What advice would you get your younger self
 

I thought this would be an interesting thread.
Going into a new year, and as we do sometimes look back at the year that as just passed this thought popped into my head.
i was wondering what you all would say to your younger self, whether it be last year,10 years ago, 20/30 or more.
What have you learned and how have you grown from it?
What would you do differently if anything.

For me personally, i would say dont be afraid to open up, to someone you can trust. dont hold the bad inside you because thats not good.
You are stronger than you think, so never give up.
Enjoy life and what is as to offer, and try to learn something new about it and yourself when you can.
oh and dont get married at 20 lol

The grass is not always greener somewhere else...just stay home, love your wife and thank God for your blessings.

To my younger self: I know it's hard not to hurt when both parents walked out on you as a baby, they were and always will be childish self centered brats. You still have yourself, learn all you can so you can take care of your self then live well. Don't get married at 19...wrong move cause you will forever pay for that. Another thing, don't pay any attention to any one who blast you about the way ward parents you aren't them and will rise above what they will ever be. Be wary of people who act like friends then turn on you when they are done with you, yes you will get burned a time or two and it will hurt like hell its called life lessons we all get them. The word NO isn't a bad word to say learn it early and use it wisely. So much more to say, but later.

Don't flip, it's not the end of the world (unless it is). :D

Transition already! For both yourself and for those around you. You are a much better person after you become your real self.

Grab hold of yer boot straps son and pull like hell, it's gonna be a wild ride! :cigar2:

Move to Argentina and study Tango. Raise your son dancing. Really it's OK...

I would say to my younger self that stop the partying and focus on life.

During my young adult life, clear up until a couple years ago, I never could really wrap my arms around the idea that I am truly a fabulous woman. It's just been this past two years that I experienced my own "ah ha" moment when I could fully embrace myself as a person worthy of my own kind of fabulosity (1).

Second, always trust your inner intuition, even if others might not come up with the same inner-knowing. Your inner instincts will pretty much be right on target, most all the time.

In the "trust your gut" department; I would say to my younger self to pay attention when issues of the mind collide with issues of the body. While not in medical vogue right now, that connection runs deep, to ignore it is folly.

I would also tell my younger self to truly appreciate the moment. You never know when doing that favorite thing whether or not it will be the last time you get to do it.

The most important thing I have is time. Everyone gets the same number of hours in the day. Everything else is decoration.

Your heart is bigger than anyone can handle. Don't stop caring and don't be with someone who demands you stop caring.

Save as many as you can, never eat red meat or pork because they should not suffer just because you like bacon burgers.

DO NOT get in the truck with Leon. Believe me, it will save both your lives in different way.

Younger self, another bit of hind sight, slow down chasing that big rainbow then enjoy what you have for as long as you can but don't take any sh85 from anyone. There will be people on the rodeo trail that would love to put doubts in your mind about you and you horses abliatie (sp). You are doing fine...they would love to see you off that horse you are on and on something not near as good, it's money in the bank for them if you cant win.

Grow up sooner, as in: plan for your future and don't be so hedonistic....ya little shit.

I'd tell my younger self, you're pretty AND black, not pretty BUT black. We'd have a long discussion on that misconception.

I'd also tell her that you're gonna make a few mistakes along the way and not always trust the right people, but that's okay. It's even expected. What's important is to walk inside your story and own it. Otherwise, you will walk outside your story and will have to hustle for your worthiness. (excellent advice from Brene Brown)

Be more forgiving of others and more compassionate and empathic to yourself.

Start saving early. Yes, there will be time later, but start early—you'll be glad you did.

Stay in school. Its very hard to return....

Move to Asheville sooner. I wish my kids had grown up immersed in this environment

Do more of the things that interest you... hobbies are important too

Be better at being present

Be careful who you give your heart to

Stop doubting yourself so much. There's nothing fundamentally wrong with you, even though you may think there is.

PS..... On the night your mom calls and tells you that she is too tired to banysit, leave work and stay with her.....

That boy that was mean to you for so many years will ask you out later on and you will smile when you say "no".

Do not date that one there! (will keep her name to myself)
She will drive you mad and insane!

Advice to young Chad
 

Mine will always be the same "stop partying and go to college"!

I must have been in disco bars from the age of 18 to 25 drinking and chasing ladies. I delayed going to college and wasted my youth in night clubs.

It was big fun and I have awesome memories but I wish that I had balanced disco with school.

:knighthorse:

It is never too late to go back to school! Especially now that they have so many programs for the full time worker. Accelerated classes/programs. You can take a whole class over 3 weekends by being in class 8 hours on Saturdays and Sundays. Online classes. There are many options nowadays.

Consider it, or 10 years from now you might think about how you should have done it 10 years ago! :hangloose:

Thanks DapperButch,

I did make it to collage when I was 25 but just think I could be retired now if I had gone at 18 years old.

I still like to Party! Haha!

Chad

Just relax and breath. Sometimes things aren't meant to be in life,love and even friendships. Don't change who you are to make others like you.

You are you. Honest,open and funny....if they can't handle you. Move on

Start saving money, now. Plan for the future expenses, because man oh man, are they ever expensive.

To my younger self. Listen up meatball the saying that goes this way...faster horses, faster women and fast cars along with Mr. J Daniels .ONLY IN MODERATION!...I can't be leave I did all that s86T.

Never light up that first cigarette dude, it will take you years to quit and you will regret every one you ever smoked.

Oh and use the money you save from smoking to go to college early.

One last thing dude, you matter to me!

Your body wont last as long as you think...transition, be happy, and live healthier.

Don't walk down that hallway on 11/17/1998 it will start the dominoes falling and you'll never fully recover

Spend more time with friends..laugh hard and often

Don't let people define you...define yourself

Surround yourself with more positive vibes

Live on/near the beach...any beach...there is something about the ocean your soul needs

just be
 

and do only everything

Follow your instincts!!!! Listen to that gut feeling!!!! Do what makes U happy, not anybody else. Stop partying and go back to school! Buy that little place so near the beach!!!!!!!

Everything that you think you know.....


wrong.

*Wait until I'm 38 to have sex and wait to have kids.
*Spend more time with Momma D.
*Never get married before I turn 40.
*Take more vacations with my kids.
*Invest more.
*Don't work so many years in logistics; get a State job sooner.
*Go on more adventures.
*Love deeply

Younger think 6 weeks younger...
Don't go in the shower away from home without shower shoes. Lol, not funny

Always get an official accident report

Follow up quickly with property management to be sure they have notified their insurance company

Don't try to be nice in these instances, nice guys get taken advantage of.

Become a certified welder, finish your mechanical drafting certification and take the advice of your fravorite professor to become certified in HVAC.

Don't abuse your body...you'll need it in one piece when you get old.