[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by oneye

i soooooooooo do not want to get embroiled in this ongoing battle of the wits (and the wittiest), but i will say that, on the other site, i was the recipient of this line of judgement...that i was less because i get pleasure out of the attentions of my wife to my most private of places. i don't see how that dictates the LEVEL of butch that i am or whether or not i'm a true butch. further, i felt very put off by the notion that, although i see myself as primarily masculinely identified, the things that i share with my wife in the privacy of our bedroom somehow belittle or degrade or negate my identity...specifically my 'trans butch' identity. it doesn't seem to me that anyone but my wife and i should determine this. further, in my simple mind, it seems to me that this should be how it is in ANY relationship...gay, straight, et al.

and now, i shall await the inevitable slinging of mud. heh...

That's funny. I've always recv'd an inordinate amount of shit over the attentions I pay to MY Beloved's most private of places. The majority of the flack has come from other Femme's but is not exclusive to them. It never ceases to shock and upset me...that my Beloved and I are somehow *other* for the things we do to each others bodies.