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Originally Posted by Metropolis
I know you're not asking me SF, but I'd say it is disrespectful, thoughtless rude etc.
I agree the person using it probably is attempting to emasculate... but in that not only insulting male ID but female ID by using their pronoun as if it is an "emasculator".
And to agree that's what it does... is to agree it's a feminizing pronoun.
In a nutshell... saying "she" emasculates someone is saying butches who use it by choice are not masculine.
Which is just another form of masculinity=male.
Peace,
Metro
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Yes this is how I see it.
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Originally Posted by SuperFemme
I also think it emasculating to call a female id'd Butch he and him when they have not asked to be called that. BUT I will find another word to convey what I am saying. I think it goes a hell of a lot deeper than just being disrespectful, thoughtless and rude in either instance. Both are pointedly attacking gender.
I'm sorry for mis speaking. I apologize.
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I can see this as well. I think it was Cyclopea who said earlier that it felt like we were being neutered when called He by default and I agreed with her. That's kind of the same thing you are saying, only it's using a different word.
I do object to seeing masculine used in ways to signify non-female or non-woman. I don't care for masculine-identified because it seems to signify non-female, non-woman. At the same time, there are big limitations in language for people to use to describe themselves in non-binary terms.
I am really not trying to be picky, but She can be just as masculine as He in my opinion.
Adele, I really didn't take this as coming from you personally. Other people were talking about that it and people use emasculate and feminize as terms a lot when referring to butch, but thank you. You are always very considerate.