So a question I figured I'd ask but I know would be a small, limited audience. I'm currently attempting to get a green card via work. Unfortunately, because of my degrees and the strict requirements for that I ended up in what's known as the EB-3 category, which is general skilled professionals. Because of this, I'm looking at somewhere between 5-7 years before I might (and it's a huge might given some recent legislation going on in Congress/Senate right now) get a green card.

K and I have been talking about marriage for a few years now and I have even proposed to her. I still have to get her ring redone (in silver since the one I got her turned her finger green ?!). That said, I've contemplated getting my sex identifier changed on my ID and marrying her to see about getting the green card via marriage.

The questions I have is:

1. Has anyone done this?

2. For the medical interview portion, do you have to go to a doctor that is selected by USCIS or can you go to your general practitioner?

3. Does USCIS consider GID to be a "Physical or mental disorders with
harmful behavior" that would deny entry (I'm assuming no since I've been here for 5 years but this seems a different group from those that issue work visas).

Any input from those who have dealt with this kind of process (or similar if it was to another country) would be greatly appreciated.

I don't know if any of this will help or not. Just my experience.
Anyway, I've been legally married twice. The only ID I needed was drivers license, which got changed under very lucky (for me) circumstances. I went to the DMV, said I lost (misplaced)y drivers license, which I had. After giving them my social security number they filled in the blanks. Male it was. Granted, this was an awful lot of years ago.
There are also some states that will change your sex w/o surgery if you have documentation that shows you've lived as your "chosen" gender for x amount of years.

I have been on T for about 4 months now--

My question is -- when did you start to shave?

I grew a beard but could have easily started shaving within a month. I'm hairy like that. A lot of the determination as to when you'll start is a mixture of genes, how high of a dosage and how often the dosage. There's no specific set date (e.g., you start T on Nov 1 doesn't mean that by Nov 15 you'll have a beard). It's powerful but there are still other factors at play.

I have been on T for four years and three months now. Not until late Spring did I start to need to shave daily. Most of the growth is on my neck directly under my chin and side burn area. I still could not grow a mustache even if I wanted one.

Personally for me, initially I was more focused with the physical changes and now, much more with the layers of my "transition."

Best wishes for you on your journey.

I started on the creme back in 2005 ... I had no heavy duty facial hair while on it however my peach fuzz did grow and I know I had to periodically shave to keep it under control

I started injectible T I think 4 years ago. Just this past year have gotten where I almost need to shave on a daily basis. Sometimes I can skip a day depending on when I shave. However the more I shave the more I have to shave.

I still don't think I could grow a full anything, but I'm finally getting where my sideburns have grown out. YAY that's the main thing i wanted. The rest I have been able to tolerate that much. Like Greyson I mainly get this hairy scarf and I can't stand the feel or look of it so off it goes. Occasionally i start to try other things but just don't have the tolerance.

My next step is to increase the length of my sideburns!

I come from a fairly nonhairy body hair family. We all have a full head of hair but not much going on else where! I don't have a single chest hair which I am happy with but that's how hairless my family is!

Linus: Hey thanks for answering so quickly-- I come from a non hairy family so I doubt I will be in your same boat. I started off with a lower dosage and just recently up'd the dosage.

Maybe I should of asked: Did you shave Pre-T? Peach fuzz? If you start to shave peach fuzz, is it true that more hair will grow? and more zits will accumulate? Oy.

Thanks Greyson, so far this journey has been awesome, not saying there hasn't been any downs, but so far, I have been enjoying.


Theo-- What kind of work do you do? I was recently fitted for the N-95 mask too. lol.

I enjoyed your story, thank you.

I, too, have started off with compounding gel, first started off with a lower dosage (200mg) and now am at (420mg) monthly, and have seen more changes with that as of lately. My peach fuzz is getting thicker/fuzzier. I also don't come from a back ground of fuzzy people, but I hear from so many other T guys in my community that I should start shaving, but just have this issue about getting acne or starting to soon.


To everyone-- thank you again for replying and sharing your stories. I really appreciate it.

a. :mohawk:

I've been on T for something like two years now I think perhaps and I am just now starting to shave. I get some dark hairs here and there under my chin, but the rest is still kinda fuzzy, and there is some very light sideburns growing in slowly. Its funny, the one thing I want the most from this is more facial hair, because I also feel the lack of it makes people second guess my gender in public because I have such a baby face unfortunately.

I have noticed, and it could just be the timing of it all, is that the more I shave, the more darker hairs start coming in on my chin, so who knows.

I have heard of some guys taking DHT I believe it was to directly increase the ability to grow facial hair, and overall hair in general. But I haven't had a chance to look more into that yet.

Just remember that the effects of HRT differ with each person, so don't expect miracles. I know of a transwoman that started HRT 2 years after i did, and she has much bigger breasts then I do. Of course, she started HRT when she was a lot younger then I did, too. Sometimes, it is just the way that the dice falls, I guess.

I stopped HRT about 9 yrs ago..

Hi all,

I started my transition in 2000 and started on T in 2003. It only took a few months for me to need to shave - surprising since I am Irish and not very hairy at all. I went off of T in 2010 due to some medical issues, but will be going back on again soon. I still have to shave every day, although I let it go until work complains. We aren't allowed to have facial hair other than a small, neatly trimmed, mustache. The one place I can't seem to grow much hair! Go figure.

I had top surgery in 2008 and a hysto in 2010. I have no plans for any other surgeries at this time. I was able to get my insurance to cover ALL costs associated with my transistion.

For the record - I am very open abotut anything and everything so feel free to ask me anything. Pvt message me if you have a question you aren't comfortable asking on here.

Also - I'm in the Twin Cities, MN and am looking to make some local friends if anyone else is around here and open to it.

How do you know if your T is turning into Estrogen -- What would some indications be ?

I'd say discuss it with your endo... but mood swings can happen... your period can come back (if you haven't had a hysto)... your voice may go back up a little... I had a link to one of my FTM support sites a while back that listed what you are looking for. I'll see if I can find it.

Cool, thanks--

I wouldn't worry too much - it takes a HUGE amount for that to happen - the amount that body builders use. The primary sign is breast formation and men and testicular shrinkage. That said, you would either have to have liver disease so you can't metabolize it, or be taking huge, non-prescribed doses.

Why do most transmen have an issue dating tall women ?
im 5'9 and half and i get no love from the bros:(

My g/f is 5'9" and I'm 5'1". Just a matter of finding one who appreciates a taller, leggier woman.

I noticed the height thing even before I transitioned. Some butches have the same "dilema." For me, the more comfortable I became with myself, the less I was threatened by a woman's height. I love to see a woman in heels and if I wanted to date women I was attracted to, I needed to get over it.

My girlfriend is taller then me by a couple of inches.