into something ok--------->it will never be ok. Trust me.

[Deborah*]

I should have taken the owner of Wilhelmina Modeling agency in NYC up on her invitation. I was (and still do) have a dislike of NYC and this is what kept me from going there. I truly believe I would have become a supermodel.

Deborah

[Breathless]

Less sugar, more veggies, don't stop running, finish highschool the first time around rather than going back as an adult. Ignore the nay sayers they have no idea what they are talking about... you can do it, and you will be great at it.

[Tuff Stuff]

Because I have been stubborn all my life, sometimes I would not listen.That got me into a lot of hot spots.I could of avoided such dangers if I listened to the warnings others tried to give me.

So today the advice I would give my younger self is to listen,shut your lip, tell your ego to be quiet and,listen.

[girl_dee]

whatever you are about to do, do the opposite

[Gayandgray]

Take some risks!!!

[Orema]

Love is not demanding.

[kittygrrl]

hug your mom a lot, don't argue

[girl_dee]

talk to your therapist more

[DapperButch]

Go get one of those jobs at 18 where there is a Union and you retire at age 48 with a big ass pension.

Then go get a job you like.

<---those jobs were still around when he was 18

[JDeere]

Don't slow down, keep going!

[Blade]

Company loyality won't mean much in the future, employees will be a dime a dozen. Take this job with this great company as a stepping stone, not as a career.

[kittygrrl]

get off your high horse-ms knowitall!

[cathexis]

It ain't no big tang grrl so chill the f**k out, babe. Juz take care of bidness, and you be fine.