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Originally Posted by BullDog
Well judging by commentary in other threads I guess after talking ourselves blue in the face:
- It's emasculating to refer to butches using female pronouns if you id as male. Why? I can see where it would be insulting to not be referred to as you wish, but I thought all butches were butches and no one thought of us as less than. I thought females could be just as masculine as males. If so why would it be emasculating to refer to someone as she? Hmmmm
- Butches are looking for femmes to defer to them because we would like to be referred to (by all, not just femmes) by the right pronouns.
- We blame femmes more than butches for slipping up on prounons even though we have said over and over it's not about honest mistakes
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I am the one that made this statement. Is it the word emasculating that bothers you? Does it (or did I) somehow imply that *she* is a bad word? Because that is not at ALL what I was saying.
My point was this: If somebody IS a male id'd butch, has asked to be called hy/he and now has the name Trenton instead of Tiffany? It IS emasculating (or whatever word you think fits here. if there is a better word, please tell me) for somebody to attack their chosen gender and use their given name as a way to be hurtful.
Not because of the use of feminine pronouns Bulldog, but because of the complete and total disregard for that individual as a human being.
Please help me understand why me stating this made you feel like you'd talk yourself blue in the face for nothing? Because you
know me better than that. I hope.