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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll
Once again Gaea, our similiarites abound.
My son was threatened at school, after hours, at a science team practice. The moment I found out, I called the school, left a message on the principal's voice mail explaining what happened & ended the call with "I will be at the school at 8 in the morning, please be ready to see me about this."
I received a phone call within 30 minutes. By then, I had reviewed the school policies and told the principal, "this appears to be a level three violation and I expect that something will be done." He told me that they have very few offenses of that caliber but he would review the tapes the next morning with the school resource officer. Guess what??? Level three as I predicted.
The child was suspended for three days. I had to go to the school & file out a police reported that basically charged the child with assault. But, I had discussed the incident with the SRO & learned that my filing the report would result in the child being permanently removed from the school system & being placed in an alternative/reform school. That was a hard pill to swallow.
So, I held the report. I had one year to file it and decided to not rush things.
I sent a verbal message to the parents (via the SRO) that I was willing to let them handle things with their son. But I also explained that if there was even a tiny hint of trouble out of their child OR his friends, I would be at the court house the next day-no exceptions. I talked over my thoughts with my son who agreed.
And, there was no more trouble at all. I offered the parents a chance to handle things because I considered that we all speak out of turn and that one day, one of my kids might need that second chance.
Col was in seventh grade. The incident started because he "broke up" with a girl who went crying to a friend. The friend was the instigator.
I hope that everything worked out for your daughter as they did for my son.
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The only thing my daughter was ever aware of was that 3 of her so called "friends" moved to a different school, my daughter was unaware of the threats she was only in the second grade. If she were aware of any threats directly stated to her she never came to me about them.
What i heard was on my answering machine and i always listened to my messages via my handset, her dad heard them as well and i think he went in the bathroom and puked, thus i knew it was up to me to handle.
Because of the severity of the threats and the actual "knowledge" these 3 girls had of things in the sexual nature it would have been a nightmare for the "parents" had the principal not followed through with my request, i have no doubt cps would have gotten involved too, I just wanted these "girls" far the hell away from my kid...Now mind you it was my understanding all the parents were brought in and listened to the vile things their kids had threatened to do if they got their kids help i'm not aware of it.
I'm glad did what you did Laney, I firmly believe that its our jobs as parents to protect our young and ensure that the schools do the same. I also firmly believe that its our jobs as parents to teach our children to be kind to others.
ps. i have often been referred to as a Momma Bear...have no doubts lol