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Old 04-07-2011, 10:11 PM   #3
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Originally Posted by sassy_girl View Post
Don't get into a relationship with someone who has an addiction (and in denial, unwilling to change or get help), you will never be a priority.
Since addiction issues are widespread in our society, this comes up a lot. The co-dependency/enabling stuff can really kick in for some of us. You hit it on the head- the addiction is the priority unless someone is willing to deal with it.

I have certainly seen many folks deal with their addictions and be able to have good relationships- but it has to do with them being ready and yes, not in denial.

I can be a "fixer" and have learned to pay attention to this in myself- it has not served me well. I caqn't fix someone else- only me.
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