Not looking for a relationship, but I'm glad you bumped this thread.
Maybe a list will help me over the next few months.
YSK I reserve the right to amend this from time to time.
MUST-HAVES:
- Compassion
- Sincerity
- Decisiveness
- Honesty, even if it means sacrificing a little tact
- Intelligence
- Must be a geek/wonk about something, even if it's something I think is lame (like the reproduction habits of spiders, or how to build a transmission)
- Healthy Sex Drive (sorry, but it's true)
- Gentleness - must make me feel safe
- Protectiveness - see above
- Butchiness - that certain je ne se quois
- Likes dogs
- Treats people well, this includes the waitress and the bus driver
MUST-NOTS:
- Excessive Insecurity
- A need to control me (I rebel; I can't help it)
- Meanness
- Lying
- Manipulative
- Paranoia
- Smokers (sorry, I just don't think I can live with that again)
- Chronically unemployed
- Laziness
JUST ICING (because who doesn't love cake?):
- Driven, goal-oriented
- Might want kids
- Good conversationalist (this is a must in an LDR, but icing otherwise)
- Good grammar
- Semi-obsessive hand-washer (it's good to have things in common)
- Values education and the pursuit of knowledge
- Loves museums
- Will go with me to the opera
- Doesn't think my girl music is lame ♪♫♪