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for the posters who chose new names
i know i'm not the only one who has chosen a different name. i suppose it's the whimsy in me that finds it fun to play "pseudonym dress up". the human in me believes it's wise to acknowledge the significant shifts in life and maybe even re-name one's self accordingly. afterward, it was pointed out to me that it's often assumed that those who change their IDs might be trying to fly under some sort of radar. since that's not true for most of us i thought i'd start the conversation here.
is choosing a new name for one's self a sign of hiding something? what if one wakes up feeling like a new person one day and wants to express that shift in perspective? it seems a celebratory thing for me rather than something facade-like or disguising. must it be more likely that those who choose new log on names are trying to avoid some kind of deserved unpleasantry? i once changed my name on a website to avoid harassment. it didn't work and i was subsequently bounced for violating TOS. my bad, but ouch! being jerked around and losing one's community all in the same day sux in an uber special way. i definitely did the deed but i was sort of focused on not being stalked. (and no, not everyone being stalked has done something meriting such treatment.) i've nothing to avoid, even though my mouth sometimes gets too far ahead of my brain. but what if one did want to shift away from a period of jackassery and there were those (and there always are) who won't allow that one has learned from one's mistakes? it's fairly suffocating to always be labeled by one's stupidity, especially when one has very definitely learned one's lesson. so what about it? okay to change or not? if no, why? if yes, must one always confess? face it. scooter (not his real name BTW) libby got a pardon. how do i get a little of that? the artist formerly known as sunflower girl |
Dear The Artist Formerly Know As Sunflowergirl,
I don't recall you being this filled with cayenne pepper before, honey! Don't get me wrong, I like it. The saucy side of you is fun times! As for your changing your screen name being necessarily sneaky or behind the scenes fuckery, I say Oh, Balogna. It's really no one's business. And if you wake up one morning feeling like Susan Cinderella, then your sweet little five year old self is perfectly permitted to force your parents and everyone else to call you that for the next two years. It worked for me. But is it all right if I shorten your new name to something like Flower? May I call you Flower if I want to? Love and crap, e |
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i apologize for the over indulgence of cayenne. we had hot wings for dinner before the Saints/Patriots game. my own family calls me by a variety of names, none of them the one on my birth certificate. i've been "Pete" for the majority of my life with my extended family. my parents called me "OhNo" and "Hardway" for reasons that can be easily (and rightly i imagine) speculated on. when the movie "Finding Nemo" came out they began referring to me as "Dori" en masse and i've never been able to threaten them adequately enough to make them stop. my name has been legally changed 5 times, beginning when i was 6. at no time was i a criminal or trying to avoid detection by anyone. i change. why should my name not change if i want it to? the name on my driver's license right now is almost exactly the same as the name i was given when i was little. my initials are unfortunate, bringing to mind a rather large, wholly idiotic and sadly well known racist hate group, but i suspect i carry them off by being as unlike one of their members as is humanly possible. as for calling me Flower...why not? it's better than OhNo. |
What a Crazy Story! No Wonder...
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I was Fem-me, but now I'm Lynn. Because it's my name and I feel most comfortable being known.
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Now this is some serious subterfuge. We need to watch out for this one. ;) |
There's absolutely nothing wrong with a name change.
In all honesty I considered one myself, but was lacking in creativity the day I found the site! It's important to embrace change and evolution, no matter what the venue. Not too mention your new name is just fabulous. It brings to mind flower wreaths, flowing beauty and delightful uninhibited times! |
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i know, right? it's always the quiet ones..... :deepthoughts: |
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But I say, do what you want! Whatever makes you most comfy! :hangloose: |
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awwwwwwwww. you're so sweet! i thought it was just a way to avoid shaving and get lots of flowers. dare i say it....your name is enchanting. i doubt you were lacking in creativity so much as the name suited you so well it didn't want to leave you yet. |
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most comfie = typing nekkid! |
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~ oy ~ what have i done? |
okay. enough with the kisses and sugarlips treatment.
what about the peeps who think changing IDs is low down and sneakified? i'm not askin' anyone to love me but it bites in a big bad way to have to battle the speculation. it's natural to wonder/be curious and, in the world we've created, to not engage in trust at first sight. plus, i've been a jerk more times than i can count in life. if anyone had something to hide at one point it's probably me. humans are suspicious creatures when their companions don't smell right. so...what to do, besides give time and space, to make the more name-attached comfortable? |
depends..
personally, I enjoy thinking up unique ways of expressing who I am, and since the net is limited changing your name to distinguish a change in your circumstance (ie newly single, just married), or just because is just fine, imo..however, I think there are a few out there who use them for other more sinister reasons..but ultimately whoever you are shines out apart from any name chosen and your personality creates an overall impression of who you are..so no matter how clever you are, there is always someone who may want to figure out your puzzle..to that I say "bring it on":deepthoughts:
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I kept my 'old' screen name. I didn't keep it because it's my 'identity' or because you all could stalk me easier (though it's good for the ego).
I kept it because I'm getting too damn old to remember yet another screen name and password on another site. Call me practical. I know ya want to. |
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I was gonna change my screen name, but I can never even remember my password when I get logged out, so the likelihood of me being able to remember both a new username and a password is less than zero.
Old dog, old tricks. |
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