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Originally Posted by Darth Denkay
.... There seems to be an unspoken understanding that a butch should 'evolve' into something...more specific. And that ideally that "evolution" should include moving towards a more masculine identity, because that is better than just butch....
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Hey, there, Darth.
First I want to say that I loved your post. LOVED it.
But, I chopped the heck out of it...lol I took just one snipet of it, but I think that this is not taken out of context from the whole post. If so, please let me know.
Anyway, with that said....
I absolutely disagree with you. lol I strongly disagree with the idea that there is
an unspoken understanding that butch should evolve into something specific and that ideally it should be a more masculine identity.
Absolutely disagree.
Now I have seen some butches who seem to not understand their own feelings of masculinity and subsequently they wonder if this means they are FTM (I am thinking I see this most often with people who just figure out that they are butch/find community for the first time), but I disagree that there is some expectation that a butch will evolve into a "more masculine identity", than "just butch" when they walk in the door.
But, that's just my opinion.
ETA: This is not the same as saying that there has not been an encouargement towards using the pronoun he in the community. That is a different issue, in my mind.