Phone and Text Etiquette - Your Opinion?

[Medusa]

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

How do you feel about group texting?

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

[clay]

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

For me personally, it is about being respectful of someone else's "space".

Sometimes I just want to be online & be lost in whatever I may be doing there...so I prefer the person ask before doing so.

It can depend on whom is doing it..for example if it is an emergent situation & all other efforts to reach me has been exhausted.

Even with my GF, when we are online at same time, both of us are respectful & "ask first" before FT etc.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Since I am retired & I do not go to school, this really doesn't apply to me.

But when someone is working, others should be respectful of that...barring a dire emergency, texts/calls should be made with discretion (ie IF person should be on break and WANT to be contacted, etc.)

A break and meal break is for the working person to have some "me" time, or to just enjoy being in a quiet space...I get that & respect that!

As in the case of me & my GF, we are in contact a multitude of ways, thanks to social media. So, usually work talks/texts are brief. She is busy making her bacon..lol

When she commutes, we rarely text/talk as that is a time for her to unwind, catch up on social media unencumbered with personal texts & calls...it is about her "me space". I don't have a need to constantly be joined at the hip, so to speak. We begin & end each & every day with either GM texts OR calls and the end of day tuck in call.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

I have some really, really close friends whom I am in contact with on a weekend usually, so I DO enjoy a long or longer chat then.

I don't really like long texts or text sessions, as my eyes grow blurred after a bit. That phone screen is so damn tiny..lol.

Dear friends I usually talk to on the weekends & calls vary by length. It is always nice to actually talk to someone & catch up. So then I enjoy longer calls.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer?

Were it a DIRE emergency of a family or loved one, then yes, it is amenable.

IF it is someone I can't get up with right away, & a VM has been left & I am not in a position to answer, it would indeed be annoying. Perhaps it went to VM for a reason...:)

I would address this with the repeat caller in a tactful manner.

How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

See above.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

My phone is always on silent/vibrate mode when I am at anything like that OR if I am enjoying something & do not wish to be connected to cyber world.

I DO check my messages regularly once in the space to do so. IF it is something I need to address right away, I do so.

Vacation or social gatherings are for pleasure & to have some time with the people at these events, so I am disconnected for that time. I do check messages, & if need be, respond in kind. I leave my cell off while asleep or having dinner or doing something fun & cool on vacay. I am pretty upfront to folks when I am not wanting to be disturbed, so it rarely happens in clay's world.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

For me & my sweetheart, I am always available, as is she, I do have a strict DND policy regarding our sleep time respectively, for myself and everyone else. Rest is utmost a priority in our world.

My phone is on vibrate & I can hear the gentle buzz should she need me during night, and vice versa. Others of my social network are kind, courteous, & considerate. Most know my sleep schedule, and it isn't usually disturbed.

I think an hour before bedtime & a couple hours after arising is a good parameter to have regarding calling or texting most folks.

How do you feel about group texting?

Haven't ever done that, and do not even know how. I do not think it would be an inconvenience for me....:)

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!


Most of my phone etiquette is just a manner of politeness, speaking in soft, soothing tones, being mindful of others time & other parameters, & of their individual needs.

I practice common sense regarding what/where/when/how I make/receive calls & texts, & expect same in return.

Care to chat?....:)

[Andrea]

Ohhh... this should be an interesting topic.

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?
A big no from me. I haven't face-timed but I know I would not want to be surprised by a call. Perhaps if I was comfortable with the program, I wouldn't mind certain people contacting me that way unannounced...my honey, sister, bestie.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours? Sure, call or text but don't think I will be able to answer or respond quickly.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?
Not a big fan of long conversations anyway so no.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? If someone calls me over and over within a short period, it best be a life and death emergency. If someone calls every day and I don't answer or respond, I am not going to take the call so quit trying.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? On vacation is fine. If I don't want to talk, I won't answer or respond. If at an important event, my phone is off or at least on silent so call or test if you need to.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
I never call or text before 8am or after 9pm and I expect the same courtesy.

How do you feel about group texting?Group texting has its place but I don't like getting what I believe to be a personal text and responding, only to begin receiving responses from others.

[MsTinkerbelly]

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it? I don't answer

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours? I don't answer unless wife or child

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? No. Text is easily misunderstood.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? I keep my phone in my purse, so I don't always hear it ring. How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? if I dislike someone that much, I have already blocked their calls.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? I turn off my phone...no one says I have to answer the phone, I pay for the damn thing!

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone? Family anytime, others after 9 am and before 11 pm

How do you feel about group texting? Too irritating to get all those replys

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

Leave your phone in the other room at meals

When you go out with family/friends, put the phone away

When you go to a party full of people you care about, put the phone away.

If you are in line to pay anywhere, put the phone away...your call is annoying me and no one cares what Mary said to Gail.

If you are in the car with me, put the phone away...the person you are with is the person you chose to be with at that moment; If you want to be with them that bad, go the fuck home.

Turn off the phone at the movies

Turn off the phone at church

Do NOT under any circumstances bring your phone into my bed.

Jeez, I could go on all day! Lolololololol:jester:

[Smiling]

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I look at this in exactly the same way as the "pop-in." I'm not really a big fan of surprise visits and many years ago (in my much less assertive days) I found myself to be often inconvenienced by it until a longtime friend of mine taught me his way of handling it. (lol, by making a point to sit in plain view of the door - generally with cocktail and cigarette in hand - and simply not answer while the people (who could clearly see him sitting right there) pounded away. He was a jerk in many ways but in his defense, this was reserved for those who were habitual boundary-crossers.)

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Not a fan of that; prefer discreet and brief email conversations (when necessary; otherwise I prefer focus on work when at work).

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

No. I do not. And I've finally come to the realization that it isn't the just medium itself that annoys me, but rather the accompanying expectation that I provide an instantaneous response to it. (I won't.)

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

I would say something to that person (politely, of course) and if it continued to be disruptive, I would put the number on block. (If I need to talk to that person, I can always call them.)

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

I wouldn't answer. Again, the expectations that come along with cell phones are the biggest problem for me. I have no problem turning the phone off or to silent or simply ignoring a call.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

It depends on the individual because schedules are different from person to person and how close that person is to me. However, as a general rule, I wouldn't call someone past ten (at the very latest) - but I typically don't use the phone much at all.

How do you feel about group texting?

Hate it. I find it obnoxious and intrusive; but that's just me.

Interesting topic. I have no interest in being shackled to a cell phone all day, every day. Sometimes it feels like an ankle monitoring bracelet. I miss the days when the phones stayed at home.

But the absolute worst is public use of the speakerphone feature. To me, it shows a complete lack of consideration for others as well as the person to whom you are speaking. However, it would appear that I am in a teeny, tiny minority on that based upon the incredulous responses I get whenever I have this discussion with people.

Thank you for reading.
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[Cin]

I don't do long texting or face time, I might on very rare occasions that haven't presented themselves yet and for reasons I don't know of, but for now...NO.

As far as answering a persistent caller or taking a call when I am otherwise engaged, that will never happen.

The phone is supposed to be a convenience not an obligation I have to other people. The only person I am obligated to is my wife and for her I will walk through fire to answer her calls.

But as far as everybody else is concerned, my life is my own and I share it when I choose.

And just like I did with a land line, I will answer when I feel like it, return calls when I feel like it and turn the phone off whenever I want. Unless it's an emergency or a friend or family member needs me for some kind of support, I talk on my time.

I control how I spend my free time. Hopefully the time I choose to spend socializing will match with others, but I am not going to give up my time or inconvenience others at functions, movies, whatever, to take phone calls. It's just rude. It's rude to the people I am with and rude to the people forced through no fault of their own to share space with me.

I wish other people would stop talking everywhere out in public all the time. It's incredibly annoying to not even be able to take a piss in silence. I have to hear someone in the bathroom stall next to me having some ridiculous conversation.

I mean it's a sad state of affairs if people are so busy they can't go grocery shopping or out to eat or take a piss in a public restroom without talking on their cell phone. It's really weird and more than a little obsessive. I long for the days when only people suffering with a mental illness talked out loud everywhere in public. And for them I had great compassion. For people so obsessed with social media and staying connected they have lost all sense of public decorum, not so much.

[Orema]

I gonna start by saying; I don't like phones and I never have (unless I'm talking to someone I'm partnered with—then I like to talk.). But I miss the days when I could use a human answering service and have limited use of a phone. I do see the value in Smart Phontes, but I'm not really a fan. I often treat my phone like a land line. Sometimes I leave it at home or just turn it off .... I resent that we've come to rely on it as much as we do.

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I don't use FaceTime. I have it turned off, but that may change.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

I don't like it and usually I don't answer those calls and texts.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Not really, I like the intimacy of voice conversations. I get a better sense of what you're saying and meaning in voice conversations. The voice conveys so much more than text. It's not as easy for me to capture emotions (warmth, happiness, sarcasm) in text. Text is cool for short thoughts, but I'd rather have a voice conversation for anything substantial.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

I couldn't have that. I'd tell them to stop calling or I'd block them.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Doesn't bother me. I'll answer when I can or when I want to. I work with people who are very respectful of personal time off (PTO). Seldom do we contact each other when we're on vacation. I'd answer a call from one of them, but I'd do it at my convenience. And I'd answer a call from family or a loved one without hesitation.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

I don't think people should call others after 8pm unless they have an understanding. But it really depends on the situation—8pm could be a terrible time for someone who works the midnight shift. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.

How do you feel about group texting?

I hate it but I think that's because I don't know how to use it and maybe my settings aren't right. I used to answer them, but then strangers would start asking who am I (!) and I'm thinkin' you texted me. Yeah, I don't even answer them anymore.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

I never put people on hold for longer than 30-45 seconds, if that. Either I call them back or I give them my attention.

I think all calls—personal and work related—should be returned within 24 to 36 hours.

I would love it if people would state why they're calling in the beginning of the call (i.e., Hey girl, just calling to chat, or do you have time to discuss _________, just thought I'd call to check up on _________).

[Chad]

When I was a kid at my parent's house phone etiquette was a big deal. I think they impressed that on us kids pretty hard.

I have a lot of rules in general but also with the phone. Anyone that knows me in person knows not to call me at work unless it is an emergency, not after 8:30 pm on a work night, and not too early on the weekend (my phone is on silent at night on the weekend anyway).

I don't face time or Skype just because I don't know how. Friends can send me a medium sized text but if they have a lot to say I would prefer that they just call me.

Sometimes on the weekend I like a lenthy chat with friends or family to catch up. I don't have time during the work week for long chats.

To me texts are like email. Send the message and I will return a text when I have time. Don't send me repeted texts unless it is an emergency.

This is my phone etiquette.

:cowboy:

[*Anya*]

Great topic Medusa! OK, here goes more truths:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment?

I don't like it and don't generally respond unless I am dressed and my hair is looking good!

Does it depend on who's doing it?
I tend to answer if it is one of my daughters but I have been known to not respond.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?
I leave my phone off at work. I don't have the kind of job that I can answer the phone in the middle of a group or individual session with a client. If I am alone and doing paperwork or notes and if I hear the vibration, I will answer it but it is rare.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? I actually like texting but I can't do long texts. I have had carpal tunnel and my hand and fingers get fatigued if I text too much. It is easier on my iPad but with my iPhone, it is really difficult for me.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? I actually have never had anyone do this to me. I don't know anyone that would do this. I would be totally irritated if it did happen.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?
The call would simply go to voice mail. The text, would sit there until the event was finished. Vacation? I have been known to answer it if it was family or a good friend.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
if it is an emergency-any time. Just to chat, not before 9:00AM or after 9:00PM.

How do you feel about group texting?
If it is about a get together or social event or family crisis-it makes perfect sense. As a regular thing, I don't like it.

Overall, I really don't like talking on the phone for long. After a couple of minutes, I am ready to get off. It used to bug the hell out of my recent ex before we moved in together. She could talk and talk on the phone and just never understood why I really didn't like it. Honestly, it was because she talked and I listened. That gets old really fast for me.

[Gemme]

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I don't face time but I prefer to have something set up in advance because my schedule rarely matches someone else's.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

I'm usually not available to talk during my work day so I just don't answer. My cell is always on vibrate anyway.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Not really. Too much is lost in translation and lack of body language and facial expressions.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

Stalker much? I'd feel a restraining order coming on.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

If they know about these things and I've not expressed interest in talking during that time frame, then they go to voicemail. If they don't know that I'm otherwise occupied, they go to voicemail.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

That depends on their personal schedule. What may be too early or late for me might be fine for them. I work during the day so super late or super early texting would not put you on my good side.

How do you feel about group texting?

I don't really do it but I've heard horror stories about personal drama coming out by accident because one doesn't know or realize that they are texting the group.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

Basically phone etiquette is similar. Don't call someone if you think it might not be appropriate and if you really don't have any times that you would consider inappropriate to call or text then you're 'that' person in the group and that's why some of your calls go to voicemail and some texts are just not answered. Use common sense, be respectful and limit any potentially disruptive psychosis.


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[Jesse]

Interesting thread!

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?
I do not have FT. As for any of the other video chats, I want to have a choice regarding when I video chat and with whom. I feel the same about this as I do someone showing up at my front door without calling first. Please do not do it.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?
I'm retired, and since my classes are online for the time being this isn't a big issue for me. If I were working or attending classes on campus, I feel it would be my responsibility to silence my calls while on the clock or in the classroom, rather than expect others to keep up with my schedule.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?
Text is my least favorite way of communicating with another person, so I am definitely not interested in long conversations via text. If this is the only way the person can speak with me at that time, and I am really into speaking with them, I will & have made exceptions. I would much rather speak via the phone, in person, or even Skype depending on the relationship.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?
Oh see, that will not happen for long, because I do not have the patience for such nonsense, and will block that caller.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? Again, I prefer to see this as my responsibility, and will either silence my phone, or shut it down depending on the situation at hand if needed. It would not upset me if a friend called during one of these occasions, and I would simply return their call at a mutually convenient time if unable/unwilling to talk at that time.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone? I would not make a personal call to a friend before 9am or after 9pm unless I knew for certain it was okay with that person, or if it was an emergency. I am not bothered by calls coming in during odd hours because I silence my phone when I retire for the night. However, I can see where a person with children, elderly parents, doing on call hours, etc. may not have this luxury.

How do you feel about group texting?
Never done it, and only see it as possibly being valuable to connect 3 or more old friends who have moved apart or who have not connected in a long time. Or perhaps if planning a surprise party for someone. Otherwise I am not feeling any interest.

[Medusa]

I have really enjoyed reading all the responses!! Super cool to see so many folks are still "old school" about phone etiquette.

I'll confess: I have a young gay boy who I love dearly who doesn't think twice about trying to FaceTime me without an appointment at 10am on a Tuesday when that fool knows I'm at work. I told him I was going to strangle him when I saw him again :D

I think phone use and texting behavior can be super generational too (especially from the looks of how we "finely aged" people like to do it!

[VintageFemme]

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

I like this conversation very much! So glad you asked. First, I'm very anti-phone and always have been. I have to make myself talk on it which is why I probably get nowhere with dating. LoL And then there's this that kind of sums it up for me...“Don't use the phone. People are never ready to answer it. Use poetry.” ― Jack Kerouac

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I'm very uncomfortable with someone wanting to face-time without 'appointment' / pre-planned time ahead. I won't answer the phone.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

This I'm okay with. I have a lot of freedom at work unless I'm in meetings so I'm fine with texting me at work. It's usually a lovely distraction for me.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Like most conversations in life, it depends on who I'm having it with. But technically speaking, I don't enjoy it on my phone but am fine with it on my iPad. It's the tiny keyboard that I'm not crazy about. I'm still pretty old school though and use my laptop more than either my phone or iPad.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

I think it's very rude. Call, leave a message and if I don't get back to you, assume there's a reason. It may not even be a personal reason having to do with the caller, there may be something going on in my world.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Texting is fine, phone calling I will always let it go to voice mail. Well, actually I let every call all the time, with only one exception being my son, go to voice mail. I don't answer the phone.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

And, again it depends on the person or the day of the week. Some people I'm fine with middle of the night texts. Calling is business hours only.

How do you feel about group texting?

I'm not crazy about it unless it's necessary for planning something. There's too much that can go wrong with the whole concept I think.

On to more of phone/text etiquette...
In my opinion, unless you are twelve, it's not appropriate to 'text type'. Example: UR, 2b While I'm a stickler for spelling and grammar usually, the real reason I don't like text type is because it takes me too long to figure out what is being said. I'm ok with the occasional LoL but that's about all I think is ok for educated adults to use. I think too, texts should be answered in a reasonable amount of time. It takes two seconds to acknowledge a text message even if it's just to say, I'll have to get back to you later. Texting is so routine these days that it's not frowned upon in most settings anymore and so answering quickly is usually going to be ok. I work in the corporate office of a major retailer and we text in meetings all day. It's very acceptable in the workforce now. I think phones should always be on silent at work, on dates, etc. And, I'm always put off when someone takes a call (unless it's an emergency obviously) or carries on a long text conversation when we're socializing. And lastly, people who carry on personal conversations in public areas such as shopping, theaters, restaurants loud enough for everyone else to hear, I think is rude also. You can always excuse yourself and have a private conversation somewhere. It's uncomfortable to listen to others private conversations in public places. Wow, I didn't know I had all these phone/text issues. No wonder I never talk on the phone! I'm not on good terms with it clearly.

[cathexis]

How to state this?

We share 1 cellphone between the 2 of us. Neither of us enjoys texting.. Rare short texts with family.

We keep the phone at home and generally off except when calling someone or one of us is not home. I don't accept accept unplanned calls, let alone the horrific idea of face time. In fact, we choose not to have a phone with that capablity.

No one calls us unless have planned it well in advance.

We are less accessible now than when just having a landline. Less irritating.

[Bèsame*]

Please! Be ready to show your phone with what ever deal you have found when your suppose to. Don't hold up the line...the person your showing it to has things to do and so does the person behind you, as you flick thru pages and say, I just had it.

[girl_dee]

[Medusa;1127445]I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

DO NOT LIKE - This has to be arranged first.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

if its not necessary don't do it.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Yes. I have speech to text and I don't always hear so well- HOWEVER some convos require a voice.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

RUDE

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?
Depends on the someone.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

7am to 9pm

How do you feel about group texting?


NOOOOOO just no
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[easygoingfemme]

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

No, please don't. I won't be answering. Only time I facetime is pre-planned like.. I'm at a party and one of our friends can't go and we say... we'll facetime you!

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

If I know that it's because they have a moment and don't actually expect me to get right back to them, it's fine. But if they are then like... hey, why aren't you getting back to me? I'm annoyed.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

No. It's annoying and typos and misunderstandings and... just pick up the phone at a time it works for us both.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

I feel like both are totally uncalled for. Take a hint.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Better be an emergency if I'm at an an important event and they know it. I don't mind on vacation - so long as I have the option to respond or not or in my own sweet time.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

Earliest- 7am. Latest 11pm.

How do you feel about group texting?

My friends and I do. I like it for when we're planning out something. I don't like when someone group texts like.. a news article or something. Don't want my phone blowing up for that.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

I like no pressure no expectation phone relationships. I usually have to answer my phone due to being on call for work 24/7 and call id doesn't always tell me who is calling but I have no problem not answering my phone if I know who it is and don't have time/don't feel like talking. I'll call back when my mood/time is right and if they answer, great. If not I leave a message and trust we'll connect when the time is right.

[Logicaly]

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it? If I get a video call without warning I reject it or block the camera and then answer. You should always ask before a video chat is any kind. I don't mind seeing other people, but I like to make sure I don't have a booger hanging out of my nose or something before answering a call.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours? I don't mind texts but unplanned calls are extremely disruptive for me, especially since I work in an open office environment. It's even more frustrating when people don't get the hint when I say I am at work and insist on continuing to chat.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? Since I often have social anxiety, I am able to express myself better over text, so I don't really mind long conversations via text.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? Dude, if I don't answer my phone, leave a message. If I don't return the message then I clearly do not want to talk to you. My mother does this, calls multiple times until I answer, drives me batty.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? This doesn't bother me as long as it is not taking up more than just a few minutes of your time. If you start ignoring me for your phone, well then we are going to have words later on.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone? Anytime is fine, with the technology to silence phones or set DND and only allow certain people and things through I see nothing wrong with this.

How do you feel about group texting? I would prefer to not get dragged into one unless I am aware if it ahead of time.

You know something else I think is incredibly rude. Talking on your phone while someone is ringing you up at any kind of store. It's incredibly rude to the person working and it slows down the line for the rest of us!

[IrishAmazon]

Phone and Text Etiquette - Your Opinion?
I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

Uhhg I know it was supper cool on The Jetsons, but even Jane had a mask for the purpose. I have some friends and family that are just taken with apps like snap chat and slide. This is bothersome and irritating to me just as much.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

When I was in an office or a clinic it was irritating, and I made sure they knew it was not okay. It was necessary on occasion for example when my step son has an allergic reaction because someone gave him a peanut butter cookie. he was fine after he got a dose, that poor girl though felt horrible.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

This for me is my preference, I loved to talk all night as a girl, but as an adult I don't do so well with small talk. I get weird and don't know how to continue once I notice that their is not actual direction of conversation. This may also be why I lake the skill to flirt or drop hints.
I will also admit that I also like to take my time to think about my responses, The first inclination is to say what I am sure the other wants to hear, this way I say what I mean and as a Gemini sometimes that takes some sorting.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

Why would anyone submit them selves to this? Self respect?

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

If they are friend or family they are calling or texting when they have something to say or just want to reach out, which is fine I have the choice to respond or not. Again not a leash.
If it is work, WTF. No unless it was prearranged, I respect that we have a trade agreement and I honor that my time and effort is rented to them but this does not mean they own me.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
Know your audience.

How do you feel about group texting?

Group texting is fine if it is a need to know, it was beneficial last November and December for my cousins and I to coordinate care for an aunt that lived hours away from any of us and her husband was just so lost. We were all able to cover the last two months of her life between sick and vacation. Or if you are collaboration a big family dinner or a night out as a group

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

My Rant
For me to start with I have had people in the past that have tried to use my phone as a leash, I was early twenties when cell phones started to become the norm, I have always been an adult with one and will not be expected to check in like a teen. If I am not reaching out it is by design.
I have little regard for people who are so rude as to have what should be a private conversation in any public place, I don't mean the hi how are you type of calls i mean the personal conversation that you should be embarrassed by any Joe or Jane over hearing this is not cute and you are not all that with or with out that bag of chips.
If you can not end your phone call before you get to the cashier you should not be in line for them yet, walk another lap get off the phone, don't be rude and don't make other people wait on you like that, their time is just as valuable as yours.

[Breathless]

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?By invitation only, the only exception is my granddaughter or my partner, other wise I will refuse and be super annoyed.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?while I'm at work, I prefer a text, and I'll answer when I can, what I don't like is when someone texts and gets all pissy that I haven't responded as fast as they think I should have- happens more than once and I'll make a point of NOT being available during work hours. Only call if it is an emergency.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? I like them, for lighter topics but some things must be said either in person or at least verbally. Sensitive topics should always be verbally discussed as the feedback is required that comes from at least a verbal communication.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? If you call once maybe twice and that's it, leave a message and I'll call you back, if your number is blocked, I will ignore your calls, and might check my messages if you leave one. Any more that 2 calls and something better either be on fire or someone near death or injured that requires my assistance. Any more than 2 - and I get a 'I just wanted to chat' I'll probably hang up and block your number. Worry me for a chat-- smh

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? Again, I will answer when I can, but rest assured I will not interrupt the crowd for a phone call.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone? It was hammered in my head as a child 9 .. Don't call or knock before 9 am -- don't knock or call after 9 pm. Bestie and my kids are the exception unless otherwise arranged. Emergencies are just that and if my phone rings after those hours, that is what I am expecting.

How do you feel about group texting?If it's for an event or to notify of important info ie: my moms heart attack, that's fine, I don't expect a personal just for me message-- for those like and share type things, i will remove myself and strongly give thought to blocking future like messages. Really annoys me.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

I will not talk on the phone while being served either in a drive thru or at a till. I think attention paid to the person serving you is mandatory and not negotiable. If the person I'm talking to can't respect that then I'll hang up and they can respect the heck out of the dial tone. I can't be rude to people in my space and talk in front of others, and there are some places the phone is not welcome - like public bathrooms.

[*Anya*]

>>snip<<<

...and there are some places the phone is not welcome - like public bathrooms.

Bathroom talkers!!

OMFG!

They are the absolute worst!

First of all, I just cringe to have someone in a stall next to me, doing their (loud) business while on the phone!!

It is as though they could care less who hears their entire conversation in the totally not-private bathroom, but secondly, what about the person on the other end of the phone??

Oh for the peace and quiet of a no-cell public bathroom!!

This is when I curse the invention!

[theoddz]

LOL.....my friend, 'Dusa, brought this out for discussion, bless her heart!!!! :awww::heartbeat:

Now she, and everyone else, gets to hear MY rant!!!!

First off, let me say this: First and foremost, I am a curmudgeon. Born and raised. I detest phones, period. That said, let us proceed. :praying:

1. How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it? No one does this with me. My wife must sneak up on me when she's FT'ing our granddaughter, and that I don't mind. The secret is in the "approach". Anyone else?? It's a non-starter.

2. How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?
I'm retired now, but I cling to consistency and old habits, soooo...Historically, I NEVER, EVER answered my phone at work, unless it was from my wife or a close family member. I have always made it crystal clear to everyone close to me that I do NOT "chat" at work. In my profession (Respiratory Therapist in a busy hospital setting), I was "on the clock" and expected to be working with my patients, teaching my students, conducting inservice education with peers or attending to Union matters (on break time, or "official" time), as a Union Steward. I kept my phone on me at work, in order to make myself available for work matters (we had only numerical pagers for a long time, until the VA brought in Vocera), and I hardly EVER gave or give my cell number to anyone but close family.


3. Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? No, I'm busy and find texting, particularly long texting, to be a waste of time. If I have something in depth to talk about, that is what the phone is for.

4. How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? Oh HELL NO!!! Want to make me turn the damned phone off??? Just call me repeatedly and that's exactly what I'll do. I used this phone on MY terms, not yours. I pay the damned bill and it is for MY convenience.

5. How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? I ignore the call (after making sure it's not from close family), and then either turn the phone off or silence the ringer. Don't bother leaving a voice mail. I won't ever hear it (I never set it up on my cell phone). Those who know me know to call my house line and leave a message on my answering machine.

6. How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
9 PM This was drilled into me, as a child. My parents allowed phone calls up to 9 PM. Any calls after that will be screened (answering machine) or unanswered, depending on the message that is left. Immediate things rate an immediate call back, while other matters can either be ignored or responded to the next day.

7. How do you feel about group texting?
Nope, I don't get into that at all. Leave me out of it. Better yet, if it is important, send it to my wife's phone, as she's more likely (and lots more friendly) to see it than I am.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks! Call at a decent hour and try not to be offended if I happen to not answer, and don't get right back to you, unless there's an "immediate" matter. Sometimes, I feel like answering/talking, but most of the time, I don't. Keep that in mind. I am not Pavlov's dog and just because the phone rings doesn't mean I have an inherent obligation to answer it. :winky:

~Theo~ :bouquet:
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[Gemme]

Bathroom talkers!!

OMFG!

They are the absolute worst!

First of all, I just cringe to have someone in a stall next to me, doing their (loud) business while on the phone!!

It is as though they could care less who hears their entire conversation in the totally not-private bathroom, but secondly, what about the person on the other end of the phone??

Oh for the peace and quiet of a no-cell public bathroom!!

This is when I curse the invention!

Not to mention they are schmearing their bathroom germs all over the phone which gets schmeared all over their face and very few of those folks, in my personal experience, seem to care about washing their hands afterwards too.

Total ick fest.

[Chained Daisy]

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

Thats a no no for me.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

I have a separate work phone.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Not long conversations no, texting is too laborious and limiting, I prefer face to face or a least a phone call, texts are great for a quick update though.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

This drives me crazy and they can be sure for a terse response, its just bad manners.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Again bad manners though it would be my own fault for not turning my phone off if I was at an important event.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

Not before 8 in the morning and not after 10 at night, but I always keep in mind peoples schedule as far as I can.

How do you feel about group texting?

Hate it !

[dark_crystal]

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I will always face-time with my family or partner

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Texting is fine but don't be like my sister and start texting your speculations about bizarre situations that i just MUST be in the middle of (drowning in toilet, etc), if i take too long to reply

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

I don't mind as long as there is no snippiness about length of time between replies

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

Somebody better be dead

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Someone better be dead or sharing something extremely juicy and/or hilarious

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

8 am to 10 pm unless i was following you to the next bar or party and haven't arrived

How do you feel about group texting?

depends on size of group and relevance of topic at hand

Other: i pretend not to understand how facebook messenger works but my twitter mentions are lit

[Lyte]

What an excellent topic! It wasn't so long ago that the only way we could communicate with one another was phone, letter or face to face. Maybe it's cuz I'm a Gemini or just plain chatty... but I do miss those days! Communication has become so ... impersonal... and complicated! :|

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

Never done it... sounds rude... wouldn't like it at all. Sounds like someone just walking through your front door and being caught in your PJs! lol Only exception might be for the girlfriend. :p

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Feel free... I don't have to answer. Now, if you give me grief about it ... and I've previously explained that I can't take a call/text while at work... that would become a problem.

I've many times had a friend call for the sole purpose of leaving me a message. <-- that's cool! Curious thing re: leaving messages... I've a few "younger" friends who say they do not like leavings messages. They say they don't know what to say ... it makes them feel weird. lol <-- I find that to be weird but then again I grew up with everyone having a home phone and a recorder. Oy... I'm getting old! :glasses:

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

If by "long conversation" you mean the topic of the conversation is deep... meaningful... emotional... thoughtful... etc... then absolutely not. I won't do it and my friends know I won't do it. More than a few times I've said "That's a topic for a phone chat."

I don't do it one... because it's friggin' tedious! iol If I'm trying to explain something of a more complex nature then I've got to text 300 words that might 20 spoken words. Ugh!! And two... I want to be understood and I want to understand what's being said. Between 80% - 90% of understanding/communication (depending on which studies you read) is obtained visually, the rest comes from tone and the words we choose. Through text we're trying to understand/communicate in the worst possible way. <-- which is why emoticons are so popular. :)

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer?

Unless it's something urgent... it's not cool. People need to be given the opportunity/space to respond when they are ready to do so.

How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

If someone calls me several days in a row and I'm not responding ... it's going to be one of the following: I'm ignoring them ... not something I'd do but I guess it's an option! lol Or, I'm not able to pick up when they call working ... sleeping... whatever. Or I've been hit by a beer truck ... in which case, keep calling!! :p If the reason is the first or second... we'd have to have a talk <-- isn't that sort of ironic! :| lol

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Depends on the person and the reason. I have a rule that I will not call or text someone who's on vacation. If they want to interact with me then they'll have to initiate and I will happily respond. I'm very aware of not disturbing someone's "down time." I would want the same courtesy and would let them know if I'm going to be out of reach. If they call/text when I'm not wanting calls or texts then it's up to me to decide to respond or ignore.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

This is an interesting question because when I lived in CA it was fine to call someone up to about 10pm. When I moved to TX my friends told me almost as soon as I arrived not to call anyone after 8pm! As for what's appropriate... appropriate is whatever is communicated. I don't mind text up to 10pm and now I've grown accustomed to no phone calls after 8pm.

How do you feel about group texting?

Only cool when someone's trying to plan a group function or needs to communicate something that would be tedious to communicate one at a time... such as a birth, death or wedding. Random stuff... what you had for lunch??? No thanks! :)

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

Ultimately... how we like to communicate needs to be communicated! It's every person's responsibility to let others know their boundaries and to then hold others accountable (if only by hitting IGNORE) should those boundaries be crossed. I do believe there are general DOs/DONTs but the reality is that with all the different ways in which we can reach one anther ... there are no hard and fast rules anymore.

[RockOn]

If someone puts me on hold to take another call, I have a one minute rule. I hang up if the person doesn't come back in a minute.

I hate phones but they are a necessity.

[Tuff Stuff]

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?
I have no problem with it.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

If it's family I will answer.But they know not to text me unless there's no other alternative..and it better be an emergency.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

I hate texting..don't ever fucking text me, EVER!

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

If I don't feel like talking,whoever is calling will not get an answer,period.My smartphone rings three times then goes straight to voicemail,which is not set up.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Same,i won't answer.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

Call me by appointment only, won't matter if it's early or late..I'll answer it.


How do you feel about group texting?

Oh hell no.

[Femmewench]

I am a phone luddite. I had a flip phone for emergencies which was replaced by a smart phone last year. This was done under protest but since I had a 92 year old father and a 5 year old child whose schedule I was trying to coordinate with my then-wife, I got talked into a smart phone. I do not understand why people text when they have a phone in their hands.

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it? I've not face-timed and only skyped 3 times. If you do either without a preset time agreed to by me, you'll never reach me.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours? I didn't give my work number to anyone but my spouse, my dad's assisted living facility and my niece's school. My cell phone stayed in my purse. If it rang, I didn't hear it. When I got the smart phone, I wasn't working.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? No. Takes too long. I'd much rather talk on the phone.
How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? This hasn't happened. Were it to happen, that number would be blocked. I will double check messages to determine no one I know/love has died or been in a horrible accident.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? My cell phone is off for important events. My father has died and I am no longer responsible for my niece.Some of my vacations are spent in southern California where a lot of family lives, so I expect calls then.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone? For standard chat - 8 AM to 9 PM

How do you feel about group texting? Worked for Las Vegas. The only other group chat I was part of required me to learn how to remove myself from group chat.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette!
-Because I am rarely the only other person in a restroom when someone feels it is necessary to be on their cell phone, I haven't blown a whistle to disrupt the phone call.
-I have called out people in a group dining together both in homes and restaurants when I know they weren't on-call and didn't have children. There's no other excuse to be checking email or texts - well, work emergencies qualify.
-I love watching men in grocery aisles describing what they're seeing to their spouse who has sent them shopping.
-I do not love people in any setting other than their homes making/receiving phone calls which do not pertain to their current situation. I don't want to know you child is failing math, your date sucked, you sucked your date (yes, I've heard that,) your parents suck or anything else that isn't any of my business.
-Please, please, please turn down the radio, stereo, tv volume when you answer the phone. Just because the volume is on 6 doesn't mean it's not loud on my end of the call.

I finally got a specific ring tone which I was sure I would always know was my phone: Come on Eileen (yes, my name.) Sadly, at a recent gathering someone I had just met had to ask me if that was my phone ringing: it was. I think I still don't want to be that accessible whether I know it or not.

[imperfect_cupcake]

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I'm on android. Never happens.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Oh fine. I can't answer texts or calls while I work. So I feel fine about it. They can call or text if they want. But anyone who knows me more than five minutes knows I'm an RMT and can't answer texts or calls in work hours. On very rare occasions I might be able to return a text, but I can't have a conversation by text - so you best put all info in one text like an email and I'll get to you if I can.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?
Most of the time no. If it's me and a close mate goofing around making stupid quips and jokes and bantering for an hour via text, sure. If I'm trying to make plans with someone or have an actual proper information exchange with real depth, no fucking way. It irritates the living hell out of me.

And I hate that the conversation will start at 9am.... and very... slowly... continue... every 30-40 minutes... till... at 2pm... it is... finished. When a 5 minute phone call could have sufficed. That drives me fucking spare.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

calling me over and over within a short time period?? No, only people who ever did that aren't in my life.

I don't talk to anyone, save my mum, whom I'm a carer for, every day. No one else I talk to every day. If they want to call me every day and I'm not answering, are they leaving a message? Why the hell are they calling every day?

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

It is my responsibility to keep that in check myself, no one else. How would everyone know I'm on vacation or at an event? I do what I do at work and turn my damn phone off/onto "no interruptions save mum"

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

Anytime. That's what the programing thing is for on the phone. I set it at night so that the only call that can disturb me is on that is placed twice in a row, within 3 minutes of each other. Or it's my mum. The rest are silent and just go to messaging.

You can text anytime you want, 4am. I'm alseep and my phone is on silent except for emergency calls, my alarm, and my mum. Text your brains out. Isn't that the whole point of texting? You have a *CHOICE* about when to answer or read it?

How do you feel about group texting?

I've used it when needed. Usually it's work related, but sometimes it's planning social events. Not fond of it but without it life would be harder.

[Esme nha Maire]

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

How do you feel about group texting?

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

I hadn't heard the term 'face-timing' before - I am guessing that this means a video call. Can't be done to me, as I do not have internet access on my phone - I simply do not require it. But if I did have such access, anyone starting such a call had better have an emergency for me to deal with, or face my extreme wrath.

Phoning during work or college hours is a no-no unless it's an emergency. Friends simply do not do this to me. Companies that do so get cut off, or, if I'm in a situation where I can do so, I may give a short verbal response and then cut them off. Depends on the impression given by teh caller in teh first few seconds as to whether I'm polite or not.

Long conversations by text - it depends very much on the conversation. Some can be enjoyable, some can be infuriating - but if the latter, I tend to cut them short pretty durned quickly. Email is a better medium for long textual conversations, but I can only do email when at a PC. (no phone internet!)

No-one has ever called me over and over in a short period when I don't answer aside from sales people. My response is to switch my phone off for a while, or alternatively, switch it on but make no response, or, if I'm feeling impish, switch it on and do things like heavy breathing, nose-blowing, blow a whistle close to the phone, chatter in gibberish, answer in German or French (and switch languages if they do to match, with gibberish as fallback), or leave the phone near a radio or other source of music/noise. I will sometimes report such harassment to the authorities.

I have no opinion on group texting - what is your problem with it? I havent experienced it, that I know of, and have only texted to a group a handful of times, mostly when I've been ill, to update friends on how I'm doing.

Contact whilst I'm on holiday is reasonable, if it ls friends. Salespeople should always but ALWAYS expect a hostile audience and at best a non-response. Salespeople unlucky enough to get me when I have time on my hands and feeling creative be warned that you are imperilling your equilibrium if not your sanity. 'An important event' - text only, please, no calls.

No earlier than 9am, no later than 10pm, unless it's an emergency or you know I'm up and about anyway.

[*Anya*]

I >>>>super-snipped<<<< and am quoting a sentence in Tuff Stuff's response:

"...my smartphone rings 3 times, then goes straight to voice mail, which is not set up".

This absolutely cracks me up.

It reminds me of work. We get tons of client calls. Many are angry, yelling and overall upset.

They say: "I've called 5 times and nobody ever calls me back".

I do call them back.

It is usually within a week, or, if I have time that day, they get a same day return call.

9 times out of 10, when I call them the phone has the following message: 1. The mailbox is full and is unable to accept messages; 2. This voice mail has not yet been set up. Or, my favorite: 3. This number is not accepting any calls".

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